rewards

You're not overthinking. She hasn't even really dove deep into "why". The only "why" is basically, "you are garbage". Sorry but the "not much reasoning as to why she did it other than occasionally say…

Shoppay rewards options deteriorating with use? — I saw some people post some shop pay questions on here so I hope I’m not in the wrong spot… I use the shop pay app fairly regularly. So I have accumulated more rewards that I need to use. I typically…

We live in a culture that glorifies self-sufficiency and punishes inter-dependence and needs. That impacts what we start labelling as anxious attachment, and how we are encouraged to heal. — Disclaimer - anxious attachment style is real, it creates distress in those who have it, and causes real strain to relationships. That being said, we cannot ignore that cultural norms have *always* di…

My attorney said "most people don't know what they're entitled to" - so I made a checklist and found $47K my ex "forgot" about — Going through a divorce right now. My attorney told me something that floored me: most people settle for less than they're owed because they don't know all the places assets can hide. So I went throu…

Thinking More and More About Just *How* Boring They Were — One of the things that really boggles my mind looking back on my childhood is just how little my parents ever entertained any ideas of direction or progress within their own lives. My father worked t…

Do you believe "clothes make the man" or is it just a lazy proxy for judgment we should have evolved past by now? — I used to think "clothes make the man" was nonsense. Now I'm not so sure, and it bothers me. I've built what I consider a genuinely good life: solid health (M37, Italian), a great marriage (18y this …

Looking for advice about abusive spouse who is now restricting access to our money. — My (43) spouse (45) who has been abusive for the entirety of our relationship of 10 years - (physically for a while (towards our children), always/currently emotional/psychologically/verbally to every…

Talk to me about this… do you think the universe rewards action? — I have this business idea that keeps coming into my head over and over. It’s not going away no matter how much I try to ignore it. Part of me feels like if I actually take action on it, the universe …

Starting chores starting starting starting — Yes I have adhd/depression/anxiety/autism/ptsd/ocd. Yes I have ADHD. Work 12pm-8pm most days. Most days go like this. Wake up around 8-9. Try to get out of bed. Too tired so lie in bed dicking aro…

Rewards and goals don’t work for me — what actually keeps me going is feeling “I inched forward a little bit today” — Recently saw an article. The author is also a three-minute heat kind of person, just like me. He relies on combining things he’s interested in to build a feedback incentive mechanism. That is, when he…

Breaking the "TUG": The Real Reason You Procrastinate — watch this to learn more: [https://youtu.be/DpO7e5gQqFU](https://youtu.be/DpO7e5gQqFU) Have you ever desperately wanted to achieve a goal, but found yourself doing the exact opposite? Welcome to the …

The fourth stress response nobody talks about explained most of my life — I want to share something I wish someone had explained to me years ago because it would have saved me a lot of confusion about why I am the way I am. Everyone knows fight, flight, and freeze. There’s…

The Elite and the Logic of Extraction — I think a lot of powerful people stop looking human to the rest of us, and this essay gave me a better explanation for why that keeps happening. I just read this piece, The Elite and the Logic of E…

Advice appreciated after recent breakup — Hello, me28 F, bf 28M broke up after 3 yrs and living together for 2. We both had our own issues prior to entering this relationship. We both acknowledge that I’m extremely anxious and he acknowledges…

>About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought I’d always be broke. I even had to take a screenshot of my bank balance to remind myself of that amaz…

Text of original post by u/pineconewashington: Disclaimer - anxious attachment style is real, it creates distress in those who have it, and causes real strain to relationships. That being said, we can…

It's not that there *isn't* talk about interdependence or co-regulation. I agree that more conversations about community and the importance of social bonds are taking place now. How we metabolize cult…

I would like to note that I do understand what you are saying and get how Society plays a role. I think if anything, what I take issue with is its a little too black and white. That Instagram post is …

The missing demographic thing is real and nobody talks about it. Women in their early-mid 30s who have their lives together are usually not hanging out in the same visible public spaces as college kid…

For me… Aquarius Jupiter is my chart ruler and is in my 2nd house (3rd in whole signs). I’ve somehow chosen things to study that require massive machines and lots of space lol. Like printmaking, piano…

I'm 41F and I have definitely had a lot of thoughts lately about "how my life turned out" and how things are so far from how I ever wanted them to be. Not like 41 is ancient, but a couple of years ago…

Sounds like incompatibility. It happens. I think some women are raised and programmed to be that way: men do the chasing, the dance of seduction, and women only have to choose whether to let them o…

Many people in the United States and Canada are taught that success is a formula. Work hard. Climb the ladder. Accumulate credentials, possessions, and status. From the outside it looks like progress.…

There's a real mechanism in the brain where two distinct parts operate independently — the part that drives us to do things simply doesn't care about what's actually good for us long-term. and the vas…

Pluto sag 5th square mars 1st leo, jupiter sag 5th square saturn pisces 8th, venus sag 5th square moon 9th I have luck in boardgames, i win 7 out of 10 times. But no lottery luck so far, no luck in v…

Congrats on the sobriety! Definitely start with the great advice about looking into alternatives to Ritalin, and potentially lab work to make sure nothing is super off there. I just have two other su…

This is an opinion, not a gospel. Most narcissistic cheaters of forced to or driven to a reveal impulsive will do a trickle reveal , with each new revelation being accompanied by increasingly brutal …

Could it be possible toy have ADHD? Either way, how do you keep yourself organized? Schedule in time each day to work on small tasks you need done. Break everything you need to do down into chunks a…

I hate that this happened to you. It boils down to dopamine rewards. It's not because she's special or better than you. It's because cheating gives them a drug like dopamine high. That dopamine motiva…

Do you ever wonder why the overwhelming majority of Asian women in Western media (especially the ones who “made it”) are partnered with white men? Asian women’s value in Western societies (especiall…

Aries is sign of domination. Saturn is more of partnership oriented, working together with others. Aries is impatient, Saturn's nature is like it can work even at a place where he doesn't get much re…

this year is the first year of my life without being in an actively abusive household. not sure of a less depressing way to phrase it but i've been reaping the rewards and learning how to be more of a…

Building on this, in Vedic astrology, Aquarius is less about being the sign of genius and more focused on rebuilding the world following the gains and losses suffered through Capricorn. It's the oppos…

I am genuinely enjoying this exchange, thank you! You don’t often find real conversation from a place of openness online. I would like to also validate your perspective and agree that there are deep-s…

There's a couple levels to this, and at 2.5 months it sounds like you're definitely at a point where it's time for at least one or two of them. IMO, level one is you saying something like "I'm reall…

I do think there’s something to be said about middle class Asians, surrounded by white people, devoid of financial struggles means often their biggest problem simply revolves around white acceptance, …

Eh, dinner together isn't working. You cant create a daily family culture element on your own. He is acting like a child, yes... but you're acting like a mother to him, and both those things are not g…

I use Finch, and I like it a lot. It's basically like a self-care tomagatchi and you can customize your daily tasks into tiny steps to earn gems for your finch to buy them stuff for their home/clothes…

1. Capricorn rising 2. Natal Saturn 2nd house Aquarius 24° 3. My first and 2nd houses 4. 11th house Scorpio Pluto square 2nd house Aquarius Saturn 1.43° orb. I have some other placements that make a…

You’re not wrong. And this is one of the most frustrating systemic failures in mental health care. The hard truth is that a significant portion of how clinicians are trained to respond to suicidal ide…

I use them plenty, like a whole row of them, to draw attention to a post. Ain't going to spend money on rewards, although I like it when others can.

The cobra effect illustrates how reward structures frequently trigger behaviors that defeat the original objective. In the provided example, the financial incentive for dead snakes shifted the local e…

If we use the ingresses from Neptune entering Pisces up to now, I see a few key themes. Neptune into Pisces in 2011 fits the streaming era really well because entertainment became easy to live inside …

If there were no rewards to reap No loving embrace to see me through This tedious path I’ve chosen here I certainly would have walked away by now If there was no desire to heal The damaged and broken…

I’m sorry to hear about all the tough things you went through growing up and still having to deal with health issues now. Your sun and Venus are in the 6th house while Saturn opposes on the cusp of th…

I’m not a professional astrologer. I’ve been studying astrology as a hobby for 10 years to understand myself better so I can only speak from that perspective. Not every person who has the aspects we…

The sensitive and empathetic are perfect for exploitation due to their soft nature and internalizing harm done to them by others or making even the slightest mistake. It means they take on more, say y…

Quick note: the “dopamine receptors are broken” framing is popular online, but what most people mean is: your brain has adapted to high-stimulation, low-effort rewards. The good news: you don’t need …

Capitalism rewards psychos

You’ve got two malefics in the 5th house (Mars and Pluto) and you have Saturn in the 2nd house. Saturn is making you work hard for everything you get (at least in terms of money, assets, and things yo…

Yes. I regularly see this kind of post and while I understand having a busy life, if you want to create a really beneficial (as in not just a few minutes of relaxation but develop real mindfulness and…

Proud of you. I’m a little over a year & a half completely sober — weed was far and away the hardest to give up. I feel great and don’t want to go back. Sometimes I find myself romanticizing smoking a…

Been there bro, it hurts to let your guard down to be vulnerable just to suddenly get ghosted. Im currently dealing with a similar push-pull dynamic similar to how your story began. At first I had bou…

The answer is unconditional love. Don't waste a lot of time searching through a bunch of books whose ultimate message is really just going to be to love yourself. You need to have unconditional love…

This is very concerning. No one should ever threaten partners with a break up when there are problems. It should be a mutual conversation and it’s a little controlling to be “okay I’m not compromising…

Dude, it's unreal. You'd expect Jupiter to bring in the big bucks and rewards, right? Despite it being in your 12th? AW HELL NAW, GET SLAPPED BY EXACTLY ALL THE PEOPLE WHO "HELPED" YOU FOR MANY YEARS.…

I belive that it’s not that screen time “ruins” meditation, but it can quietly pull you in the opposite direction of what meditation is trying to cultivate. When you spend a lot of time on screens, e…

Ask him how he knows he’ll step up if he’s never tried it with the nibblings. Also, you cannot wait until partially through the adoption process and hope a third party will tell him something you alre…

After struggling through my degree inspite of being on my own financially and struggling with depression I had a job for one year, I loved my job and I was happy. Started getting throat infections con…

You asked where the person ends and where the rest of the world begins. And I think that’s actually the whole thing right there. You’re a psychiatrist so you’ve literally watched this happen in front …

thank you, experiencing the same thing as OP and already reaping the rewards from little moments of hope and growth.

Jupiter Mahadasha rewards effort kindness and learning. Keep studying and nurturing those friendships. Career grows through knowledge and helping others. Stay consistent your hard work will pay off be…

I’d be a bit careful turning Job into a “technique” lesson. In Neville’s [Book of Job lecture](https://coolwisdombooks.com/neville/the-book-of-job/), he’s pretty clear that it’s not about methods, re…