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My mom basically told me to stop going to therapy

My mom basically told me to stop going to therapy — Context: I'm a 26F that finally broke down and called her a narcissist a few weeks ago. I had showed her the presentation my childhood best friend made in 2024 when I was dreading to see her over Chri…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/6/2026
Donald Trump & the LOB

Donald Trump & the LOB — JM sub, It has been talked about Trump and the LOB a few times on this sub, and I wanted to remind you about how Donald Trump has used, and still uses the LOB in his favor. Recently, I've seen an in…

r/JosephMurphypost9/21/2024
Web Development Interview Questions - JV Codes 2025

Web Development Interview Questions - JV Codes 2025 — # Welcome to the Interview Questions Hub at JV Codes! Preparing for a [coding interview](https://jvcodes.com/interview-questions/)? Do you experience some anxiety because you doubt what [interview qu…

r/web_designpost4/19/2025
How do I put together a multi-product design system as a sole designer?

How do I put together a multi-product design system as a sole designer? — Hi all, my UX design journey has been chaotic but I suspect that’s normal. I was in visual/web design for about 8 years then 2 years ago I got my first UX role (after trying to pursue and study UX f…

r/UXDesignpost5/1/2025
Should I try to learn SEO or just hire someone?

Should I try to learn SEO or just hire someone? — My family just opened a small pet supplies business. I used to be into web design and tech stuff years ago so I was able to throw together a simple website. The thing is, I have no clue about SEO. I …

r/SEOpost5/2/2025
Suggestions for affordable shipping for large unusual sized boxes and regular box that’s a bit heavy.

Suggestions for affordable shipping for large unusual sized boxes and regular box that’s a bit heavy. — Im launching EV AirCare. We ship DIY Air Filter replacement kits for Teslas. It’s niche, with about 30% of Tesla drivers opting to DIY. I have all-in-one kits that aren’t available anywhere else. I’m …

r/ecommercepost5/3/2025
How to Wreck Your Career: a cautionary tale from someone who has 5 years of experience..

How to Wreck Your Career: a cautionary tale from someone who has 5 years of experience.. — Context:- I am a 31 year old UX designer with a masters degree in industrial design from one of the top design schools here in India. I have almost 6 years of experience on the paper of which I hav…

r/UXDesignpost5/3/2025
Thoughts on a platform that can give AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation (i will not promote)

Thoughts on a platform that can give AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation (i will not promote) — **AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation** Hey r/startups, I’m exploring a product idea and would love to hear your thoughts. **The problem:** Many users land in product documenta…

r/startupspost5/3/2025
Bootstrapped Turkish Food Brand Exploring Global B2B Expansion – I will not promote

Bootstrapped Turkish Food Brand Exploring Global B2B Expansion – I will not promote — Hey everyone, I help manage a family-run pistachio butter business based in Gaziantep, Turkey — a city known for producing world-class pistachios. Since 2007, we’ve been selling a premium, all-natur…

r/startupspost5/3/2025
Can AI content make your site disappear from Google Discover?

Can AI content make your site disappear from Google Discover? — Hello! For the past six months, I've been using AI to help me create blog content, but in a smart way: I write what I want part by part, add context, rewrite some sections, etc. Our rankings remain so…

r/SEOpost5/4/2025
Why webapps didn’t become more popular after all?

Why webapps didn’t become more popular after all? — Google had a dream where people turn on their computer and the only thing they are greeted with is the Chrome browser. People were sceptic at first but Google created a wonderful web platform called C…

r/webdevpost5/5/2025
Should I purchase multiple domain TLDs for my brand? What’s your opinion?

Should I purchase multiple domain TLDs for my brand? What’s your opinion? — Hey everyone I own the main .com for my brand, but I’m wondering if it’s smart (or necessary) to purchase other TLDs too like .net, .co, .io, and so on. Some people say it helps with branding, trus…

r/webdevpost5/5/2025
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

r/ecommercepost5/5/2025
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

r/Shopifypost5/5/2025
Are manipulative design tricks (like delayed buttons or fake popups) considered “dark patterns” — or just smart UX?

Are manipulative design tricks (like delayed buttons or fake popups) considered “dark patterns” — or just smart UX? — I’ve seen more and more websites do things like move buttons, delay the “No” option, or mimic system prompts. Curious if others in UX see this as unethical, or just part of modern conversion strategy?

r/UXDesignpost5/5/2025
Like a mentorship, but more low key

Like a mentorship, but more low key — Coffee Drips, Strategy Sips is a product that delivers daily steps of action to keep you and your digital business growing! ON SALE for $17 until tonight, back to $27 tomorrow. Private Telegram chat w…

r/digital_marketingpost5/5/2025
I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time?

I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …

r/Entrepreneurpost5/5/2025
What’s the smartest business to start today with $50k–75K?

What’s the smartest business to start today with $50k–75K? — I’m 18 and looking to start a serious business with a budget of $50K–$75K. I’m not interested in quick flips or side hustles. I want something solid and long-term. Ideally, a real business with a phys…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/6/2025
We Fired a Developer But Not Because He Was Bad, But Because He Wasn't Right. Only 2 Legit Reasons to Fire Anyone. (i will not promote)

We Fired a Developer But Not Because He Was Bad, But Because He Wasn't Right. Only 2 Legit Reasons to Fire Anyone. (i will not promote) — After building a small team and running a startup for a while, We’ve come to a hard conclusion: There are only two legitimate reasons to fire someone. 1. They are not the right fit for the company.…

r/startupspost5/6/2025
Looking for marketing strategy tips for our startup(I will not promote)

Looking for marketing strategy tips for our startup(I will not promote) — Hey all, My friends and I are currently building a startup. We’re in the preparation phase now and plan to go live in about 3 months. While we’re handling the operational and technical side, we’r…

r/startupspost5/6/2025
Looking for marketing strategy tips for our startup

Looking for marketing strategy tips for our startup — Hey all, My friends and I are currently building a startup. We’re in the preparation phase now and plan to go live in about 3 months. While we’re handling the operational and technical side, we’r…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/6/2025
Looking for marketing strategy tips for our startup

Looking for marketing strategy tips for our startup — Hey all, My friends and I are currently building a startup. We’re in the preparation phase now and plan to go live in about 3 months. While we’re handling the operational and technical side, we’r…

r/digital_marketingpost5/6/2025
Funding Questions (I will not promote)

Funding Questions (I will not promote) — I started a chatting site in January. And I’m at the stage now where I think I’m ready for funding. I have created a decent pitch deck, one pager, new sign up website, LLC, trademark pending, and th…

r/startupspost5/6/2025
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search

Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search — **What It Does** This is an internal tool I’ve been building to help with UK property prospecting, market research, and deal due diligence. If you've ever tried to buy or invest in property in the U…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/6/2025
How do you make sure nothing falls through the cracks of your business operations?

How do you make sure nothing falls through the cracks of your business operations? — I work with companies that use a ton of different tools (CRMs, inventory, payments, shipping, etc.). The problem I keep seeing is that things slip through the cracks, and no one realizes until it’s to…

r/ecommercepost5/6/2025
Looking to Start Small Scale PCB Assembly/Manufacturing. Where Should I Begin?

Looking to Start Small Scale PCB Assembly/Manufacturing. Where Should I Begin? — Hi everyone, I’m planning to start small scale PCB manufacturing with a budget of $100k. I have experience testing circuits on breadboards and assembling Drone flight controllers and LoRaWAN systems,…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
Bouncing around a new business idea

Bouncing around a new business idea — Hello everyone. I have an idea to purchase a commercial property in my town (old government building) and outfit it to be mainly a golf simulator business with multiple bays including small kitchen an…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Share some tips for start up business

Share some tips for start up business — How do you approach automation to help a startup grow faster and work smarter?

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
"I quit my engineering job due to anxiety and built a small business—how do I scale from here?"

"I quit my engineering job due to anxiety and built a small business—how do I scale from here?" — Hi everyone, I wanted to share my journey and ask for advice from those who’ve scaled small businesses. I studied chemical engineering and got placed in a great company right after graduating from S…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Is A Personal Loan A Good Option To Get My Freelance Off The Ground?

Is A Personal Loan A Good Option To Get My Freelance Off The Ground? — I want to get my business off ground, it's just doing video and photo work. I don't have an LLC or any business accounts, everything I've done has been in my personal name. I need better equipment and…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Should I starting selling products? I'm working at a temp job soon to be over or wait till I find a ft job?

Should I starting selling products? I'm working at a temp job soon to be over or wait till I find a ft job? — Hi everyone. I have an llc for my small online business. I want to sell digital products on etsy. However, I'm currently working at a temp job which work is becoming much slower. Although, my end dat…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
"Mastering Content Creation with Real-Time Optimization, Competitor Analysis, and Smart Editing Tools"

"Mastering Content Creation with Real-Time Optimization, Competitor Analysis, and Smart Editing Tools" — Content is still king—but not just any content. Today, high-ranking content is the result of a strategic balance between creativity and data-driven precision. To climb the search engine results pages …

r/digital_marketingpost5/8/2025
Projecting insecurities

Projecting insecurities — Hi everyone, I’ve just realised something that I’ve been doing which I think is both an outcome of my low self esteem and also a way for me to find excuses to end relationships when otherwise I have n…

r/AvoidantAttachmentpost1/22/2026
Feeling conflicted, I don't know if I don't love him and I am settling or if I love him and the "cons" are avoidant deactivation?

Feeling conflicted, I don't know if I don't love him and I am settling or if I love him and the "cons" are avoidant deactivation? — I 33F have ve been dating this guy 32M for 8 months. He's chased me for years and eventually recently I started to feel attraction back, he figured it out and kissed me. For some months I didn't feel…

r/AvoidantAttachmentpost2/6/2026
I'm so tired of people.

I'm so tired of people. — For reference, a couple of years ago, I was in an abusive relationship that kinda changed who I am. I won't go into too much detail, but let's just say that I used to be outgoing and fun, but also I h…

r/AvoidantAttachmentpost2/12/2026
My boyfriend (M35) and I (F27) have not said i love you, over a year of dating

My boyfriend (M35) and I (F27) have not said i love you, over a year of dating — TLDR; My boyfriend (M35) and I (f27) have been together for over a year, he hasn’t said I love you despite having talked about marriage, kids, future together. In a conversation he said he was apprehe…

r/relationshipspost3/9/2026
Being kind isn't just nice...it's smart...b/c we live in an environment made of each other.

Being kind isn't just nice...it's smart...b/c we live in an environment made of each other. — Think of it like a fish swimming in an ocean made of other fish. Everything we do as we move through this world...for our little bit of time here...relies on other people helping us, often in ways we…

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost3/9/2026
Want to hurt a covert narcissist? Tell people the truth (but be smart about it)

Want to hurt a covert narcissist? Tell people the truth (but be smart about it) — **DISCLAIMER:** Only do this if you are physically, financially, emotionally, and psychologically separated and safe from a narcissist. The following will probably not be applicable if you have to mai…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost3/9/2026
Why are they always convinced they've won even when they've lost?

Why are they always convinced they've won even when they've lost? — I'm married to a narc, and I am always flummoxed by how delusional she is about victory. "HAH I got him to leave the room and end the conversation I didn't want to have about how I won't have anywhe…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost3/9/2026
Would you stay in a relationship with someone like this?

Would you stay in a relationship with someone like this? — I’m in my first relationship post-divorce after 20 years of marriage. We’ve dated for a year and I love and care deeply for this man, but I’m struggling with whether I’m ignoring red flags. The good:…

r/datingoverfortypost3/10/2026
[Prove Me Wrong] Bruce Lee was the last English speaking Asian that represented us well

[Prove Me Wrong] Bruce Lee was the last English speaking Asian that represented us well — Bruce lee was: * Well Articulated (and spoke good english) * Confident * Smart * Masculine * Good in fighting I feel that the \- kpop/kdrama: more girly/pretty/gentle boys are famous \- china: …

r/AsianMasculinitypost3/10/2026
Pretty privilege success manifestation

Pretty privilege success manifestation — I’m like one month into manifesting and I have multiple success stories already but the one that I love the most is about my self concept. JUST KEEP IN MIND, you absolutely DONT need to be like 100% …

r/Manifestationpost3/10/2026
Being forced to become smarter than them because they are dumb as hell

Being forced to become smarter than them because they are dumb as hell — My Indian parents turned out be really really dumb. Their problem solving skill is terrible. My father is the worst, he is a utter brainlet. All he does is work all day. No socializing, no nothing. Ju…

r/AsianParentStoriespost3/12/2026
I was going to be incredible

I was going to be incredible — I was such a smart kid. A gifted child, kind and clever and great at academics. Everyone said I was going to change the world. I could have done so much. Instead I am thirty and I am frozen with terr…

r/CPTSDpost3/13/2026
Why am i so average

Why am i so average — I've put effort in everything I do, and yet everything I do leads to just an average outcome. How do other people try a lot less and do much better? Is life only successful if I have raw talent and we…

r/selfhelppost3/14/2026
The "Manosphere"

The "Manosphere" — Last night my wife and I watched the new Netflix documentary on the Manosphere. It was entertaining and informative, but also quite sad. My first reaction, honestly, was that with the exception of th…

r/Stoicismpost3/14/2026
I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough!

I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…

r/nevillegoddardpost3/15/2026
I (37F) am tired of my boyfriends (45M) cleaning OCD and the comments it comes with. Is this workable?

I (37F) am tired of my boyfriends (45M) cleaning OCD and the comments it comes with. Is this workable? — My boyfriend is very smart, caring and kind in so many ways, but we're not on the same page about cleaning. I feel like a broken record bc I know this is an issue in many relationships, but what's hap…

r/relationshipspost3/16/2026
Just feel so disappointed in myself all the time

Just feel so disappointed in myself all the time — I just can't help being so disappointed and sad about myself all the time. I constantly feel like I've been a disappointment, and that no matter what I do, I won't be able to escape that, and I'll end…

r/selfhelppost3/16/2026
Calling AM on her bluff, even if it means she becomes homeless

Calling AM on her bluff, even if it means she becomes homeless — \*\*\*\*Warning this contains Abuse, this is not for everyone if you’re under 18 please do not continue reading this. I’ll try to make it brief. My AM was a single parent of 5 kids. That’s where he…

r/AsianParentStoriespost3/19/2026
How do people become emotionally immature?

How do people become emotionally immature? — I was raised by and surrounded by emotionally immature adults my whole life, while living in a toxic and abusive household created mainly by my father’s abuse towards my mother, and her compliance and…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost3/19/2026
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Here's a sneak peek of /r/2me4meirl using the [top posts](https://np.reddit.com/r/2me4meirl/top/?sort=top&t=all) of all time! \#1: [Fur doggo love](http://imgur.com/XW84U9W) | [1 comment](https://np.…

r/LucidDreamingcomment3/5/2018
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

> smart ass-coffee *** ^(Bleep-bloop, I'm a bot. This comment was inspired by )^[xkcd#37](https://xkcd.com/37)

r/LucidDreamingcomment3/5/2018
If you are new here..

About point a, moonlight, oh, sweet, old memories, I actually hallucinated about 1 year, trying to act as if. No, it was not rough, it was hell, but I did it. And it kinda worked, but I don t recomme…

r/JosephMurphycomment4/10/2020
If you are new here..

You are honestly the smartest guy on this sub. This sub is sort of populated by people that still live off of ego and still have not connected with the Universe. They believe that we are only respons…

r/JosephMurphycomment6/12/2020
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

Knowing that there's a physical reason for the confusion and lack of awareness makes it easier to accept. One feels like an outsider; the people around you seem to know how to be with each other. An…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment6/26/2020
If you are new here..

Unbelievable that you are tryin to diss neville, i never thought i would see haters towards him, while he was tryin to help people than you got idiots like moonlightconcerto , maybe you should wake up…

r/JosephMurphycomment8/13/2020
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Yeah I'm just trying to sound smart. You're right though. I look at this as I should stop waiting for my ex sigh...

r/ExNoContactcomment5/6/2023
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means)

I'd just tag on that posters pay attention to all advice posted, regardless of the upvotes/downvotes. The hivemind here can be brutal. This is PARTICULARLY problematic when advice gets legal advice …

r/relationship_advicecomment6/14/2024
If you are new here..

No way around it except practice, smart application of what you're supposed to have read in the index, and discipline. At the end of the day, that's where the real work lies to impress the SM and get …

r/JosephMurphycomment10/31/2024
My arguments against manifestation

I had a quick glance at this on my break and will chip in more later, just by point 1 alone I see you haven’t grasped it, feeling is the secret indeed. But the feeling isn’t emotions. 2 That knowing…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/23/2025
The "and" theory...

Very smart and a good reminder to try to intentionally practice this. “I really miss him, and my nervous system feels more regulated without him.”

r/attachment_theorycomment4/6/2025
Should we use Grafana open source in a medium company

Im sorry, but 80GB ingest/month is not medium company. 80GB/hour may be middle sized company. You are really looking for small scale/homelab sized solution. Worst part of grafana stack is loki. If yo…

r/DevOpscomment5/2/2025
Any experience monitoring Redshift

Yep, Redshift observability is one of those things that should be easier, but ends up buried in system tables and tribal knowledge. Some practical tips that might help: 1. Build a lightweight monito…

r/DevOpscomment5/5/2025
What’s the smartest business to start today with $50k–75K?

There is no such thing as “the smartest business to start today”. There are trends, opportunities, needs and problems to solve. It’s difficult to future-proof businesses these days with the constant v…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/6/2025
What’s the smartest business to start today with $50k–75K?

Buy my “smartest business to start with $50k” course. It’s $15k, on sale rn.

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/6/2025
Looking for marketing strategy tips for our startup

Simple SEO is beneficial for the site, and you can use ChatGPT to make sure to highlight keywords and phrase your page descriptions in a way that makes it stand out in the algorithm. Social media is…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/6/2025
For those making 300k+, how did you start? did you have a full time job when you started?

Reaching $300k in profit usually doesn’t happen overnight, but here's how I got there: I started with a side hustle while working full-time. Having a steady paycheck allowed me to take risks without …

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search

Sounds like a major improvement for property research in the UK. Love that you're automating the mess of data. The smart alerts and chat-style Q&A are solid ideas. If you can scale this up, it'd save …

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Getting SaaS app rolling

Matchmaking platforms are tough early on since they rely so much on user activity. One thing that helps is starting with a small niche where you can really deliver value. Also AI can make the platform…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Should I sell my design agency?

If the design agency is no longer aligned with your focus and the offer is reasonable, selling could free up valuable time for your growing b2b marketing agency. Letting go of what’s not working might…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Should I sell my design agency?

If the design agency’s holding you back and the other biz is growing faster and making more, it’s probably time to sell. You’re getting a solid offer and freeing up time to go all-in on what’s workin…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
How to fix my own FA attachment (ideally without therapy)?

Childhood trauma doesn't always look like yelling or hitting; people mistake this a lot. You can have a lovely attentive parent who still didn't teach you emotional regulation, sent you in time out in…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/30/2025
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Thank you aa a formal c I a intern and psia intern thank esp law of attraction opportunity women and some form of finance within a few weeks will come your way surprisingly unless your third eye se…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/31/2025
Your subconscious pays attention way more to your ACTIONS throughout the day, than to your script.

"What would your subconscious most likely be SEEING (if you were in a relationship with them) throughout the day? " This post uses the above line as the central premise for its "logic" that you shoul…

r/JosephMurphycomment6/4/2025
🛑STOP HIJACKING POSTS🛑

> Better yet, many are up front and say they don’t want anything serious/don’t want a relationship. This isn't even an AT comment specifically, but imo ignoring people when they say this is just a re…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment6/12/2025
It’s frustrating how often I run into women with Avoidant tendencies.

Yea I get that, my point was that "self identifying as" only gets you so far. There's how we view and perceive ourselves, vs. how the outside world views and perceives us - and then there are objectiv…

r/attachment_theorycomment6/16/2025
You know what sucks about being in the process of healing your attachment type? Dating someone who has no idea they have an insecure attachment and you're just wasting all that hard-earned security on someone who doesn't care

This is definitely not true. You can still get attracted to them. Especially avoidants tend to be very charming, successful and if the person is smart or you share a lot of common interests, until the…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/10/2025
Mass produced emotional security/intelligence?

When I mention ‘AI’ I don’t necessarily mean that which exists in its current form, but rather a smart artificial intelligence that actually does know how to counter your thoughts and redirect them to…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/14/2025
Afraid of the "how"

I knew the answer but I asked you anyways because I wanted to know if you truly knew the answer or not. Most of the time people don’t because they don’t read the index or use the search bar. You didn’…

r/JosephMurphycomment8/18/2025
Struggling after “healing” is challenged

This is such a wonderful and thoughtful reply. I took screenshots so I can reread it when I feel discouraged. You're a smart one, electricboobs2019!

r/attachment_theorycomment8/25/2025
A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic.

\* HINT \* - don't be dismissive, arrogant, a pompous azz, or rude. ASSUME Experiencers are, in fact, telling the truth. Also assume we are smart enough to have gone down the checklist of prosaic an…

r/experiencerscomment9/5/2025
Help me to recognise my attachment style please!

Ask ChatGPT to ask you questions to help determine your style. Then when you answer, give a lot of detail about why you answered that way. Before you send your answers, express that you want to know i…

r/attachment_theorycomment9/11/2025
Anxiety only triggered in romantic relationship, how to manage it?

That’s such a smart distinction because as anxiously attached we think we aren’t avoiding, but we are. Avoiding the feeling because it feels endless through food, alcohol, romance. When really it’s ac…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/19/2025
This situation is too messed up

This. This is an immature relationship given how young the OP and the SP are. They will likely break up when she realizes he is a loser and they will never get married. She’s better off getting over…

r/JosephMurphycomment9/29/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

Sorry this is long. I’m 27, I have only been on dates with like 10 guys in my life (I don’t understand why getting a date, let alone a relationship is so incredibly hard, but that’s a different topic)…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/26/2025
how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times?

What I’m hearing is you want him to be a mind reader. You’ve listed things he could have done. Maybe give him this list for next time? You mention the pain made it difficult for you to communicate w…

r/attachment_theorycomment10/27/2025
Why do I get upset when bad stuff happens to my partner and it doesn't even impact me?

Yeah I guess you’re right. It does affect me on that level. Or at least there is the potential it could affect me and that’s why my subconscious or nervous system is reacting. Looking at it from a non…

r/attachment_theorycomment11/3/2025
Is deactivation the real her?

I think you’re right which is why I'm dating again. She's smart so I'm sure she’ll heal one day it just pisses me off that some other guy who is just at the right time and right place will get to be w…

r/attachment_theorycomment11/12/2025
r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment12/22/2025
The pain of being unmet...

I've heard (and taught) all this stuff so many times. I just...have a lot of snags around it all. Let me go through each of your points. I have other hobbies and interests, but it's hard for me to ac…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment1/11/2026
Here's to an emotionally secure 2026! 🥳🎈🎉😎 (open thread)

I’m new to Reddit but find it of good use to try and find answers to my problems. I’ve been in a LTR with a man but we’ve always had issues where he has said I’m narcissistic - I couldn’t understand w…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment1/12/2026
feeling numb in dating but longing for intimacy

This is probably not the answer you want, but it could be the one you need. With 8,3 billion people on the planet. It is to be expected that a few of them doesn't get the same emotional response as o…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment1/28/2026
Ending a 1-year relationship: Self sabotage or gut instinct?

He’s kind, smart, funny, confident, physically I’m attracted to him. He wants to talk about how shitty the world is right now. I dunno he just doesn’t have the hidden X factor ya know?? Hahah I swe…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/4/2026
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No I'm picking up on some bitter vibes tbh. On the other hand he pursues me pretty heavily. He even crafted me a gift. I'll see it through and keep talking to others. I feel bad taking to others but I…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/4/2026
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It is never going to happen for this guy. He runs with ignorant assumptions and assumes that he’s the smartest guy in the room. Nothing wrong with asking - I think of tech as a male dominated field, w…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/7/2026
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Been there brother, I dated a very smart, charming beauty model end of last year. I wanted to want her in all the ways you mentioned and just couldn't. Very odd.

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/8/2026
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Not at all. I don’t feel this way neither about me nor about my friends, not about men I have been going on dates with. I also don’t think people are single because “no one wanted”. My friends are bea…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/9/2026
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He said I'm "smart, easy to talk to, and obviously very beautiful." Second date with Greek dude is Friday. 🇬🇷

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/9/2026
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I saw someone's profile who also lost a lot of weight, they didn't mention anything about it but one of their pictures was a before/after. I think that's a smart way to go about it and gets the point …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/9/2026
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Progressed to being exclusive recently after 10th date (my proposal), and now in a period I'd call probationary as we are (I am) still figuring out how the official label will work out for us. I said …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/9/2026