He had a hard life,

My aunt always makes excuses for my dad when I try to tell her what bothers me. — My dad was always violent. Not excessively violent, but he did hit me, pull my hair, drag my head against the table when I didn't want to read something (the Bible). I'm the youngest sister, so there …

She's 80+ years old, she had a hard life, lots of trauma, no excuse for the emotional neglect but I still feel some sort of obligation towards her