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don't care about YOU truly believing, I truly believed and that's why the bridge of incidents led me to what I knew was mine already. you're not a real practicer because you think because MY manifesta…
Question about POSM — In chapter 9 Murphy suggests simply repeating the word “wealth” over and over 3/4 times a day to attract wealth- he claims this method works because it does not contradict your conscious mind’s assump…
The song “I love you, I’m sorry” by Gracie Abrams makes me think of the POV of a DA — I'm DA, and I just listened to this song. It feels like a DA talking about how they sabotaged a good relationship, and they regret it. This line particularly hits: "I like to slam doors closed, trust…
Has anyone else gone from being dismissive avoidant to anxious preoccupied towards their therapist? — As I'm sitting here on a Friday night, missing my therapist despite literally meeting with her today, I'm reflecting on how 5 years ago, and really for the first 2/3 years of therapy I was a closed bo…
Best Practice HTTP Status Code for Proxy-Level Content Validation Failure? — Working on an API gateway/proxy that sits in front of APIs. The proxy adds its own validation layer (toxicity, etc). I'm wrestling with an API design choice: when my **proxy's** validation rules bloc…
Requesting feedback on a landing page design — Hey everyone, hope you're having a great weekend! I just finished designing a landing page for a pest control company and would like some feedback on it. Particularly the bottom section, starting fro…
My game has 50k downloads but only brings in coffee money — I released a little trivia game on Android about 6 months ago. It’s super simple — just daily quiz questions with leaderboards. Got about 50k downloads now, mostly from Southeast Asia and India. The …
Getting rejected every time during the portfolio presentation stage — Hello everyone, I seem to be unable to pass the portfolio presentation phase and now is the fourth time this has happened — Many of these companies are fintech which I have a background in but recentl…
Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …
Are you still using GBP posts as part of your local strategy? Curious how you approach content & competitor insights — I’ve been working on a side project around automating GBP content and understanding local competitor activity. I'm not here to promote anything, just to validate if the idea has legs. Curious how oth…
Free shipping promo got 0.01% conversion. Where did we go wrong? — Hi everyone, hoping to get your thoughts. We ran a 3-day free shipping campaign from for our e-commerce store (mid- to high-end). • Page views: 10,000 • Instagram ad reach: 55,000 • Orders: 2 (onl…
Dreaming of Full Time Freelance Consulting in SaaS B2B (I will not promote) — Hi r/startups, I’m in the process of developing a consulting service designed specifically for startups, from Pre-Seed all the way to Series B. The idea is to offer a practical, hands-on partner for …
SEO Basics Done But Not Ranking — I've been working on optimizing a page for a keyword with good search volume and low difficulty according to Keyword Planner, but it's nowhere in the top 100 results. I've done all the basics: * Met…
Built a fast multi-host terminal log viewer with timeline histogram – looking for feedback — Hey all – I’ve been working on Nerdlog: an open-source fast terminal-based log viewer loosely inspired by Graylog/Kibana, having a similar timeline histogram on top, but designed to be snappy, lightwe…
Jobsites to lookout for as a Product Designer. Need help. — I'm currently in the lookout for a job change and I would like to know if there are any specific sites/channels/spaces/groups to get a job alerts. I'm aware of fee and actively on top of it, but I cou…
Client has disappeared from map pack for target keyword ("More Results" button missing, only top 3 displayed) — ISSUE: I have a high profile client, with a competitive brand, authoritative website & highly optimized GBP, of which they have dozens of real locations, including this one. I have been working with t…
Duplicate Websites: One Ranks, One Tanks — I own two small‑town dental practices and spun up two nearly identical websites for them. Same structure, images, and copy, just different color schemes and logos. The site for Practice A ranks nicely…
Shopify Free Plan? — Hey friends! I used to run my online store via Shopify (sold it last year), and now I’m recommending it to a lot of people in my marketing course. I *thought* there used to be a free plan, or maybe I’…
Brightedge for SEO. Please help. — I just got onboarded as a SEO professional for a company that uses Brightedge and frankly I'm a little overwhelmed and confused with the tool. I'm used to using SEMrush, but can't understand the sugge…
Would people pay $5 to protect a restaurant reservation from no-show fees? Testing a micro-cancellation MVP. (i will not promote) — Hi all - I'm working on a simple MVP and looking for early feedback: **Problem**: Some restaurants on Resy and Tock now charge $50–$100 per *person* if you cancel too late or don’t show. Totally fair…
Issue with website being blank unless I manually go to pages. — I’m sure I’m just missing something but, I built a website with Elementor/Wordpress that is hosted through Hostinger. I have pro plans for both hostinger and elementor, hostinger says the page is up …
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search — **What It Does** This is an internal tool I’ve been building to help with UK property prospecting, market research, and deal due diligence. If you've ever tried to buy or invest in property in the U…
Admin page down - missing Vite framework resource — Seems like Shopify admin page is down. It's trying to load Vite framework from their CDN, but the file does not exists.
What is missing in the health and wellness space today? — I’m brainstorming ideas on where the shortfalls are in the industry as a young female but wanted to hear some other perspectives
Quick help with CORS error — Hello, This is a stupid question I think I know the answer to, but I'd like confirmation. All the research I've done indicates my gut is right, but I like to check. I'm getting a CORS error when tr…
Head of Digital - Feeling burnt out. — Hey everyone, I’m in a “Head of Digital” role at a mid-sized company — but in practice, I’m the only technical person in a team full of editors and project managers from a traditional print publishin…
Change variant in bulk — Hello, new to shopify. There are 72 variants to my products e.g small, medium large etc. I would like to add stock to the products how ever I obviously do not want to have to go through 72 options …
Yaml lint usefull ? — Not a devops just trying to test a workflow using yamlLint but i do wonder if its useful since github already point at critical syntax error, yamlint seems to point at trailling spaces or "---" missi…
jQuery(...).unblock and jQuery(...).autocomplete are not functions — I’m working on a WooCommerce checkout form and I’m getting the following errors in the browser console: Uncaught TypeError: jQuery(...).unblock is not a function at setSpeedyMethod (speedy\_form.js?…
how do people get their product in stores? and how do they manufacture it from scratch? — I just saw a cnbc money video about a random guy that started selling plain old peanut butter and made million. crazy thing is I recognized the peanut butter brand and it just started showing up all…
[Product Survey] Help us understand your auth/DB platform choices (Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, and more) — Hi everyone! 👋 I’m a Product Manager working with a developer friend on a new backend-as-a-service solution, and we’d love your feedback. Whether you’ve used Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, Authn …
Pouncemonial: 9th Kill - 30 Successful Trades — **Mission**: To accomplish 30 successful trades **What I achieved**: Accomplished 30 successful trades and learned how to execute and manage trades well. **Background**: With the previous kill, …
If I could just stop deactivating!! (FA) — Follow up from some of my previous posts. I’m deactivating again. I think? Or maybe lost feelings for my partner and I’m just lying to myself and not wanting to let go. The thought of that makes me cr…
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …
Help me understand-anxious now ex bf + part avoidant ex gf — My anxious ex and I met in ‘22. Online I was a full dismissive avoidant I began to work on myself in October’23. Since October ‘23,I have been a dismissive avoidant in recovery Recently,I have …
For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? — For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? I began therapy 4 months into our situationship because of how strong he came on,…
What would one call this attachment style? — I feel as tho I'm a pretty particular mix, cause I'm not exactly healthy, but the other labels don't exactly resonate either. I suppose it roots from two main things. One, I was bullied and ostracized…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Struggling with friend moving — My best friend just moved to be stationed by the army. She’s secure leaning so it’s not about her. I am having all the symptoms of anxious attachment - depressed, afraid she’ll die, missing her when s…
Both best friends got engaged — I (27F) have never been in a relationship and struggle to form emotional attachments at all. I've gone on dates and forced myself to keep seeing a guy because he's perfectly nice and there's nothing w…
Update: Self-help group for anxious attachment — Thank you to everyone who responded to my [**prior post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/1plm1g1/selfhelp_group_for_anxious_attachment/) re starting a self-help group. (Yes, The…
How can I become more consistent in my relationships? — I recently learnt I'm fearful avoidant and I've been in therapy for 3 years so I know how I stopped being inconsistent in many areas of my life I used to be – I learnt to be consistent with studying b…
How can I become more consistent in my relationships? — I recently learnt I'm fearful avoidant and I've been in therapy for 3 years so I know how I stopped being inconsistent in many areas of my life I used to be – I learnt to be consistent with studying b…
23 and feel stuck with no direction — I’m 23 and feel really lost and stuck in life. I’m in a good relationship and I’m grateful for that, but mentally I’ve struggled since I was a kid. I had really bad anxiety starting around age 8–9 an…
Coming to terms with possible childhood emotional neglect - curious how others turned out — As I’ve gotten older and started reflecting on my life, I’ve slowly worked backwards and realised that I might have experienced childhood emotional neglect (CEN). What’s funny is that it actually sta…
If you are a dumper missing your dumpee you caused the pain — IF THE SHOE FITS THEN IT FITS What frustrates me is how often dumpers speak about missing their ex as if that somehow balances the situation. It doesn’t. The critical difference is agency. One person…
I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…
has teletherapy actually felt “real” for you or does it feel distant compared to in person? — I’ve only ever pictured therapy happening in an office with a couch and awkward water fountain in the waiting room but lately most of my local providers are suggesting teletherapy instead of in person…
Heavy energy/projection in living space — I keep experiencing, on a daily basis, unbearable heavy energy (from the little I've learnt, and I have learnt a lot) it feels like a projection of some kind. I have learnt and grown about myself abo…
I miss him. — Logically I know my ex is a POS and clearly mentally ill but I’ve been missing him lately. Usually I’m pretty good at not obsessing over the “good times” but lately I can’t stop thinking about him and…
Every time I post on social media, I feel less and less like there’s space for me on the Internet. — I grew up on social media, beginning on Xanga and MySpace at 10 years old. Then, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok, as I grew up and entered adulthood. I’ve always over shared my life on the Inter…
Me and my ex was together 2 years, really amazing time but she changed My ex left me for someone else and moved 3000 miles to be with him. She said to her friends she’s so lonely because he’s at work…
Be mindful of what you put out bc you could be missing an opportunity to learn more about yourself and what you are connected to . I’ve found that even when dealing with personal demons or dark presen…
Yeah I tend to agree with you, but the commenter above was saying they do think about you, often miss you and could still love you. Those things can be true in rare situations, but I don't think it's …
no, you are missing the HUGE part of what I said "and not do any of those things enough to want to get back together". It is almost UNIVERSAL unless you did truly heinous shit like rape / abuse, etc. …
None of it *should* stop you from moving forward and healing, but for some people it still nevertheless does. I'm sorry, I know you said this more than half a year ago but I'm going through my situati…
Looks like someone took a post I did 4 years ago and used it to insert links to something from Asia. This is a something I posted a few months ago on the same topic: [https://www.reddit.com/r/emotion…
And I think the point we are trying to show you is that your role is continuing to subject yourself to said pain. It’s not like you wake up one day in the thick of an unfulfilling, painful relationshi…
There are many factors to consider with regards to attachment styles, especially towards different people / situations a specific style might be more prominant. There is also a spectrum - mild, modera…
Yes. I was with a dismissive avoidant and I divorced him, and then my older sister is a DA as well and I have been regaining my voice after I left my ex. So I have set very limited time to talk to my …
I think your therapy must be working? Does your missing her feel destructive since you’re anxious? To me it sounds like you’re really working through your childhood wounds. I’m DA to everyone. I was …
Haha didn’t work with mine, he would have been sooooo happy if I just didn’t text… he was such a little scamp. He had an excuse for everything… when it came to missing my call or not texting, the list…
Pretty sure I was an FA (schizophrenic dad, sadistic mom who wanted to abort me—I took care of the family’s emotional needs, disregarded my own). I was still confused/hurting 2+ years post no contact…
Correct me if I’m wrong, but your comment has me confused from the tons of reading I’ve done on attachment styles. Am I missing something?
I am actually working on something like this on my weekends. There are tons of moving parts to this and lots of decisions at each layer. As much as I hate k8s you are definitely missing out on some o…
I made a game on Roblox so my kids and I could play it together. They loved being part of the process and I loved making it! If time and money and talent were not an issue I’d be a weekend warrior m…
Sophia NLU (natural language understanding) Enging released, with full specs and online demo at: https://cicero.sh/sophia/ For anyone deploying conversational chat bots at all, and is alternativ…
Man, this post hits SO hard. Running a business is absolutely brutal, and I think we need more honesty about the real toll it takes on founders. I've gone through some of these exact same experiences…
This is incredibly sweet, Im wishing the best for both of you :) What comments are missing is that love and safety is often the best medicine, for everyone. Im not a DA (avoidant leaning FA) but I sta…
I like this idea. It seems to help both the anxious leaning and the avoidant just check in for the day rather than the avoidant expecting to have to check in continuously, or the anxious person waitin…
Thank you, I take notes for euphemisms. My ex DA used to minimize everything and make it look like its nothing. Dismissing & criticising my feelings too as if it was the biggest sin to have emotions. …
Tbh I look for someone who is able to understand my POV when I tell a story, means show empathy not dismissing/judging, someone who is able to reassure me when I have my doubts, someone who doesnt tre…
Interestingly enough my DA and FA exes did the opposite of all these in the beginning of the rls but slowly revealed their dismissing of emotions and keeping me at a distance after the honeymoon and l…
Ikr. So tough. "Idk why you always bring up the past" um, because we haven't resolved it? Stonewalling, silent treatment, dismissing.
That last part is what happens with my partner. It hurts so much that she feels me trigger a core wound. She will retreat for a few days, usually 4 or 5 and then come back when she's regulated. She …
Youre right. That's one of the missing pieces. The reason a HUGE majority of people dont know what they want is the western culture. Its created that way by design.
I think people may be projecting a bit. Yes, FAs do tend to come back around and if they haven’t changed then the cycle can repeat and much faster than the first time. But you don’t need to just blo…
Good god, serial abuser!? I don't need to read the rest of the comment to know we're not going to agree about this at all, if that's your take based on a single text and the post from OP. And no, I do…
u/TTMI2 It’s really a shame to see sooo many cut throat answers here that leave little room for personal development and growth. These responses are missing a very important point; *attachment styles…
I’m in agreement with you (upvoted lol!). Yes, sad to see all the FA bashing. His text and reaching out with attempts for reconciliation are showing he wants the relationship but doesn’t have the know…
As long as the avoidant partner is willing to work on healing towards secure and seeking therapy then there is hope. Good on you for clearly expressing your expectations. This is what it means to work…
You sound rather cold and haughty. If you don't wanna respond then don't. If you explained she will get the message: I have been feeling a bit smothered. You say you have secure attachment.but I am.m…
I had a DA friend who never called first and i asked him to do it from time to time. When we talked (me initiating) he was always nice, helpful and responsive but without me calling first he was only …
Literally exact same thing happened to me! Is there some DA handbook we're missing?! Can't agree with this comment more, though, people like this will have very elaborate and sometimes extremely con…
You can take the lessons without keeping the man. I’ve done that 5x over and leveled my life up with each man. Trust me they benefited from being with me too, mostly in the arena of emotional awarenes…
She believed God would deliver them. She didn't probably have resistance to them showing up in her life. For her, it was like ordering something off amazon. She probably (again I don't know your mom b…
I think it's missing the point.
That is interesting. I would say he is also leaning avoidant, but during the relationship, maybe because I lean anxious. Once we broke up it seemed his anxious side took over and he missed me. Do you …
No one has an attachment style. You engage in behavior strategies that are effective for that specific relationship. People do end up dating others that are familiar that allows for that behavior to b…
Hey, thanks for the reply. I'll do my best to answer as precisely as possible > 1. You say you’re in the state of “I could get up, but I do not want to.” This means you’re not fully relaxed or in th…
So me and guy are talking, been about a week. He asked to be exclusive with talking and I said yes because I don’t usually talk to many people at the same time so he would be the only one I would be t…
Understandable. It sounds like in your past relationships your needs might not have been met by the other person. When someone can see you though, it can be quite an intoxicating experience. She provi…
Hi everyone, I’m in my early 20s, and recently I went through my longest relationship so far — almost 2 years — with someone who is also my age, and has BPD. I have AuDHD on top of everything. Our rel…
I don’t think it’s about infantilisation. Many therapists talk about how we all want to feel a sense of safety that’s similar to what we ideally experience as children, since attachment wounds often b…
I'm a bit torn on this one because on the one hand, it feels like I'm missing a lot of context. But on the other hand, if you're in a committed relationship with someone, you are committing to carving…
He wasn’t always mean. There were times where he was kind and showed interest in my day, what I’m doing, and whatever else. Other times when there was minor conflict or I sensed him just being rude, I…
I'm leaning towards secure now, but was mostly anxious attachment with some very strong avoidant tendencies as well. All of my exes were avoidant. 2-3. You're missing a key component of avoidance, wh…
I feel like the first break up and that loss especially after waiting so long is so tough. Grief is so so so hard. You aren’t wrong for how you feel. You aren’t wrong for missing this. And you aren’t …
So, I relate to you a lot. I used to feel that void and emptiness and that deep longing or loneliness despite having friends and job and ‘hobbies’. I used to hear alot about invest in your hobbies, f…
As I said, whether you're 'avoidant' or 'anxious' because there is either a lack of emotional processing, or complete omitting of emotional processing. People that are 'avoidant' perceive time as fin…
Yup, it 100% comes from being anxiously attached. I've never broken up with someone thinking, "they were awkward this one time, I can't be with them anymore." But I wonder if it's like.. the awkward…