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The most important part of EVERYONE IS YOU PUSHED OUT (EIYPO) — I think that what I will say in the following lines has to be reminded as much as possible in the manifesting exes and partners communities. Manifesting a person is not only easy, it is effortle…
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…
My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…
Requesting feedback on a landing page design — Hey everyone, hope you're having a great weekend! I just finished designing a landing page for a pest control company and would like some feedback on it. Particularly the bottom section, starting fro…
SQL Commands | DDL, DQL, DML, DCL and TCL Commands - JV Codes 2025 — Mastery of [SQL commands](https://jvcodes.com/sql-ddl-dql-dml-dcl-tcl-commands/) is essential for someone who deals with SQL databases. [SQL](https://jvcodes.com/what-is-sql/) provides an easy system …
Meta won’t let you control impressions, so I trained an RL model to do it — One thing that always annoys me with Meta campaigns: you can’t just say “give me X impressions.” It’s all budget-based, and if you’re trying to hit specific visibility goals (like consistent daily del…
How are unemployed designers managing financially right now? — I was laid off two months ago and have been in the job search grind since - applying, interviewing, and trying to stay hopeful. But I’ve also been feeling pretty stressed and anxious, especially as ti…
Monthly Getting Started / Web Dev Career Thread — Due to a growing influx of questions on this topic, it has been decided to commit a monthly thread dedicated to this topic to reduce the number of repeat posts on this topic. These types of posts will…
The Ability to Scale Predictably Is a Superpower (Here’s Why DTC Brands Can’t Skip Performance Marketing) — The ability to **scale predictably** is a superpower—especially for DTC brands. If you’ve worked with or inside a DTC company, you know the drill: * You launch, get some organic traction, and then… …
Started a Pistachio Spread Brand in Turkey — Now Trying to Go Global (Advice Appreciated!) — Hey everyone, I’m based in Turkey and help run a family business that produces natural pistachio butter — no additives, no sugar, just roasted pistachios. It’s something we’ve been doing for over 15 …
Would you buy a sub $500 eye tracking glasses on par with leading research-grade glasses? — I’ve been doing research into eye tracking for UX research the past couple months and something that continues to boggle my mind is the price for a lot of eye tracking glasses. Most of them are $3000 …
E-commerce shop for honesty/honor farm shop/stand — Hello everyone. I run a small farm shop selling out vegetables and beef. It's based on an honesty system with customers writing purchases in a notebook book then paying in by cash or by typing their…
What is k8s in bare metal? — Newbie understanding: If I'm not mistaken, k8s in bare metal means deploying/managing a k8s cluster in a single-node server. Otherwords, control plane and node components are in a single server. Howe…
Thoughts on an image sharing tool with link permissions? (i will not promote) — **Looking for feedback: Tool for sharing images securely with permissioned domains (like DocSend, but mainly for images)** Hey r/startups, I’m working on validating an idea and would love your thoug…
Do I really need to fully design and engineer my own product to succeed in e-commerce? — Hey everyone, I’m planning to start my own e-commerce brand, but I don’t have a big budget or deep technical knowledge. Right now, I can only afford to take an existing product, put my brands logo on …
Passive FTP into Kubernetes ? Sounds cursed. Works great. — “talk about forcing some ancient tech into some very new tech wow... surely there's a better way” said a VMware admin watching my counter FTP strategy😅 **Challenge accepted** I recently needed to r…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
Anyone facing issue with Cloudflare recently of suddenly not honoring "Access-Control-Allow-Headers" set by origin? — Is anyone facing this recent issue lately where all the sudden, you're getting thrown Access-Control-Allow-Headers error across all proxied domains. Cloudflare proxy, out-of-the-blue, decided not to h…
Rejected in the final interview after a month long process — This is honestly just a rant post, because I feel completely deflated at this point. I’ve been actively looking for a job for over a year now, moved to Spain three months ago to start a new life, and…
Unique Field Guard For ACF — https://preview.redd.it/a99i8tsrl5ze1.png?width=2632&format=png&auto=webp&s=837f17d2a06d91e3e0a14803dbefe7e1c4f897aa Hey WP family! I recently built a plugin I’ve been working on that solves a headac…
2.5 million in fraudulent orders — I have a huge problem and Shopify has mentioned they cannot help and do not give refunds once processed. They insist there is no support phone number and can only discuss the matter via chat. My orde…
Should I move from Supabase to a self-hosted backend? — I’ve been using **Supabase** for my current app—mainly for Postgres, authentication, and storage. It’s been super convenient for getting started, but I’m starting to think about switching to a **self-…
MySQL Database Quota Reached - Clean database — Hey everyone, I’m currently hosting several websites on SiteGround’s GoGeek plan which comes with 40 GB of web space. Most of my websites use between 1–3 GB, with one around 5.3 GB. However, one of m…
Junior sysadmin looking for project ideas to modernize a simple infra — Junior sysadmin looking for project ideas to modernize a simple on-prem infra Hey everyone, I’m a junior sysadmin working with a fairly basic on-prem infrastructure with about 45 users, and I’m look…
Designing for AI feels like UX without control. — With AI interfaces, especially ones powered by LLMs, the experience changes every time. There’s no fixed flow, no guaranteed output, just probabilities. It made me realize most UX principles assume…
Underestimated fulfillment in my eCommerce startup, nearly paid the price — When I launched my first eCommerce brand, I thought fulfillment was "easy" find a product, set up a store, ship orders. Simple, right? I couldn’t have been more wrong. As soon as we got traction, thi…
Quick help with CORS error — Hello, This is a stupid question I think I know the answer to, but I'd like confirmation. All the research I've done indicates my gut is right, but I like to check. I'm getting a CORS error when tr…
How Liquibase Simplifies Schema Management — If you've ever deployed schema changes manually, you know the pain: tracking SQL scripts, guessing what's applied where, and praying nothing breaks in prod. I recently wrote a post on how **Liquibase…
Looking to Start Small Scale PCB Assembly/Manufacturing. Where Should I Begin? — Hi everyone, I’m planning to start small scale PCB manufacturing with a budget of $100k. I have experience testing circuits on breadboards and assembling Drone flight controllers and LoRaWAN systems,…
Feedback on Branching Strategy for IAC Repository — Hello, One of the challenges I’ve faced when researching branching strategies is that most resources are focused on software deployment workflows, often emphasizing versioning and tagging. These stra…
how do you manage cache browser control- after version update? — here's the problem- obviously we don't want to screw up our clients when they are working, so a new version should be in a manner that won't cause conflicts in the previous version, which has loaded …
Wordpress Staging vs. LocalWP for website redesign — Hey everyone, I’m working on a full redesign and cleanup of an existing WordPress website, and I want to make sure the development process doesn’t hurt the site’s current SEO at all — both during deve…
[Product Survey] Help us understand your auth/DB platform choices (Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, and more) — Hi everyone! 👋 I’m a Product Manager working with a developer friend on a new backend-as-a-service solution, and we’d love your feedback. Whether you’ve used Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, Authn …
I made a Chrome extension to fix my broken sleep schedule — I’ve been working on my Chrome extension called [LateControl](https://chromewebstore.google.com/detail/latecontrol-bedtime-block/pmbngcejicfbdbofhbkpknpkhmanemml?utm_source=item-share-cb) that basical…
CKA? Or EKS project? — Here's a bit of context as to why I feel like I need to get out of dodge ASAP... IT Management: "We need **more automation**! Nobody should be using User Data scripts." Me: \*Writes several Ansible…
My impressions of Lovable 2.0 — # My impressions of Lovable 2.0 with key features and upgrades I always had mixed feelings about Lovable. But given the amount of attention Lovable 2.0 has received over the past few weeks, I decided…
If you're sending ALL paid traffic to your homepage, you're burning money - here's why — I see this constantly: businesses dropping serious money on paid ads - Google, Meta, Instagram, only to send traffic straight to their homepage. Then they’re shocked when the cost per lead is through…
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…
DAE feel like they want to be in a relationship but don’t really know how to? Intimacy problems? — I mean in terms of intimacy. When I think about being in a relationship, the concept of having someone in my corner that I can cuddle with, do things with, nurture and support and generally love—that …
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …
I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …
How to deal with triggering situations — Life has been so rough lately when living with anxious attachment in a relationship. Everyday is a struggle. We had an explosive argument yesterday which left me even more on edge than normal. To put …
Life is too short to live in fear — Life is too short to live in fear. The fear of saying the wrong things and earning their scorn. The fear of ~~asking for~~ loving too much and being branded 'suffocating' again. The fear of a co…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Does this have to do with my attachment style or is it normal? — I used to score as anxiously attached when I was in my last relationship. I feel like I still have some anxious tendencies in my relationship now but I also sometimes feel avoidant and for the most pa…
Why do I get upset when bad stuff happens to my partner and it doesn't even impact me? — I'm struggling to understand my pretty intense reactions to certain things. I don't know if attachment theory can help explain this part of my brain. For context: Me (38 F) and partner (44 M) have b…
Recovering DA trying to reconnect with FA wife — For context: * I (40M) am a DA, my wife (41F) an FA. We have three children. * Together for 17 years, married for 13 years, distant/no-touch for over 10 years but stable and no deep conflicts. * Cont…
Stress over him smoking — So I don’t really understand this anxiety either but I really don’t like smoking. I don’t smoke but I’m okay with whoever wants to, unless they pressure me to do the same thing. So I’ve been with my p…
Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…
Is it a lucid dream if you are aware you're dreaming but you can't control it?
I have this problem I realize I'm dream but if I try to control it to just becomes a nightmare.
So my husband turned me on to the idea that my weird dreams are something called lucid dreaming and showed me this sub. Pumped to be here! So periodically I will experience DILD and take control of …
Well. I've learned something new today. I had no idea. I've always known when I'm dreaming. Always. I've always known it's my dream, I've always had control. On the rare occasion I haven't contr…
Just a few questions Mr Moonbeam. If you are so against the “act/live as if” what do you have to say about Dr. Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden and Dr. Bruce Liptons, Napoleon Hill, Jim Rohn, Eckhart Toll…
It doesn't prevent people totally, but there are complexities to this practice, it is not as simple as it seems. Astral projection is inherently a spiritual practice and not always easy to control. Lo…
Thank you all. I am new here and hope to learn as much as i can Edit: I’d like to add how i ended up here. Just the other day i was in a state a where i nearly achieved what i believe could of been m…
Hey, you guys ever visit your siblings dreams? I've involuntarily projected myself to various places when under a load of stress when younger. I've had no control over it and wondering if anyone can p…
I have been trying to Lucid Dream for a couple of years and almost gave up until I found this thread. I read about reality checks and started doing them . Last night I finally had a dream in which I …
you can train your body where you can actually move around and not just lay there , it takes about 1 or 2 months to perfect it took like 1 months for me , if you do this , then you will also learn ho…
its lucid dreaming , astral projection is actually real life experince , where your soul can go to any place in the world , it does not matter how far it is , it can be 1 million light years away from…
yes you can simply train your body to go back to sleep for another time around 6:05 ,and you will notice that you are still tired , then lay down and look up ,soon it will get to a point where you can…
yes , it took me like 2 months to master it , all i did was lay on the back look up and close my eyes , i would invision seeing myself fly around my neighborhood while doing this practice , , this ga…
I am new to this. I often can control my dreams. It’s so strange- I dream within a dream or two and within that dream I have to check myself that I am not in reality by floating. I am well educated, m…
I also can get back into the dream after I wake up, but I can't control the dream. I somehow can control myself (actions, decisions), but that's all.
“Lucid dream”is when you wake up in a dream just like when you are awake in real life,you have the ability to think get things done do what you like and look for people or just navigate in it just lik…
I attribute my LD to the episode ‘What was in Blue’s Dream’ from Blue’s Clues. Home sick one day from school, watched this episode, dreamed that episode that night then not only did I know I was dream…
I guess a lot of people are still in the angry stage, here. Well I guess if your ex was a POS I can understand, but we can't control people leaving. People have the right to make decisions they believ…
The only control you have is to leave I tell myself this every day
I have full awareness that I'm dreaming but I still can't control stuff well and I find it hard to fly for instance. Also when I bully people in my dreams after realizing there's no concequence their …
Hey, there were a few times I was aware I was dreaming, but when I attempt to do anything I can't control my dream nor do I stay asleep. I feel like it's because I only start to gain consciousness w…
I had no idea that everyone didn’t dream like this all the time. I have had lucid dreams for as long as I can remember, and I can interact with them. I have even died in dreams to be reborn in the sam…
My concern has been 3 years of astral staking by a person who abuses the astral. They have been taken over by a negative entity. And now energy harvest daily. This has taken energy workers many goes a…
Try focusing on your environment and not getting to excited . Tell yourself you want to explore your surroundings before and during . Don’t go straight into getting excited and trying to control every…
Don’t Try focusing on controlling too much immediately or getting Carried away trying to do influence it strongly at first . Try just remaining calm by focusing on your environment and exploring as yo…
This sounds like bullshit, but I am open to be convinced it's real. You compared it to LD, but lucid dreaming is just controlling your dreams, it's in your head. AP according to you guys is literally …
I really like the Gene Kim's material, such as the Phoenix Project. I so enjoyed the entertaining story. It is interesting though, careful to navigate misinformation out there. DevOps is about acce…
I can control my LD pretty well but I have been years trying to master how to make things just appear. I have done it by just imagining them a lot but it is so hard... any tips?
Wanted to ask smthng. I realised i was dreaming for a first time in maybe my whole life and even better i could control it to some degree. But the dream kinda lost its depth when i became lucid and th…
I’m glad you did . These things seem to happen to me in sets as well, usually early morning hours . Sometimes it makes me scared to go back to sleep because I don’t want it to happen again . I also g…
I have this exact same experience. Almost always as soon as I realize I am having a lucid dream I wake up. Last night I was able to control my dream for perhaps the second time ever. This was for a ve…
After doing this meditation first day can we do it everyday for 5 minutes for mind control everyday?
Has anyone ever experienced death in their lucid dream? I’m usually aware of my dreams, never really tried to control it or anything, but one dream I had was I was falling from a air plane and I had t…
Yes!!!! Once in one night, I kept getting pulled between here and “the other place”. I’ve been calling it that, assuming it’s another dimension or parallel universe. It was somewhere familiar but unkn…
Wait, control the dream.
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and going through this. It sucks she wouldn’t give therapy a chance. You can’t control others actions and feelings. I hope you can find meaning and joy in your kids …
Hello all, I am new to this site but I have been lucid dreaming since I was eight years old. I am now almost 66 years old. I had nightmares as a child. I decided that if I had a nightmare I would wak…
Hi! So one thing I can tell you from lots of therapy and recently spending time around her is I realized I had been only remembering her good qualities and putting her on a pedestal in my mind. When w…
So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…
Your original post and all the replies and updates really do help me feel less alone, so thanks! I'm 2.5 months since she moved out, and I'm basically at where you were in your previous post. Which st…
Everything is temporary people don't remember things the way things actually happen most the time. Putting too much emphasis on how somebody remembers you would be spending your wheels. In other words…
Quite common not being able to control it, when having no experience. I know it's related to keeping up with expectations to how things work, as in real life. I know it's possible to summon a dream gu…
Anyone else have random lucid dreams about the exact way to start a flying sequence. Some kind of 3 step jump and then a somersault and then you take off and fly for ages if you control your arms prop…
Doesn't seem to account for that there are bad actors who'll say any attribution of responsibility toward them (on what they can control) is them being victim blamed simply as a way of maintaining the…
I totally agree that there is a general trend to project personal issues and give drastic advice, especially since... well, it's not your life. I particularly notice it when it comes to fear of a par…
Really solid points and then there's space for legitimate concern regarding abusive relationships. Basically, the “Power & Control Wheel”, like instances of sexual harassment/ assault, emotional abuse…
When i take naps in class sometimes i will feel my body going to sleep (or i’ll get punched in the face by a fake hand and jolted awake) while i’m still awake and i try to move and for a couple second…
Wish I had this much control when dreaming
Yes it's few. Can take months, but a change or at the very least some thoughts of thinking from the desire will be noticed within 2 - 3 weeks, IF you are doing the technique correctly. And they may ev…
It's because it's not about those details but about immersion into the scenario. Someone can have a mental argument in there without seeing other people. They followed the argument because of the imme…