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A prose writing about crying one too many — He's someone sensitive. Her verdict is that he's a gentle animal. Clearly that sensitivity is why he wept so often, and clearly it's because of why she's sensitive that he's sensitive. Sensitivity mea…

Long road to dream job and instant healing. — Bestcub called me to write this, I hope it will be helpful to someone. A story like many others. After years of wandering around shitty loa and other stupid spheres, books and forums I finally start…

microservices ci/cd and git branching — We are working on a microservice application and we are supposed to have 3 environments development, staging and production.. As a devsecops intern engineer, I'm thinking that the devs should work o…

General manager compensation — Hi All, I've owned a small seasonal diner for 5 years now and am planning on drastically stepping back next year. An employee who has been with me for 4 years, and who I trust / get a long with/ have…

Single Member LLC — I am opening a new LCC business. My mother suggested that she wants to help and contribute 50% of the capital to start the business. She also agreed that the LLC will be solely in my name, but we wil…

Found out my friend and her coworkers are stealing money from their job — My friend works at a small franchise location that is a self serve food place. The amount of staff is small (8) and I recently found out that the they all essentially steal money. The owner doesn’t li…

Struggling with losing my best friend/coworker, anxious attachment + limerence making it unbearable — Hi everyone, I apologize in advance for this long post. I’ll just post the TL;DR at the start. TL;DR: Lost my best friend/coworker of 7 years after a conflict. He’s now cold/avoiding me but friendl…

Saw the same man I've been seeing as a kid — I'm sorry about the use of A.I but my drawing skills are bad and I don't know how to explain this but I've seen this man in my dreams ever since I was a child. I remember seeing shows like Tom and Jer…

Why Being Ok With Not Having Your Desire Manifests It Faster — It’s a very contradictory thing in manifesting where you desire something, but you’re told to let it go and not care about whether or not you have it (because in 4D you already have it). But let’s fo…

Recommend podcasts / videos about healthy male roles and positive masculinity — Early thirties male and I feel my brain needs some intel on being a better male role model. Emphasis on role model. Things I never learned or observed growing up. Can you recommend a podcast host or …

I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…

Lack will dissolve when you realise: Manifestation starts from irony, and feeling it real starts from memory. — I said it. This post is for people whose brains are very logic driven. Those who think: “I need to see proof before I believe something.” i have something for you. Let's go. We all know the key: The…

Accelerate manifestation — How can I speed up the manifestation process? Can only one aspect be manifested at a time? Or can different things be manifested simultaneously?

Why Manifesting From Desire Creates Anxiety — I had a realization while trying to manifest a new job. I noticed that every time I get a notification or an email, I feel a wave of anxiety. Which is strange, because I’ve already done the “work.” I…

Healing is noticing abuse in REAL time. — One of the signs of healing is, noticing abuse IN REAL TIME. When I mean abuse I mean the manipulations, passive aggressiveness, taking jabs at us, gaslighting and anything that is harmful or disrespe…

Do your manifestations come when you just stop caring about it — I have a genuine question for y’all. Has anyone noticed their manifestations coming in once they completely stopped caring about them? Right now I’ve been manifesting a few things — a SP (a former f…

Guys i shifted today for the first time — So it was through a lucid dream with the help of a subliminal I remember I was in a garden idk where n there was this kid bothering me I knew I was lucid dreaming, then I somehow entered this mansion …

Anyone had an encounter with a humanoid ( or creature pretending to be one) during their day to day life? — After seeing the clip of the man that spilled snake repellent on himself then later that day in line at the store the smell caused another person to begin sneezing uncontrollably. That's when he and h…

Exercise for you! (Strength your manifestations + my success story) — You can use this exercise to strengthen your trust in yourself and your manifesting abilities. The goal of these small exercises is to give your mind the proof it needs… to show that you can manifest…

It feels like it was simply meant to happen. — I wrote this a few weeks ago for fun because I am currently manifesting something I have high attachment to and need reassurance that the law works. While working on myself + general reassurance for …

The secret is to take the meaning of your manifestation, and apply it to yourself. — Manifestation isn't a game of frequencies to me, it's a game of meaning. As we know: the wishfullfilled is not needing the manifestation anymore. Neville says you can't need wht you have. Let's say…

why are they able to put in more effort with the affair partner than in their own relationship? — In December, I found out my partner of 12 years was having a 3 month affair with a coworker 5 years younger than us (we're 28). We were high school sweethearts and only ever had been with each other s…

The "Manosphere" — Last night my wife and I watched the new Netflix documentary on the Manosphere. It was entertaining and informative, but also quite sad. My first reaction, honestly, was that with the exception of th…

The manifestation routine that unexpectedly changed my life — Over the past year I’ve been diving deeper into manifestation and I’m curious if anyone else has experienced something similar. Recently I read Reality Transurfing, watched Sam Ovens’ Mindset course,…

Us who were child victims — Do you absolutely melt when you see a parent go above and beyond to protect or avenge their child? I was not believed by my mother when I told her I was raped at 9 years old by a family "friend." When…

# To Bro Or Not To Bro 🎭 : 1500 Pickups, Over Dozen Countries, Success Rate 35.5% Recorded — What’s up fellas, First off, huge credit and massive respect to **Leonyx** for doing the heavy lifting and the hard part. The man has put in the legwork across the globe so we can have some actual re…

My (M38) wife (F34) has been very quiet since a conversation we had of why I love her. Confused about her silence. — So I'm a little bit confused about this. A couple of days ago, my wife came to me asking the question that has been asked many times during our marriage. "Do you still love me? And why do you love me?…

So they know the hurt they caused? — This is one of the many discard in the past three years. Each one more brutal than the other. This is so hard. I have just been crying and crying and clenching my chest. I can feel that cry in my ches…

I finally figured out how to manifest — For context I’ve been manifesting for a really long time. I’ve taken this lifestyle up for over 5 years. But it used to be tough to know exactly what I’ll get and when I’ll get it in the past. I usual…

It’s coming. I know. — I’m taking this as a sign. A manifestation that I’ve been off and on with for almost a year, shows up but it’s happening to my friend and not me. I’ve read up on here that my “energy” flows and affect…

Just say this — Guys! Life is too short to argue with your limiting beliefs, doubt, fears and 3D's impulsive dance in front of your human eyes. So... Just say ***I AM ALREADY IN BARBADOS*** *and* ***enjoying my happ…

[Update] My (24F) Husband (23M) Faked Fainting After I Gave Birth — It’s been almost a year, so I thought I’d give an update in case anyone is wondering. First, I want to thank everyone who took the time to comment, message me, or simply read and reflect on the post.…

Visited a dive bar in an abandoned and flooded city 03/18/2026 — 03/18/2026 Several projections during the same morning, most of them mundane and not worth recording, but the total must have been 10 in a row. As soon as the astral body would forcefully return, I i…

Stoic Polytheism — Hello Friends! I have a question regarding the theology of the Classical Stoics. Did they hold a mere pantheism, with 'the Gods' merely being different names of one and the same Logos? Or, are they as…

I Stayed For WAY Too Long — I just found this sub (after watching the Ben Affleck movie *Deep Water*, which was super triggering), so I thought I'd tell you my story. Maybe someone here can relate. My ex-wife struggled with a …

Husband left for reasons I won’t know — My husband (29) just up and left me (F 29) yesterday. I tried to talk it through with him but he got up at 3am said he was done and he can’t do this anymore and there’s no changing his mind. I’m compl…

My ex-husband is engaged, 5 months after our divorce. — My ex-husband is now engaged to the girl he began dating a few weeks after our divorce was final. We had been separated/divorced (we said we were divorced as soon as we decided - at that point it was …

it finally clicked — i just. omg. i just NEED to share this SOMEWHERE. i spent 6 years trying to think myself into “making” shifting happen. 6 years focused on only my mental health, believing if i finally found the one …

The 'technique' that helped me manifest in 1 week what I have been trying for months — I decided to make this a more general post since it's extremely helpful for any manifestation. Like everyone, I was trying to manifest something for a few months with common techniques like visualizi…

I Changed Myself and Got it All — Hello, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a very long time. Grab a snack and come along for the ride! **The Beginning: April - October 2022** I discovered Neville 4 years ago; after a year of …

Text that Blew Apart My Entire Life — Note: This is a repost of a post I made a couple of days ago. I deleted it because it was made from my 10 year old account and I needed to make a throwaway account to work on my issues in case my STBX…

Those of you who were blindsided, discarded, or abandoned- how are you doing now? — I see a lot of people on here saying that they were unhappy for years and what a relief it is to be divorced now. But what about those of us who thought we were in a happy marriage only to be left wit…

Really bad random energy all in one day — Hi I just had a really strange and off putting day and I’m in shock. The day started off pretty good, I woke up pretty refreshed, i met up with my friend Chi and we had a good time, then later on I me…

"Men Can't Be Men Anymore" — A week ago, I [posted about the Louis Theroux documentary on the “Manosphere,”](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1rtveyg/the_manosphere/) noting my surprise at the scale of the phenomenon, u…

obsessing over what you want isn't the problem btw!! read this — do you have to stop thinking about what you want to manifest it? NO! that's the thing you want obviously you are going to think about it! just be conscious of the feeling behind it. are you thinkin…

After 10 years of doing the most, I (30F) told my husband (34F) that we needed counseling or separation. Help me process? — I met my husband when I was a 20 year old college student and even though he is 4 years older than me, I became a pseudo-mother upon meeting him. For the last 10 years, I have been the sole breadwin…

The most important part of EVERYONE IS YOU PUSHED OUT (EIYPO) — I think that what I will say in the following lines has to be reminded as much as possible in the manifesting exes and partners communities. Manifesting a person is not only easy, it is effortle…

Thought Breathing (imagining breath sounds playing) as a potential hybrid meditation +breathwork combo! — Thought Breathing (imagining breath sounds playing) as a potential hybrid meditation +breathwork combo! Hello! I wanted to ask in and share and/or ask around about a kind of meditation I haven't real…

BF of 3.5 years broke it off. I'm so happy and free. — Sooo these last couple of days were a lot. I (29M) have been with my boyfriend (27M) for 3.5 years. If you asked me a week ago, I'd say our relationship had its ups and downs, but we were generally ha…

I successfully manifested my SP after 6 months NC and a high paying part time job — For context so you can understand my situation pre- manifestation. I Had an amazing boyfriend, great self concept and I was absolutely happy, looked amazing, and had a lot of friends, I was loved from…

People trying to manifest an SP back into their life. Read this — They are already yours Not tomorrow. Right now. In your mind, before anything in the outside world has changed. This is the whole secret. The outside world is not the real world. It is just the las…

Hello I just had the weirdest dream and I don't know how to look up my specific type of dream and was so shocked I decided to come here and write. I remember going to sleep around 12:30pm after wakin…

>If we believe with perfect faith that our desire is already ours in the subconscious mind, why would the subconscious mind not just assume the act has already been finished in the past rather than wo…

This has most likely has been asked a couple of times, but how does one forcefully achieve sleep paralysis? The only time I successfully astral projected is when I had sleep paralysis and I simply tri…

Why? The man was awful, he cheated on me multiple times and was financially and borderline sexually abusive. 0/10, no sympathies given from me.

Same. I hung in there , at first thinking no matter what she does. Im more wise , I see her flaws, i will help her change. Me the man she “use” to say i was. She=“never give up on me”. Me-“never”. 4 w…

I too am a newbie to this site, so thanks for the many interesting links. namaste.

1. Daydreaming that makes you feel emotional isn’t what Murphy or Goddard are talking about. It is about feeling the reality of what you want to have happen now, that is the feeling. Emotions might co…

I just want to offer a different perspective. Most manifestation communities are so opposed to people with different opinions and do everything in their power to keep their members in a bubble. People…

The manifestation book ive read the power of the subconscious if your subconscious thinks its unattainable then it is doesnt matter how much you dream of the unattainable

>I get why this sub advocates for SM methods over CM methods, and I absolutely agree that it’s better for beginners, but the problem with exclusively doing this is that you can do all of the work laid…

Not saying you’re entirely wrong but that wasn’t the point of the ladder experiment. The point of the ladder experiment was to teach about awareness. The last thing you think about after you conscious…

>Not saying you’re entirely wrong but that wasn’t the point of the ladder experiment. The point of the ladder experiment was to teach about awareness. > Ah. Conscious awareness. Complete rubbish and…

I agree with this. Even fearful avoidant men that lean a little more anxious will still put the lion's share of the emotional labor onto the women even if they tend to be slightly more vulnerable wi…

Thank you. This research at least is not wedded to what is seems to me to be a very over simplified model. I've just read the abstract and will chew through the rest of it. Then look at what else …

Sounds like you're their manager * take them off the skunkworks - the project is no longer needed * this is why people play the agile planning card game. Have everyone vote on time of every ticket. M…

So many examples I can think of lol. In general, after our honeymoon phase was over, she deactivated and started pulling away. I assumed this was caused by anxiety, so instead of calling out her dism…

This was very useful. Thank you very much. >Women test men to gauge their reactions, to see if the man can control his emotions, and if the man is safe and emotionally mature. They can also do it to …

Ah seeing this after the parent comment and thank you that someone else pointed out the fallacy. When my ex brought it up I said what I truly want which is to have atleast 1 kid and yes to marriage. …

You can take the lessons without keeping the man. I’ve done that 5x over and leveled my life up with each man. Trust me they benefited from being with me too, mostly in the arena of emotional awarenes…

OP your self-insight is great and this on/off again pattern (while unique to each individual relationship in its own way) is reassuring to read because of just how many similarities we all share. Th…

Thanks Oak, I stumbled on your thread. As an experiencer I am happy to engage, if approached in the manner as you advise here.

I'm 37F AP and my partner of 5 years is 53M DA. We're now in the processing of breaking up because of the anxious-avoidant cycle. I myself want out of it. I'm tired of it, and I've been the one overgi…

Yes that could be a good interpretation of it! It could also be that maybe this woman in the example had a good story about relationships in general but just not her current partner for whatever reaso…

Forgive me for being thick, but I think I just became even more confused. I read both posts and just finished reading the link to the post by Marsh273, you shared. I have read quite a few of them in …

Amen! I'm a 59F dealing with parents 84 and 85. I'm an ambivert/othrovert. My dad keeps thinking he's "the man" of the family. He was when I was a kid, but as soon as alI moved out on my own, I became…

Yeah, your last paragraph really sums up with what is really going on – you don't trust that he could actually take care of you if you were in a serious crisis. And that is a legitimate and valid fear…

(DA hard pattern female here) From my perspective that issues is more down to what a human has learned up to this moment - or not. A lot men grew up with mothers/females that took care of health issu…

I recently met a guy that I really like. He's amazing, patient, kind and consistent. He FaceTime me all the time, asks to see me when he can. On days when we aren't in the office, we go work together …

>*In order to move on, you need to not only stop feeling sorry for yourself,* *but also stop feeling sorry for the world.* *That is forgiveness in its essence.* *To give up a certain lens to see…

Wow I am sorry. I have felt similarly before and it is such a terrible thing to experience. There was a time, even, where I was paranoid that I was NPD (despite being, if anything, the complete opposi…

I can tell you my experience. I have been in a close to 7 year relationship with a BPD ex girlfriend, quit that one more than a year ago, if you know the dynamics you know that's a huge slap in the fa…

Realizing the fearful avoidant + fearful avoidant pairing is so painful and destabilizing. I don't even mean with just romantic partners (although my next point explains why I keep finding them). It…

I’m new to Reddit but find it of good use to try and find answers to my problems. I’ve been in a LTR with a man but we’ve always had issues where he has said I’m narcissistic - I couldn’t understand w…

That’s not something I’m currently ready to do unfortunately. I know myself and I know that me just saying it’s over for good won’t change my actual thoughts or behaviours. I’ve accepted that we aren’…

To give you some proof that the law of belief (lob) is real, my very first manifestation which was a “hard” one was a SP. I viewed it as an experiment to see if this all was real. I also put pressure …

>To give you some proof that the law of belief (lob) is real, my very first manifestation which was a “hard” one was a SP. I viewed it as an experiment to see if this all was real. I also put pressure…

Yeah, my older brother was autistic with many extra issues and was incredibly aggressive towards me. I was a smaller girl and could not defend myself but nobody cared. He was the center of the world, …

I struggled with this A LOT. You need to focus on the bodily sensations and responses and calming those, instead of putting the focus on the guy because it's definitely not the fault of that particula…

this really resonates with me because i feel the exact same way about uncertainty. i HATE not knowing. like, i wanna know if things will work or not so i can either feel ok or move on but that is not …

I’m such a bag fumbler. I was at a bar with my bestie this weekend, a fairly nice one. We were on our way out and some man stops us, asking us where we’re going. Clearly quite drunk. I wasn’t going to…

Okay, so as someone who tends to lean more on the demisexual side of things. Physicality within a relationship is... everything. I don't mean that it's the center of things, I mean it's the accumula…

Another option not mentioned is she could be a widow. If you are concerned, ask her about her jewelry next time you talk to her. How she talks about the ring (not only what she says but the manner i…

dump him for pete’s sake. if it’s even a thought you’re entertaining, then stop wasting the man’s time

There’s a big difference between debating irl with someone you know—that way you can see facial expressions and tone of voice to know if you’re crossing boundaries. Also, most people don’t want to d…

This sounds like standard dating to me. You might be getting matched with more attractive/desirable men now than you were before and they're more passive when dating because they have multiple women t…

I can’t speak for every DA/DA relationship. We had grown too close for his comfort. The man clearly adored me, and we were talking about marriage. So he fled. We’re still friends.

I (27M) met my fiance (22F) about 5 months ago through family. After speaking to her virtually for 2 months and then meeting her in person about 2 months ago, we got engaged. Now in the beginning of t…

If the many years on the Earth have taught me something, it's that looking for closure is something we can usually do without. For someone to ghost you like that, it's more a reflection on their psyc…

Chalk it up to you having avoided a coward who couldnt say something as simple as "this isnt working". This isnt the man you want to call family in the long run

Well most of my LTR's were with women but when I was with a guy it never even occured to me. I think if it breaks you should get plan b, and maybe doctors push pills because they think men will pressu…