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Please take her off the pedestal you have her on. She has made the conscious decisions 1000's of times to continue to lie to you, to sleep with him, spend your money in pursuit of it. You are over he…

How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …

Addressing Community Concerns: No Porn/Masturbation Addiction Posts and Self-Hate Posts + Revamped Subreddit Rules — Hello everyone. Over the past few months, I have noticed a significant number of you expressing dissatisfaction with the increasing frequency of posts related to NSFW/porn/masturbation addiction and …

I've been out of the coding loop for awhile. What is the best static website framework / scaffolding / generator that works with VSCode? I don't need react or any other bells and whistles. I'm just testing out creating various HTML/CSS styled elements. — I am really just trying to play around with HTML/CSS to create various client-side styled elements. For example, one project is just to create a more enticing email signature. Another project I am cre…

SQL Commands | DDL, DQL, DML, DCL and TCL Commands - JV Codes 2025 — Mastery of [SQL commands](https://jvcodes.com/sql-ddl-dql-dml-dcl-tcl-commands/) is essential for someone who deals with SQL databases. [SQL](https://jvcodes.com/what-is-sql/) provides an easy system …

Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker — I started job-hunting in April. After two weeks of sending applications and receiving zero feedback (only ghosting), I scheduled a few calls with my mentor. Based in Eastern Europe and looking for a f…

Why am I losing keywords? — I'm a bit lost. For the past 6 months I have been working on improving the rank of my website. When I first started, I just left an agency that wasn't doing a great job. When I switch from them, they …

How to handle versioning in Figma? — I joined a project where the figma doesn’t match what is in the field for a mobile application. The project wants to re-baseline the app to what is in the field and keep up to date in the future. F…

What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …

Interview for associate devops role, not sure how it went, need opinions — I had a technical discussion with with a smaller company(around 100-200 employees) and they are filling out a new devops team. I have 7 YOE at large tech companies as a software engineer, but my dutie…

My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…

Sitemap 404 error in Yoast — Hi everyone, I am stuck on this for 2 days. I am Getting 404 Not Found on my website sitemap, I have activated it on Yoast. Here is what I have done so far to fix this using youtube vidoes and Chatgpt…

Is anyone else feeling the pressure from new import tariffs? How is it impacting your business or ways you source stuff? — With all the recent shifts in trade policy, I’m curious how others are handling the growing pressure from import tariffs. Especially those sourcing from China, which I suspect is most of us here. For…

Restart Operator: Schedule K8s Workload Restarts — github: [https://github.com/archsyscall/restart-operator](https://github.com/archsyscall/restart-operator) Built a simple K8s operator that lets you schedule periodic restarts of Deployments, Statefu…

Are you importing from China? Have questions about the new tariffs? — Hello u/ecommerce We’re interviewing experts in Chinese manufacturing and cross-border logistics this week to break down how the new US tariffs are affecting e-commerce sellers. If you're unsure…

WooCommerce CSS Best Practices with Block Editor — I need advise/help with best practices when implementing CSS for WooCommerce using the block editor. WooCommerce warns against writing CSS based off the block name classes but the current default Gut…

How do you inspect what actually changed in container images? (My Git-based approach) — Hey everyone, When working with CI images or debugging build issues, I often need to understand *exactly* what changed in a container layer - not just which files were added or removed, but what was …

Shopify POS exchanges on discounted items — Hello shopify community, I've been scouring the internet for a solution but no good solution exists. I am wondering how other brick and mortar merchants are dealing with this. This needs to be addres…

Overlooked levers in the returns process — Been thinking about how to address refund requests—not returns logistics Everyone I talk to says to optimize logistics, improve product descriptions, promote exchanges, etc…I’m curious: Anyone make …

Strange page name changes to en dashes from regular dashes. Bad for G4. — This is a bit of an odd question, but I noticed in google analytics that the page names have changed from a hyphen to a en dash (option + dash) – . The dashes are automatic where it puts the page name…

Anyone facing issue with Cloudflare recently of suddenly not honoring "Access-Control-Allow-Headers" set by origin? — Is anyone facing this recent issue lately where all the sudden, you're getting thrown Access-Control-Allow-Headers error across all proxied domains. Cloudflare proxy, out-of-the-blue, decided not to h…

A great copywriter is worth their weight in gold — I've been building brands for 15 years. If you just got your first $20k-$100k budget to build your brand/web/app, let me humbly offer you a tip: # In 2025, the #1 thing that will affect how 'pro' you…

Attachment page with info — Hi, I've had a couple of basic Wordpress sites for about 15 years for my artwork using the Twenty Ten theme. I'd create a gallery, and on clicking the thumbnail, it would link to an attachment page wi…

Best low-effort analytics tools for Shopify optimization? I'm drowning in data... — I'm struggling to make sense of all the analytics data from my store. The native Shopify reports give me tons of information, but I'm finding it difficult to determine what metrics I should actually f…

Designing for AI feels like UX without control. — With AI interfaces, especially ones powered by LLMs, the experience changes every time. There’s no fixed flow, no guaranteed output, just probabilities. It made me realize most UX principles assume…

How do you make sure nothing falls through the cracks of your business operations? — I work with companies that use a ton of different tools (CRMs, inventory, payments, shipping, etc.). The problem I keep seeing is that things slip through the cracks, and no one realizes until it’s to…

How Liquibase Simplifies Schema Management — If you've ever deployed schema changes manually, you know the pain: tracking SQL scripts, guessing what's applied where, and praying nothing breaks in prod. I recently wrote a post on how **Liquibase…

How do you promote kubernetes environments using ArgoCD? — I've watched a video by Anton Putra, [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=\_G\_RY5trQao](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_G_RY5trQao), on production grade setup with Argo. The video is great and I've l…

SEO is updated on my Shopify page, but the text on the page hasn't changed. How do I fix this? — Hey everyone, I recently updated the SEO settings on a specific page of my Shopify store, including the title, meta description, etc. Everything looks good in terms of SEO, and the SEO score is solid…

Combining MPA and SPA? — I'm creating an application for a construction company, enabling them to report about different sectors of the construction process (tender procedure, quality assurance, safety checklist, complexity,…

Feedback on Branching Strategy for IAC Repository — Hello, One of the challenges I’ve faced when researching branching strategies is that most resources are focused on software deployment workflows, often emphasizing versioning and tagging. These stra…

ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…

How can I let devs update their lower environment terraform while protecting production environments? — I know the title is a rather open ended question, but let me lay out where I am now, in the hopes of getting ideas on how to do this better. For a given service, we'll have one directory for environm…

Wordpress Staging vs. LocalWP for website redesign — Hey everyone, I’m working on a full redesign and cleanup of an existing WordPress website, and I want to make sure the development process doesn’t hurt the site’s current SEO at all — both during deve…

My impressions of Lovable 2.0 — # My impressions of Lovable 2.0 with key features and upgrades I always had mixed feelings about Lovable. But given the amount of attention Lovable 2.0 has received over the past few weeks, I decided…

If you're sending ALL paid traffic to your homepage, you're burning money - here's why — I see this constantly: businesses dropping serious money on paid ads - Google, Meta, Instagram, only to send traffic straight to their homepage. Then they’re shocked when the cost per lead is through…

I need some FA to give me insights on this situation — Break up with a FA need some insights Hi guys, i really need some insights as someone whos desire is to be a safe space for a FA girl. Breakup context: I (M, 23) was in a 2-year relationship with my…

Detachment or deactivation? — Me (23M) and my ex (22F) broke up one month ago because she was feeling overwhelmed by some arguments we had due to changes in our lives (new place to live, new work). She's FA. I was secure for almos…

Will my ex FA ever stop resenting me? — I was with my ex (FA) for 2 years, amazing connection and relationship. She broke up after a rough period (lots of changes + frequent arguments, not too intense) saying she was overwhelmed. Later she …

Overcoming my anxious attachment — Hi I've successfully combated my attachment style and offer some of the resources I've found. I've dealt with anxiety and insecurity across my romantic and platonic relationships throughout my life. …

How to deal with triggering situations — Life has been so rough lately when living with anxious attachment in a relationship. Everyday is a struggle. We had an explosive argument yesterday which left me even more on edge than normal. To put …

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

What are good books or podcasts to consume if I’m early in a great relationship and trying not to let me anxiety ruin it? — I’ve been dating a really amazing and supportive partner for the last few months. I thought I had done the work to heal my anxious attachment style, but I’m quickly learning there is a lot more work …

I earned secure attachment in 4 months... — I can't believe I'm writing this. I did this without dating a secure person and without spending money on courses/apps. I promise I'm not selling anything. Big disclaimers: * I am only mostly secure…

Recovering DA trying to reconnect with FA wife — For context: * I (40M) am a DA, my wife (41F) an FA. We have three children. * Together for 17 years, married for 13 years, distant/no-touch for over 10 years but stable and no deep conflicts. * Cont…

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

Update: Self-help group for anxious attachment — Thank you to everyone who responded to my [**prior post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/1plm1g1/selfhelp_group_for_anxious_attachment/) re starting a self-help group. (Yes, The…

Happy and healing but still need to be "chosen." Advice welcome — I have been on a healing journey for my anxious attachment for a few years now. I am in a secure relationship where I have found a deeply vulnerable and safe connection and also know that if it ends I…

Avoidant conversation patterns are confusing me - should I address them? — I’m (secure leaning anxious) getting some confusing conversations patterns from an avoidant friend. And I don’t know if I should address it or just let things continue to play out. Context; we disco…

I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

Appearance changes, the specialised sib for that is the ng sub .

You should really have mentioned that in your post. Changes everything.

Fortunately I've taken my separation (and inevitable divorce) as an opportunity to quit drinking and make healthy lifestyle choices. I've been working really hard to practice mindfulness and radical …

Hello, I'm Kale, and Im 34. I was just married 3 months ago after being in a loving 8+ year relationship with the kindest person I've ever met. Three days ago she told me she had developed a relation…

To see noticeable changes, it took about 3 weeks. Mind you I was 13 at the time and not particularly motivated. I used a self hypnosis YouTube video (not necessary as I now know), which I only realize…

Ahh words! Jokes aside:TY for the response! Personally I am saddened at the new rules as I feel phone addiction (and by extension pron accessibility) is a prevalent issue, and one worthy of r/Decidin…

These changes are long overdue. Thank you for updating the rules to adapt to the evolving situation! I hope the sun can self correct back into a helpful place to discuss self improvement again.

I did not make these changes because of one member’s complains or disapproval. I made these changes over months of observation and after countless posts from members on the sub calling for mods to tak…

Well, you can believe me or not, I have no incentive in lying. But the Neville sub has messed me up. Those LOA “teachers” there are messed up - and they don’t even know what they are talking about. “L…

No what I meant was that it usually takes years to build up solid faith for lob itself, to see your mind as cause and effect towards your reality and to manifest with a snap. And that happens with alo…

1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…

Love these arguments. Point 1: There is a difference between hypnosis (true authentic feelings of experience of here and now of the desired outcome) and daydreaming. When you give your mind and your…

you can do it correctly all you want - it has to be permanent in you SM, and in response slowly changes your CM that you even start forgetting about desire. How many times you want want want smth, and…

Exactly, that’s what I always say to those who keep bitching it doesn’t work. It’s very important to Change YOU for gods sake, otherwise good luck with your mental screens. Even look at religions, the…

I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …

Only these from your long list above, can be argued to relate to the LOB : " *”Whenever He decrees a matter, He says to it, “Be!” and it is.” (Quran 2:117, 3:47, 19:35, 40:68) ☪️* *Prophet Muhamm…

Don’t know for DA, but I’m FA and I do this. Usually it has nothing to do with the person themselves, I’m just tired and cannot sustain that level of engagement long term. I’m also super sensitive to …

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It's amazing how small changes can completely reframe your view on things. "But" is restrictive, AND opens doors. Same for Yes and No. Love your reply, thank you for the positive words!

Oof sounds like a DA. My MIL is exactly like that. I am happy that my FA did start to reflect and make changes to become more securely attached. It's been a long journey but now they will ask me for …

Oh, this is a cool topic, there is nothing cooler than the fucking time that is chasing us.  I was just in the middle of my first mission related to a new job. At that time I was already quite burnt…

Still new but posting this comment both to help you and hopefully get feedback from the mods that I’m understanding things properly. You are not trying to trick yourself in the 3D. Your only job is …

I feel this! The stakes are higher when I truly love/like someone (idk about you OP but for me this even extends to platonic friendships/ coworker relationships) and so my fear of messing up and pushi…

I try and focus on everything else. We run a profitable small biz together, take care of that like it’s our baby. Cook and clean together, watch shows together. We laugh and joke and have a good time.…

It's actually not uncommon for stalkers to follow their targets when they move. It's advised to stay/move near support systems. This all happened to me 20 years ago and I did 13 years of therapy, whic…

Don't know what infra changes you are thinking about if your app just doesn't work. Applications that hang up from a ONE user - this is your problem, till that is not fixed there is no reason to think…

For my org, it’s basic economics at the end of the day. The cost of build (or rebuild) vs buy. Optimize for the lowest cost to meet the business need. When Elastic changed their licensing, our genera…

You have mention to many changes other than infrastructure automation. My suggestion would be to focus on automation without changing much of your stack. Once you have automated then focus on things y…

I focus exclusively on automating with ansible for now. You don't need to change any other applications or adopt anything else to make your current setup work. With ansible you can just automate the p…

Yep, Redshift observability is one of those things that should be easier, but ends up buried in system tables and tribal knowledge. Some practical tips that might help: 1. Build a lightweight monito…

Changes should bring improvements or solve problems. It doesn't sound like these teams have problems that DevOps would solve.

Any large change can be broken down into a series of small changes. I’d spend more time at first supporting current practices and understanding why they work for the team, then you can start to come u…

Been there. Tiny changes are your friend. Don’t make enemies. Wait for upper management buy in. Collect your check and don’t fret.

Echoing what everyone else said. Any time you're walking into a situation to make an organization or team devopsy when they weren't before, you're going to get opposition. Small changes will make peop…

Hey, [OpsLevel](https://www.opslevel.com) CTO here. We have a ton of respect for what the Backstage community has accomplished. It's impressive how they've expanded the IDP space and created a vibra…

>Is there a better branching strategy or workflow for IaC repositories in this scenario, one that allows safe promotion of tested changes Yes. Trunk-based with tests. You lack automated tests, and yo…

Without extending the response too much, take a look at Atlantis or Digger, this will allow you to control changes and request approvals to proceed, a big difference is that you merge on the PR and no…

Two basic choices: 1. You give them powers to push from local development (their laptops) into staging to test their Terraform. 2. You automatically push to staging as part of the PR CI tests (Su…

This post validates what I've been thinking about doing in my region, just been building the skills to develop something. I bet the requirements process is the hardest but I'm wondering what system …

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Sure! I bet it changes depending on the person/situation.

Agree with these. With mine, there was just a general lack of sweetness or playfulness. Anytime anything veered to something romantic, he’d say something casual and offputting to change the moment to …

I'm of the opinion that there is no free will, chemicals move in your brain and then a decision happens, not vice versa. Just like lungs expand to take in air for you to breathe and the stomach digest…

That last part is what happens with my partner. It hurts so much that she feels me trigger a core wound. She will retreat for a few days, usually 4 or 5 and then come back when she's regulated. She …

i get why these rules matter. so many scammers out here trying to take advantage of people who just want to make positive changes. legit coaching is such a different thing than all the "manifestation …

I agree. What people miss is that practising something new changes your brain. The old insecure programs may still be accessible, but by practicing secure behaviours we build new programs that we can …

What you might be able to ask is what the pause will help her do. Sometimes DAs can feel like they’ll let you down if they have to maintain the relationship while a bunch else is stressing them out. S…

It's easier if instead on focusing on what they're doing wrong and what you don't like you focus on what you're willing to invest and describing an alternative that would be acceptable for you both. T…

I'm still very new to this forum, but from I can see people here tend to explain the totality of events solely based on the attachment theory. While it does explain why someone with insecure attachmen…

>What questions do you ask yourself to talk yourself off the ledge? I think the simplest one is "Do I ACTUALLY want to do (whatever thing that is in consideration)?" Then if you DO want to do the …