lost feelings

How to cope with someone who cannot bring themselves to date, yet they once confidently exclaimed you two were going to get married. — So, I suppose all I can do is try getting into what happened to me. I knew my ex partner, online, for around 2 and a half years before dating, and we both (coincidentally) had 2 partners, one bad, one…

If I could just stop deactivating!! (FA) — Follow up from some of my previous posts. I’m deactivating again. I think? Or maybe lost feelings for my partner and I’m just lying to myself and not wanting to let go. The thought of that makes me cr…

I (21F) Am losing feelings for my (22M) boyfriend. Any advice? — Throwaway account. I (21F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for a little over two years. It's been good for the most part, and i can tell you that my boyfriend is one of the best people i kno…

Unstable/ Uneven relationship [29F] and [27F] — Me and my girlfriend have been together about 3 years now. When we first starting dating it was long distance, I would go visit her every month. She worked a good job, getting a least 5-6 days a week.…

Plain "lost feelings" or might she be an avoidant?! — We were together eight weeks. No conflicts, no issues. She was fully invested, she initiated equally (or even more), said "I love you" first after one month, made future plans for the summer and easte…

Boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me, and i begged him to stay. — I got broken up by my boyfriend yesterday, and to me, it was out of nowhere because he said he would never leave me. For context- I was his first serious relationship and he says I was the first girl …

I(19M) feel like I’ve lost my girlfriend(19F) even though we’re still together — TL;DR: I made mistakes early in the relationship (past flirting, not being fully transparent), which broke my girlfriend’s trust. Since then she’s become distant, says she lost feelings, and gives unc…

My ex hooked up with a literal model weeks after the break up. I still love her but I have no hope. — My ex of 1.8 years broke up with me in January, we both made our mistakes. Mid-January, she reached out, we kept seeing each other to make It work since she missed me but she said we couldn't be seen …

My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…

I think i will never understand — I dont understand how you went from making future plans and talking about marriage and future kids to saying you lost feelings. I dont understand how you can agree its probably due to stress from coll…

day 5, i feel like i am dying inside. — my boyfriend dumped me after 7 months of dating because he lost feelings. The way he acted in the beginning up until the 5th month made me feel like he could never do something like this, he even made…

My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…

My ex broke up with me over text 4 months ago [VENT] — hello, so idk who to tell this too, so im just gonna say it on here. My ex (16M) broke up with me (16F) around 4 months ago via text. This relationship almost lasted 2 years, and it was both our firs…

Catfished — A girl i’ve been talking to for 2 months, she saw my pics on social media and sent even more pics and videos of me(raw pics without any filter), for some reasons she even said that she loves me, I sta…

My ex broke up with me over text 4 months ago [VENT] — ​ hello, so idk who to tell this too, so im just gonna say it on here. My ex (16M) broke up with me (16F) around 4 months ago via text. This relationship almost lasted 2 years, and it was bot…

This hurts badly — I’ve been with this girl for a year now Since November 2024 till now April 2026 For a year Atleast half a year stuff we’re going decently a lot of trust issues from my part Insecurities , Overthinking…

Leaving a Messy ‘Situationship’ — I (25m) dont think I have the emotional maturity to end a nearly 2-year situationship with a girl (25F) with whom a future with seems uncertain I met this girl when we both started grad school, and w…

ive become obsessed with my "ex" boyfriend — my ex (20m) and i (20f) were together for almost 2 years (and living together for about a year and a half), and broke up about a month ago. it was a mutual agreement due to both of us feeling like the…

Dumpers please enlighten me — I’m gonna make this as short as possible. Context: I (34F) got dumped 2 months ago (him 33M). We were together for 5 years and lived for 2. Without going into details his reasons were ‘incompatibi…

almost a month no contact hope/confusion? — Hi all, I wanted to explain my situation, On march 18th it was my ex gfs birthday, I went over to her house and we chilled while waiting for family to get there and do things together. I was there for…

Just an appriciation post. — Just wanted to thank this community for helping me through two breakups. First my first time falling in love, the relationship lasted two years (which was a struggle). And my second relationship which…

Just started talking to my ex again — Hey all. Throwaway account because I don't want anyone I know to find this. For context, I'm in my 2nd semester of college. My ex broke up with me on the last day of our senior year of high school. …

bf said he lost feelings for me — my bf (26m) earlier told me (21f) that he lost feelings for me he said he started to feel like he was losing feelings but wasn’t sure if it was just him going through something or he actually was los…

bf (26m) said he was losing feelings for me (21f) — my bf earlier told me that he lost feelings for me he said he started to feel like he was losing feelings but wasn’t sure if it was just him going through something or he actually was losing them he s…

Broke no contact after 3 months due to overthinking — So, me and my gf who were in a relationship for the past 3 years broke up in early january. She was the one who broke up with me because she said that she lost feelings because we were not seeing each…

How can I (25m) get feelings back for my girlfriend (23f) of 4 years? — On the weekend, I (25m) was distant to my partner (23f) and have been feeling like I dont want this anymore. Instead of holding my emotions in, I decided to explain how unhappy I was and lost all mot…

Pls some piece of advice would be helpful. 4 months now, thought I was better, but I'm not... — Hi, everyone! Sorry for the long post. I’m not used to posting on Reddit, and I’d really just like to talk to someone about this. It feels like my friends are sick of hearing me go on and on about it.…

My gf lost feelings because I wasn’t seeing her enough — I was only seeing her 3-4 times a week bc I was in my last semester of school trying to find a job but have a lot of regret for not studying at her house more. Does anyone have any words for me?

Memories. — I was playing a game with my friend, day was relatively okay. Then a memory hit. I bought this game, initially for him. He was very gentle and kind to me when I was learning the game and that contrast…

I (19M) made my partner (18NB) uncomfortable during our first visit and now they ended things how do I cope with the guilt? — I have been in a ldr with my ex-partner for about 2 and a half months but have been friends casually for some years, and actually close for the better part of six or seven months. We bonded fast becau…

I'm really confused about my breakup and it feels unfair for both of us — My bf (18M) and I (17F) recently broke up after a few months of dating. And im kind of unsure of what to think, as its my first breakup and a lot more complex than what I would have thought. So here…

Helped and loved a girl who was forced in her past relationship. Now I am facing the consequences. — We were college mates, but didn't speak till the end of the 3rd year. And I replied to one of her stories on WhatsApp and that's how our conversation started. She used to tell me about her days, life …

Was I her rebound? — For context, she had two exes before me and she was my first. When we first met (friends set us up), I didn’t really feel a connection, but I decided to give it a try anyway because I had been single…

I [20F] miss my ex [21M] and i don’t know if i should act on it — Basically what the title says. sorry if my english is off, i’m not a native speaker. basically i dated this guy for a year, then we broke up because he “lost feelings”, but then i found out he basical…

How do I move on from a breakup where she lost romantic interest. — This will be a bit of a long one. I don’t know what to do. Over the past 2 years I (22M) been on a slow decent into depression and stopped being excited for life and doing things I enjoy. I didn’t ev…

I'm so sorry you are going through this. While my relationship with my FA ex was short (4 months), it was very intense and a lot happened during that time. I fell for her hard and still love her. We w…

Yeah she's done with you. She communicated with you things in the past, seems like you didn't fix or change them. When women become cold, it means they've lost feelings for you. Trying to rekindle tha…

My man just dumped me all of a sudden and started saying cruel things when I thought the relationship was strong. Said he just lost feelings and when I said it’s not possible he said it was a gradual …

That’s what i’m wondering too like i get it in my case if he really lost feelings which i doubt he probably just deactivated then it’s completely fine but why lie to me i was ready to leave on my own …

Thank you for answerig my post! Is there no coming back from this; no chance of rekindling the feelings I had before? Or do you think someone should break up once the other has lost feelings?

To try to help out my girlfriend lost feelings for me in past but regained them so personal experience from other side. Also, from what I am reading of your responses you deep down don't want to giv…

Has anyone had experience with being a burnt out pursuer? My wife (avoidant) and I have being doing the chase and withdraw dance for years with a lot of me getting rejected. I also feel invisible in t…

Have you ever thought about breaking up during these moment? I think I was with an avoidant leaning person for a short but intense time, and after a few minor issues, she basically discarded me even t…

First, I feel bad reading your post. To actually catch them at a hotel then listening to a confession from her. It had to be tough. She lost feelings for you because she had someone else. This is a te…

Can yall help me im in such a weird situation. Talking for 8 months dated since december 19th and broke up last saturday. She called me her person after the stepback in november . She was the one who…

I was in a relationship with someone who had an avoidant personality, and loving him changed me in ways I didn’t expect. We broke up the first time because he left me to date his best friend. I waite…

If she lost feelings due your actions, I think you should send the text, but don’t tell her you want to get back together. If she just lost randomly, then I don’t think you should send anything. If …

If they were the one to end it, they will come back speaking from my experience with my ex it’s embarrassing, but honestly, he was like you. He never put me first. I never felt like a top priority in…

You shouldn't reach out first if she ended it. She has your number, she can call or text if she wants to reconnect. But don't send that wall of text. You're coming across as desperate and minimizing y…

There was a bit of a messy ending he said he couldn’t see a future with me, although he didn’t understand why apparently. It felt like he lost feelings for me, I don’t understand that, surely feelings…

I really like your comment! I had two relationships. One lasted 17 years and the latest one 4 years. In the 17 year relationship, I expressed constantly my issues, my discontent etc. I stuck around …

Yeah..this just feels so relatable. You tell em, no matter what, its only them that youll see when you think of the word love, they say the same and promise you a forever. Then what do you know? They …

I found out my ex was cheating. At the time, I have almost lost feelings for him completely anyways due to endless arguments and was going to end the RS. But damn, she was seriously a HUGE downgrade.

I see what you’re saying but that’s not always true. We never truly know what they are thinking after the breakup if both sides are practicing good no contact. Yes it is possible he just lost feelings…

Well this just hit the rock bottom for me cuz I have been in the exact same situation word to word... whenever my ex would reestablish contact, we would end up dating. This went over for almost 2 year…

hello, i’m not going to lie i think you guys should break up. this sounds so familiar because i just ended my 3 year relationship because of this exact issue but i was the girlfriend in this situation…

man that shift from future planning to "lost feelings" is brutal, went through something similar years back and it still doesn't make complete sense. the stress excuse is tough because you want to bel…

Im in same boat as u kinda my bf asked for a two weeks break because he was stressed bc school and i gave him one. When we were talking about resuming the relationship or not i asked if he still feels…

What the absolute HELL. This sounds like my exact situation and as if it was written by me down to the fine details. Holy crap. I'm so so so sorry you're going through this too I hate when people sa…

I had to smile while reading the post. Thanks, it does me good. She has lost feelings...

I’m sorry, I feel like I’m going through something very similar. It’s been a month since we’ve broken up but she said the exact same thing. She was the first person I ever imagined an actual future wi…

This is exactly my ex. I think he lost feelings as in lost the spark (and particularly intense ones from limerence) and thought there was something wrong. He seemed to have rocd (I knew he had OCD bc …

Yes I did, it was my first relationship and it’s been almost 8 years. I left because I lost feelings & wasn’t mature enough to handle the relationship at that time. I only realised how much I’ve hurt …

Well. He just kind of started becoming extremely defensive and cold. Seemed miserable being around me one day, totally in love the next. Then started disappearing and going no contact for days and the…

I do, but she has lost feelings for me. She didnt deny the possibility to comeback but i know it wont be now or near future really. Well im going abroad for 6 months soon, she prolly would get back to…

Yup every case like this involves infidelity. And they are never upfront about it. Its always the husband's fault they lost feelings. Never the fact they chose to get close to another man.

What is more,could you please explain to me if she really lost feelings or just can’t access them right away due to burn out. she also told me she still likes me as a friend just lost love and attract…

Could be some sort of commitment issues or he was never that into this relationship from the beginning. 3 months isn’t really much so maybe he just realized this. Went through the same mine lost feeli…

Thank you for this, I am going through leaving right now and wondering if I’m making the right choice. Nothing happened, just over time I’ve lost feelings and both of us stopped putting in effort. I s…

The same reason people come back. The grass isn't greener / they realize their mistakes / they could also realize they never lost feelings for that person but It was that stress and situation that had…

This is a really unhealthy way to look at it. Sometimes they never regret it. And even if they do, why would that matter ? You should only focus on yourself and healing. After you break up it’s none …

Hey, just wanna say I’m sorry. I think I kind of know what you’re going through and am in the same situation. My ex broke up with me about a month ago. We were together for 8 months and loved each oth…

well i blocked him on absolutely everything so there wasn't really anything he could do to "chase me". and i broke up with him bc it felt basically like we lost feelings for eachother especially him, …

Believe me when I say this but you don't need to hear anything more from the mouth of this guy. He lost his feelings, you should be done. İf he ever tries to come back and lie to your face tell him …

No I got dumped. It was because she lost feelings and lost emotional connection. It didn’t make any sense at the time but after 2 months or so, it all made sense. I was pretty dumb not see it in real …

I didn’t break up with her she broke up with me over lost feelings/connection. It makes sense now why it happened.

No matter how hard you try, if someone has lost feelings for you, then they've lost feelings. To me, this absolutely sounds like a case of complete unrequited love, there's a major imbalance present h…

Yk, it’s kinda interesting that you mention that about short/long relationships. For context me and my ex got out of an 11 year relationship and she broke it off because she “lost feelings” when reall…

ohhh i see. You being the blueprint might’ve meant that you treated her the way she wanted, but maybe she lost feelings for things that weren’t your fault at all.

My gf who was 21 broke up with me after 2 years for the same reason. The only thing I can say is make sure you are certain. I lost feelings for my ex once, it lasted about a month but feelings came ba…

Also very similar, my girlfriend and I dated for 3+ years (we were each other's everything firsts) and we broke up a month ago (21m 22f), because she lost feelings. We took a 2 week break before we br…

I know exactly how you feel my ex broke up with me a month ago because she lost feelings for me I got super depressed and had to go the doctors and she is constantly laughing and smiling. We're still …

Hello. I have a psych background and whilst I come on here for advice on my OWN situation, I think I’m quite competent at giving advice to others. What’s silly is I can’t take my own advice as we tend…