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why are they able to put in more effort with the affair partner than in their own relationship?

Wow thank you so much for sharing, I'm really sorry you went through that as well. The part about you painting his house, cleaning it, helping with the rental, doing all the real life stuff while he …

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/14/2026
I 20m love her 19f and feel peace with her, but I’m unsure if I’m ready for this life or holding myself back from a version of life I haven’t lived yet. met 2024 oct

I 20m love her 19f and feel peace with her, but I’m unsure if I’m ready for this life or holding myself back from a version of life I haven’t lived yet. met 2024 oct — I’m really stuck and I’m trying to explain everything as honestly as I can because I genuinely don’t understand what’s going on with me anymore. I’m 20, and my past has a big role in all of this. I wa…

r/selfhelppost4/2/2026
Discarded on Easter

Discarded on Easter — A few weeks ago, I told him I was fully done after he relentlessly argued with me - he believed I sent him a message meant for another man. I said, “I wish we could see each other.” Meant for him. I r…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost4/4/2026
My (23F) Nmom (51F) is slowly developing a highly obsessive ozempic-induced ego complex.

My (23F) Nmom (51F) is slowly developing a highly obsessive ozempic-induced ego complex. — I’ll give you the basics… I moved in after graduating college and we had an ok relationship until she started taking ozempic. She was pretty overweight before (200+) and now she’s 145 and OBSESSED wit…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/12/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

I don't have a strong opinion on whether she should pull the first photo or not, but the rest of her photos do an excellent job of showing her body type and how good of shape she's in quite well in a …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/18/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 07, 2026

For mid-30s guys looking for something serious: what would you think of seeing a swimsuit photo on a woman’s profile? I have a cute photo of me in a swimsuit that’s more playful than thirst trap (I’m…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/8/2026
Seinfeld-esque reasons you broke up with someone

A guy I had been seeing for 2 months I dumped after this huge very aggressive male Rottweiler was on the loose and he tried to use me as a shield to hide behind when I was early 20s - it was especiall…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
Seinfeld-esque reasons you broke up with someone

You’ve endured a lot that made my jaw drop. Mental gymnastics how classy man chose McDonald’s🫠

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
Seinfeld-esque reasons you broke up with someone

LEGIT reason, tbh. They also strike out for: "For all intensive purposes," "Me and her/him are gonna...," and "It's a doggy dog world." I once got the ick from a man who bragged about having gone to…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
Seinfeld-esque reasons you broke up with someone

I love dino nuggets and I also cook homemade meals from scratch. You can like classy food and trashy food at the same time.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/11/2026
why are they able to put in more effort with the affair partner than in their own relationship?

Wow!! I am so sorry you had to go through that. Why are they like this? It doesn't make any sense to me at all. My ex was the same way!! He said lip filler was gross, said piercings were "trashy", n…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/14/2026
Some men have questionable hygiene and it has made dating even more challenging than it already is.

I would say 50% of the guys I’ve met had horrible hygiene. I could smell them across the table. Their teeth were rotted and dirty and these were very educated classy men who just didn’t know simple hy…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/15/2026
r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/16/2026
I've noticed everyone wants someone with CPTSD to stand up for themselves until they actually do it.

"Have the day you deserve" is devastating, but classy - stealing that 👀 And thank you - there are times I wish I could do it a bit sooner, but I'm getting better with practice. c:

r/CPTSDcomment3/17/2026
Daffodils on a first date?

I would go with one daffodil. Classy, shows your interests, not overwhelming.

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/17/2026
The most disgusting thing they do.

Mine sent me a text telling me he met a new normal woman,, she’s classy. He went on to tell me that he told her how crazy I was bc I have bpd. He then sent me 2 nudes she sent him full body with face …

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/18/2026
How do you guys manage?

I’m sure men are jumping to get into a relationship with a woman who’s also a sex worker. I guess I’m way more classy and conservative.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/20/2026
Fake stoics?

Shouting to stay stoic! That’s classy. Bahahahaha

r/Stoicismcomment3/23/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 27, 2026

I'm not gonna lie my guy, this feels like a lot of excuses to just avoid putting yourself out there, or you're overthinking this like u/falilth says... 1. Dating apps suck, yes, absolutely no-one wil…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/27/2026
My boyfriend (39M) threw his bag at my (33F) face, refused to apologize "because he thought I would block it", then stormed out to leave after I said I just wanted to be alone

You are much too classy a lady to fill your house with burning garbage. He will not get any nicer towards you, believe his when his showing you just how cruel he really is. You deserve a partner who…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/29/2026
I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he?

YES! This is so classy and will leave him guessing where he went wrong. It's good because it shows you're not interested in ANY kind of relationship - either casual or serious.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/29/2026
Do men think nipple piercings are trashy? I’m 31 W he is he’s 36 M.

Here is the thing: Are nipple piercings *subjectively* trashy? Quite a few people, me included, would say yes. However. What is *objectively* trashy is this man's behavior. Because his little ego…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Do men think nipple piercings are trashy? I’m 31 W he is he’s 36 M.

I think nipple piercings are sexy or classy, but that's just my opinion. It doesn't matter what I think. You need to find someone who appreciates you.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Do men think nipple piercings are trashy? I’m 31 W he is he’s 36 M.

Fun fact! They were originally worn by high society women in the Victorian era! Sounds classy to me!

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Do men think nipple piercings are trashy? I’m 31 W he is he’s 36 M.

He sound like a bore. Piercings can make someone look "trashy" but looking trashy is more a combination of someones clothes and character. You can be full of tattoos and piercings and still look clas…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
My brother (28M) is getting married to his gf (18F) and I am TA for disapproving...

Your classy mother is literally victim-blaming a girl her son has been raping since she was 16 lol. 'Oh she's mature for her age' 'Oh he's encouraging her to get her GED'  know who I encouraged to g…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Haven't been on a date in 15 years and I don't know what women my age wear on dates now

Keep it elegant/classy and in your own style. Obviously, if your style is jeans and stained t-shirt... Work on your style 😜 As we age, we have to invest more into our looks and that's ok... Use mak…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/30/2026
Haven't been on a date in 15 years and I don't know what women my age wear on dates now

Honestly, google candid shots of Jennifer Aniston. She is always wearing super casual outfits that somehow look classy. She does jeans and a white tee and a blazer and looks put together and great. An…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/31/2026
Does your nparent give off weird "ick" vibes?

There was BPD in my mom's family, but I'm not sure that she actually had it. It's more like she learned that she got attention and things her way by being explosively angry. One of the things sh…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/31/2026
Soft power food for thought- before and after “Chinamaxxing”

Fucking wood lacquer chairs. Hard as bones with a thin red pad for the seating only that does nothing especially since it’s covered in vinyl. My FIL suggested getting a whole ass couch because it’s cl…

r/AsianAmericancomment4/1/2026
Soft power food for thought- before and after “Chinamaxxing”

I resent the Chinese chairs but only because I had to do Kumon in them. They still look classy in my mind. But it's just like my white grandparent's furniture as well. It looks nice and is not comfort…

r/AsianAmericancomment4/1/2026
Vegan Men as a Deal-Breaker

Ah the personal sarcastic remakes are signs of a winning argument, can’t argue the merits so let’s throw stones. Classy Why does ur partner now make plant based meals? Sure the adjective training …

r/datingoverfortycomment4/2/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 02, 2026

Oh, yes. He's been lovely and communicative the entire time. 10/10 no notes when it comes to the way a 40 year old man should behave while dating. I wish every man I'd met up until this point was as c…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/2/2026
What can I do to glowup? I don't get a lot of likes on dating apps genuinely

Why you trying to make it sound like there's something wrong with being 35? This is how people who have professional careers or wanna look classy dress. Or he could be many of us who don't let TikTo…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment4/2/2026
Why is it so wrong to date and have a bf/gf while being legally separated?

I think it comes down to who wanted the separation and whether it was amicable and if kids are involved. If you are leaving some weeping spouse and crying kids to go out with your new 20 year old gi…

r/Divorcecomment4/4/2026
My (M33) wife (F28) cannot accept that I dated a, on what she calls a "low class" woman (F30).

You might need to redefine what "high class" means. It's not classy to look down on people for their income bracket.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
My (M33) wife (F28) cannot accept that I dated a, on what she calls a "low class" woman (F30).

I think you're going to end up divorced no matter what cause what can you even do about this? You can't change that you dated your ex (not that you should have to in the first place) and your wife is …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
My (M33) wife (F28) cannot accept that I dated a, on what she calls a "low class" woman (F30).

Yup. My sister and I have been poor and rich. She's classy as fuck. I'm more of a trash panda. But I have nice nails and cowgirl boots. And we don't judge. My bestie grew up in foster systems. She …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
My friend and neighbor (39F) assaulted my husband (34m) and I am livid. How would you handle the situation?

>I probably would have told her that this one time I'd be willing to overlook her behavior So gracious of you to excuse repeated sexual assault. Stay classy, Reddit!

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
(Update) Did I do it properly? I MtF23 broke up with her F23 finally.

You did fine girl. Actually quite an intricate, careful plan. Classy you spent time working it all out.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
Why do people not do walking/park dates

I sort of agree. Coffee date seems joyless. I walk could be fun, but not for a first date. I'm a first date drinks guy, but I'm not sure about it being classy or sophisticated, though it could be. …

r/datingoverfortycomment4/7/2026
Why do people not do walking/park dates

Honestly while I'm not sober I drink maybe once every 2-3 months with friends. Alcohol makes me tired and if it hits me a bit too hard I can possibly befome inappropriately horny for a first date. I'…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/7/2026
Why do people not do walking/park dates

Thank you so much for saying it clearly that it's very uncomfortable that it's romantic to be at a bar but not a coffee shop. I was 100% wrong to think that a park walk is a great first date idea, bu…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/7/2026
Does a Dinner Date = Sex in 2026? 🧐🤷🏾‍♀️

White older guy. Is it common to hope to have sex on a third date? Sure! Is it ok for you to feel pressured? Absolutely not! I can suggest two routes. 1) One is to talk to him about how you appreci…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/7/2026
Does a Dinner Date = Sex in 2026? 🧐🤷🏾‍♀️

THIS!⬆️ I love these 2 options to introduce into the conversation. And I appreciate that they’re both honest, and simply 2 different approaches. Thank you for this and you definitely have a great poin…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/8/2026
Am I chopped?

slick the hair back, stand tall and dress classy. own that shit. itll feel double cool when you lose weight and/OR power lift with it.

r/AsianMasculinitycomment4/8/2026
My F24 boyfriend's F26 long term girl best friend F26 confessed to him. Don't know what to do?

I mean, she kinda is a bad person. Her confession was basically her hitting on a taken guy and saying, "yo I know you got a gf but you should dump her to be with me cos I have decided I want you now a…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
I’m unsure if I 35/f tell my ex 31/m I’m having an abortion?

Sounds like a real classy guy… Since you already made the decision and considering how he chose to exit your life in a disrespectful way, he doesn’t have any right to know. If you were going through w…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
How do I (M35) navigate my wedding with my sister (F37) and her alcoholism?

Her children will be participating in the wedding but she is not invited? Classy.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
Date night clothes in your 40’s

Nope. I wear what I want depending on the occasion. For context, I come from a very conservative family and background. I dressed horribly because my mom put me down and believes women should be cov…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/12/2026