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don't care about YOU truly believing, I truly believed and that's why the bridge of incidents led me to what I knew was mine already. you're not a real practicer because you think because MY manifesta…
What will it take? — Seriously… What does it take to land a UX role these days? My wife is graduating with her masters in UX from a good program but it seems that the industry is evolving and everyone is making it seem …
Error: Chrome persistently redirecting to HTTPS for HTTP site, code 400, message Bad request version. Need proper solution please. — **code 400, message Bad request version ('...') You're accessing the development server over HTTPS, but it only supports HTTP.** student project with django backend, running on local development. …
ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…
Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over — Hi everyone, this is my first post here and I’m writing because I’ve exhausted every other option. And I am FUCKING DONE WITH IT. I hope some of you will see this and help me to hold that person accou…
Least talked about method from POSM (question) — In the section where Murphy talks about techniques, one is the "argumentative technique". "In brief, the argumentative method employed according to Quimby consists of spiritual reasoning where you …
What is my core wound when I don't worry what others think about me, I'm not afraid of being alone, but still no boundaries with closest people — I want to heal my wounds and spot and correct the false truths that I have about myself and others, but I'm finding it quite difficult. It is because it seems to me that I lack some essential traits o…
Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…
I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!! — Sorry for the long text, I want to be thorough. So, I just ended my first ever relationship. I'm 20, I'm a lesbian from a conservative background and had a lot of internalized homophobia and religiou…
My friend felt stuck for years - in session we found a core belief that life is only suffering — I did a quantum healing session for my friend Ramona and honestly what came up was intense. She has felt stuck for a long time. Putting things off, hard to get moving, hard to create, hard to do even…
My friend felt stuck for years - in session we found a core belief that life is only suffering — I did a quantum healing session for my friend Ramona and honestly what came up was intense. She has felt stuck for a long time. Putting things off, hard to get moving, hard to create, hard to do even…
Everything we know about shifting is probably false — So much of our communities take the knowledge we spread to be fact, when in reality shifting isn’t a science. At all. This has been said before but I NEED you guys to actually read and internalize thi…
DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…
I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…
The dumper never regrets it — Just to vent. From my previous relationship that lasted six years my ex discarded me like trash. He felt so much relieve when he left and we have been in no contact since the break up. Never once …
Top 1% Sleep Paralysis Sufferer – Just had a wild 'Inception' loop — I get sleep paralysis a lot, but I just had my first "dream-within-a-dream" (False Awakening) loop. I was falling asleep while masturbating and a 'demon' attacked, forcing me back to sleep. Then whil…
My (26/M) Girlfriend (26/F) Of 6.5 Years Emotionally Cheated and I Don’t Know What To Do — My (26/M) girlfriend (26/F) and I met our first year of college and started dating shortly after. We went through Covid together, graduated together, and started living together about 2 years ago. We…
Idealization vs Devaluation: how it looked like for me — Tldr: Just read the Idealization and devaluation parts. ## Idealization * You're a king! * You sexy tiger, handsome god of a man * You're the best! * Gives gifts early on in the relationship * On…
What We Really Need To Heal — Not sure if anyone else feels this way: but I'm kinda over all the "healing" stuff. Because it doesn't work. And I think there's too much pressure on survivors to "heal". The only way that we can …
Leaving them unblocked only hurts you — Though I started to see my narc ex for what he was and began detaching a few month ago, I still left him unblocked. I hoped he would message me either to apologize or give me 'proof' he was a narc. I …
Why are people such sheep when it comes to drugs? — People seem to just accept things, unthinking, unquestioning. This person I was debating with said "Well people can just die instantly from MDMA" and I said that's just false. That doesn't happen, not…
The best and 5 worst things I did after 5 breakups in 12 years chasing unavailable partners, and I just got marriaged on 2.14.2026 — I've been through 5 painful breakups over the last decades, all with the same pattern: I'd chase someone emotionally/physically unavailable—either a cheater or straight-up avoidant—who'd pull away jus…
What happens when the narcissist realizes this whole time they may have actually been delusional? — Narcissists spend their whole lives as a lie so im curious, has anyone actually seen what it's like for a narcissist to seem to get a glimpse of clarity that shows them that maybe their life isn't all…
A Narcissus is an empty shell with no real existence — "A Narcissus, such as Ovid's Narcissus, is someone who thinks he has found himself by looking in the mirror. His life consists in searching for his reflection in the gaze of others. The other exists, …
She cheated after 14 years — This is my first ever post on Reddit and it’s a long one so apologies in advance for any formatting errors. I have been with my fiancé for 14 years, we have been engaged for the last 4. Our relations…
She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical — I’m posting because I feel like I’m losing my grip on what is real, and I need perspective from people who understand trickle truth, repeated minimizing, and what it feels like when someone admits jus…
the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
As an ardent follower of Astrology - I now find it very dehumanising. — People are people - they are actual people with families, friends and personalities they've developed over time. They have redeeming traits and they will have areas of improvement to work on. To box a…
My second OBE was just... Magical!! — I got up in the middle of the night and went back to sleep. I tried to fall back into sleep but instead I shuffled, twisted and turned about. I was awake, with my eyes closed trying to sleep. So to ma…
Going to false legal cases. When will it get over and when will I get divorced? M37 — I was married for couple of months. Due to few things which I got to know - I asked for divorce. She filed false cases to extract alimony. It's been over 3.5 years now - when will this get over? Pl…
Is it inevitable that one arrives at stoicism with non-virtuous intent? — Not to get religious. But I remember reading a sermon years ago - CH Spurgeon I think - where he was describing true and false faith. He described that there would be a genuine love for Christ himself…
Is a “false” lucid dream possible? — Is it reasonable to imagine a truly non-lucid dream which includes you saying, “Oh! This is a dream.”? Or would that be synonymous with actually becoming lucid to some extent?
Out of a delusional episode and have quit drugs, but evidence of something "wrong" with saying it was delusional has emerged today... — First off do me a favor plz, google for "what is the electrical phenomenon some stipulate is needed for a timeline shift?" yourself and tell me if it throws in the answers anything about a change in S…
Stop trying to get them back — The long paragraphs, gifts, and romantic gestures are only pushing them away. A good rule of thumb is: if it seems like it would happen in a romance movie, don't do or say it. Those are fiction for a …
How do you hold space for, not necessarily judgment, but rather accountability and ultimately grace and growth for the dark side of codependency and insecure attachment styles — A recent poster who shared a story about his coworker got me really thinking about one of the standard FA rituals, and probably the cruelest FA rituals. We can be such experts on lulling people into…
I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. — \*\*\*UPDATE\*\*\* After a long 3 days my results came back and they were all negative. I, of course, told my boyfriend and he was relived much like I was. He was supportive of me and he apologized …
Why are koreans so class/status conscious? — \*\* here, 'koreans' mean korean-koreans or first gen korean immigrants, not korean americans who tend to be more chill in my experience. I'm a first gen immigrant. I'm posting it here in a hope to ge…
34 M, marraige collapse, business collapse & false cases..Will this improve? — I got married in Dec 2024 after months of red flags that I ignored. Even before marriage, her behavior felt distant and inconsistent, but I trusted the process. Within a month of marriage, things sta…
I lost the perfect relationship, will she come back? — Me (18M) and my ex (17F) had been dating for exactly two years in a long distance relationship, where we both loved each other and things were going great before she dumped me last week. last monda…
The fatalistic overcorrection of the dichotomy of control. — I wrote part of the body of this post as a comment in another thread, but I see these comments very often anyway so I thought (voluntarily) that I would give a general objection to them here. The g…
Why he manipulated me for a week and then dumped me? — He is the one that dumped me saying he cannot forgive me talking to my ex during the beginning of our relationship(that relationship was toxic and left me with a lot of trauma). He already knew about …
coincidence or a sign? — I (f21) had a 3-4 month fling (m23) about 6-7 months ago. It ended with us both agreeing that we weren’t ready for a relationship. He was super hot and cold during the fling which made me anxious. In …
😢 — My bf just broke up with me out of no where. Made me think he was coming over to talk out our issues. I feel stupid because I begged him to stay. He kept just telling me it may work out in the future.…
My situationship doesn’t want a relationship but still has feelings for me?? — Please don’t call me delulu, because I’ve had my fair share of avoidant weirdos, but I don’t think he is one. Been talking to this guy since December. Things were great. The chemistry was there. The c…
Why are people so cruel? - Day 13 of Recovery — Had a bad day today... *Really* bad... People are so fucking cruel. First someone sees my scars at church of all places... Not that I'm Christian, but isn't it called a sanctuary for a reason? Anyway…
This is crazy — I was thinking alot about false awakening like let's say you are awake but you are awakening in another dream and your trying to awake in real world again and again, it's like you are switching channe…
8 Months No Contact — It's almost 8 months no contact now. I still have a deep sadness - I was hurt like I've never been hurt before. But I'm overcome by a deep sense of injustice. For all her cruelty and betrayal. And the…
My Ex’s Ex has been stalking me for 2 years. — Pretty much the title. Not sure if anyone else has experienced this. For those of you who want some back story, I (25F) was with a man for about 10 months. We had a very dramatic breakup and he put m…
A character in my lucid dream told me about the 2,4,7 method.. how fascinating is the brain!! — Hello all! I am a light sleeper and used to get a lot of lucid dreams even before I knew their term. Yesterday I dreamt about attending a school I haven’t seen before and had recently saw a reel tha…
You discarded the narcissist — Fundamentally, narcissists don't have control over anything in their lives, not even the discard. They are reactionary beings who exist solely in response to external stimuli, which includes you. Fu…
DMT While on LSD-Trip Report — Close to 10 years ago, I tried DMT (specifically, changa) while on LSD. I began to vibrate like a Tibetan brass bowl & the air turned bright purple around me. I closed my eyes & some language/code/sym…
There aren't many but as far as I can tell there are a couple which could qualify. 1. Escapism. Just like anything fun, let alone of the "reality substitute" type, there is the potential to use it e…
You are honestly the smartest guy on this sub. This sub is sort of populated by people that still live off of ego and still have not connected with the Universe. They believe that we are only respons…
Yeah it's why I hate seeing all that "let them miss you" bullshit. It's not always true. It's just giving me all this horrible false hope.
Your experience sounds like a classic etheric projection if you had walked outside of your etheric house you would have been on the astral plane. The body you described sounds like the etheric bodi it…
That sounds like an etheric projection into the etheric plane if you had walked outside of the house you would have been on the astral plane a lot confuse etheric projection for a false awakening beca…
Yea it really is. I still find myself slipping on some days and looking but I noticed I can’t do that to myself anymore because it sends me spiraling and gives me a false sense of a connection. Some…
It’s called a false awakening and you can search the sub to read more about it. The best method is to do a reality check upon awakening each time
I would agree as well. But sometimes they try to keep you as a backup option by being hot and cold. They are playing with you, while they may not even realize it, but you are getting false hope. Espec…
Anyone still posting on here? I drove my ex away with my insecure attachment style, looking back he kept putting in little effort and I felt as though I was trying very hard to change. I’m sure he wa…
Good idea, unfortunately, i think im awake... Ive seen this before along time ago.... But then again i get false memorys in my dreams sooo......
Hi, that sounds like a false awakening chain. I've experienced a few of them too, including the annoying part where you lose lucidity each time the scenario "resets" itself. No idea what causes it, o…
Doesn't seem to account for that there are bad actors who'll say any attribution of responsibility toward them (on what they can control) is them being victim blamed simply as a way of maintaining the…
Yeah I've seen a lot of increase in those posts too. I don't think is the subreddit to tell everyone else that NC led you to get back with your ex, first of all is giving everybody false hopes or unre…
I get where you are coming from. I feel like though, at least for me, it can be a false sense of security trying to overanalyze things. It is masking the fear of being rejected if I ask a partner some…
Sure! Some happen in conversation Let's take the example of a simple question to which you can answer with a yes or a no Example 1: Question : - " Do you want to go to the movies tonight? " ( You…
Thanks! Crazy how we are conditioned to think this anxiety and nervousness as genuine attraction and love. I've calmed down since then and getting to know this person with clear mind. Yes, the wrong…
Hey u/false\_athenian it will probably be a year before I give it live. But, l like I said you can still sign up on the original sign up page for either a donation or scholarship and get the recordin…
There’s a world of hype, starry-eyed optimism and straight up false promises out there. But AI systems are running in the background for many businesses and saving them a lot of time and money. We b…
The first question is, why does the drugs trigger you? What are you imagining or feeling when they talk about it. Logically, it's just part of their past. If it was something that could happen again o…
This is probably my own AP side coming through and influencing things, but, I'd always sort of viewed the avoidants desire for space in a similar way that Marxists percieve a proletarian false-conscio…
Her saying I want to go isn't code for I want to go there with you. False assumption on your part
You can respond and see if he’s done any real work on himself and is ready to do so with a partner. But it’s likely he did not change and the well just ran dry. Now he’s spinning the block. I understa…
I’ve read all that stuff. I used to be heavily into attachment theory because of my ex. She claimed to be “FA” but its all lies. She just wasnt that into me. Once she got her new boyfriend, she had no…
No one has an attachment style. You engage in behavior strategies that are effective for that specific relationship. People do end up dating others that are familiar that allows for that behavior to b…
This is all valid, thank you! We've been together for 17 years, this Halloween 😁 He is extremely familiar with my trauma, and could probably tell you exactly what is going on in my head during these…
That's ok if he's sad about it. It sounds harsh, but people get dumped and have to move out every day. Pain after a breakup is normal and natural, not something to be prevented. He's allowed to be dis…
I think its cause of the constant messaging before meeting that gave me a false sense of closeness. She messaged me again yesterday saying that she would like to take it slow for a bit. So, I also don…
(Tried to post this as a solo post, but couldn't due to not enough karma) *Does Thinking About Death Really Help Us Live Better?* In this post, I want to question the practice of Memento Mori, becau…
i wouldn’t consider it splitting, but yes to a certain extent. like you said i get triggered which causes emotional dysregulation, especially in response to feeling disrespected, rejected, or betrayed…
The DMM lists common behavior strategies found in the anxious and the avoidant attachment systems. Avoidant behavior strategies: >A1 (Idealizing): This behavior strategy omits negative affect regard…
I 19M have an anxious attachment that most likely arise from previous long distance relationships, my partner 18F has an avoidant attachment and we just started our relationship. I’m just wondering i…
My gut is telling me he’s letting go since I haven’t heard from him still. But I am glad for this reminder. Now that it’s been almost two days, I feel a lot less panicked about it and more okay with l…
This is fascinating thank you. And firstly I just want to say I relate on many levels. I have actually run workshops on attachment and yet still found myself in situations similar to this, except she …
First of all…no one owes you their attention or affection. She is allowed to change her mind. I don’t doubt that it was sudden and there was many mixed signals which feels very unfair. Regardless of w…
I’m not dismissing the fact that you have engaged in some amount of healing. However you managed to avoid doing the most important part of the healing that would make this all so much more bearable. Y…
>where i struggle is drawing the line between "this is a reasonable need that is not being met" and "this is my attachment talking and its my problem to figure out" I've definitely been there and yo…
Its so painful; I'm really so sorry you're experiencing this horrific pain right now, I've been through this twice; both partners were DA's who discarded brutally after the new relationship energy w…
Just venting a bit right now. Been talking with a woman I met at a book club and slowly becoming friends over the past few months. I'm autistic so I'm very bad at reading social signals and have to mo…
Nah, your friends are wack. >It just creates false hope and makes it more emotionally devastating when she inevitably does enter a relationship. So it's for the best if I create some distance for now…
You say you do not want validation but your questions at the end show that is what you are hoping for. You are trying to interpret her behavior so you can set expectations for the outcome. In order to…
I would encourage you to look and see how you are abandoning yourself in all this. Why would you take them back without knowing whether they had truly changed? If they are showing the same patterns, w…
I think you're absolutely right to walk away if this level of communication isn't for you. I will say this doesn't really scream avoidant to me and I don't really see this behaviour as mixed signals. …
It's the meandering around "I'm not interested" like he's got nowhere else to be. No one needs false validation and empathy like you're working a customer service helpline.
Oh, I didn't get that read from his reply but I can see where you're coming from with that angle. > No one needs false validation and empathy like you're working a customer service helpline. I kind…
I think they think it’s possible because that is their insecurity driving them. They are looking to be “chosen”, and they think that if they can put on the right mask and do/say/be the right things …
I know it sucks, but you'll click with someone else again. And frankly, after only 2.5 weeks, you had barely even started anyway. Talking all day, everyday only creates a false sense of rushed intimac…
Dating apps are designed to keep you swiping and keep coming back to the app, even Hinge, which claims to be the app designed to be deleted. They purposely limit your algorithm to incentivize you to p…
>Which is why I’m thinking saying taking a break until he’s done with school and then we can see if it makes sense dating. But I don’t think I want to be with him romantically. Are you going to tell …
Even if it's your own personal experience as an anxiously attached person that you did everything right to the best of your ability and genuinely tried as hard as you could to create a healthy relatio…
Many people are religious. If you had absolute proof that their religion is wrong - do you tell them when they aren’t asking you? Do you wreck their lives just because of their falsely held belief? …