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I am working as an Officer in Govt of India with a "perfect" secure life, but my soul wants to drop it all for the Himalayan rivers, mountains, Yoga. Am I alone? — I am writing this from a busy city. I have a very secure, well-paying government job. By society's rules, I should be perfectly happy and satisfied. But whenever I find a quiet moment, my mind travels…

Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means) — I last posted a variation of this a little over 5 years ago. We're a little overdue for a repost. --- You know how every Uber rating is right on the verge of 5 stars unless something's particularly …

FAQs about r/AnxietyHelp — Hi guys, One of the mods here suggested creating a FAQ page for our subreddit to help eliminate confusion. **Why was my post removed automatically?** It wasn't! It has been sent to our mod queue fo…

I just proved that a crappy industry is literally pissing away money — I constantly preach about template fraud and those "pretty but useless" websites that don't deliver actual business results. This week, I decided to prove my point. I spotted a security product in th…

Trying to learn CSS. Now I'm lost and feeling overwhelmed. — I tried making a practice site, but navigating the style sheet feels like I'm lost inside a maze. Is it normal for the CSS page to reach 100+ lines? I'm not even halfway done and I've already forgott…

I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…

Other attachment styles — I know the normal 4: Secure, Anxious/preoccupied fearful avoidant, dismissive avoidant, plus disorganized, which is just sort of an "all of the above" In doing parts work, I've been trying to figure…

Is Getting Ripped Apart Normal in Product Design? — I’m new to product design, and at this startup, I wear both the product designer and product manager hats. I meet regularly with the CEO (my boss), and during our sessions, we review the website and r…

How do I put together a multi-product design system as a sole designer? — Hi all, my UX design journey has been chaotic but I suspect that’s normal. I was in visual/web design for about 8 years then 2 years ago I got my first UX role (after trying to pursue and study UX f…

Having a hard time to promote my products. ( HELP ) — Hi So i just started digital products selling and i created an ebook and posted it on gumroad and payhip. I did promote it on my x account and created a tiktok account. I still haven’t made any sal…

What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …

Is This Normal? — My websites are 2 months old, so fairly new. I created them after the update so there is no update happening But for some reason, posts will appear and then dissappear...couple days now. It's off an…

Can’t Access My Shopify Store Created with Google Login – Stuck in Login Loop, No Password Option — Hey everyone, I’m having a frustrating issue and hoping someone here can help. I created my Shopify store using the “Continue with Google” option with my Gmail so I didn’t set a password because Goog…

Client has disappeared from map pack for target keyword ("More Results" button missing, only top 3 displayed) — ISSUE: I have a high profile client, with a competitive brand, authoritative website & highly optimized GBP, of which they have dozens of real locations, including this one. I have been working with t…

My experience winning a chargeback — Sharing my experience winning a chargeback recently. We specialize in gaming collectibles, and our store has been running online for 3ish years. We have had 2 chargebacks in that timeframe, and won bo…

Is this normal? CSS — I was taught there are three main styling approaches: CSS Modules, CSS-in-JS, and utility frameworks like Tailwind. I also learned that it's important to write clean, organized styles with good class …

Got ghosted after 3rd round — Hey everyone, Just wanted to share my recent experience and see if others are going through the same thing. I’ve been applying for DevOps roles for the past few months, and finally landed an intervi…

Should technical articles be a nlof post or a pagw — I always debate this internally. If i write a technical article about for example how to meaure voltage when testing a piece of equipment. Should it be a page or a blog post? And what normally determ…

2.5 million in fraudulent orders — I have a huge problem and Shopify has mentioned they cannot help and do not give refunds once processed. They insist there is no support phone number and can only discuss the matter via chat. My orde…

Medium sized win I wanted to share — My wife has ran and operated a women’s boutique for 8 years and in March we purchased it from the parent company. She has two full time employees and 8 part time employees as well as an online store a…

Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search — **What It Does** This is an internal tool I’ve been building to help with UK property prospecting, market research, and deal due diligence. If you've ever tried to buy or invest in property in the U…

Your tools and tips for better team alignement? (I will not promote) — Hi, Was reflecting of what worked and what did not in my previous ventures and I think team alignement was a major issue...no suprises here, to me it's normal as it's known to difficult but we alway…

Your tools and tips for better team alignement? — Hi, Was reflecting of what worked and what did not in my previous ventures and I think team alignement was a major issue...no suprises here, too me it's normal as it's difficult but we always struggl…

Starting a franchise business — Has anyone started a Franchise business? I am looking to scale a service based business with customer interaction. I have been thinking that franchise model might be a better fit because it hard to…

Second fake client this month – classic invoice scam disguised as a website project — Just wanted to share this as a heads-up to other freelancers and small agencies. I recently had a potential client who reached out for a WordPress website. We even had a short phone call, everything s…

Every day I try to do things right. Every day they say no. Now I duct-tape and maintain the mess I warn them about — Hey folks, Just wanted to drop this little gem of corporate masochism So I work at this company where we develop software for real state agencies, in this 'properties' sql table we have a field cal…

Are There Any Tech Billionaires Who Weren’t ‘Nerds’ Growing Up? I will not promote — I’m doing a school research project on tech billionaires for a class, and I have a question. It seems like most successful tech entrepreneurs were into tech or coding from a young age, but I’m curious…

How much space do DA avoidants need when deactivating? — I (M,21, Secure) and my *girlfriend* (F, 21, DA), been dating for 6 months (however both agreed to not proclaim it a relationship yet) and right about 6 month mark she began deactivating (sudde…

Why hold out hope for other people to meet my needs when it feels more productive and ultimately better to want nothing from other people? — I try my best to be the most attentive friend I can be no matter my internal state. I don't mind doing this for the people I value, and it makes me feel better to be helpful to other people, although …

Struggling with losing my best friend/coworker, anxious attachment + limerence making it unbearable — Hi everyone, I apologize in advance for this long post. I’ll just post the TL;DR at the start. TL;DR: Lost my best friend/coworker of 7 years after a conflict. He’s now cold/avoiding me but friendl…

I need some FA to give me insights on this situation — Break up with a FA need some insights Hi guys, i really need some insights as someone whos desire is to be a safe space for a FA girl. Breakup context: I (M, 23) was in a 2-year relationship with my…

Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…

I have become obsessed with finding someone. — After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 months, I have become obsessed with finding …

How to deal with triggering situations — Life has been so rough lately when living with anxious attachment in a relationship. Everyday is a struggle. We had an explosive argument yesterday which left me even more on edge than normal. To put …

thoughts on the more "woo-woo"-ish and paranormal aspects of Murphy's work? — I am precisely talking about those: [https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1676311.Telepsychics](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1676311.Telepsychics) [https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4108560-…

Physical Reaction — I will try to keep the backstory short. I had not known anxious attachment was a thing or that one of my coworkers had become one of only a couple people I really felt a deep connection to, until a f…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times? — my partner is FA, I've known him for a long time. He has made a lot of effort and has changed for the better. He's the more secure one between the two of us honestly, and he's pretty good at fighting …

Does this have to do with my attachment style or is it normal? — I used to score as anxiously attached when I was in my last relationship. I feel like I still have some anxious tendencies in my relationship now but I also sometimes feel avoidant and for the most pa…

Need advice: Is it possible to be anxious anxiously attached to a specific person? — Good evening everyone! I am 25 M Recently, things ended pretty badly with this woman I was close to with. She was aware I had feelings for her, and well would flirt back sometimes. I was and still am…

Physically Reacting to Jealousy — My first post was about my deep attachment to a former friend who cut things off because she is now my employee. I'm actually making a lot of progress with that. Well my stress level is very manageabl…

I earned secure attachment in 4 months... — I can't believe I'm writing this. I did this without dating a secure person and without spending money on courses/apps. I promise I'm not selling anything. Big disclaimers: * I am only mostly secure…

How Does a Break Affect a Mission? — I have been working on an SP mission for 11 weeks. However, upon reaching week 11, something changed within me and I no longer wanted to continue, so I spent a week without doing any SH sessions. This…

For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…

Visualization issue — Whenever I start visualizing my scene the images start getting messed up. For example I see the floor crumbling beneath my feet or people's faces become disfigured or things that I'm holding break.. e…

Looking for DA perspectives — I'm with my DA partner for 4 years. Two weeks ago we had a conflict. Since then, communication has slowly faded. He told me he wanted to give us “another chance” and that he was open to talking, but…

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

How do you know what’s secure and what’s not in a partner? — So I am anxiously attached, I’ve done a ton of work and I think I present as fairly secure now (?) but when I’m triggered it’s a mess in my brain. My question for the anxiously attached and those who …

Is it just me or is "date secure people" a bad idea? — To be specific, people who were born into families that fostered secure attachment. Not earned secures. I think the latter is exactly what I need but there's no stat on how much of the population is e…

What do secure bids for connection and co-regulation look like? — I am a dismissive avoidant trying to get better about reaching out to others for connection, co-regulation, emotional support, etc. I am really struggling to figure out what's normal/healthy/reasonabl…

how to apply skills from therapy and date like a sane person? — tl;dr how to keep a connection going with a secure potential love interest who likes to be alone when you’re anxious-preoccupied af 😭 i’m a lifelong anxious-preoccupied and through years of Doing Th…

So my husband turned me on to the idea that my weird dreams are something called lucid dreaming and showed me this sub. Pumped to be here! So periodically I will experience DILD and take control of …

Glad it helped you in some way. I’ve felt like a whiny little wimp for getting PTSD from something that I saw as not a true threat to life. Babies and children absolutely register lack of affection…

Yeah I understand. So one thing you'll notice if you try formal meditation is when when you begin to relax the eyes you become aware of the tension and strain that is *already* there. With patience an…

Interesting. I just got up from a session, my body was very relaxed and took a couple of seconds to respond normally but I couldn't reach the state I'm meant to, I think. I assume this will just come …

Personally? Depends on my life situation but on average maybe 4-8 times a month. The amount of time that passes is usually not too different from physical time, but it can definitely differ - anywher…

Time moves normally and you can't know how much time will be left.

So normally if it was 6 hours then it literally go through the whole 6 hour normally instead of a normal dream that's 10 minutes.

Just a few questions here - I'm new to lucid dreaming. I garden quite a bit, so I can grow Artemisia douglasiana and a few other helpful herbs and make a poultice or something. I usually don't rem…

yes , it took me like 2 months to master it , all i did was lay on the back look up and close my eyes , i would invision seeing myself fly around my neighborhood while doing this practice , , this ga…

a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…

Don't you dare lose hope nor believe someone wouldn't come to your way. It's absolutely normal to have those feelings but, never ever believe it. I wholeheartedly believe someone out their is going …

Sounds normal, I have had similar experiences in shamanic states.

Don’t Try focusing on controlling too much immediately or getting Carried away trying to do influence it strongly at first . Try just remaining calm by focusing on your environment and exploring as yo…

Same. I hung in there , at first thinking no matter what she does. Im more wise , I see her flaws, i will help her change. Me the man she “use” to say i was. She=“never give up on me”. Me-“never”. 4 w…

Hi there, I was wondering if anyone may have had a similar experience to me or may have an explanation which could make sense. I posted this in another forum, it was suggest by one contributer to come…

Hi! So one thing I can tell you from lots of therapy and recently spending time around her is I realized I had been only remembering her good qualities and putting her on a pedestal in my mind. When w…

I am 52. Alone doesn't have to mean lonely. I remind myself that it has only been 4 months since everything exploded for me. I moved back to my hometown. I am looking for teaching work and such. As f…

But your brain behaves differently when lucid dreaming. If I remember right, your prefrontal cortex (so you're aware of yourself and your personality) is active during a lucid dream, what normally don…

PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…

I have a question.. the lucid dreaming meditation guides , when do we listen to them . In the normal Time we sleep or by wbtb?

I'm having odd experiences and I'd like to ask someone who's experienced if what I'm experiencing is normal😭

I did notice there are occasional “I am an abuser/racist/sexist” posts nowadays, although more time will be needed to observe and decide whether a rule about that will be necessary because as of now, …

No babe. I’m happy as can be, I guess you don’t realize people can get into committed relationships without having to rock back and forth in their rooms doing affirmations and visualization all day, l…

Thank you. I will ask the op to insert these links into her other post. They are a good addenda and are a beneficial part of the record. We may make her post a part of our index as well. It is a very…

After all is said and done. My one true key belief is that YOUR BELIEFS SHAPE YOUR REALITY. Good or bad. Right or wrong. How you feel about everything in your life is what receive from it. It’s th…

Don’t know for DA, but I’m FA and I do this. Usually it has nothing to do with the person themselves, I’m just tired and cannot sustain that level of engagement long term. I’m also super sensitive to …

Based on my experience dating a DA, yes this is all “normal” for them. He made it clear we were only to see each other once every two weeks. He didn’t “have capacity” for more than that. The week afte…

Thanks for all of the above. I can relate in that I may on occasion turn inward a bit when I’m super tapped out socially or like physically don’t have the reserves left, but I socially exhaust a lot l…

I'm FA and I identify with this. I value my alone time, and generally speaking, consider myself an introvert. A recharge period is definitely necessary, not just after a social interaction but at the …

Well, you’re posting here and clearly don’t like the dynamic or you wouldn’t be asking us if we think it’s normal. I’m just saying that it’s not a dynamic that most people enjoy or find tolerable and …

Yes that's typical avoidant behaviour, it may also be linked to introversion. My ex FA girlfriend would retreat systematically after we had a great time. They get a bit overwhelmed and scared when th…

I've been in therapy for over a year for various reasons, and for me the first thing I needed to work on was my self image. Understanding and accepting myself, building confidence and a stronger sense…

Just chiming in here to say the question in the post is spot on. After running into the same pattern I had to look inward to what patterns I was replicating to draw the same people into my circle and …

I agree it was a shitty thing for him to do, but “I did nothing to make him feel unsafe, ever” is a statement you should probably introspect on and consider unpacking with a therapist. For one, if you…

I had my first experience 2 nights ago. During the experience I first saw the color red and then felt a pulsating sensation all over my body. Similar to a heartbeat. I initially felt fear then immedia…

I would suggest you reread my comment again. I said I didn’t want romantic relationships to take up 80% of my life, which is a major and unsustainable deviation from the normal relationship pattern of…

Fluctuations, yes. You're talking about the fluctuation toward 80% being the anomaly, and that the normal amount of time would be far less. And, no, there are plenty of secure people who enjoy greate…

You don't go up to a mountain and meditate to heal your attachment wounds, then come down and jump into a healthy relationship. That isn't how the human nervous system works. Healing happens in relat…

What have you done to resolve your fear of commitment, your emotional unavailability and the inferiority complex? Why are you searching for excitement from a partner? What does that mean to you? Is i…

That’s how you see it though. Some people are different and do not have the capacity to consider that, especially if they had a stressful day. Normally I respond to my friends, but the other night aft…

THIS IS SO IMPORTANT. Nuanced, critical, free thinking. Microlabelling and micromanaging to me are always signs of absence of precisely this skill. They are tools of oppression of inner conflict, wh…

This is a very different vibe, but the CTRL album by SZA was so incredibly relatable when it came out, it’s like she found my diary and put my thoughts -and feelings into song. Especially songs like G…

I definitely have much less and less tolerance for dismissive avoidant individuals once I identified those traits in my mother, realized they’re a root of pretty much all my lifelong trauma, and start…

Happy for you. Nobody asks to have an attachment style that’s dysfunctional. I’m working through mine and try so so hard to have compassion for others. But a big part of self love is learning how to h…

ChatGPT has been my T lately haha, so I don't have attachment to it. And reddit and other communities are my support system I guess. I am a DA-leaning FA who has always felt a lot of self hatred and s…

More FA but heavy on that A. DA leaning. Earnt secure now. Defo experienced that a while ago. It didn't last long though. But you're normal :)

Your post leaves out the important little phrase "feels like", first of all. Secondly... I was left in the dark many times, in veryyy hurtful and disappointing ways. Not once have I felt or had a tho…

Women FA's are an anomaly to male FA's likely because women are envisioned in our society to be naturally nurturing, talkative, emotional, and forthcoming about feelings. This isn't the natural course…

How does it feel when visualizing? Was it vivid or just feel like a movie but first person pov? Fir my visualization I tried to feel the physical objects, conversations of people, their normal expre…

I disagree because I think long distance can work. I've seen it work. But I agree that the time lines are different. I'm seeing a guy long distance. We aren't dating, we aren't exclusive, but I hope…