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hey is this safe? and how do I find out myself so I don't have to keep asking in the future (I want to rely on more than just yt comments) — The comments seem positive but I'm not sure if this is from a well known/trusted creator Here's the link https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kMxRvZwM4E0
READ THIS if you want to POST here — This is a new thread with the SAME GUIDELINES as the previous post which is now archived. THIS THREAD IS ONLY FOR APPROVAL TO POST. You don’t have to be an approved user to comment or lurk. ONLY som…
People who love you, would not treat you this way — When being constantly invalidated and made to feel invisible, and where your opinion or needs don’t matter at all, obviously a part of us is going to start believing that. It can lead to a downward sp…
This video on procrastination, shame, and comfort has actually put me in a path towards healing — I’ve got CPTSD, and this video (https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ipJIV6hc1Ls) from Heidi Priebe was my first encounter with the concept of comfort as a daily need that every single person alive has, even…
When you were constantly blamed or ignored — This therapist has 45 years dealing with family systems, and is also an expert on “getting your family system out of you”. Finally becoming an individual who feels and acts freely. He covers everyth…
I share experiences on my YouTube :) https://m.youtube.com/c/AstralDoorway
Can’t always predict how it’s [gonna go](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=rFeVfwDvTyM&pp=0gcJCY4Bo7VqN5tD). Fun evening tho.
Yes, this is when you need Al-Anon the most. If you’d like to get a good idea about why that’s true, this interview from Steve-O’s Wild Ride is brilliant. Alcoholism has almost nothing to do with a…
This is a huge post, and there is a way “to speak of the victory”. To get there. I’ll break it down in detail. It’s very, very important to go forward into the direction of hope and strength. That ca…
That’s how we keep the internal representation of the parent going. We are continuing to do what they need. We are talking to them as if we have some kind of relationship. Subject and object. There …
I think people are all different and timing is different as well. You can’t just say one thing will work, when with another person it would not work at all. It’s more about our own story, the process…
Yes, I’m like you, I really do try to avoid anything that’s not scientific, so this should help you get up to speed on what’s really being said here, and it might be helpful for you to understand the …
Perfect, so are you understanding why it doesn’t work that way? There is some information below that can help you to get past that. It has a lot to do with what’s called “internal object relations“. I…
https://m.youtube.com/@BryceZabel/videos
In anything related to manifestation I recommend this video: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FsW4hEObAtY changed my life
I'm not sure... Maybe it is [Waking Life]? (https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=7Wi_E27J97s&pp=ygUWd2FraW5nIGxpZmUgZnVsbCBtb3ZpZQ%3D%3D)'? A great one to watch (& hear) is Pink Floyd's [The Wall] (https://…
This is a really positive sign. Not everyone can get there in the same way, as it depends on the kind of “content” that was in your family system that you absorbed when you were trying to bond. Som…
If you’ve been inside a system where things have been split into black-and-white, then the paradigm for change is going to be “all good or all bad”. In other words, the original perception of attachme…
Isn’t that the truth. When we are not connected to ourselves and are living in pathological loneliness, we are alone when we are with other people anyway. That’s not really coming from them. This whol…
Great description of manifestation this is awesome, thanks for sharing. I’ve heard people say they had similar experiences, manifesting their dream partner by visualizing and expressing gratitude whil…
This viral video explains dimensions very well. Most of us perceive only 2 dimensions, even though this particular reality is a 3 dimensional reality. Now imagine a 4d or 5d or even 'higher' dimension…
https://m.youtube.com/c/AlexCollierOfficial In the description is a link to his membersite.
Seattle Times paywall - https://archive.ph/bK1aR This also made [national news](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=0EMXkAnsELQ) in Korea. From their (now inactive) [GoFundMe](https://www.gofundme.com/f/h…
Maybe a YouTube link is better. Not everyone has Spotify https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCtxpEmlX5oHdPX3sYMPHbsA
I can never skip [Pachinko season’s 1 intro](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=1GgKXR_J-ww). It’s so catchy and infectious, a brief moment of happiness for us to enjoy. And then comes the trauma of the s…
Pay attention to Mike Martin: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=wn9jBpfp3gA
I think that’s an excellent start. Because it’s very powerful abuse and boundary violation. To completely nullify a person. So it’s an awesome start to be angry, because it connects us to our legitima…
For those that missed it, it’s on Hulu and here’s the [trailer from season 1](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=i9dS3MjhjwM) > When their convenience-store-magnate father dies, a pair of pampered Pakista…
Check this out: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=yaAFG1ooO0Y&pp=0gcJCdkKAYcqIYzv
This is most definitely wrong, and it is the number one outcome of having come from a narcissistic style family system. It’s the most understandable thing in the world to not realize that, and below…
It’s such a common story, and so many people can relate to this. Often times what’s going on is ignorance and a total incapacity to manage life. It comes from the family system on both sides. Both the…
This is the most important role that the narcissistic family system has, and the illusion of a “group“ couldn’t function without it. I have the same role in my family system, and I found out that it …
Emotional abuse and emotional neglect are the same thing. It doesn’t matter what the person knows or doesn’t know. What matters is what happened to us. That’s what we can know about very directly. The…
Man, yeah... You were so mean to him, just hurting his feelings by... I can't even finish thar sentence, I am not capable of enough sarcasm. Here, I saw this the other day. Might be interesting to y…
You may want to have a look at ayahuasca communities in the Amazon - churches like Santo Daime and União do Vegetal in Brazil combine Christianity and yage (another name for ayahuasca), which they dri…
This is absolutely terrible, and I know exactly where you’re coming from. This kind of thing can break your spirit. People have to go through it to really understand what it’s about. You are made to…
That word is what this is all about: grief. That comes across very clearly in your story. You have been deeply wounded. It feels so hopeless. Experiencing a loss of something that was never there. Th…
It’s impossible to discard a relationship when in a repetition compulsion. A new trauma bond. Because trauma bonds are not relationships. They are family system to family system fusions. We’re interna…
I totally agree with you about the waste of time it is going to traditional therapy, plus it’s expensive. The way to be progressive about where all of this trauma is stored doesn’t get integrated thro…
I think it takes a long time for most people to finally realize that their family system isn’t really a cohesive group. It’s an illusion. You can go to Hawaii, and you can mix together, but no one i…
From experience, I’m going to try to break down in great detail exactly. “what they hear“. Step-by-step. They don’t hear anything. Very traumatized people don’t recognize distinct individuals out…
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9Xk8uzIsQ2U&pp=ygUeRXZlcnlib2R5IGxvdmVzIHJheW1vbmQgZGF0aW5n&ra=m
I really relate to this, and what you are speaking about is a narcissistic family system. What really jumps out of your post is the “million tries“. The reason I say that, is that the therapist most n…
For me, this was a process that I saw throughout my family system. It’s quite likely that the mother that your aunt and your mother share is being expressed through your aunt. It’s likely that your …
This is good advice, and it absolutely does work for our own mental health. As far as changing the dynamics of the relationship at its core, it does nothing. The reason it does nothing for the relat…
Sure: [Here you go.](https://m.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbN5sJc5PARBi3vfTtANUFw12Qm67aVrr).
This little video of 5-6 minutes is really good because it gives you some tips and tools to use when you feel overwhelmed between your therapy sessions. This is from the famous trauma therapist Peter…
I think this is really important, and I can break this down into as much detail as possible in one post. That could be very useful for you. We all need hope and strength, and it is out there. A lot…
She makes it really easy to understand. Most gurus are complicating things. https://m.youtube.com/@TheRoseyLife
I would pause on that a bit, because even when he got into a huge Marvel movie in Shang Chi, his mother still withheld praise at the end of the premiere screening, and it's supposed to be some "funny …
I think the science of internal object relations and the snapshot mechanism that pathological narcissists use to internalize everything around them is really key. Maybe that’s the biggest part of this…
Here’s an excellent video that describes this kind of extreme violence in a very complete way. Silent Treatment https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=guVfS9l00LU
I really dislike some of the comments in threads like these. Very little empathy or trying to at least gain more information before judging. It’s supposed to be advice anyway, not YTA. For all we all…
There is a huge relief in keeping it simple and going to the root. This is about loneliness, but a very special kind. Pathological loneliness. It’s really about not having a biologically supportiv…
It’s more violent than just being an accessory. This is about being an appliance for a family system. Like a washing machine. In families that are doing this, and it’s not uncommon, it’s not that one…