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Encounter with "Long-Nosed" Tall Entities in Slovakia (2024) — I am looking to see if anyone has had similar experiences with specific types of tall beings. This has been weighing on me, and I recently found a book cover that kind of matched what I saw. Last we…

How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …

Long road to dream job and instant healing. — Bestcub called me to write this, I hope it will be helpful to someone. A story like many others. After years of wandering around shitty loa and other stupid spheres, books and forums I finally start…

Why do so many retail & shopping sites hide the item details/description? — I’ve noticed this on a number of sites, and I’m fairly certain it hasn’t always been this way. "Hide" is probably a strong word, but basically retailers making the details/description of a product a c…

Meta won’t let you control impressions, so I trained an RL model to do it — One thing that always annoys me with Meta campaigns: you can’t just say “give me X impressions.” It’s all budget-based, and if you’re trying to hit specific visibility goals (like consistent daily del…

Announcement Regarding Community Safety — Dear SEO Members, We are reaching out to address a serious issue that affects the safety and well-being of our moderation team and our community as a whole. It has come to our attention that the CEO …

Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…

Anyone else rethinking bulk imports with these tariffs? — I’ve been importing apparel in bulk for a couple years now, but the new Trump tariffs have really forced me to rethink things. Between higher shipping costs and customs delays, the old model just isn’…

Built a fast multi-host terminal log viewer with timeline histogram – looking for feedback — Hey all – I’ve been working on Nerdlog: an open-source fast terminal-based log viewer loosely inspired by Graylog/Kibana, having a similar timeline histogram on top, but designed to be snappy, lightwe…

Design like your users are high — That's it, design so your users can use your app high, this way you are forced to think in terms of usability

Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

Voice-to-text recs for sales professionals — Happy Monday killers! Hope everyone's crushing their quota this quarter. So, I've been in sales for about 5 years now, mostly SDR roles, and I'm starting to feel it. My wrists are *screaming*. All th…

[question] What's the general opinion on best bookkeeping for ecommerce business these days? — This will be my second year in ecommerce -- we own a small ecommerce store in the CPG space. Sales have done much better than expected (We've allocated a lot of effort and resources building relations…

Seeking a low-maintenance frontend/CMS stack for modernizing 10+ year old sites — Hi all, I’m looking for advice on a conservative, low-maintenance frontend and CMS stack for modernizing a couple of old but still functional client sites. **Background:** I’ve got two long-lived s…

Error: Chrome persistently redirecting to HTTPS for HTTP site, code 400, message Bad request version. Need proper solution please. — **code 400, message Bad request version ('...') You're accessing the development server over HTTPS, but it only supports HTTP.** student project with django backend, running on local development. …

Anyone else noticing small businesses drowning in SaaS subscription costs these days? — Been consulting with a few local businesses recently and I'm shocked at how many are spending $500-1000+ monthly on various software subscriptions. One client is paying for Salesforce, Asana, Notion, …

To-do lists in text form don’t fit our way of thinking, they are slow and unproductive. To-Do Models is the way to go. — I’ve found Projects modeled visually instead of written in flat lists to be wayy more productive and successful. Traditional to-do lists are linear—one-dimensional. You follow a fixed path: top to bot…

how do you manage cache browser control- after version update? — here's the problem- obviously we don't want to screw up our clients when they are working, so a new version should be in a manner that won't cause conflicts in the previous version, which has loaded …

I made an awesome ChatGPT prompt for internal linking — I just made this prompt for ChatGPT that finds internal link opportunities on your website. It works surprisingly well. 1. Enable “Deep research” mode on ChatGPT (you’ll need a paid plan). 2. Paste t…

Can no longer access my website after changing the URL from HTTP to HTTPS in settings — I am using Siteground to host my website and added an SSL certificate and enforced HTTPS. I was already logged into my Wordpress site when I did this and then changed the settings on Wordpress so both…

Does anyone else go through phrases where they feel cynical about people easily? — I kinda feel like I’m in one of those now. I'm a DA. It usually happens if I feel like I’m trying to make plans with people, but they’re not responding or declining. Usually I’m okay with it, but when…

When I want to deactivate I swing too far to the other side to preemptively "sooth" my partner, just in case. — (I'm Fearful Avoidant btw) Does this make sense? Anybody else do this? Like, because I'm so aware of when I want to shutdown/avoid/or am feeling a huge ick, I overcompensate by reaching out more and …

Pouncemonial: 9th Kill - 30 Successful Trades — **Mission**: To accomplish 30 successful trades **What I achieved**: Accomplished 30 successful trades and learned how to execute and manage trades well. **Background**: With the previous kill, …

If I could just stop deactivating!! (FA) — Follow up from some of my previous posts. I’m deactivating again. I think? Or maybe lost feelings for my partner and I’m just lying to myself and not wanting to let go. The thought of that makes me cr…

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…

I had a breakthrough tonight! — Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another anxiously attached person. It didn't w…

Proving Conciousness Creates Reality Syllogistically — 1. We exist. But our existence is dependent. We as physical beings, did not cause ourselves. 2. Everything we observe in the universe is also dependent. Stars, planets, people, and everything else we …

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

RSD potential cause of AA? — Hey fellow AA folks, Since discovering attachment theory 2+ years ago, life has improved quite a lot. However, for the sake of anyone else who might be fresh to attachment theory, I want to spare yo…

How am I supposed to deal with the "ick" without leading a person on? — I don't get emotionally attached easily, so the early stage of dating is often a long game for me where the other person is trying their best to win me over, and I'm trying to be a good sport and go t…

Both best friends got engaged — I (27F) have never been in a relationship and struggle to form emotional attachments at all. I've gone on dates and forced myself to keep seeing a guy because he's perfectly nice and there's nothing w…

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

Did I make my Avoidance worse by pushing through it? — Hi all, I’ve been aware I have issues with commitment/avoidance my entire conscious life, but despite it I’ve always wanted to find love I didn’t meet my first boyfriend until I was 22, and it was l…

FA breakup & prolonged limbo - does avoidance calcify over time or can it still reverse? — I’m hoping to hear from people who’ve been through something similar, FAs, or anyone who has opinions on this. I was in a 2 year relationship with someone I later realized is fearful avoidant (I didn…

PSA: Posts to RBN must be about your parent(s) and/or primary caregiver(s). — Folks, For a while now, we've been getting a steadily increasing amount of posts that we consider to be off-topic. As our subreddit name suggests, submissions must be centred around your parent(s) or…

how to be "chill" in early stages of dating? — hi everyone! something i struggle with in the early stages of dating is obsessing over/thinking about the other person constantly. i know this is not a healthy habit, but i have trouble getting myself…

A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…

A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…

My Experience Being an Avoidant Woman — I 27(f) am a lesbian who has a fearful avoidant attachment style. I have almost no control over my attraction; I can be really into/attracted to and excited about someone but then something happens/th…

Can I get some assurance from reformed people pleasers 🥲? — And some advice? Not necessarily on "what to do" because I know how to set boundaries in theory. It's managing the guilt and fear of fallout that I struggle with and I do because all my life any time …

I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …

so what is ”healthy”? — so i’ve read over the several attachment style subs and something interesting i’ve found is that on the anxious side people are talking about how the society is pushing us to be hyper-independent and …

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

Anyone have the experiance of anxious attatchment killing you as a person — I never see anyone talking about this and im wondering if its normal. Ever since i got in my relationship 2 years ago, i cant seem to find any passion within myself. The passion for my intrests and ho…

Does Saturn entering Aries impact your other planets in Aries with a Saturnian force? — As the title asks, do planets entering a sign impact other planets in that sign

The Shift at Age 30: Did you feel a stronger connection to your Ascendant or your Sun sign as you got older? — There is a common belief in astrology that we grow into our Ascendant sign as we get older, especially after our Saturn Return. Over the years of studying and observing birth charts, I've seen so many…

Did Saturn in Aries correlate with the “heroin chic” era of the late 90s? Wondering about parallels with today. — I had a random thought earlier today while watching some video on YouTube, and I’m curious if more experienced astrologers see anything in it. There’s a lot of discussion right now about the return o…

My father is sabotaging my career and medical treatments through "smear campaigns" and monitoring. I feel like I'm living in a Truman Show nightmare. — ​I (25F) am an Indian doctor currently preparing for NEET PG, and I am living with a family led by a malignant narcissistic father. My mother and brother are complete enablers. I’m writing this becaus…

>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…

Haha what an honour to be compared to Uncle Iroh! 😆 yes I understand and I debated whether to put that in, however there are some people who get frustrated with their attempts and prayer can actually…

Yes, it could have been an unconscious form of AP. Forces/intelligences can communicate to us this way, even if we're not fully conscious.

This has most likely has been asked a couple of times, but how does one forcefully achieve sleep paralysis? The only time I successfully astral projected is when I had sleep paralysis and I simply tri…

I have been doing astral projection from the time that i had no idea about astral projection . One time i did it but i met someone and he said that i am not supposed to do it and warned me about this …

I’ve had this pulling sensation happen to me before. It feels really scary tbh. So scary that you feel yourself gripping your bed so “it doesn’t take you.” “It” being this invisible force trying to li…

Am I handling it with grace or strength, though? I'm completely torn apart and can hardly eat. I have to force myself to. The one thing I'm proud of is minimizing how much anger I feel over the betra…

I have not been public-facing but generally when people come to me with issues I take care of them. This was due to complaints about a certain comment that made people feel unsafe. It's important a co…

I have experienced death before in dreams, many times, and in many different ways: drowning in icy cold mud, suffocating on rust, being electrocuted, having G-forces rip the vitals from my body, being…

Because SATS itself does not manifest anything. SATS is a technique used to make you feel the wish fulfilled. If doing SATS from a state of lack, it will only reinforce the lack.

Disagree. What you think consciously during non-lob times is irrelevant. Alto, cm thoughts will automatically change when sm beleifs are changed. But this is not forced, and it isn't what gives result…

you can do it correctly all you want - it has to be permanent in you SM, and in response slowly changes your CM that you even start forgetting about desire. How many times you want want want smth, and…

I do agree, but I’m my experience my thoughts change naturally. It’s like I’m just happy, and I don’t even know the reason - happens due to reprogramming. I kind of forget about it. It’s not constantl…

I don’t understand your take on this. No contact has time and time again been proven to be the best thing you can do for mutual healing if the breakup was bad or not mutual. Giving eachother time an…

You’re the only one I ever see mentioning coffee 😂I get you’re trying to be cute but I haven’t heard it once. I’m asking about *you*. Not anything thing in any sub. There are dozens of success storie…

No, mental thoughts do not become physical reality. That would be a world of chaos. *Repetitive* mental thoughts become beliefs, and beliefs do. And this can be layered. You can wake up and have a t…

OP, I'm a much more casual member of this sub but wanted to say it's good you posted this here, even if you catch flak for it. Ultimately, the necessity to rebut your arguments will either require t…

I cannot lucid dream on purpose yet, but if i dream specific dreams(Like me driving) I can realise that im dreaming. Then I say to my self, you re dreaming, great im now going to control this dream. T…

Work - it was my first mission. Daily routine as in the index, in three months I missed maybe 3-4 days due to travel. The result - work in a profession for which I had no qualifications.  On the oth…

>I have had conversations with my partner over time about attachment styles, and they eventually determined that the descriptions of Avoidant Attachment sounds awfully familiar to them. They have star…

I think it really depends on the partner and how willing they are to communicate. In my last relationship I was avoidant leaning secure and my partner was preoccupied. There were certain things I thou…

Or before going on a rant about an "avoidant discard" consider maybe someone just broke up with you because it wasn't working for them. People aren't obligated to stick around forever trying to for…

I'm also a recovering FA and I recently realized a few REALLY important things that are actually really simple. Figure out your boundaries and enforce them from a calm place. Our anxiety builds in our…

If you have ever had to watch a secure friend get destroyed by someone with Anxious attachment it is awful. Sometimes healthy people get tired of being smothered and decide to end a relationship. An…

They can be self critical, but that's actually the opposite of being accountable and aware because typically it's just another way to ruminate. I also think that tendency in general is what drives the…

This is not a competition who is far less irritating or who is more evil than the other. Its about both parties should be taking accountability. I am more than agree with you that AP’s biggest challen…

Yes, that's precisely my message! And that's why I started treating myself for my issues so aggressively since my late teens (now mid/late 20s). I didn't want to keep passing on the cycle, and this go…

Well said.  And if they are receptive, also see if they continue to respect your boundaries over time.  It's also possible you are not that interested in this person, so there's also no need to fo…

Oh yeah, totally. It’s like once you let yourself see the dysfunction, you can’t unsee it. And you can’t imagine falling for it ever again. Or even bothering to figure it out. I went through a simila…

You can ruin potential connections and negatively impact your social life this way, if that's any important to you. As kindly as I can, this is is a common misconception people can have about avoida…

Oh, this is a cool topic, there is nothing cooler than the fucking time that is chasing us.  I was just in the middle of my first mission related to a new job. At that time I was already quite burnt…

I feel so seen. I had to take breaks from dating due to that built up resentment but also from sensitivity to rejection that I projected onto my worthiness. I’ve mostly dated FA in the past I felt l…

If you are secure, I recommend you to take a step back for a bit and analyze this more objectively. Roller coaster sounds like intermittent reinforcement which could blind just anyone. But by taking a…

>Note: It's at that point when most secure people will leave a relationship with an insecure attacher, when their reasonable requests start getting shot down. That's what I was going to say too. If y…

Totally relate to this. I can’t bring myself to “care” or get excited about someone from an app. If I meet someone IRL I’m way more open to exploring. I think from an app I’m just immediately expectin…

Thank you for your sympathy! 💕 I reported them on the app, but didn't feel comfortable going to the police since similar behavior hasn't been consistently regarded as assault in other cases. My expe…

I think all these time‐tracking systems in IT are absolutely useless and only justify the work of those who implement them. No offense to efficient managers. If the company were like a factory produc…

I would go with opentofu anything besides hashicorp is forced to use tofu

Snyk is just cli, there is no big mystery you are not even forced to use integration. Just use bare snyk cli in your pipeline, and yes it costs

This is the first I'm seeing about the Backstage platform, it seems like it can do a lot, and is pretty extensible. Considering the tool belt seems to revolve around Typescript, it's giving me the imp…

Because poor schmucks are forced to be complete full stacks and when you only know js from Bootcamp, everything is nail

I was diagnosed three years ago with ADHD. My wife, who is a psychotherapist, speculated for a long time and then gave me an assessment, which was then confirmed with a psychiatrist. But I've been run…

Without extending the response too much, take a look at Atlantis or Digger, this will allow you to control changes and request approvals to proceed, a big difference is that you merge on the PR and no…

Man, this post hits SO hard. Running a business is absolutely brutal, and I think we need more honesty about the real toll it takes on founders. I've gone through some of these exact same experiences…

Thank you. I find we become a healing force when we choose to create healthy boundaries around harmful relationship dynamics instead of throwing our hurt around. It teaches safety in one's self, which…

I used to work for a company that is exactly this. Excel did all the quoting. Worked fine especially because all of the trades use their own format/layout for project quotes. I once gave a machine le…

In a healthy relationship it’s normal for someone to ask for space the smoking thing is something you have to work through on your own since it’s your own ick it’s the past let it go he said he wouldn…

I think I’d take him at his word that he’s depressed and when he’s depressed he shuts down. You say you haven’t experienced the shut down, but I could see how disappearing for 2 days is a shut down. S…

So instead of replying individually and repeating myself, I'm just going to make a comment addressing it all. Firstly, it was interesting to read all these perspectives. I see where some of its comin…

Thanks for your answer. I am somwhat between anxious preoccupied and Fearful Avoidant. For example I know I feel insecure when some friends I cherish wont answer at my text for long time, I will feel …