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"I love you and I love our boys, but you've destroyed any/all ability I have to trust you ever again. You've driven me to the point of insanity with your lies/deception, trickle-truth, more lies/decep…

Shopify Bill Pay - international vendor payments cannot be funded by Shopify Balance anymore — Im not in love with Bill Pay as its so sloppy and support is lazy. Plus they lock down accounts left and right and don't tell anyone. Once the new balance account numbers went out I saw that they were…

Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…

This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…

Seeking self-closure — To give a brief overview. Had a multi year situationship with someone I had fallen for, a fearful avoidant. Much pulling and pushing until it ended by her pushing everything away. A year later she st…

I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …

When does the relationship clock start? — I (42F) met my bf (36M) in September on a dating app. We dated for five weeks, then I ended things because he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship (mental health struggles). We didn’t talk for two …

I’m so lost and need help — I wouldn’t say I’m new to the world of projection, I’ve known about it for 8 years and been wanting to try it ever since. I bought multiple books on the topic and have read them. Unfortunately all o…

I’m so frustrated!!!! — I have not dated in years because I was tired of getting used. Was introduced to a guy a few months back who was a very polite and seemed like a great catch. I made it very clear early on I was hoping…

I (32F) trusted my partner (34M) completely until I discovered he lied about a “friend” he talks to daily and that they were texting very appropriate. I’m shaking and feeling lost — I’m a 32F and my partner is 34M. We’ve known each other for many years and have a long history together. We were apart for a while in the past but recently decided to try again because we both felt th…

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

I want to send this text so bad — Hey. I know you probably don’t want to hear from me. I’m sorry for sending this text but I just need to. I haven’t been in the best head space for the last month. I feel like I won’t ever hear from yo…

“EASIEST AP TECHNIQUE IN HISTORY!” (Update) — “History’s simplest projection technique” (Tweaked and updated for better results!)  I posted the 30 second head lift technique a few months back and I wanted to update it hopefully to add to y…

Rediscovering the joys of lucidity — Lately, I've been trying to learn to lucid dream again like I did as a kid. I've been racking my brain trying to remember how I induced them and I finally remembered last night. Apparently, I had unkn…

I need to let go — Me bf (32M) and I (31F) have been off and on for the past 2 years. We were engaged at one point but I called the engagement off. During our relationship he was angry about alot of things...money, his …

Scared of Dating. — Since my LTR of 10 years ended about seven years ago I have only had a string of casual relationships. I’m at the point now I don’t want to try again as I’ve put in effort with the casual one’s thinki…

Finally got the ick — Honestly, I know I post here a lot, and I’m sorry if it’s ever bothering anyone; but I think I finally got the ick for my ex!!!!!!!!!!!!! I’m seriously SO happy right now. I never thought I could ever…

I Changed Myself and Got it All — Hello, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a very long time. Grab a snack and come along for the ride! **The Beginning: April - October 2022** I discovered Neville 4 years ago; after a year of …

My [28F] husband [37M] wants me to deliver bad news to his mother. How do I get out of doing this without hurting feelings? TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️ mention of miscarriage. — UPDATE: I did talk to him, and I took the advice of not being gentle about it. It’s his mom, and he told her the “good news”, so he can break the bad news. At first he was upset with me, but he got ov…

Tired of toxic connections.. can my birth chart help me finding the right people? — I’ve been trying to understand how to not stay stuck in what hurt me + somehow still find people I actually feel aligned with. I also wonder if some of these patterns make sense through my chart, lik…

How can I attract genuinely aligned friendships? (my NN is in the 11th but I have a very hard time with it) — Hi! I’m very interested in the insights of this sub bc I’m not very experienced with astrology but even less with the whole sign system. Just right now while transferring my chart in whole sign notice…

One Month Patterning Frequency — I'm on wave II right now, and I only did One Month Patterning once. I kinda had an idea in mind for what I wanted, but the exercise went a little different from what I expected. It was asking how I fe…

My ex broke up with me 4 months ago. I sent a message breaking no contact. Her response destroyed me. — International relationship — she's Brazilian, I'm Arab. We truly loved each other, but the distance, cultural differences, and wanting different things ended it all. It was the right decision, but the…

I attracted someone but he’s loveboming and not my type — I found someone after years of trying. But I have 2 issues, 1. He is loveboming,2. He’s not my type. I listed everything but seems like somethings are missing. Should I accept this or try again? He’s …

Is it normal to still want them back even after they hurt you? — My boyfriend and I recently took a break after he did something that hurt me, but he was honest about it and I know he still loves me. We both decided to take time to focus on ourselves because thing…

He broke up because of my anxious attachment, how can I Deal with This? — Hey. My ex boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. I am 26 years old and it was my first relationship. It only lasted for 3-4 months sadly, we knew each other for 6 months in total. We started textin…

She broke up but i think (/hope) that its just temporary — Now I'm going to be as detailed as possible so yall can know the story better. It all started in winter break when my friend asked me if i wanted to know a girl, i agreed and sometime after we both …

Should I Take My Ex Out For Her Birthday? — So my ex girlfriend 20f and I 21M broke up about 4 months ago due to emotional boundaries being crossed with her male friend and I was so stressed and anxious about it that I did not think it was heal…

I have my first experience and i am not sure what was it — Hey all , I am M 28 I heard about during astral projection in college , tried then and nothing happened, Recently seeing this page i was motivated to try again so , I was able to go out of body (as i…

3 months — 3 months and 1 day in. It has not gotten better, in many ways it's gotten worse. My coworkers were arguing about some stupid bullshit again today, knowing that i could tell her all about it at the e…

i almost lucid dreamed but i couldn't control anything — so last night i remembered about lucid dreaming and i wanted to try it again because i had in the past and it didn't work. recently I've been having very vivid dreams where i remember them a lot and i…

I made florida snow — I tried posting before but it didn't have enough details, so it got taken down. Let me try again. If anyone remembers the beaches snowing, that was after I started manifesting florida snowing. I just…

breakup with someone who didn’t communicated issues — My ex (20M) and I (20F) broke up at the beginning of March after almost a year together, and I’m having a hard time moving on. It felt like a really special connection to me. He made me feel genuinel…

Me ( 24 F) and my now ex ( 19 F ) recently broke up due to personal issues — we had recently broke up due to her mental health not being the greatest. we already hadn’t been speaking for a little before i finally had the courage to ask her if im hoping for nothing. i understan…

How do I get over the feeling that maybe someday we’ll get back together. It’s been 2 years since the break up — My ex broke up with me over 2 years ago. Stupidly, I agreed to stay friends for almost 1.5 years until I decided it wasn’t helping me and I needed to try and actually move on and went no contact. He w…

advice? suggestions? — TLDR: should i reach out to my ex after almost 3 years? we met through friends (me, F22 & him, M22), and we dated for about 9 months. while dating, we would both dream about each other often and spen…

Should I give him another chance? — F26 M29 dated for a little less than 3 years. We have amazing chemistry that feels genuinely out of this world. We have the most fun together and he’s genuinely my best friend. We’re good together whe…

A character in my lucid dream told me about the 2,4,7 method.. how fascinating is the brain!! — Hello all! I am a light sleeper and used to get a lot of lucid dreams even before I knew their term. Yesterday I dreamt about attending a school I haven’t seen before and had recently saw a reel tha…

The moment when everything clicked after the discard. Does this pattern strongly point to NPD? — Hey everyone. After a recent brutal and totally blindsiding discard by someone who I thought loved me, Im trying to understand what I experienced (almost 1 year relationship and attempt at reconnectio…

Breakup with fearful avoidant — So I just want to tell my story of how the breakup is and how I assume that the person who broke up with me is fearful avoidant after analysing what happened and what was going on. I want to get some …

Had a weird experience trying to shift and got freaked out?? — I wasnt able to sleep all night and it was 4 in the morning, so when I was still trying and all of a sudden I felt really euphoric and light. I guess I wasn't fully awake at that point, I'm not really…

Going back to trying lucid dreaming, any advice? — Last year, I tried to lucid dream for 6 months until December. No success. I gave up and 4 months later I want to try again At my peak effort, I remmeber I was dream journalling, doing wbtb, doing mi…

I thought I finally found someone. — Hi! This morning I got a text from a guy that I’m seeing that he doesn’t want a romantic relationship. He said with anyone but that I was perfect, kind, sweet and I’d make the perfect gf/wife. I fell …

My ex (M25) reached out me (F24) after a year and a half of no contact. — Long story short last week I got the text I never thought I’d get, my ex texted me to tell me he is going into the military and put me down as a reference. He then proceeded to say he’d like to see me…

What exactly we humans are looking for ? — Had this question in my mind after my horrible breakup , what are humans doing when they think they looking for love ? My ex broke , now she will go to some other guy some day , repeat the whole i lo…

I still love him after he cheated - should I stay or give him a chance? — I’m having a hard time processing my breakup. My ex and I were together for three years, and it ended because he cheated. He never became physical with anyone else, but he talked to people on a dating…

Things I want to tell you. — Todays the first day I haven't cried. It's been a month since you left me, I can't believe it's been this long already since I last saw you. You told me to move on from you and I guess that's what I'm…

Conflict about 3rd kid after an affair (36M/36F) — TLDR I 36M and my ex wife 36F (reconciliation after an affair) are fighting a lot because of an unexpected pregnancy (3rd child). She wants to keep it, I want her to abort. So I (36M) and my girlfrie…

Should I try and reconcile or is the writing on the wall? — 35 M, married 12 years, 4 kids. We’ve had a lot of circumstantial challenges but I really believed our love and connection was solid. Last year an old flame reconnected with her, they met up (withou…

Having trouble meeting a guy I’ve been chatting with. — I’ve been chatting with a guy for a few weeks now we matched in FB dating and he happened to work in my same building. We’ve been having fun chatting and our lunches overlap at work so we’ll text eac…

Psylosobin - My brain is too broken for it?? — psilocybin\*\*\* I have seen a lot of studies and talk about magic mushrooms helping CPTSD. There is a clinic local to me which provides this but it's so expensive. So I procured mushrooms to take m…

This is really what I needed to hear. As painful as it is, being told that we could try again has rlly screwed my brain up. I need to get better for me not her

Or before going on a rant about an "avoidant discard" consider maybe someone just broke up with you because it wasn't working for them. People aren't obligated to stick around forever trying to for…

Thanks. Even if Im anxious or fearful, I usually bring up pretty quickly what bothers me because I hate mis understanding and I also hate to think badly of my partner. This way I am vulnerable even in…

Having the same issue, but i haven’t met her again yet. And I don’t think I will. The rumination is most probably your attachment system that is acting up- and the rumination is your brain making sens…

Hmm. If you offer a relationship right off the bat without knowing the person, that typically is a red flag for women. There is no mystery, nothing to conquer.  Women are gatekeeper of sex, men are …

Everything is too soon for you to try again. You should give yourself more time to heal because it’s a lot of emotions. Being an FA, my break up was really intense for me. I did not understand my emot…

Tbh I'd be curious about why he seems irritated by those questions. Like "hey I've noticed you seem to not like it when I try to ask you/talk about xyz. Could you tell me why? I want to understand …

I am working on these things the same as you are and I am 8 years older than you so I think it’s amazing you’re this aware at 26. Some things that have helped me in my journey: -keeping myself busy w…

I think setting down some rules while you're still calm and not spiralling can help. If you broke, no contact in 1 month you probably wanted to get something back.. I think for most people, healing in…

I think this is a result of highlighting what we pay attention to. Maybe there were enough things that weren’t working for you to break up, and so it’s good you did. But looking back and only seeing t…

What really helped me with this was when I started choosing myself vs. wanting to be chosen. Instead of framing it as I don’t want to upset someone, etc, it’s how would or how do I want my future part…

Life for them was exhausting atm but I asked more from them because my needs didn't feel like it was getting met and then boom, they asked for a week to think about whether it was healthy or unhealthy…

I don’t have advice but I relate so badly. This is why I haven’t been on a second date in a while now and all together stopped dating. I find a lot of people try to go too fast and it freaks me out …

That makes a lot of sense. You probably attracted someone who is anxious leaning/ insecure and is needing reassurance/ unable to self regulate enough to respect your boundaries. It sounds like you hav…

Thank you for the insight and validation! Yes I wish I could tell them I would literally like them more if they just pulled some of their energy off of me. Texting is such a weird medium too, like s…

Hi everyone, I need some outside perspective. Last summer I had my first relationship at 31. It lasted about 2 months. I was very inexperienced and insecure. She is also very insecure and has hot-and…

I'm sorry that happened to you. It must take a lot of strength to try again, I wish you the best. Where I am hinge has the nicest vibes, definitely. People treat you a bit more like a human when comp…

I feel like you could probably stand to cut them off sooner. If someone cancels on me for a first date, even with a seemingly good reason, I usually break things off. If they cancel after a 2nd date w…

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I did talk with them! And it was obviously awkward, the kind of awkward where both people laugh a little and try again even without having to have a conversation. But yeah, talking didn't help. If y…

If you love her, you need to leave her alone and let her be happy. You’re allowed to miss her or feel whatever you’re feeling, but journal or call up a buddy to talk about it. Don’t bother her.  Ther…

I’m going to give up dating until Fall. I just moved to a new area last summer and after 20 or so dates I just been hitting a wall. A lot of ghosts and disinterested people. I bee celibate now for 7 m…

Valentine’s Days with dates have been the exception in my life, not the norm, and as this one wraps up this one is no different. It’s been a year since my most recent breakup, she’s since moved on to …

Speed dating on Valentine's was a bust. No matches. It was rough though at first, as when we started, it was 7 men for 2 women as some backed out despite paying for it for the 5pm one. The host was gr…

Dating was A LOT easier before texting (yes I’m that old). We don’t even have answering machines when I was a teenager/young adult. You would call someone and there was no caller id. So if no answe…

Did they come back and tell you that they had changed and wanted to try again or did you initiate the contact. It just doesn’t sound like this person was ever invested in the relationship. Just wanted…

They came back wanting to try again after they put in serious work to change, including intensive therapy. As part of that process, I had asked them to put effort into understanding what I went throu…

it is really sweet. like he tried to go a little further than i wanted and backed off and didn't try again. i've dated a lot of men in my 30 years and never experienced that. i like it, but it's also…

I'm four dates in with a girl, and I'm having a hard time getting a read on her. The dates have been fun, she's attractive, we have common interests and values, and in general she's great on paper. Ou…

She sounds avoidant leaning and like she didn’t want to be the one responsible for your move to her town. She doesn’t want an LDR and also doesn’t want the weight that comes with it - negotiating a fu…

Saw the guy I was dating on Bumble. We left things ambiguous and he said he’s been focusing on dealing with personal stuff (and who knows if his profile was from before…though it shows a specific dist…

super confuse now, I have a friend who I met on tinder early last year to date he was going through some stuff and decided he wasn't ready for relationship. I had fun hanging out with him so I agreed …

Something like this happened to me when I was in my late 30s. My ex-wife left me in 2018 after a *very* difficult 12 years of marriage (and two kids), and I spent a year struggling to get over her wh…

It’s so hard when you break up with someone you’re sexually compatible to- I mean sex isn’t everything but it’s so hard to find that same chemistry again.

Yeah it’s gonna be a wild ride learning how to trust again after being willing to give my body up to growing and birthing his child just for him to spin a 180 on me, abuse me into a mental breakdown, …

Thanks you too. And yeah she had the hourglass and everything, plus she always smelled amazing and soft. I miss her but also understand why it didn’t work out. I did tell her I’d wanna try again one d…

I would love to find a GOOD therapist. I haven’t completely given up. Unfortunately, Mandated reporter requirements are very strict in my state, but I’m optimistic that the right therapist could weig…

I think it will be difficult but not impossible to date monogamous women with this set of circumstances. Whether it will be harmful depends on the mindset you approach it with. You read neurodiverge…

um yeah this exact thing happened to me last weekend. except we broke up on new years, then i saw my ex bf with a girl downtown THEN AGAIN AT A RAVE (same night mind you) tbh i lowkey had to be mad co…

Avoidants suck one minute you’re their everything and the next boom they dump your ass for the stupidest reason and then they tell you it wasn’t you but they can’t try again and then they just ghost y…

I wish we could try again But shes almost hit two months with a new guy she hooked up with 3 days after leaving me

I appreciate your honesty. But you are likely going to get roasted in these comments, but here goes...you cheated and you don't know whether you can commit to repairing things (even though your husban…

I’ve asked her to put any non urgent questions in a weekly email cap.  Didn’t make it more than 4 days lol. I’ll try again. We don’t fight, never really have. I just think it’s better for everyone to …

I felt the pain you experienced in the way you talked in this post. It's okay to be hurt. When some people say they've been "dating for two months", sometimes that means they went on like 4 dates fo…

Bad news: You cheated. It's not by accident, it's a mission that requires a lot of intentional decisions to accomplish. Good news: Dead bedroom, dead intimacy, can leave a person reeling inside - scr…

I understand what you're saying because I was in a somewhat similar situation before. I was in a relationship with a woman who was older than me (I was 24, she was 34). In some ways, she also had nee…

I meant first dates! If I liked the guy I’d see him again. My issue is I go on one bad date and then I say screw this for rest of month till I get energy to try again. Actually last time I dated was A…

I was in your shoes for too many years. The 'people talk' BS was just that, the only people that talked was her. The only people who don't think your best is good enough is her. It didn't matter wha…

It was after reading tips on William Buhlmans website that I managed to intentionally AP. I was listening to a great visualisation already and feeling mild vibrations but his website is very good. I s…

I'm 17 , actually i had a break up a day before yesterday We were on a break for 1 month , he said it's not working out for him and it was 20 days before my boards . I was freaked out and had panic a…