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My Experience as a Beginner

My Experience as a Beginner — I was introduced to meditation as a teen, when I went through a productivity phase. Just starting university, was going through some stuff, and I wanted to find a "better" version of myself, whatever …

r/Meditationpost4/5/2026
START HERE !!!

START HERE !!! — # Step-by step short guide r/Sbreggo So you just found this sub but you don't know anything about "The Gateway Experience", follow these steps and read all the suggested documents to avoid asking the…

r/gatewaytapespost1/19/2024
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs

Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …

r/Wordpresspost5/13/2024
Donald Trump & the LOB

Donald Trump & the LOB — JM sub, It has been talked about Trump and the LOB a few times on this sub, and I wanted to remind you about how Donald Trump has used, and still uses the LOB in his favor. Recently, I've seen an in…

r/JosephMurphypost9/21/2024
My arguments against manifestation

My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…

r/JosephMurphypost1/23/2025
FAQs about r/AnxietyHelp

FAQs about r/AnxietyHelp — Hi guys, One of the mods here suggested creating a FAQ page for our subreddit to help eliminate confusion. **Why was my post removed automatically?** It wasn't! It has been sent to our mod queue fo…

r/Anxietyhelppost3/25/2025
Blog built with “Projects” in Divi instead of “Posts” – Will this hurt SEO?

Blog built with “Projects” in Divi instead of “Posts” – Will this hurt SEO? — Hi everyone, I’ launched mta website using WordPress + Divi (still in early stages), and my site developer set up the blog section using **“Projects”** instead of the standard **“Posts”**. Now I’m c…

r/SEOpost5/1/2025
Business scaling up - what cloud provider should we use?

Business scaling up - what cloud provider should we use? — Our business is scaling rapidly — we’re currently handling millions of unique requests per week, and this number continues to grow. At the moment, we’re hosted on DigitalOcean, paying approximately €4…

r/DevOpspost5/2/2025
Minimal or No Design Emails Will Almost Always Outperform Designed Emails

Minimal or No Design Emails Will Almost Always Outperform Designed Emails — For most ecom owners, either spending the time yourself or paying a professional to intricately design each of your emails has to be one of the worst ROI decisions possible. I'm not exactly sure wher…

r/ecommercepost5/2/2025
Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going

Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …

r/digital_marketingpost5/2/2025
Offering Options to offshore engineer. I will not promote

Offering Options to offshore engineer. I will not promote — I have a startup. obviously. anyhow, my company is in Canada. I have this developer in Vietnam, and he is pretty good! I pay him decently for his hours, but as a founder, I feel like i want to offer …

r/startupspost5/3/2025
Cin7 thoughts

Cin7 thoughts — I’ve been looking into cin7 and was wondering if any one had any feedback. I’ve seen some posts on here but they’re all from a while back so want to know if it’s changed since then. I have tried it o…

r/ecommercepost5/3/2025
So we have an app..

So we have an app.. — My friend and I made an app. We published it a year ago as an experiment, didn’t pursue proper discovery, zero marketing, just left it on the App Store. Now, watching analytics, not much going on, fi…

r/UXDesignpost5/3/2025
SEO Basics Done But Not Ranking

SEO Basics Done But Not Ranking — I've been working on optimizing a page for a keyword with good search volume and low difficulty according to Keyword Planner, but it's nowhere in the top 100 results. I've done all the basics: * Met…

r/SEOpost5/4/2025
Low-risk, High-reward, and Easy-to-start Business... an A-Z overview of the Rental Management business I run (I will not promote)

Low-risk, High-reward, and Easy-to-start Business... an A-Z overview of the Rental Management business I run (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I'm a real estate & software developer, AirBnB Host of \~20 units personally, and I help run a management company with \~200 client homes. So I've been through the ringer in every which …

r/startupspost5/4/2025
Getting into digital marketing

Getting into digital marketing — Hello everyone, I have some questions about how to build a proper portfolio for getting an entry level position in digital marketing. I graduated with a behavioral science degree and my first job is i…

r/digital_marketingpost5/4/2025
Question about 404's

Question about 404's — Explain to me like im 5: I just do not understand why google shows me 404s when the URLs listed in GSC as 404s were never posted anywhere. I accidentally created a duplicate URL once, which then mad…

r/SEOpost5/5/2025
Why do most tech billionaires avoid flashy lifestyles—are there any who embrace extravagance? I will not promote

Why do most tech billionaires avoid flashy lifestyles—are there any who embrace extravagance? I will not promote — I’ve always noticed the contrast between how different the tech entrepreneurs are compared to the others who are in finance, fashion, entertainment, or property. It is almost the expectation in the ot…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
Need Advice: 3x Salary Offer for Fullstack Role, But It’s a One-Man Show. Go for it?

Need Advice: 3x Salary Offer for Fullstack Role, But It’s a One-Man Show. Go for it? — Hi. Everyone. Please bear with me, I hope this is the right place to ask. I’m currently a jr web developer and have been working in my first proper dev job for almost a year. The pay is on the l…

r/webdevpost5/5/2025
Description liquid block not working

Description liquid block not working — Im trying to fix this error where the shopify API doesnt seem to work when I add a description liquid block. All the other block seem to have proper code and work perfectly fine. Please dm me out of t…

r/Shopifypost5/5/2025
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

r/ecommercepost5/5/2025
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

r/Shopifypost5/5/2025
Flora Market Mobile App

Flora Market Mobile App — Hi! This is my 1st completed mobile App. It is a Flora Market mobile App, and it is a personal project. Summer is coming, balconies and yards are filled with flowers, so I found a good idea to des…

r/UXDesignpost5/5/2025
Why isn't Firefox respecting prefers-color-scheme?

Why isn't Firefox respecting prefers-color-scheme? — I use properly contrasted favicons for my site depending on if the user has light/dark mode enabled. I noticed that they display properly in Chrome and Edge but Firefox seems to ignore my \`prefers-co…

r/webdevpost5/5/2025
How can I view all network requests in Chrome when doing a search?

How can I view all network requests in Chrome when doing a search? — Hi. I'm using Maricopa County's GIS to view property information. https://experience.arcgis.com/experience/bd50c51b89054238bfadf69e91b421c9 Their site allows only one parcel number per query. When …

r/webdevpost5/5/2025
Weird behavior with display grid and overflow

Weird behavior with display grid and overflow — Please help me make sense of the fact that we need to set overflow to hidden to .right for the layout to respect the grid-template-rows property in this example: https://codepen.io/Jcbz/pen/XJJYKRg …

r/webdevpost5/6/2025
Was pushed into a Devops role. Never got the chance to learn properly

Was pushed into a Devops role. Never got the chance to learn properly — I was pushed into a devops role. And since then there was always a deadline on head and was never able to learn things properly. I am still good at my job and can do what is required but somewhere fee…

r/DevOpspost5/6/2025
What do I do with an empty property?

What do I do with an empty property? — A little background on me first. I’m a dentist, I already own my own practice which I’m not looking to relocate. Next to my practice my there is a 2800 square foot property with a small garden at th…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/6/2025
How to approach colleagues ‘improving’ my copy with unedited Chat GPT?

How to approach colleagues ‘improving’ my copy with unedited Chat GPT? — Hi all, I’m a new and junior member of a very small team, we are overstretched and have far too much on the go at any given time, which inevitably leads to shortcuts being taken. I’m no stranger t…

r/digital_marketingpost5/6/2025
Error: Chrome persistently redirecting to HTTPS for HTTP site, code 400, message Bad request version. Need proper solution please.

Error: Chrome persistently redirecting to HTTPS for HTTP site, code 400, message Bad request version. Need proper solution please. — **code 400, message Bad request version ('...') You're accessing the development server over HTTPS, but it only supports HTTP.** student project with django backend, running on local development. …

r/webdevpost5/6/2025
Are you running Exit surveys?

Are you running Exit surveys? — When your wife asks, “Does my bum look big in this?” Do you give the honest answer? Or do you say “no” to keep the peace? The truth might sting. But the people who tell you what you need to hear are …

r/ecommercepost5/6/2025
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search

Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search — **What It Does** This is an internal tool I’ve been building to help with UK property prospecting, market research, and deal due diligence. If you've ever tried to buy or invest in property in the U…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/6/2025
What is the ideal way to instruct a web programmer on how you want the page to function?

What is the ideal way to instruct a web programmer on how you want the page to function? — Hello, Im trying to start an online Store and ive a few programmers willing to work with me. Ive seen some programmers here telling their Experiences with some customers saying to them “I want to bui…

r/webdevpost5/6/2025
How do I properly embed Webpack-bundled JS/CSS into a WordPress site?

How do I properly embed Webpack-bundled JS/CSS into a WordPress site? — Hey everyone, I built a JavaScript app for a client using Webpack. The final dist folder includes: A JS file (bundle) Two CSS files A PNG and SVG The client wants to embed this into their WordPr…

r/Wordpresspost5/6/2025
“No Referring Sitemaps Detected.”

“No Referring Sitemaps Detected.” — **Why your web pages might not show up on Google — even if they’re indexed** I ran into this issue while checking Google Search Console and thought it might help others here. Many of our indexed pag…

r/digital_marketingpost5/7/2025
Product variants are not tracking properly in GA4 - Any Suggestions?

Product variants are not tracking properly in GA4 - Any Suggestions? — Hey all, I'm trying to analyze product variant performance in GA4, but they don’t seem to be showing up properly. I can track general product views, but not specific variants. Has anyone figured out …

r/Shopifypost5/7/2025
Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do?

Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Bouncing around a new business idea

Bouncing around a new business idea — Hello everyone. I have an idea to purchase a commercial property in my town (old government building) and outfit it to be mainly a golf simulator business with multiple bays including small kitchen an…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Tips regarding upgrading Contour

Tips regarding upgrading Contour — Hey everyone :) We have a Contour (https://projectcontour.io/) and are a bit behind when it comes to version updates. There is a guide on their website here [https://projectcontour.io/resources/upgr…

r/DevOpspost5/7/2025
Should I sell my design agency?

Should I sell my design agency? — Should I sell my design agency? Growing a design agency takes time especially when most of the business comes from cold outreach. It’s a high-volume game: thousands of emails, countless calls, and co…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
Is Dwarka Courier legit?

Is Dwarka Courier legit? — Has anyone used Dwarka Courier for international shipping (especially to New Zealand)? Are they legit and do they handle packages properly without damage? Looking to send clothing items and want to kn…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Every day I try to do things right. Every day they say no. Now I duct-tape and maintain the mess I warn them about

Every day I try to do things right. Every day they say no. Now I duct-tape and maintain the mess I warn them about — Hey folks, Just wanted to drop this little gem of corporate masochism So I work at this company where we develop software for real state agencies, in this 'properties' sql table we have a field cal…

r/webdevpost5/7/2025
Does your business have to be something you’re good at?

Does your business have to be something you’re good at? — I have a production company and have spent most of my late teens and early 20s being a music artist, pursuing shows, publications, and making music connections to very little success. I’ve met great …

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
A shiny experiment in 3D Web graphics

A shiny experiment in 3D Web graphics — I had some fun building an interactive diamond configurator to show off the power of material properties with the help of WebGPU. It’s a cool way to learn how things like thickness and IOR are used t…

r/webdevpost5/7/2025
Can no longer access my website after changing the URL from HTTP to HTTPS in settings

Can no longer access my website after changing the URL from HTTP to HTTPS in settings — I am using Siteground to host my website and added an SSL certificate and enforced HTTPS. I was already logged into my Wordpress site when I did this and then changed the settings on Wordpress so both…

r/Wordpresspost5/7/2025
Any advice ??

Any advice ?? — Hello everyone, I’m a 23-year-old senior in college majoring in Business Administration, and I’m currently exploring opportunities in real estate. I’ve been drawn to the field because of its strong p…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
Generational wealth advice?

Generational wealth advice? — Hello everyone, I’m a 23-year-old senior in college majoring in Business Administration, and I’m currently exploring opportunities in real estate. I’ve been drawn to the field because of its strong p…

r/digital_marketingpost5/7/2025
Generational wealth

Generational wealth — Hello everyone, I’m a 23-year-old senior in college majoring in Business Administration, and I’m currently exploring opportunities in real estate. I’ve been drawn to the field because of its strong p…

r/ecommercepost5/7/2025
I don't want to cry all day and feel lonely anymore. I don't want to fear abandonment anymore. I want to improve myself.

I don't want to cry all day and feel lonely anymore. I don't want to fear abandonment anymore. I want to improve myself. — In 12th grade I became very close to a classmate of mine. Both of us bonded over shared trauma and basically became inseparable. We texted each other 24/7 and became very VERY affectionate which then …

r/AnxiousAttachmentpost9/29/2025
I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure

I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …

r/attachment_theorypost10/4/2025
Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle?

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost12/16/2025
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Regardless of what it was, it was a non-physical experience. There can be lines blurred between what is lucid dreaming and astral projection, here's a video explaining the difference https://youtu.be/…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/30/2021
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

A good question to make a proper post of on the sub

r/LucidDreamingcomment1/7/2022
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

I believe I came close, I discussed it here ([https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralProjection/comments/10z4vjo/was\_this\_obe/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralProjection/comments/10z4vjo/was_this_obe/)), bu…

r/AstralProjectioncomment4/11/2023
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

If you can win your ex back through no-contact then you'll have to live the rest of your life in a state of cat-like readiness to be abandoned and pretend you don't care. With the right degree of osci…

r/ExNoContactcomment5/4/2023
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Anyone else have random lucid dreams about the exact way to start a flying sequence. Some kind of 3 step jump and then a somersault and then you take off and fly for ages if you control your arms prop…

r/LucidDreamingcomment6/6/2024
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means)

Really solid points and then there's space for legitimate concern regarding abusive relationships. Basically, the “Power & Control Wheel”, like instances of sexual harassment/ assault, emotional abuse…

r/relationship_advicecomment8/5/2024
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means)

I've seen the opposite. I've seen people encourage illegal acts. It was a recent post about a PS5. The girlfriend bought their boyfriend a PS5 for his birthday and like a week later he said he wants …

r/relationship_advicecomment9/3/2024
Question about POSM

How do you actually know you are in SH? Is there a way to tell if you've done it properly? I thought having thoughts popping up was a sign you aren't in SH?

r/JosephMurphycomment10/16/2024
Can Manifestation Really Help You Get Full Marks in an Exam If You Only Wrote Part of the Answer?

what has happened to me, is not that, but it was test delayed or cancelled or something, so my improper studies was ok, and got another chance. so in my opinion, I would not focus on outcome you desc…

r/JosephMurphycomment11/14/2024
Manifestation coaches have not refuted any anti-loa arguments

People have many many proofs for themselves. If I’m gonna share my proofs to you, would you believe? Try to properly reprogram your subconscious, and see what happens. It literally does not know how n…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/22/2025
Manifestation coaches have not refuted any anti-loa arguments

Well, you can believe me or not, I have no incentive in lying. But the Neville sub has messed me up. Those LOA “teachers” there are messed up - and they don’t even know what they are talking about. “L…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/22/2025
My arguments against manifestation

I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …

r/JosephMurphycomment1/24/2025
My arguments against manifestation

>She’s the one that started it. What are you, 2 years old ? You don't put forth circular arguments in proper debates about anything, ever. That is corrupt and basically lazy. > >As of 2025, there …

r/JosephMurphycomment1/31/2025
Too Long on First Mission And Moving On

>The objective of LOB or LOA is to build lasting faith, not just temporary faith, over the long term to effect change subconsciously in the face of obstacles in life no matter what negatives are in th…

r/JosephMurphycomment2/25/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

Irritating the ones you love, polysecure (because it deals with a lot of attachment education), women who love too much, polyvagal theory and exercises, legit anything to do with different therapies— …

r/attachment_theorycomment3/25/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

All this to say, anxious, avoidant, something in between. Neither style will be a great partner. They will be selfish to ease their insecurities cause they don’t have proper coping skills. Villainizi…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/31/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

It’s unhealthy to project or “mind read”. I think there’s a bit of this going on in your post. It may feel (to you) they hate you, because rejection feels bad. It’s not a good feeling to an ego or o…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/18/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

You are correct. Your perception of love is warped. And thus it can be really hard finding it without accidentally finding yourself in shit relationships. As many have commented, avoidants typically …

r/attachment_theorycomment4/18/2025
my mind knows I’m trying to “trick” it

Still new but posting this comment both to help you and hopefully get feedback from the mods that I’m understanding things properly. You are not trying to trick yourself in the 3D. Your only job is …

r/JosephMurphycomment4/23/2025
my mind knows I’m trying to “trick” it

You will find the answer here - Moonlight Mailed Me ! : The No1 reason why people fail with their alpha programming. *Hi Everybody, I am one of moonlight's new cubs and his best for sure. I have a …

r/JosephMurphycomment4/24/2025
Should we use Grafana open source in a medium company

Yes, 4tb of metrics Prometheus can eat like peanuts, if you need fault tolerance,better look into Thanos or Mimir, vanilla Prometheus can handle it too, but it will be more manual work. Dashboards can…

r/DevOpscomment5/2/2025
What is k8s in bare metal?

No, I would not say that’s a proper definition of bare metal K8s deployment. If you say “bare metal deployment” to me I expect you to then take me to the rack(s) of multiple machines in whatever pass…

r/DevOpscomment5/3/2025
Jira time logging for DevOps

I inflate the story point values of every task by about double usually, and don't do anything with those tasks that produce timestamps that contradict those story points. I also break projects down to…

r/DevOpscomment5/3/2025
American Sign Language in DevOps Communities and Teaching

It's certainly an interesting problem... Not knowing anything really about how interpreters operate and just spit balling, would it be helpful to provide the interpreters with a quick glossary of anti…

r/DevOpscomment5/4/2025
Devops not using Docker (or Podman), what does your stack look like?

I don't want to tell you how you should feel, but maybe it would be helpful to learn the technology properly. Maybe Docker is not the problem, but how it is used at your company. I fear Docker is use…

r/DevOpscomment5/5/2025
What does Fastly need to do to be more enticing to developers?

Cloudflare is fast, cheap and easy. Fastly from what I know offers more as it's based on Varnish but very few people need that level of complication. I only worked on one project that needed Varnish.…

r/DevOpscomment5/6/2025
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search

This is super impressive! I relate to that frustration with fragmented UK property data soooo much. I'm actually working on automating my own property investing workflow (tho not nearly as sophisticat…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
microservices ci/cd and git branching

If you still can, DON'T use branch per environment approach. Instead allow devs to merge feature branches at their convenience to main branch, then build properly versioned artifacts. And then trigg…

r/DevOpscomment5/7/2025
When Every Venture Fails: Should You Abandon the Dream?

That, or it means you should properly plan a realistic business.

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search

Sounds like a major improvement for property research in the UK. Love that you're automating the mess of data. The smart alerts and chat-style Q&A are solid ideas. If you can scale this up, it'd save …

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Best payroll for small business?

The question is incomplete. You have to mention what are your needs to get a proper solution

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search

This is super impressive! I relate to that frustration with fragmented UK property data soooo much. I'm actually working on automating my own property investing workflow (tho not nearly as sophisticat…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Do your deploy dashboards ever show business impact, or just health checks?

Every deployment to Slack? So then nobody pays attention and that's why they ask you to give them the details. Don't do this. People mute these channels because 99% of what goes to it doesn't matte…

r/DevOpscomment5/7/2025
7 x multiplier for profitability?

If you want another arguement, people in the clothes industry say that 2x your landed cost is wholesale, and 2x the wholesale to get your MSRP. This is obviously also super product dependent, and it …

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
What I learned building a quoting system for a construction company doing $10M+ a year

I used to work for a company that is exactly this. Excel did all the quoting. Worked fine especially because all of the trades use their own format/layout for project quotes. I once gave a machine le…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Approached by a big box retailer what should I know/do?

You have a couple options. U can navigate this yourself, but u need to know a few things and I am operating with assumptions here. For context - I am a manufacturer rep selling product to supermarke…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/8/2025
What are the signs to spot a DA or FA in early talking stage?

Thank you so much. I hope we heal properly ❤️🫂 It baffles me how similar my ex DA was to yours when I read what you wrote. Except the 2nd point, aml of them were true in my case. Now I feel so stupid…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/20/2025
What are the signs to spot a DA or FA in early talking stage?

Thanks. Even if Im anxious or fearful, I usually bring up pretty quickly what bothers me because I hate mis understanding and I also hate to think badly of my partner. This way I am vulnerable even in…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/23/2025
What hurts a DA?

I’m going through the same thing right now. He went from telling me how much he loved me to being rude and broke up with me over the phone with no explanation. I moved to be closer to this guy. We’ve …

r/attachment_theorycomment6/21/2025
FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later

I think people may be projecting a bit. Yes, FAs do tend to come back around and if they haven’t changed then the cycle can repeat and much faster than the first time. But you don’t need to just blo…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/1/2025
When I want to deactivate I swing too far to the other side to preemptively "sooth" my partner, just in case.

I am not an expert, but this is not what I think. Everyone needs space and it is normal asking for space. It is also possible to use this space to work on your attachment wounds. If communicated prope…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/15/2025
When I want to deactivate I swing too far to the other side to preemptively "sooth" my partner, just in case.

Im healing FA myself and my unaware FA avoidant leaning did this all the time. She was hard people pleaser aswell and when time passed i couldnt trust anymore what she said to me. I really understand …

r/attachment_theorycomment7/19/2025
When I want to deactivate I swing too far to the other side to preemptively "sooth" my partner, just in case.

Before I was aware of attachment issues this sentiment would just feel like annoyance at their presence, like I'm unhappy and I just want to leave them. Now I know, when I start feeling uncomfortable …

r/attachment_theorycomment7/20/2025
I despise myself for having avoidant tendencies.

Honesty online - while asking for advice in itself isn’t a problem - but when used to avoid being honest to the person you should be (her) is still avoiding proper communication. If you’re already dou…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/30/2025
My DA bf broke up with me Saturday morning.

What I would say is that you should decide if you can deal with this long term. In my case, this is the second time we've had an explosive fight like this, where he goes into a full on defensive spi…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/4/2025
Weekly Feelings thread - Share what you're going through without feeling judged, this thread shall be a safe space for all of us to share (rules still apply).

I am feeling lonely. Like I am not a priority to my partner. Yet? Or any more? Who knows? I know this is mostly her communication style over text/online. But in the beginning, we would call every da…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment8/9/2025
This is what happens when your FA ex comes back

He broke up with me but I had broken up with him a few times the previous months I went no contact and then we talked once or twice before I blocked him so I couldn’t see him on anything and we’ve ne…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/10/2025
Seeking self-closure

I had a pretty similar experience and landed in a similar spot that you did, even down to the same number of dates and spiraling when I would run into her afterwards (we work in the same building so i…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/25/2025
A little look into how fearful avoidants operate (aka, how one of my relationships ended - twice - because I was unaware of my patterns)

What i alluded to at the end: I was very hot headed; i would not communicate properly and then either explode into an argument or just shut down; i was very nit-picky and always criticizing; i would b…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/26/2025
A little look into how fearful avoidants operate (aka, how one of my relationships ended - twice - because I was unaware of my patterns)

My ex and I have been apart almost four months. I realize now I'm fearful avoidant. When we got together, I actually kind of didn't want to. I had left my last relationship a few years before and felt…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/27/2025