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Time is fake; there is nothing but you.

Time is fake; there is nothing but you. — Shifting, dimensional jumping, Neville Goddard, law of assumption/attraction, magick, etc. all essentially talk about the same thing: Embody the person (or entity) you want to be. This post is a bit…

r/nevillegoddardpost4/7/2026
Question about POSM

Question about POSM — In chapter 9 Murphy suggests simply repeating the word “wealth” over and over 3/4 times a day to attract wealth- he claims this method works because it does not contradict your conscious mind’s assump…

r/JosephMurphypost10/13/2024
Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading

Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…

r/JosephMurphypost12/31/2024
A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit.

A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse.  We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon.  W…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost3/10/2025
How Can I Manifest Someone I Don’t Even Know?

How Can I Manifest Someone I Don’t Even Know? — Hey everyone, I need some advice. I recently saw a really handsome guy at my university fest, but he was an outsider. We didn’t talk, didn’t exchange contacts, and I have no idea where he came from o…

r/JosephMurphypost4/8/2025
Long road to dream job and instant healing.

Long road to dream job and instant healing. — Bestcub called me to write this, I hope it will be helpful to someone. A story like many others. After years of wandering around shitty loa and other stupid spheres, books and forums I finally start…

r/JosephMurphypost4/10/2025
Share your startup - quarterly post

Share your startup - quarterly post — Share Your Startup - Q4 2023 [**r/startups**](https://www.reddit.com/r/startups/) **wants to hear what you're working on!** Tell us about your startup in a comment within this submission. Follow thi…

r/startupspost4/11/2025
Google not indexing images from my site? Images don't show up in search results?

Google not indexing images from my site? Images don't show up in search results? — I submitted my website to Google months ago and they've successfully crawled it many times. For some reason it doesn't seem they are indexing any of the images on the site. My website is image heavy a…

r/SEOpost5/1/2025
Can you successfully use AI humanizers to improve SEO

Can you successfully use AI humanizers to improve SEO — When working with AI-generated content for SEO, it’s always a balancing act. On one hand, I want the content to be optimized with keywords and structure, but on the other, I don’t want it to come over…

r/digital_marketingpost5/1/2025
My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote

My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…

r/startupspost5/2/2025
Offering Options to offshore engineer. I will not promote

Offering Options to offshore engineer. I will not promote — I have a startup. obviously. anyhow, my company is in Canada. I have this developer in Vietnam, and he is pretty good! I pay him decently for his hours, but as a founder, I feel like i want to offer …

r/startupspost5/3/2025
Rating my website + getting help with ad setup

Rating my website + getting help with ad setup — Hello! Ive started a small workshop where i produce and sell lamps. A lot of my designs are based on already existing popular ones but most of them ive come up with myself. I never expected to becom…

r/ecommercepost5/3/2025
Do I really need to fully design and engineer my own product to succeed in e-commerce?

Do I really need to fully design and engineer my own product to succeed in e-commerce? — Hey everyone, I’m planning to start my own e-commerce brand, but I don’t have a big budget or deep technical knowledge. Right now, I can only afford to take an existing product, put my brands logo on …

r/ecommercepost5/3/2025
Multiple currencies, markets, and google merchant center. Has anyone managed to make them play nicely together?

Multiple currencies, markets, and google merchant center. Has anyone managed to make them play nicely together? — I sell internationally to all of Europe, Scandinavia, USA, and a lot of Asia. I’m using a currency converter since shopifys inbuilt one for markets often doesn’t trigger (I watch people on Clarity b…

r/Shopifypost5/4/2025
How to sync shopify store to Redbook (Xiaohongshu)

How to sync shopify store to Redbook (Xiaohongshu) — Hey there just seeing if anyone has successfully integrated their shopify site to Redbook? If so how did you do it and does it function well? Security risks? Costs? Thanks

r/Shopifypost5/5/2025
Advice on Partnering with UK Freelancers for a Marketing Agency – Need SEO, PPC, Content Writers, and More

Advice on Partnering with UK Freelancers for a Marketing Agency – Need SEO, PPC, Content Writers, and More — I’m in the process of starting a marketing agency and looking for some advice on where I can partner with skilled freelancers (based in the UK) for the following roles: • SEO/CRO Specialist: Someone …

r/digital_marketingpost5/5/2025
How to build a marketplace from scratch? I will not promote

How to build a marketplace from scratch? I will not promote — Hey guys! I hope you are all good. I am currently developing an MVP for a marketplace I talked with some people, and would be willing to participate on. However, although I am making my own research,…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
My experience winning a chargeback

My experience winning a chargeback — Sharing my experience winning a chargeback recently. We specialize in gaming collectibles, and our store has been running online for 3ish years. We have had 2 chargebacks in that timeframe, and won bo…

r/Shopifypost5/5/2025
Youtube subscribers and low number of views

Youtube subscribers and low number of views — Hey, I’m running Google (YouTube) ads to get new subscribers. My channel now has over 7,000 subscribers, but when we publish a video, it only gets around 150 views. We're targeting the EU, so it’s not…

r/digital_marketingpost5/5/2025
Tech Startup advice required - Hire or equity offer (I will not promote)

Tech Startup advice required - Hire or equity offer (I will not promote) — I’m a serial entrepreneur—what some might call "very successful,” though success is relative and I just did okay. Over the past 25 years, I’ve had some brilliant tech ideas and a brain wired for archi…

r/startupspost5/6/2025
What really makes an Internal Developer Platform succeed?

What really makes an Internal Developer Platform succeed? — Hey, I work at Pulumi as a community engineer and as we are doubling down on [IDP features](https://www.reddit.com/r/pulumi/comments/1kg3o0l/introducing_pulumi_idp/) I’ve been looking around at variou…

r/DevOpspost5/6/2025
Got hacked and now stuck in the verification process

Got hacked and now stuck in the verification process — So long story I got hacked due to a data breach. Which resulted in my sites password being taken down and about $6000 in fraudulent charges were purchased. I successfully refunded and cancelled those …

r/Shopifypost5/6/2025
Anyone else noticing small businesses drowning in SaaS subscription costs these days?

Anyone else noticing small businesses drowning in SaaS subscription costs these days? — Been consulting with a few local businesses recently and I'm shocked at how many are spending $500-1000+ monthly on various software subscriptions. One client is paying for Salesforce, Asana, Notion, …

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Am I overreacting?

Am I overreacting? — My husband and I own a small business that is doing pretty well. It is very 50/50 and we are equally as important in this business. He constantly refers to things as “my employees “ or “my drivers,” o…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
What should i do to earn 10k/month ?

What should i do to earn 10k/month ? — I’m 20 yrs old and in college studying IT, but i’ve been so caught up in everybody my age earning 10k a month and kinda feeling left behind.. i currently run a pretty successful depop business but its…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
To-do lists in text form don’t fit our way of thinking, they are slow and unproductive. To-Do Models is the way to go.

To-do lists in text form don’t fit our way of thinking, they are slow and unproductive. To-Do Models is the way to go. — I’ve found Projects modeled visually instead of written in flat lists to be wayy more productive and successful. Traditional to-do lists are linear—one-dimensional. You follow a fixed path: top to bot…

r/UXDesignpost5/7/2025
The successful are not here

The successful are not here — After years of watching YouTube videos about startup / founder stuff and reading blogs, Reddit, and the horrible place that is LinkedIn, I came to realize that 99.9% of advice (especially in the SaaS …

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
What is one successful bold marketing decision you recently took that paid off really well?

What is one successful bold marketing decision you recently took that paid off really well? — Saw this question and it made sense for marketing as well- so, what is one successful bold decision you recently took that paid off really well? Looking forward to the answers :)

r/digital_marketingpost5/7/2025
I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful

I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful — I was 19 when I started my first startup. I led a team of 15 people, wanted to change the world. And I failed. At 21, back in 2016, I left home without any money, hoping that traveling would help me …

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
General manager compensation

General manager compensation — Hi All, I've owned a small seasonal diner for 5 years now and am planning on drastically stepping back next year. An employee who has been with me for 4 years, and who I trust / get a long with/ have…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
How do you manage offshore dev teams without miscommunication?

How do you manage offshore dev teams without miscommunication? — (Asking for a friend) My best friend is thinking of hiring offshore devs but worried about time zones and miscommunication issues. If you’ve pulled it off successfully, how did you keep everyone on t…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD?

ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…

r/DevOpspost5/7/2025
Advertising

Advertising — So I have a small business and it’s a service based business. I’m trying to find the best ways to advertise. We have Google ads running and it’s working well but we need more clients. I have done Face…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Fundraising ask (+ help)

Fundraising ask (+ help) — Hey all - I'm a serial founder with $50M+ raised, including from venture, PE, etc. I'm semi-obsessed with fundraising, and curious if I can make the process less painful - and more successful - for…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
Fundraising ask (+ help!!!)

Fundraising ask (+ help!!!) — Hey all - I'm a serial founder with $50M+ raised, including from venture, PE, etc. I'm semi-obsessed with fundraising, and curious if I can make the process less painful - and more successful - for …

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
Are There Any Tech Billionaires Who Weren’t ‘Nerds’ Growing Up? I will not promote

Are There Any Tech Billionaires Who Weren’t ‘Nerds’ Growing Up? I will not promote — I’m doing a school research project on tech billionaires for a class, and I have a question. It seems like most successful tech entrepreneurs were into tech or coding from a young age, but I’m curious…

r/startupspost5/7/2025
How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation?

How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…

r/JosephMurphypost5/12/2025
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA

Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…

r/attachment_theorypost5/15/2025
Pouncemonial: 9th Kill - 30 Successful Trades

Pouncemonial: 9th Kill - 30 Successful Trades — **Mission**: To accomplish 30 successful trades **What I achieved**: Accomplished 30 successful trades and learned how to execute and manage trades well. **Background**: With the previous kill, …

r/JosephMurphypost7/23/2025
Would this mistake keep me from manifesting

Would this mistake keep me from manifesting — I am on a task towards manifesting my sp. I am successfully able to go in the alpha state by sh. But during my scene I have a am able to focus on a part of actions like holding hand with it being ver…

r/JosephMurphypost7/25/2025
Overcoming my anxious attachment

Overcoming my anxious attachment — Hi I've successfully combated my attachment style and offer some of the resources I've found. I've dealt with anxiety and insecurity across my romantic and platonic relationships throughout my life. …

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost9/25/2025
Why do I get upset when bad stuff happens to my partner and it doesn't even impact me?

Why do I get upset when bad stuff happens to my partner and it doesn't even impact me? — I'm struggling to understand my pretty intense reactions to certain things. I don't know if attachment theory can help explain this part of my brain. For context: Me (38 F) and partner (44 M) have b…

r/attachment_theorypost11/1/2025
I’m trying to recover from my autoimmune issues using available techniques

I’m trying to recover from my autoimmune issues using available techniques — Wonder if anyone has successfully used their subconscious to reverse autoimmune issues , I’ve become carnivore to eat a clean diet with no inflammatory foods, but was wondering what techniques could b…

r/JosephMurphypost2/12/2026
Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

r/JosephMurphypost2/14/2026
Netpun and crude oil

Netpun and crude oil — I looked up what happened when Neptune was in the same position as it is now. As we all know, we are living in interesting times. With the help of Wikipedia, I found the following: 27 August 1859: …

r/astrologypost3/5/2026
Why do so many high achievers seem to have strong Rahu placements?

Why do so many high achievers seem to have strong Rahu placements? — I’ve been looking at charts of highly successful or influential people and noticed that many of them seem to have strong Rahu placements, especially in angular houses (1st, 7th, 10th) or closely influ…

r/vedicastrologypost3/7/2026
Is there a way to manifest myself to STOP being attracted to someone?

Is there a way to manifest myself to STOP being attracted to someone? — I’m curious if anyone here has used manifestation or LOA techniques to intentionally lose attraction or romantic interest in someone. There’s a guy in one of my classes that I find really attractive.…

r/lawofattractionpost3/7/2026
Can someone tell me how to shift??? (Successfully shifters only pls)

Can someone tell me how to shift??? (Successfully shifters only pls) — No methods. No LOA. no assume you’re in your dr bs. Tell me HOW. how does it work??? How to get from point A (laying in bed) to point B (in my dr). Six years of trying every single method, every sin…

r/realityshiftingpost3/8/2026
What is even going on?

What is even going on? — I (45f) have been single and dating for a a little over a year now, and there have been some frustrating patterns emerge that I just can’t make sense of. So I’m curious if anyone else out there has. A…

r/datingoverfortypost3/8/2026
You can be pretty and still fucked up. Attractiveness will not save you from this disease.

You can be pretty and still fucked up. Attractiveness will not save you from this disease. — I am not model-tier attractive, but I have modeled for local brands and have a very unfulfilling "successful" dating life. Everyone in the internet, and in real life claims that attractive people "hav…

r/CPTSDpost3/8/2026
He has AP changed you

He has AP changed you — Has it had a profound effect on who you are as a person or just changed the way you think about things? Interested to hear. I’m still not successful yet at AP yet

r/AstralProjectionpost3/8/2026
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Hi! So I’m pretty new to this sub and currently trying to read up and decide what I think about AP. For a long time, I’ve believed that reality is a construct in the mind, or just a result of what our…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/6/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

I had an incredibly successful obe two weeks into doing astral work! I.e meditation, mantras, and energy work. I felt as if i where floating towards the ceiling above my bed. Simultaneously I watched…

r/AstralProjectioncomment7/20/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Thank you for some new ammo for my projection Cannon! I've had 3 successfull experiences since I started 8 months ago. My last 2, I actually "rolled out" IN A LUCID DREAM and THEN went Astral. Has an…

r/AstralProjectioncomment10/3/2021
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Just wanted to say that my first lucid dream was successful with the "piano key" method. I forget the actual terminology but basically you wake up in the middle of your sleep (3-5 hours) and you're no…

r/LucidDreamingcomment12/17/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

This has most likely has been asked a couple of times, but how does one forcefully achieve sleep paralysis? The only time I successfully astral projected is when I had sleep paralysis and I simply tri…

r/AstralProjectioncomment2/23/2022
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

*Can i lucid dream* *Without waking up in the* *Middle of the night* \- complex\_blacksmith94 --- ^(I detect haikus. And sometimes, successfully.) ^[Learn more about me.](https://www.…

r/LucidDreamingcomment5/29/2022
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

I've asked two different entities, and they gave me partly conflicting answers. The self-proclaimed deity said most humans and all animals go to an enormous astral...warehouse waiting room thingy. Th…

r/AstralProjectioncomment8/24/2022
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

*I just wanna smash in* *Lucid dreams tbh, how* *To do that real quick?* \- BloodsoldierRB --- ^(I detect haikus. And sometimes, successfully.) ^[Learn more about me.](https://www.red…

r/LucidDreamingcomment10/13/2023
Addressing Community Concerns: No Porn/Masturbation Addiction Posts and Self-Hate Posts + Revamped Subreddit Rules

Because they were taking over the sub. If everybody who made a masturbation post had read earlier threads about it and would only post not covered issues we would have only 1% of the posts and nobody …

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment12/9/2024
Manifestation coaches have not refuted any anti-loa arguments

No what I meant was that it usually takes years to build up solid faith for lob itself, to see your mind as cause and effect towards your reality and to manifest with a snap. And that happens with alo…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/22/2025
Manifestation coaches have not refuted any anti-loa arguments

It’s so funny how you act like you are an expert at this, but your profile tells a complete other story. A quick look at your profile shows someone who constantly asks for reassurance, needs help unde…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/23/2025
My arguments against manifestation

I’ve tried it and it hasn’t worked. The only successful “manifestations” I’ve had required me to work hard until the very end which leads me to believe I was just setting goals and taking action like …

r/JosephMurphycomment1/24/2025
My arguments against manifestation

I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …

r/JosephMurphycomment1/24/2025
Manifestation coaches have not refuted any anti-loa arguments

“If it’s isolating me, that would be my own doing” lol. You are brainwashed and in a cult. You sound exactly like the people in Jonestown did before they drank the kool aid. Cults have nothing to do w…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/24/2025
Manifestation coaches have not refuted any anti-loa arguments

Uh oh…better get to affirming and visualizing before your man runs away! Imagine not being able to enjoy your time with your partner because you always need to check your thoughts and assumptions? Wha…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/25/2025
My arguments against manifestation

OP, I'm a much more casual member of this sub but wanted to say it's good you posted this here, even if you catch flak for it. Ultimately, the necessity to rebut your arguments will either require t…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/28/2025
My arguments against manifestation

From reading the 1st two and stopping I can say: They all ignore one fact; that whatever is successfully impressed on the subconscious manifests, regardless of the method or mistake. What may seem li…

r/JosephMurphycomment2/2/2025
Too Long on First Mission And Moving On

Even if you're doing the right steps and apply it the right way, and doing that daily, it will take more time if you're new and working on a tough first mission. The lion states 4 months. If you haven…

r/JosephMurphycomment2/23/2025
How to heal avoidant attachment?

It is extremely difficult to *start* the healing process while in a relationship as you would be required to balance other factors (is the other party willing to work too? What is their level of healt…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/22/2025
Confused about affirmations

>I get why this sub advocates for SM methods over CM methods, and I absolutely agree that it’s better for beginners, but the problem with exclusively doing this is that you can do all of the work laid…

r/JosephMurphycomment4/6/2025
The song “I love you, I’m sorry” by Gracie Abrams makes me think of the POV of a DA

I’m actually more of a football fan than a Taylor fan. I wondered if the difference is he’s just “a guy” personality wise- albeit a hugely successful pro football player- and not like another Harry St…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/7/2025
Im new to here from Neville Goddard. What is the difference between Neville and Murphy rlly?

If you are curious, read the Index, and you will find everything you need to manifest successfully :)

r/JosephMurphycomment4/11/2025
my mind knows I’m trying to “trick” it

There is obviously some way in which this happens. If there wasn't, it wouldn't be possible to write a book called POSM and to have it work for untalented beginners for generations. If you read the i…

r/JosephMurphycomment4/24/2025
I’ve been acquired!!!

Whoever is telling you that you took the easy way out has no idea what they’re talking about. You built a successful business that someone wanted badly enough to pay you for. The goal for many peopl…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/5/2025
What really makes an Internal Developer Platform succeed?

What we consider the basic features of an IDP catalog and template are in the end pretty empty promises and do not lead a successful IDP and developer engagement. Surprisingly enough what made the mo…

r/DevOpscomment5/6/2025
For those making 300k+, how did you start? did you have a full time job when you started?

$300k, $600k, or 10m doesn't really matter. Each successful person finds some sort of opportunity and pursues it. Then they create a system that helps them pursue it because you can't do it by yours…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/6/2025
Backstage feels like a fools errand

Hey, [OpsLevel](https://www.opslevel.com) CTO here. We have a ton of respect for what the Backstage community has accomplished. It's impressive how they've expanded the IDP space and created a vibra…

r/DevOpscomment5/7/2025
The successful are not here

>selling and marketing is the hard part, not building I’d distill it down to this. If you have an existing network or know soneone who does and you do they are great at sales you’re gold. The produ…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
The successful are not here

I actually can tell the same about trading. Most of real people whom i know successful traders busy doing the work so they don't need to sell any courses

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful

Into The Wild story :) We want something and we feel successful when we achieve it. Or we learn something useful along the way. Or we experience something to write home about. Or we achieve something …

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful

Failing is only part of the process. The drive to keep going is what makes you successful.

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
I am solofounder and I love it

It’s a team sport for sure. But you’re right, it doesn’t mean everybody has to be a part owner to equal degrees. But I think a lot of “solo” founders use it as an excuse not to learn to work with ot…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Why can't I get myself to hire anyone?

There is a lot of middle ground before you hire an employee. You could contract out for a personal assistant. They work for themselves and usually have several clients. You could contract with an over…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
The successful are not here

Umm.. I think your % is off and there are way more lurkers here and some real people out there. I thought about doing posts, a podcast, or a book as an entrepreneur about how hard it was for years ru…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Should I sell my design agency?

Based on your post you should sell, sounds like it takes up most of your time for a small return compared to your other company. Id personally sell and leverage the sale in future deals/marketing mys…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Do your deploy dashboards ever show business impact, or just health checks?

Your health checks ideally should also be business impact A metric showing something like % of successful vs failed requests in a system should correlate to business impact/service availability for c…

r/DevOpscomment5/7/2025
Do your deploy dashboards ever show business impact, or just health checks?

Hey. A separate team handles this sort of thing, I handle other works but we are interested in this as a business. Feature flagging - Yes this is widely used and they pull metrics and try to correla…

r/DevOpscomment5/8/2025
How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation?

*" I am VERY familiar with the law and with NG's teachings, so no need to reiterate basics and quotes please - I'm asking about your real experiences. What made you actually believe and know? "* Repe…

r/JosephMurphycomment5/14/2025
What are the signs to spot a DA or FA in early talking stage?

I was also the hopeless romantic that's why I held on for so long. Nowadays I feel so free from everyone's expectations, I want to improve my life and feel good in it, I no longer think that only a ro…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/22/2025
No one should suffer because we have trauma.

I definitely agree with this, however, as an AA it is useful to know about how FAs and DAs react and how to interact with them. This is for two reasons: first, no matter what I know in theory, as an A…

r/attachment_theorycomment6/5/2025
A Metaphor for Avoidance?

I understand why you'd ask. In my case, I wasn't abandoning my boundaries as much as strategically relaxing them for the purpose of understanding the situation and her. I recognized early on that her …

r/attachment_theorycomment6/9/2025
FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later

u/TTMI2 It’s really a shame to see sooo many cut throat answers here that leave little room for personal development and growth. These responses are missing a very important point; *attachment styles…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/1/2025
You know what sucks about being in the process of healing your attachment type? Dating someone who has no idea they have an insecure attachment and you're just wasting all that hard-earned security on someone who doesn't care

This is definitely not true. You can still get attracted to them. Especially avoidants tend to be very charming, successful and if the person is smart or you share a lot of common interests, until the…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/10/2025
I’m FA, he’s DA

Watch this from Julie Menanno who has put together couples therapy that she’s been doing for a while successfully based on attachment theory. My wife and I watched this, then bought her book, then s…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/25/2025
I despise myself for having avoidant tendencies.

Sure, ok. Yeah agreed. Literally anyone can lie to a therapist or omit the most painful things. I’m just trying to be more understanding as ex-avoidant who had a very successful time in CBT. I don’t …

r/attachment_theorycomment7/30/2025
Attachment Theory & Free Will?

I don't know, but whenever I decide to believe in free will (or the illusion of free will because I clearly don't believe in it) it makes me much more successful, gives me an ego boost and makes me at…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/5/2025
Learning to take space, self regulate and set boundaries as an AP earning secure

Thank you for sharing this. I'm happy you're learning and improving.  I messed up and have too much space. Because he was used to me being the one to reach out and instigate and start the conversation…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/9/2025
Another win for Trump

I mean, you could have said the same thing about Hitler before the end. Or literally anyone who was majorly successful in their narcissistic, immoral agendas. This is a stupid post that ignores all th…

r/JosephMurphycomment8/22/2025
Struggling with losing my best friend/coworker, anxious attachment + limerence making it unbearable

Thank you for sharing. It sounds like you might be describing the 'Drama Magnet + The Citadel' trauma attachment patterns, which often come from emotional neglect childhood experience for you, and con…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/23/2025
As a new user, you need to comment on other posts before making your own post

You are so correct. After dealing with anxiety/panic for 25 years the shocking thing I find that I have to tackle above all else is the behavior of my family and friends toward me and the fact that …

r/Anxietyhelpcomment8/26/2025