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Basically she needs to do FULL DISCLOSURE. Usually the cheater writes two timelines. One that is PG and the other X-rated (all the nitty gritty details). You get to decide how far down the rabbit hol…
Self-help group for anxious attachment? — Hi folks, are there regular anxious attachment self-help group meetings out there? If not, I'd like to start one. I'm looking for something that's very specifically focused on anxious attachment. I…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
Is there a reason as to why I have difficulties with people? — So I am a Femme person (if that’s needed info) So I’m not sure what it is about my chart, either in general, cause this has happened all my life, but I have had a lot of difficulty with people. Grow…
The only thing you'll ever need to manifest ANYTHING. — *And it's so clearly is the internalisation of the idea — "being good with it and without it".* *I'd Like to quote Nero Knowledge here who perfectly describes what manifestation truly is, "Manifestat…
Sunken Cost Fallacy — Married for almost 27 years. Got married at the ripe age of 19. Funny thing, I thought it was a mistake on my wedding night when he got out of bed to jack off because I was so exhausted from the long …
When your experiences of racism are not only denied, but a narrative is created via oppression Olympics — Just need to get something off my chest: Something I've experienced quite often is, when experiencing racist interactions, just how many times the offender or surrounding white people are not only qu…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
my boyfriend always talks about my body as if he’s settling for it :( (20M 20F) — We’ve been together for just under a year.. these are really his only flaws when it comes to our relationship. But when he talks about my body he always frames it like i’m just ‘good enough’. Ofc he …
I am ruining my life and I feel like i cant stop it — Hello everyone and let me say thank you for taking the time to read and/or respond. Our time is valuable and I want you to know thst I genuinely appreciate you giving your time to a stranger... This …
I Changed Myself and Got it All — Hello, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a very long time. Grab a snack and come along for the ride! **The Beginning: April - October 2022** I discovered Neville 4 years ago; after a year of …
Just be aware — If everything already exists in imagination, we’re only imagining to become aware of what we already are and have. We aren’t “manifesting” or trying to get anything. We’re only becoming aware of wha…
It doesn’t matter WHAT you do, it matters WHO does it — Lately I’ve been thinking about how working on yourself is actually really important when it comes to manifestation (and no, don’t immediately assume it’s something hard). The phrase “it doesn’t mat…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
What’s the point of living if everything is a mistake? — I’m 21f and it wasn’t until last year that the idea that ‘it’s okay to make mistakes’ even entered my consciousness. I was just always a well behaving kid. Now, it feels like everyone does anything th…
Synchronicity and the Beginning or Continuity of Experience? — To begin, I have had quite a long winded set of experiences, that have seemed to have calmed down a bit over the last few weeks. They went on for several months beginning 3 months and 3 days before my…
He asked for a divorce… after “upgrading” everything I owned — I’ve been married for 6 years, and out of nowhere, my husband tells me he wants a divorce. No buildup, no real warning... just dropped it like it’s nothing. What’s messing with my head is everythin…
Even after all these years this still hurts — I’m 28 now full grown man in great shape going to get married soon to the love of my life. I did eight years in the Marine Corps. deployed three times. Combat zones. Jungles. Desserts. Icy mountains.…
Letter to Self before Meeting her — Figured it helped a few on other subs so I would add here. I've also been told to warn it may be a trigger to some. Hey dumbass, I don’t really know how to start this without it feeling unreal, beca…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
how can i (21f) be more flirty/romantic with my boyfriend (19m) — i feel like lately i haven't been putting in any effort in the relationship to go out of my way to do anything nice for him. we've been together for a little over a year now & everything is great. i f…
I "19M" rejected a girl "20F" after she said she loved me. — I "19M" recently met a girl "20F" at a festival. I saw her at the crowd and thought she was really pretty, so I thought I should go approach and talk to her, mind you it was my first time ever doing t…
Scary situations- — Me, F -17, in PR.. my dad has snapped and went on an angry tirade, Easter Sunday, we went to a beautiful church and then we headed to Old San Juan, when we got there my dad became incredibly irritated…
What to do now that I have reached a breaking point with my mom — I hope this isn’t super long but I made a prior post and was directed to this board and after reading a few posts I wanted to see what some of you did or what you would suggest doing.. idk where to st…
Is it worth getting a divorce — I am 40(f) my husband, 42(m) and I am so sick of the imbalance in our relationship/life. I work full time from home and operate a small business to bring in extra money. My husband has a small busin…
They restricted my food intake — I was always severely underweight as a child and they always gave me way too little food like one bell pepper or a tiny sandwich for school lunch. They where wealthy so it was never a problem to aff…
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…
Need a little help — I used to have vivid dreams. I grew up full of stress and the best way I can let everything out is by day dreaming(?) or talking out loud as if I'm talking with someone. I'm aware where I am but at th…
I (19F)am currently scared of my (20M) boyfriend — **TL;DR** I'd like to apologize in advance since I'm not exactly good at talking about my problems , especially since I've rarely posted on Reddit, but I feel like I'm at a loss right now and I genuin…
Trying to help a friend through their resurfaced trauma — Trigger warning for rape. This is a post about a friend, so not sure how appropriate it is to post here. On throwaway account, so not sure if I'll come back to this. I'm new to reddit, so sorry if I …
Im autistic and I realized my boyfriend of three years (who I live with) doesn’t like me. — Im autistic and I’ve realized my boyfriend of the last three years (that I live with) doesn’t like me. So I 27f have been with my boyfriend (32m) for the last three years. We live together. He has a…
Is my wife cheating? — To start we have tried marriage counseling just to make sure effort has been and continues to be put in. My wife has claimed to have zero libido for years. Sex is purely emotional for her. She can’t …
My dad said to me I am rubbish and I am in a spiral — I’m 24 now and few months ago my dad said to me and my mum during an argument directly “look at your son, he is a rubbish, 25 years old and still can’t get a job.” “I should change my death wish and l…
boyfriend (M31) canceled my (F26) birthday dinner reservation because of ongoing car issues — Yesterday was my birthday. I (F26) met with a friend for coffee in the morning, visited my dad and brother in the afternoon, and had plans to meet my boyfriend (M31) later in the evening for a fancy, …
Parents giving unclear answers — I don’t know if anyone else deals with this, but whenever I ask my arab parents a simple question, I somehow end up more confused than before. Like earlier, my parents were in the kitchen and I asked…
It's very, very painful. I'm so sorry. I went through something similar 2 yrs ago. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, felt incredible low self-esteem and rejected. I never pegged him to ghost me, and we ha…
How would you feel if all of this is handled for you? Relieved? Trust in the power of something higher? Ask yourself these questions . Just let it linger, don’t answer right away. If you’re try…
I am new to it for sure, often I realise I am dreaming near the end or at some random point, it is somewhat hard to realise from my perspective as I think how sleep works it just makes me tired during…
Your brain is just another muscle that with more practice and training, you will be able to imagine more vividly. Go through the search button, you will find posts by the Lion himself on how you can i…
I had a very similar experience. She push-pulled me, didn’t do the work, left me completely heartbroken, your vulnerability is strength. We love because we must, not to get something in return. You …
Relating to what seems to be your attitude during dating, I've known people that probably feel like this and it drives me away from wanting to get close to them because it feels like they're desperate…
Hey - you’re definitely not alone here. A big part of anxious attachment truly comes down to the fear that abandonment is always lurking around the corner. Making mistakes or getting into difficult mo…
I think setting down some rules while you're still calm and not spiralling can help. If you broke, no contact in 1 month you probably wanted to get something back.. I think for most people, healing in…
I'm not the person you responded to, but in my opinion, insecure attachment patterns (like trauma dumping early on, keeping score, or obsessively seeking out your partner's time) create "faux-closenes…
Text of original post by u/BornEducation4428: I am quite curious to hear if there are those who are still in their own "wound care " (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of…
Text of original post by u/ArjunTravels: Hi folks, are there regular anxious attachment self-help group meetings out there? If not, I'd like to start one. I'm looking for something that's very spec…
Seems like a lot of people are! If OP doesn't start a group I might message everyone here and see if we can get something going.
I was in a similar relationship like that. She was also Anxious and also spoke to me like I was a child needing direction and she did that with her parents as well. I couldn’t do anything wrong. I cou…
Nope. Not too picky. How does he not remember you're vegetarian after 4 months? I remember stuff regulars post in this sub, and I don't even know you guys, how does he forget something that major abo…
Gonna out myself here, but FWIW, I'm a pretty clean guy and people have noticed so much so they have commented on my cleanliness. That said, I've had a peeling right foot since I was a child. IDK if …
As you say, I think it very much depends on where you live. I live in a small town, so maybe less likely to happen here than in a big city. But also, it depends on what environment you’re in. You’re…
>The only time I’m approached in the supermarket, is when women in their 60s tap me on the shoulder to get something off the top shelf cause I’m tall. I just climb the shelves. I don't need no man!
As a man's view point, it could be he liked everything about you but your looks and was hoping that by powering through it, his mind would change eventually. But it wasn't enough to change his mind. …
What they are talking about is different from reciprocity... reciprocity is born of free association with both people willingly giving to each other. And the giving is free: you're not doing nice thin…
Feel the same way if my ex. Her body was spectacular. I wonder if I can get something like that again
I understand how you feel, while they can do what they want with the money if does feel like a slap in the face for not thinking of their children. Physical assets would go to you guys when they are …
Thanks for the advice on how you would get it done in Neville's way. There's an assumption in what you wrote that the car, the SUV, fills with gas, rather than diesel. I'm looking now at whether you'r…
I don't know if I grasp this. I mean letting go is about letting go of the fear, anxiety, lack related to the desire. Being ok with not having it sounds different, it comes with a little of resistance…
“I don’t want to hurt you” well then work on not doing something that will. “Maybe I’m not right for you and you need more attention” then let’s work on a middle ground and try it? “I will never get…
It wasn't what you were looking for, OP, and it was never likely to be. But you may still get something useful out of it. If your wife doesn't say anything to you about contacting him or doesn't sta…
So I just heard of this lady today, in a bad way.... I went to get something from my ex wifes room (it was my possession) but I saw a book and reached for it, so I'm guilty of snooping. But I don't un…
Your questions: Future instances/Priming your mind? Yes. Retrocausal activity is something that i've experienced and it appears that something beyond our linear arrow of time is involved in our growt…
Yes exactly. I think I misunderstood the point of your post but I still agree with it after understanding better. And yes you are right. I got burnt out replying to post after post or comment after co…
After you get something you want, it is such an amazing feeling. Good for you.
My mother would do this, adopt them and once I got attached they became too much and she'd give them away while I was at school. My ex best friend, I contacted her ex boyfriend after I went no contact…
**Anthropomorphism** isn’t just a literary term. Attributing human characteristics, intentions, or moral reasoning to animals. When it tips into anger and punishment, it becomes a problematic form of…
I've only done the first three Waves... but considering the unpredictability of any technique, you can get something else while doing "remote viewing", it may lead you to a sort of Out of body experie…
For most men match-rates are so low that reading the profiles carefully before a match is simply not viable as a strategy. But they should be reading it AFTER a match, and then unmatch the ones who se…
You can use any powerful emotion/energy to manifest with. It’s just EASIER to manifest with gratitude. Anger/ sadness/envy whatever can also be used but it’s just harder to harness that’s why it’s not…
I've started cancelling first dates if they can't get a plan together. I gave a guy on Hinge a day I was free and he asked for location ideas so I gave him two. He never got back to me with a time so …
Yeah activities are good, usually something I want to do anyway so I know I'll get something out of it either way. On the conversation front, maybe just becoming better at asking followup questions to…
I watched him talk and he sounded pretty normal to me. Did you get something different from the video?
It is like women with celebrities. They are all in until they have a chance to get something that they want.
I can’t get over how that message was from a YEAR ago, and now all I keep thinking is how much more cheating he’s done within that one year time span that you don’t know about. How did you guys get …
I basically watched the entire Oscars just to see the Golden performance and then to see if Golden would win Best Original Song. So I definitely felt cheated when they cut the acceptance speech off f…
These are the things I love about my husband: - The way his eyes light up when he says something he knows is cheeky or he’s trying to get a rise out of someone - The way he gets invested in learning…
As someone who struggles in similar ways with believing I am loved, and having an abusive upbringing I wanted to say I don't think she's upset with you. If my partner said to me what you said to her I…
I have been there. Now I don’t bother to give these people my energy. I only have so much, and I don’t want to waste it anymore. It bottles up but I try to release it with exercise. At least I get so…
I think my recent ex might be like this to an extent, and also with the anxious attachment. She doesn't know what's wrong until it explodes and she breaks down.... We've been having off and on struggl…
This is fucked. Do not be in a relationship with a dude who makes you feel uncomfortable in your body. >Like if you want something different then go and get something different. Exactly this! But yo…
I think you’re misunderstanding my intentions with the cards. It’s not to “get something” out of him, it’s just to more easily generate conversation and connection because I sometimes draw a blank whe…
Absolutely. I’m sorry for your abuse. [Signs of Manipulation - WebMD](https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/signs-manipulation) Signs of Manipulation Manipulation can take many forms. In fact, even ac…
A green dumpster. I started with smaller more intricate cubes and chests but ultimately there was something liberating about throwing my baggage in a big green dumpster and the way the lids slam shut…
Same, It's feel really good if you get something done early like before 10am... like run 10km, laundry done, back from grocery shopping. So the rest of the day very chill.
Damn, I entered the stoic writings with the Seneca letters, then went to Epictetus and this version from Robert Dobbin. I love it and I have read it more times than i can remember, i can go through …