disrespected

I need to know if he was abusive so that I can be sure this is the right decision — Hi everyone - I'd appreciate anyone who reads the entire thing before commenting. My (24F) boyfriend (24M) just ended things with me after one of our many fights. We've been together for 3 years. We …

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

Do romantic relationships ever work with enmeshed parenting? — When my ex and I broke up I told him that his mom was going to make his marriage miserable. She disapproved of/disrespected me and we could see it wasn't going to work out. I don't hate him, but I'm o…

Who else was taught to people-please or be a pushover? — I was taught by my parents from early childhood to make others happy, and I often found myself last on the priority list. Perhaps the overemphasis on reputation in many Asian cultures contributed to m…

Why could I enforce boundaries in the first years of my relationship, but after 7–8 years I couldn’t do it anymore? — I have Codepedency. I am with my abuser for about 14 years (Now very low contact and hoping to completely sever contact once I completely heal and can let go off the unhealthy attachment.) We don't …

Parental mistreatment must be tolerated! — Y’all look at this. A couple of weeks ago, I ended a phone call after she said protesters deserved to be run over and killed. I had told her previously that I would NOT be getting into politics with h…

How to bring up SI to my therapist? — (Prefacing: I am currently safe! This post just sucks to make.) I'm relatively new to having a therapist, I started last year in November. I feel like I hit the jackpot with my therapist, I think we …

My girlfriend (27F) flirts with other people in front of me (28F) and it makes me feel disrespected-how do I handle this? (together 4 years) — Hi everyone, I need some advice. My partner and I have been together for almost 4 years, and one recurring issue is that she's naturally very flirty with everyone. I love her and I trust that she lov…

If you’re going through a breakup read this. — I went through a breakup about 9 months ago that honestly could’ve destroyed me. She moved on fast, I felt disrespected, and for a while I genuinely felt like I was alone in it. Even the people close…

She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical — I’m posting because I feel like I’m losing my grip on what is real, and I need perspective from people who understand trickle truth, repeated minimizing, and what it feels like when someone admits jus…

my 22M bf says he will leave me 22F if i get breast surgery — Hello, hence the title. I made a joke that had some truth in it saying, “I’m gonna get breast implants.” **I have little-to no boobs, and it is my BIGGEST insecurity**. Women can grow glutes by eating…

How do I restore my dignity after getting played and lowering myself too much for someone? — Someone persued me and as soon as I reciprocated they abandoned me. I ended up chasing them and they acted in really horrible mean ways and Im afraid I lowered myself in the moment but I wasn't aware …

Ex slept with someone a day after breaking up with me — So I’m not even sure how to start but my ex (19F) and I (22M) have broken up two days ago. She came with it, I was okay with the decision because lately our relationship was genuinely suffocating for …

How do I deal with self-sabotage if my reasons for it are these — When I was younger, I was at the top of my batch, won about 98% of all the contests I joined in, and was considered conventionally attractive. But that “success” made my elementary years isolating. …

WHY IS THIS ALWAYS HAPPENING — 7 months ago, my ex-girlfriend dumped me. The breakup was very calm, and I chased her a bit at first, but then I went straight into no contact when she disrespected me that she wanted to just be frien…

She did it on one of the worst nights of my life. — After having been the perfect girlfriend, always kind, supportive, caring, she went and hung out with her ex the night I found out my father had less than 24 hours to live. It was the best relationshi…

Swingers clubs .. — This is my first Reddit post! Sorry if it’s all over the place!! but I needed some insight from others who know what goes on in swingers / sex/ or “lifestyle” clubs… I’m dating a guy in his 30s, & we …

My ex turned into a middle aged fuckboy — Recently learned that my (40F) ex boyfriend (42M) of 6 years has been having picking up young (20s maybe early 30s) girls at the bar every weekend and having sex. There may be a more constant girl in…

How to I get out of my shell and get people to respect me — I’m so tired I’m a senior in high school and I’m just constantly disrespected by my peers they take my pencils calculators and recently I just had a piece of trash thrown at me. I’ve put up with this …

What... did the fog just lift? Am I... done??! Or at least... okay being done? — I don't know what happened. 2.5 yr relationship. The last 1.5 years have been not great, the last 4 months REALLY bad because I dropped my (usually very strong) boundaries which he saw as weakness and…

I helped a woman through an abusive marriage, then she chose another guy days later — I’ve been struggling to process a situation that ended about a month ago, and I just need to get this off my chest. For about 18 months, I (32/M) was really close with this woman 32(F). We never met …

He got into a relationship the very next day!! — Hi, me and my ex were in a relationship for 5 years and know each other for almost 5.5 or 6 years now. We had a very loving and truthful relationship. We were genuinely very close, emotionally, me…

The moment when everything clicked after the discard. Does this pattern strongly point to NPD? — Hey everyone. After a recent brutal and totally blindsiding discard by someone who I thought loved me, Im trying to understand what I experienced (almost 1 year relationship and attempt at reconnectio…

My (M27) Best friend since High School (F26) told me she cheated after we got engaged — I (M27) have been together with my fiance(F26) or the last 6 years… I have known her for 13+ since middle school, since I was a kid and ever since High school we were best friends. We did not start d…

HELP ME UNDERSTAND — Hi everyone, I've been reading a lot about the subject and i'm also in therapy since 3 months. I'm already non in the relationship with this woman but i sort of need to make clarity and hear other…

Am I (20F) controlling for wanting my husband (21M) to cut out his only friend in town? — For some context, my husband and I got unexpectantly pregnant very young, and had our baby at 18. By the time our son was born, all of our friends had moved away for college or other ventures. The onl…

Time to let go… — A final sort of love letter… My 2-year relationship ended in September, shortly after our anniversary. I’m still heartbroken as fuck. I’ve recently learned he’s already moved on. And I have a feel…

Fiance doesn't feel wanted/I am too friendly — TL;DR MY fiance thinks I'm too friendly and wants to feel more respected/desired sexually before showing me vulnerability. He is uncomfortable with me giving men so much attention ie talking too long,…

How do I (21) navigate friend groups where your friends still hang with people who have disrespected you? — (We’re all the same age, 21) Long story short one of the girls from my high school friend group made a really sudden and unexpected racist “joke” towards me in front of everyone back in December. Ho…

I didn't fail at life. But life failed me. (TW) — I am fundamentally exhausted. Every cell in my body is tired. All I feel is anger and grief, and then the sudden crash of exhaustion that comes after. The sheer statistical improbability of my life,…

I had to break things off with my gf and I feel like shit (I am the dumper but feel like the dumpee) — God, I feel so broken and terrible about this. I am shaking so much, even while writing this. This all started in December 2025. She told me she needed 2000 dollars for Christmas and some birthday pr…

Need to talk to someone — I have felt very, VERY shitty lately and the people I hang out with or the “friends” I thought I had? I can’t rely on them anymore as they have suddenly become more cozy or close to someone who has di…

After 6 years together, he cheated repeatedly in the last few months. Can someone like this truly change? Can we move past this? — I honestly feel a bit stupid writing this but I really need outside perspective. I (32F) was with my partner (36M) for over 6 years. We lived together, built a whole life, and I genuinely thought he …

How do I (24F) handle my boyfriend's (25M) friendship with his coworker? (26F) — My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half and most of our relationship has been long distance because he got a chance to work in Major League Baseball last year and follow his dr…

Don’t know what to do… Boyfriend living a double life — So i '25F' really need some advice because my head is kinda messed up rn. My boyfriend '28M' is honestly like… insanely rich.we have been dating for 19 months ..Like life changing rich. Since i’ve be…

My addict father constantly takes advantage of me financially, I stood up to him and he said I was a terrible and disrespectful person. — My dad and I are/were very close. But all my life he has taken advantage of me financially. When I was in my early 20s he’d ask for my card to buy a pack of cigarettes an id wake up to $400 missing. F…

7 Months Post BreakUp - The Update — My ex and I were together for 8 years. I had left after he had finally admitted that he did not want to get married, or have kids. We had gone engagement ring shopping. But sounds as if he had no inte…

Scary situations- — Me, F -17, in PR.. my dad has snapped and went on an angry tirade, Easter Sunday, we went to a beautiful church and then we headed to Old San Juan, when we got there my dad became incredibly irritated…

I (26f) have been suffering through withdrawal since break up with 34m — It felt serious (met friends, future talk, families knew about each other), but there were repeated trust issues because I kept finding him active on dating apps, and I had posted on here before (whic…

How do I genuinely move on from this — I recently got out from my first ever relationship. He ended things through text and honestly I was pretty blindsided. His main reasons were that he felt overwhelmed in life and our relationship was a…

What the hell do I do? UPDATE — An update to my previous post, since it seemed like someone was interested and because I still need support. We talked about it. He saw no wrongdoing in what he did, and said his intention was never…

She said she regretted messaging her ex… so why did she call him right after? — I need honest opinions because I feel like I lost myself in my first relationship and now it’s messing with my self-worth badly. She broke up with me 14 days ago because she couldn't put effort into …

I give up. — I'm a late diagnosed Autistic. I grew up with an extremely abusive mother, (and family). She mentally, emotionally, and medically abused me. She controlled me, stalked me, ect. I had no idea how every…

Avoidant ex reached out after 4 years to apologize, but the conversation reopened old confusion for me. Did he actually care and communicate terribly, or is this just guilt/retroactive idealization? F24, M25, dated for 4 months — tl;dr Avoidant ex reached out after 4 years to apologize, but the conversation reopened old confusion for me. Did he actually care and communicate terribly, or is this just guilt/retroactive idealizat…

Thought on boyfriend watching POV porn? — My boyfriend (25M) and I (24F) have a good sex life and a good relationship. I never have to doubt that he loves me and finds me sexy as he is constantly showering me with compliments and physical aff…

25/F found hundreds of nudes in 31/M bf camera roll, dating almost 2years — For some context, we have been dating almost 2 years, the first year being long distance, but have lived together now for 9 months. I am 33 weeks pregnant, insecure, and we haven’t been in the best pl…

A different kind of suffering in marriage - you have tips how to solve my situation? 28F and 33M — We just got married after a year of intense planning for a large wedding that I ultimately did not like and that was far too expensive for my taste. Of course, I did enjoy some parts of the wedding, b…

My roommate (NB18) is evil or I'm (FTM18) insane? Advice please — So, my roommate (NB18) is very autistic and has a problem with people being in the room while they're there. I've (FTM18) been very respectful about it up until I got a boyfriend (M18). I have done my…

Was diagnosed on my first visit — Hi, I’m 26F and trying to understand my relationship patterns. went to therapy and got diagnosed with bpd right away…. When I was younger, if I felt disrespected (like a girl flirting with my boyfrie…

My (25F) best friend (23F) isn't talking to me much after I blocked my ex-friend (23M). How do I broach the subject? — For the past year, my (25F) now ex-friend Dennis (23M) (fake names for anonymity) has made me feel horrible about myself. He made me feel like I had to hide my personal opinions for fear of judgment. …

Definitely communicate. People are not mind readers. People feel disrespected when you don’t communicate your need. It feels discarded even if it’s not intentional.

I’m not a DA but I do need space. Fortunately, my friends have always understood that, and I haven’t had to communicate it. I feel like they are kind of the same and everything just feels super natura…

Hurt people hurt people. Is it wrong? Yep, but they do. All we can do is try to be better individuals and keep strong boundaries that If we are disrespected we can walk away. I always try to remember…

There’s probably a reason for the deactivation, like a boundary of yours was crossed or you felt disrespected or you think the relationship is moving too quickly— something like that. Imo the most i…

Could very well be. I had another friend who I think was FA and I was close to for many years but part of me knew I had to walk on eggshells to a degree because she would suddenly end close friendship…

Why would an avoidant push me away, but then orbit me for almost 2 years — even while committed to someone else? I feel ashamed for being stuck on this.. I (32F) had a short but intense connection wi…

i wouldn’t consider it splitting, but yes to a certain extent. like you said i get triggered which causes emotional dysregulation, especially in response to feeling disrespected, rejected, or betrayed…

I’ve been taking space from my friend over the past week, as I was feeling enmeshed and suffocated. I communicated my boundaries before doing so, and since I’ve taken space I’ve felt like I can connec…

I feel you. I can get really fixated on reading into people's actions and trying to figure out if I'm being disrespected. But it's better to just sit back and gather information and ask curious questi…

The further I get along with my Social Psychology studies and how people form healthy bonds with one another, the more I am starting to understand how fucked up modern dating has become and how most p…

I'm quite an introverted woman and live in a small city so the dating apps suck. Found myself with a crush on a man that I deal with via work semi regularly who seemed nice and respectful and after th…

There's being turned off by innocuous preferences and being turned off because you're being disrespected. This sounds like it's the latter.

Nah I'd be irritated and feel disrespected too. A text to confirm whether or not plans are going ahead just seems like basic courtesy to me - I find it hard to believe she didn't use her phone at all …

You know about "I" statements? It's a way of being assertive without being rude or aggressive or unfair. The formula is "I feel X (a feeling or feelings) when you do Y (their action)." Sometimes you …

Yeah. Two drinks dates that were relatively quick with someone from an app, a ghosting isn’t that far fetched. I just feel so disrespected.

I'd read the link below when you have 2 minutes. Just evidence that no amount of time/therapy will help you let go. She chose someone else, betrayed/disrespected you and your marriage, and now you a…

it’s been a year for me and I am definitely still grieving too. I think of him 24/7. I also was the dumper, because our relationship had gotten so toxic & it was clear he was not willing to put effort…

I broke up with my ex after 3.5 years and there have been plenty of days I regret it. He is still on my mind 24/7 a year after the breakup, 8 months into no contact. He is still the only one I desire,…

I really struggled at this phase in my healing. I felt I was seeing everything for what it was finally, but my nervous system would over-activate. I would also freeze. My biggest progress in this stag…

mine said if you don’t think what u speak bad things will happen, the ones you think about all the time, bc I disrespected him after he told me he starting to hate me after i asked him do you hate me

That she had to respect the relationship she was so I should stop calling her. When in fact she had disrespected our relationship by cheating with that MFer. At the time it didn't register for some re…

I remember having an epiphany in couples therapy. I shot up and looked over at her and said, "I think I figured it out... why I feel disrespected by you. It's because you don't respect me. You don't…

Just had to read the title to confidently say this. LEAVE, don't allow yourself to be disrespected that way. Marriage nor love is conditional, if you truly love a person, you don't stop loving them wh…

100%. I showed my fiancè this title and he was disgusted without even reading the story. No amount of context could make this okay!! Your "husband" has disrespected you completely and I'm sure it's n…

I have very similar issues about not feeling. I found through some intense therapy that when I’m not feeling anything it’s because if I did, the feelings would be too overwhelming, so, I feel nothing.…

I had a feeling that my Aries moon wasn’t helping. When I have been disrespected, my first thought is to react. However, I really really try not to cause I know how mean I can get and part of me doesn…

i have often been shamed by people and eben emotionally abused by my extended and some primary "family" for being on SSDI for 7 years now. actually just had a huge blowup about it last week where my s…

I know how you feel. I was blindsided and disrespected numerous times. Since the relationship is over there's really no point of voicing my thoughts, calling out her bs and arguing over what not. Ther…

No, i cannot! She has made it very clear that she wants nothing to do with me ever again. The breakup was messy and i disrespected her, it was very out of character for me, I treated her so gently and…

I don’t want someone that disrespects me. Though she had many qualities I did enjoy about her. She was a very practical woman. Even though she was disrespectful she gave a lot of effort towards the re…

I'm sorry this happened to you brother. Sit with it, feel everything, but as soon as you can, get up and do something, go to work, hit the gym, go for a walk. Just don't stop moving forward. Leave her…

I have been severely traumatized, so much so that it’s hard to pull specifics as to how the relationship changed me since the way I tend to cope with trauma is to dissociate and forget. I believe I’m…

It all comes down to the clash of boundaries, I know my avoidant ex saw that I disrespected his boundaries of freedom ( although his boundaries changed later on , he was way more commitment seeking ea…

My thought is that she should be allowed to change her mind, I’m 26 years into marriage and 51 years old and I can assure you that my thoughts and opinions on a lot of things have changed since I was …

I don’t want to invalidate his feelings because of course we don’t know the situation. The phrase “all I wanted was respect” hits a chord. It just reminds me of my ex who would always say I disrespect…

The only way I could see this be “saved” is if you completely open up the marriage on both sides. He’s not gonna stop seeing other people. The only way to save it is for you both to consensually have …

Whichever Race you wanna date is really up to you. That being said, do you really want to date someone who clearly has been around the block with a bunch of white dudes and wants to settle down with …

Dude has a wife he already knows won't leave no matter how much he disrespected her. I say if you have no intention of leaving him and having any self respect, why bother the man with it? He's just …

This is something I'm trying to navigate too. I've been isolating for the last few years because of shit like this. The same people that tell me that I am too quiet and passive are the same ones who s…

I did this with mine. He crossed many boundaries during the relationship. I accused him of SA and threatened to call the police. This stopped him from contacting me for a whole 3 months then he still …

I am so in love with my ex but I don’t think we would be happy in a marriage and I also think we would have VERY different parenting styles. It’s the relationship that really taught me how love can be…

That's what we both said to each other that we need time and space. Have you ever had any mini break up or stayed apart? If not, this time apart is a reflection on your past actions. As you wrote in t…

In case they poison about This....is not bad demeanor, or disrespect to them ...not involving anymore where not being received is called **self-respect**, whoever the fck is the subject. You disrespec…

Oh brother you are cooked. This happened to me, behind my back, and I didn’t get to join in. Pack your shit, get a vicious lawyer and get everything you can because she’s going to ride over you with a…

If she is already engaged and he’s in your children’s lives and you’ve kept your boundaries up for a year I think the only one being disrespected in this situation is your girlfriend by keeping her at…

Also here to say that as much as it sucks to get dumped, it really does build some self esteem if you handle it mostly gracefully. I look back on the times I have been broken up with and not groveled …

Shitty men have been led to believe that it's okay to be "emotional" as long as that emotion is anger. If a man can't handle being challenged "oh, you know he has a temper," if a woman pushes back whe…

Clearly he is right because if you were a logical man, you'd never stay with someone so blatantly disrespectful. You're proving him right by sticking around to try and prove him wrong. Guys like him…

"I dont believe its out of manipulation, purely because I do not think he is capable of that." it might not be MALICIOUS but that doesn't mean he's not still manipulating the situation by acting in th…

Exactly. I personally think that the Leo sun is supposed to be regal, not really narcissistic. Like strangers have told me many times they've seen paintings of women in museums or palaces who look lik…