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I take issue with this response, and I'll explain why. Meditation must occur in order to reach the mental states and frequency necessary to achieve it. Even experienced and advanced projectors canno…

Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago. — I was reflecting and journaling on my past relationships, and taking full responsibility for past mistakes. I'm an FA so there were times when I thought I needed external validation to feel whole, and…

Why you should always schedule your job interviews in the early morning. — I got reminded today of a very important tip when you're setting up interviews. \>> Do not set up job interviews at the end of the work day. In short, there have been studies done on judges that sho…

Is Getting Ripped Apart Normal in Product Design? — I’m new to product design, and at this startup, I wear both the product designer and product manager hats. I meet regularly with the CEO (my boss), and during our sessions, we review the website and r…

Anyone up to date about what's happening with TikTok? — I recently started a new venture (media publishing company) that would be a perfect fit for promoting content on TikTok. The MVP is almost finished and I’m looking to start posting and funneling my a…

I cannot figure out why Google Search Console keeps indicating "Couldn't fetch" — I'm looking over a client's website and one of the things I found was their sitemap doesn't report being crawled since last September. I resubmitted the exact map that was crawled (happens to be plura…

Question about 404's — Explain to me like im 5: I just do not understand why google shows me 404s when the URLs listed in GSC as 404s were never posted anywhere. I accidentally created a duplicate URL once, which then mad…

Marketing for startups (I will not promote) — (I will not promote) Proven strategies to take a startup from zero to scale ($10M+ ARR). As a 3X startup CMO, I have experienced tremendous success and a ton of failure.  I have been involved in th…

A customers perspective of those horrible cart conversion emails — Usually a website does a poor job of informing me what shipping will be. I must add items to a cart and hit checkout and type in an address to see what shipping would be. However, this process results…

Help: Pull to refresh replication mystery on Chrome — Hi all, I need some help! I have a drop-down list that is basically a giant carousel with vertically aligned buttons where you swipe up and down the page to go to the higher/lower button elements. Th…

How do I properly embed Webpack-bundled JS/CSS into a WordPress site? — Hey everyone, I built a JavaScript app for a client using Webpack. The final dist folder includes: A JS file (bundle) Two CSS files A PNG and SVG The client wants to embed this into their WordPr…

Problems with Elementor and elements — Hi, I'm experiencing some issues with my website. When I'm logged into WordPress and try to access the homepage (for example) and click "Edit with Elementor," nothing happens. It just keeps loading. …

Modern web dev has me on the ropes — I'm a FED, and I've been helping build websites for 15+ years. Started on LAMP stack, did some Wordpress stuff, but mostly my bread and butter has been FED-heavy, building UIs with HTML, JS, CSS/SASS …

This Jetpack bug is so frustrating — Exactly what the title says. I have been with Wordpress for about a year and a half. Great platform for blogging. It's not perfect but I really have nothing major to complain about when it comes to t…

Does anyone else go through phrases where they feel cynical about people easily? — I kinda feel like I’m in one of those now. I'm a DA. It usually happens if I feel like I’m trying to make plans with people, but they’re not responding or declining. Usually I’m okay with it, but when…

A little positive reflection for anyone feeling they’re in the trenches right now. — I only learnt what attachment theory was during a breakup with my most recent ex 2 years ago. When he dumped me seemingly out of the blue because ‘I deserved better’, ‘he needed to be alone.’ Etc etc …

This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…

I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …

I broke no contact — Well - after a month I broke no contact. I thought I was in a really good place for it, and I still believe that I am. But he did not answer and it hurt still. My message was a friendly check in, and …

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Mostly healed, but I can’t stop walking on eggshells before I trust a new date (anxious-ambivalent) — Edit: I’m single but I’ve dated guys online. I’ve changed almost all of my symtoms from anxious-ambivalent to secure attachment. When I first start text someone romantically however, it’s all good un…

Why do I get upset when bad stuff happens to my partner and it doesn't even impact me? — I'm struggling to understand my pretty intense reactions to certain things. I don't know if attachment theory can help explain this part of my brain. For context: Me (38 F) and partner (44 M) have b…

I earned secure attachment in 4 months... — I can't believe I'm writing this. I did this without dating a secure person and without spending money on courses/apps. I promise I'm not selling anything. Big disclaimers: * I am only mostly secure…

I’m in the middle of these two (anxious vs secure indicators in early dating) — • I do the fast texting (could be due to my ADD though), but I can give space for days if needed. • I’ve become better at not spiraling. • I can handle changed plans. • I still want to put a label on…

Twitch, Jolt, Muscle spasm during SH? — Hello everyone hope you are doing well. I had a quick question wondered if it happens to anyone else. When I do self hypnosis sitting in a chair or laying down I get these sudden jolts physically in …

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment. — So I was talking to a friend of mine and supporting her and my own feelings of shame and I was reiterating somethjng that isn’t anything new at all but hit on an analogy that really worked for both of…

I’m genuinely confused by the adverse effects since starting to do the programming — Yeah yeah, I’m one of those. I have been on a SP mission for almost three months now. We started in a semi okay place, even though it’s a long distance thing and I’m programming for us to be in a rela…

What to do when i am triggered around my partner? — When i get triggered i usually have a routine of pausing, taking deep breaths, positive affirmations, then switching my attention to something else. However when i am around my partner and i become …

8+ Months of LOB practice ( Update from my 1st post ) — Hi everyone, Some of you may remember me from my last post where I did an update of my situation at 4 months in, practicing LOB. After that post, I decided as was recommended to lower the progress g…

A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…

A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…

Do non-avoidants really experience attraction as something they have some level of control over? — So this was something that first popped into my head yesterday and I’ve been thinking about since. I’ve always been baffled whenever people talk about getting somebody to be attracted to them, ask the…

My Experience Being an Avoidant Woman — I 27(f) am a lesbian who has a fearful avoidant attachment style. I have almost no control over my attraction; I can be really into/attracted to and excited about someone but then something happens/th…

We live in a culture that glorifies self-sufficiency and punishes inter-dependence and needs. That impacts what we start labelling as anxious attachment, and how we are encouraged to heal. — Disclaimer - anxious attachment style is real, it creates distress in those who have it, and causes real strain to relationships. That being said, we cannot ignore that cultural norms have *always* di…

Decided it’s time to call out blatant misrepresentation regarding our sub — Slide 2 is a post made elsewhere that exaggerates and distorts what was actually said. Slide 3 is the actual conversation in the comments including their “reaction” at the bottom. PLEASE DO NOT go …

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

I'm deactivated right now and not sure it's worth trying to save my marriage — I'm DA (40M), my wife FA (41F), 3 children. Together 17 years, married 13 years, very distant 11 years (due to my earlier long-term deactivation) with no affection or intimacy at all, working on recon…

ways to stop ruminating on past relationships/friendships/situationships/etc? — hi everyone! something i struggle with a lot is ruminating on past relationships/friendships/situationships/etc. especially right after they end. even if i know that said relationship was TERRIBLE for…

Getting over approach anxiety — A few days ago, I went to a local restaurant by myself to have supper. This cute woman with a pom pom on her toque was sitting in a booth across the way, with a couple guys that looked like they coul…

How do you think this Total Lunar Eclipse on march 3 might interact with an already high-activation zodiac year? — With the Total Lunar Eclipse on March 3 coming up, I’ve been thinking about how eclipses function when they occur during a year that’s traditionally considered fast-moving or catalytic within the 60-y…

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

Talking on the apps, nothing bad happens but you're no longer interested. What do you do? — Let's say you're chatting, and something they say indicates that they aren't what youre looking for. Let's say it's a minor issue, like music tastes or not reading... something that's not worth blocki…

A decision of a cub — Hey fellow Cubs and Lions, Funny, but this is my second post today (I deleted the first one) after years of silently going through the Index and the posts religiously, without posting anything at all…

Mom self harms in front of us since I was 8 yrs old. I haven’t been able to stop doing the same. — My mom would start beating herself whenever something tragic happened to her (failing an exam, fight w father etc.) or even because of me sometimes, she’d tell us (when my siblings and I were still ki…

Difference between manifesting and fantasizing? — It is said that to manifest one must live as if it already happened and to feel it. But is there a line or difference between manifesting and imagining/fantasizing? For example, we all have get acros…

Life's expectancy for life & love — Unfortunately, I think for the rest of my time on this planet, I will carry a quiet fear. Even in the midst of real, full-blown love, I may never truly trust that one day I won’t be lied to, cheated o…

A lot more people are hurt/traumatized than evil — A lot more people are traumatized/ in pain than are evil. And I won’t say that evil people simply don’t exist, they do, but there’s fewer truly evil people than there are hurt/traumatized people who d…

I(F28) have to have a tough conversation with my bf(M30), but I’m scared. — We’ve been together 8 years this July. Not married. It’s been a point of contention. We’ve been in a pretty rough spot since last year, and honestly, it’s only gotten worse this year. I’ve realized o…

He speaks to the future me — Many a times it so happens that I listen to Sadhguru but I don't quite understand what he's saying or I can't make sense of it. Later on as the sadhana (meditation/practice) progresses, certain blocks…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

Did this a bit back in high school a few years ago, but just sort of fell out of it. This popped up on my front page and I'm gonna give it another try. I just hope lucid dreaming doesn't affect sleep …

This exact thing happens my first and only lucid dream

So my husband turned me on to the idea that my weird dreams are something called lucid dreaming and showed me this sub. Pumped to be here! So periodically I will experience DILD and take control of …

>If we believe with perfect faith that our desire is already ours in the subconscious mind, why would the subconscious mind not just assume the act has already been finished in the past rather than wo…

The point is to still go to sleep, if you're going for the direct method, exiting the body happens during the precise moment between wakefulness and sleep, [see this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralPr…

Just a few questions here - I'm new to lucid dreaming. I garden quite a bit, so I can grow Artemisia douglasiana and a few other helpful herbs and make a poultice or something. I usually don't rem…

Random question...has anyone asked an astral being what happens when we die? Because if our consciousness is tied to our body when our body fails...what happens to the consciousness?

hey dont do the rope thing it doesnt work , first , you have to be extremely tired first in oder to do it , you cant do it without feeling tired , train your body for a second sleep over , do …

yes eyes closed , you will be able to see while your eyes are close ,dont open your eyes when that happens , that means that you made it , you can also see your body laying there and the white cor…

yes , it took me like 2 months to master it , all i did was lay on the back look up and close my eyes , i would invision seeing myself fly around my neighborhood while doing this practice , , this ga…

I've tried every method I can find, meditated for months, and still nothing. I don't know what else I can try. There are times when I dream and the line between me and my body is kinda visible, but I …

Hey, there were a few times I was aware I was dreaming, but when I attempt to do anything I can't control my dream nor do I stay asleep. I feel like it's because I only start to gain consciousness w…

I’ve had this pulling sensation happen to me before. It feels really scary tbh. So scary that you feel yourself gripping your bed so “it doesn’t take you.” “It” being this invisible force trying to li…

Respectfully, this is what happens when you only focus on material aspects and totally disregard the "spiritual woo woo." I'm not saying everyone ever needs to be enlightened, but there's a reason why…

Both of these also happens to me. Sometimes if I wake up in the middle of the night and I want to come back to the dream I was having, I give myself a quick suggestion to go back where I left and it h…

I think I'm in the middle of a spiritual awakening.hightened sences.. intuition spot on.lucid dreaming..can't wait to see what happens next

 I’ve felt like a whiny little wimp for getting PTSD from something that I saw as not a true threat to life. I so relate. This kind of things happens through out my life till middle school. I always …

Yes it's few. Can take months, but a change or at the very least some thoughts of thinking from the desire will be noticed within 2 - 3 weeks, IF you are doing the technique correctly. And they may ev…

People have many many proofs for themselves. If I’m gonna share my proofs to you, would you believe? Try to properly reprogram your subconscious, and see what happens. It literally does not know how n…

No what I meant was that it usually takes years to build up solid faith for lob itself, to see your mind as cause and effect towards your reality and to manifest with a snap. And that happens with alo…

Love these arguments. Point 1: There is a difference between hypnosis (true authentic feelings of experience of here and now of the desired outcome) and daydreaming. When you give your mind and your…

you can do it correctly all you want - it has to be permanent in you SM, and in response slowly changes your CM that you even start forgetting about desire. How many times you want want want smth, and…

I do agree, but I’m my experience my thoughts change naturally. It’s like I’m just happy, and I don’t even know the reason - happens due to reprogramming. I kind of forget about it. It’s not constantl…

I’m sorry to hear you had an experience like that. I do think my current relationship is a little more consistent than what you’ve described. We see each other usually at least once a week, more if we…

Sounds pretty avoidant. That sucks - I’m sorry. Does she actually understand how important this is to you? If so, I might try having the conversation one more time, being clear that it’s a dealbreaker…

But why is it then relevant for non anxious folks to tell anxious folks stuff? That happens here all the time. I mean genuinely it’s really fascinating to see the dynamics of these types play out in…

I have been having obe since I was 14 I'm now 49 and everytime I haven't tried it just happens how can you stop it happening?

When you first started dating. When my ex and I first started dating, we were in constant contact for months and spending most weekends together. What happens after your first started dating?

You don't go up to a mountain and meditate to heal your attachment wounds, then come down and jump into a healthy relationship. That isn't how the human nervous system works. Healing happens in relat…

Love the question!! You don’t need a relationship to grow, that’s the beauty of it (you can but it will be slower, depending on what kind of partner you end up with) You could try to explore being mo…

I don't think this is a fair comment. It is extremely common for people to lie about their availability instead of simply saying "im not interested" and when it happens to someone often enough it beco…

That happens when you feel really safe. Which is good but learn how to balance that. You can talk to your therapist about it, also use her as your inner voice - imagine what would she say about this…

Interesting that you have this experience and your therapist is suggesting that you’re now leaning anxious. I wonder how often this happens with DAs that are becoming secure, such as yourself. In m…

You are correct. Your perception of love is warped. And thus it can be really hard finding it without accidentally finding yourself in shit relationships. As many have commented, avoidants typically …

Women FA's are an anomaly to male FA's likely because women are envisioned in our society to be naturally nurturing, talkative, emotional, and forthcoming about feelings. This isn't the natural course…

There is obviously some way in which this happens. If there wasn't, it wouldn't be possible to write a book called POSM and to have it work for untalented beginners for generations. If you read the i…

I've been reading people's experiences with partners who have borderline personality disorder, and I keep wondering... Is it possible for someone to not have a meltdown for a whole year before it happ…

It ended with “you can’t always read their mind”. Sounds like the original commenter is similar to me or has been through stuff. But if you happen to be disorganized and also have bdp (I don’t think…

These push-pull dynamics can be really tough. There's actually a whole cycle that happens, and understanding how it works is probably the only surefire way to ultimately get grounded enough to ride th…

I think silence can be closure, painful yes, but he's saying ' I don't want to communicate any further' perhaps he thinks it's the kindest thing to do especially if he's very angry. It's incredibly t…

By ‘phantom ex,’ I mean that the most recent crush is serving as an idealized image of someone they can never have, which makes it easier to compare others to this unrealistic standard. It’s common in…

I have anxious attachment but I get over people very quickly if I feel their interest wane. I think U could have a bit of romance/fantasy addiction. For people suffering that, they tend to fantasis…

I think all these time‐tracking systems in IT are absolutely useless and only justify the work of those who implement them. No offense to efficient managers. If the company were like a factory produc…

I don't hate it honestly. I understand that it's a bad look and feels like micromanagement, but it has its plus sides A lot of times our team gets requests from development or product and they don't …

Early in my career I’m pretty sure I did a technical home assignment and the company just took my work and never hired the role. It sucks. It happens. But recently, companies ghosting candidates on t…

You're absolutely right to question. This is such the norm in the dating scene, it's crazy! From my experience, what I can say is that you're definitely dealing with a DA type here. Idk if you got int…

I think the challenge with achieving that kind of multiple is identifying products that have a low cost to manufacture, but have a high value perception by consumers. I know, “Duh!”, but it happens. I…

In a healthy relationship it’s normal for someone to ask for space the smoking thing is something you have to work through on your own since it’s your own ick it’s the past let it go he said he wouldn…

What does your therapist say to this question? The thing is, there's always some risk involved in learning to know someone, especially as people's attachment styles are not fixed and can fluctuate f…

Tbh I look for someone who is able to understand my POV when I tell a story, means show empathy not dismissing/judging, someone who is able to reassure me when I have my doubts, someone who doesnt tre…