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My (22F) roommate (23F) won't apply feedback that me and my other roommate(22F) apply to her. — Hello! This is a throw away mainly to vent and maybe get a few second opinions about this? I'll be using fake names for privacy reasons. let me give a small backstory for context. I (22F) moved to t…
Does anyone else just not tell their mother anything — I have too much trauma to write here but in short I stopped telling my mum anything from about the age of 16 (now 31) because I learnt the hard way that anytime I was brave enough to share my true tho…
I hate narcissists! — I tried so hard to forgive. I even made a comment here months ago about forgiveness. I was trying to delude myself. Narcissists deserve to rot and burn in the lowest depths of hell there is. How can y…
Advice on how to deal with parent giving ultimatum over my relationship — I'm a 28 year old gay Asian male currently living in an East Asian country for my job, away from my home country and my parents. All my life, I had a great and loving relationship with my parents. I w…
Sunken Cost Fallacy — Married for almost 27 years. Got married at the ripe age of 19. Funny thing, I thought it was a mistake on my wedding night when he got out of bed to jack off because I was so exhausted from the long …
People of dating over 40... — I'm going to preface this that I am well aware we're all busy. We have jobs, might have kids, have other commitments, I get it. I fully understand that. However... Why might you take days or even …
Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…
How I finally hacked meditation with an extremely loud inner monologue — I've been practicing meditation since 2019. Traditional techniques never worked for me because of my extremely loud inner monologue (a phonological loop due to dominant introverted thinking), so I had…
Should I apologize to my ex? and if so, is this a good way to do it? — About two weeks ago, my (18f) ex bf (18m) (we dated for a year) broke up with me for a variety of reasons, most of them being because he didn't have time anymore/was too busy/didn't have the emotional…
Delayed no contact 3/4 years later 😂 — me and my ex broke up amicably 3/4 years ago and remained "friends". id say at the beginning, once the emotions had settled a bit (we'd been together 8 years so fair amount of hurt there) we were frie…
I am hopeful for all of us — ​ I've spent the past 3 years trying to stay away from bad people, read self help books, stay off drugs, engage in good healthy habits, journal, release my anxieties and sadness and love mysel…
Is my partner cheating or am I crazy? — I first started noticing weird things on my outdoor Ring camera at the end of December 2025. At the start of the new year, I began to see changes in my girlfriend’s behavior. We had just bought a hou…
Am I (19F) a bad partner if I'm often irritated by my boyfriend's (21M) constant negative emotional state and the feeling that he's not moving forward in life? — I'm 19, and my boyfriend is 21. We've been in a long-distance relationship for about two years. We talk on the phone every night and visit each other whenever possible. He's finishing his studies this…
I (20M) broke up with my (20F) girlfriend and now regret it. How can I rebuild trust and potentially fix things? — So for context, me and my now ex (we'll call her Jessica) had been together for 10 months prior to the breakup. The relationship was going great until about 5 months in, when Jessica and her family mo…
should i just block him — hi. i’m 17 and he was my first boyfriend. we only dated for a few months and we broke up almost a week ago. my mind is all over the place and i’m dealing with an anxious attachment style so the fear o…
Therapist said “no one’s thinking about you. They’re too busy thinkin about themselves”. I think she’s wrong. — I’ve always heard this growing up, but in my experience has been the exact opposite. I was always hyper criticized. Anytime I try something different or do something to take myself out of a social no…
I feel overwhelmed and lost and I think being the only and eldest daughter plays a role — I am 25 years old and the eldest and only daughter with four younger brothers. After spending the last few days with my family, I feel completely unimportant, like I don’t matter. Growing up, I was al…
I (36/M) am feeling newly disconnected from my partner (35/F) because she works too much, is this normal? — Hey all, I'm 36 and my partner (35) and I have been together almost a year. I'm beginning to feel disconnected from her and I think part of the problem is that she overworks herself. She works fr…
40, divorced 3 years, but feel like I'll never find a partner again. What would you do if you were me? — Location: Hong Kong Age: 40 Status: divorced 3 years, no kids Money: net worth \~US$6M (no debt), few furniture stores and a rental property. High income but stress level is insane. I could retire…
How do I, 26F, get my husband, 25M, to realize talking to his family is the issue? — My husband and I have not been to together extremely long (2 years), we got married because he decided to join the military. My husband and I don't have any real issues in our relationship. Now onto …
My(F31) Fiancé(M30) made a post about his gaming addicted ex. Years down the line and he's doing the same to me. — Hi All, A year into my fiance and I dating, I found his Reddit account that had one post on [r/AskMen](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/) that had thousands of upvotes and hundreds of comments on it. …
I feel like I'm too much for for my best friend and I don’t know if I should step back or try to fix it (31F / 29F) — I’m trying to understand if this is an attachment mismatch or if I’m just… fundamentally too heavy for people. I’m 31, she’s 29, and we’ve known each other for over 10 years. She’s not a casual frien…
What should I do? — I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years. In the beginning, he was very affectionate, he gave me lots of compliments and had that look when he looked at me. Fast forward to now, he s…
What have I missed? — I left this reddit about a year ago because of a too busy schedule and strict circumstances But what in the actual is SSILD and TILT method? What new methods are out there and what big breakthrough ha…
My close friend for 7 months blocked me on everything — We met online and became really close. We’ve never met in person, but at the initial stage we did some dirty talking and stuff. Then we stopped because she couldn’t handle it. But we stayed friends an…
How do I (29F) tell my partner (29M) I don't want to go to the movies with him anymore? — My husband and I have been married for three years and together for 11. We have our lives set up for us, and we are both very busy with our jobs: we both work in an office. However, I am also pushing …
Astral Projecting in a Dream? — Years ago I attempted to astral project when I had been going through a dark time and wanted to experience something different. I was able to feel myself coming out of my body and it scared me so inte…
I (20M) broke up with my (20F) girlfriend and now regret it. How can I rebuild trust and potentially fix things? — So for context, me and my now ex (we'll call her Jessica) had been together for 10 months prior to the breakup. The relationship was going great until about 5 months in, when Jessica and her family mo…
Ringing in the 30s with.. trauma! — Hello everyone. This past week I turned 30. My partner and I drove to our home city so I could celebrate with my family. What it actually ended up being was a catalyst for the largest set of spirals I…
Ex dumped me 2 months ago, now posting sad stuff and blocked me after I posted a picture what does this mean? — So I’m kinda confused about my ex’s behavior and wanted some outside opinions. We broke up a little over 2 months ago. She was the one who ended things, not me. I respected it and didn’t chase or any…
Accusations and projections — Today my ex accused me of being too poor to pay our daughter's daycare bill, out of the blue. I am struggling financially right now, this is true. I did not bring this up and don't want to discuss thi…
paralyzed for hours — my nervous system is overwhelmed . i feel safe in my car, it feels maternal toward me. Like my mom. I go to the gym to escape. I also abuse my phone use weed for regulation, but my tolerance so high …
He's going to another college over 2,000 away and that's why I might have to end things. — I really don't want to and I dont really know if this is the right subreddit to post on since we're still together. We've (18F)(18M) known each other since freshman year and we've been dating almost 8…
He's going to another college over 2,000 away and that's why I might have to end things. — TL;DR: I really don't want to since we're still together. We've (18F)(18M) known each other since freshman year and we've been dating almost 8 months. Although 8 months doesn't sound that long, we've …
We met in the orphanage as children and got married years later. We made it big in life. But something is very wrong? 42F and 43M? — My husband was left in the trash, I was taken by CPS, both babies of under-age S- workers. I was 8, he was 9 when we met. We became inseparable, bf, giving each other affection. Two years later, they…
That’s how you see it though. Some people are different and do not have the capacity to consider that, especially if they had a stressful day. Normally I respond to my friends, but the other night aft…
Literally *anyone* with a job that keeps its people too busy.
This is interesting. A DA I was with didn't want to commit or name the relationship but seemed shocked that I started dating someone else. He was too busy chasing an ex that he refused to believe was …
Too busy making real money to spend time making YouTube videos about how they vibe coded their million dollar start up in 24 hours
I recognize this disorder because I suffer from it myself! :-) It's commonly known as controlfreakism. Don't worry, though. You can use it to your advantage. The good news is there's a way out. Much…
Most business owners I talk to are just overwhelmed by the nonstop AI hype and have no clue where to even start or which tool isn’t vaporware. Some are nervous about privacy, others just too busy to m…
Does anyone have experience with anxious-preoccupied attachment in the workplace? I have a colleague who I’ve always been fond of and enjoyed working with. Over the last few months, we’d been working…
The function of anxiety is letting you know that something is wrong. The thing about us anxiously attached folks is that our anxiety malfunctions when getting to know someone we like or when in a rela…
Okay so what I am seeing is that your work culture has become toxic. And her changing the status of the friendship was a breaking point or maybe just when it all came to a head and was brought more pa…
Am I (26M) being triggered by my anxious attachment with this guy I'm seeing (25M)? Hi everyone, I (26M) am struggling to separate reality from past trauma (a toxic avoidant ex) and need a rational a…
Lately I’ve been stuck in a pretty negative mindset stressed, frustrated, and not thinking clearly. I went back to Stoic journaling to get some stability, but most apps felt too busy or gamified. So I…
for me, it took about a year after my ex to feel good and alright about dating. I was still out there but i wasn't 100% in it yknow? I would be slow with my dating style and put my phone away. Right n…
weeellllll it kinda blew up in my face today. i dont think they can give me what i need anyway, they have a LOT going on right now, which, understandably would make them unavailable, but idk. i felt l…
> You'll find him. Do you genuinely think that if her picker is choosing these sorts of dudes? I'm not saying she can't pick healthy men, I just see the risk of her being distracted by a cheating li…
I think this an interesting and important distinction to make that the original OP probably won't even bother considering because she's too busy taking absolutely benign, normal behavior as a personal…
Feeling soooooo gay right now. Currently too busy to date but some big stuff finishes in a couple of months which means I can get back out there. Excited to explore this side of me!
I understand everyone needs a bit of "me" time to reset and catch a breathe. Trust me, being neurodivergent myself, I totally understand the need for this... But NO ONE is too busy for seven straight…
So, you have been too busy to message someone you went on dates with, but not too busy to meet someone else? You were just not very interested and ghosted them, I'm split between leave them alone, …
I ended up blocking a guy I was talking to for six months (and had known for years) because he finally hit me with the “I’m busy” and “going through something” excuses. I’m talking like several excuse…
Trust me, no one is going to care what you're doing at the gym, they're all too busy looking at their phones between sets
It depends on how busy I am. It's less likely to work out but not impossible. The most likely scenario is you'll just get rejected or ghosted when you ask which is good because it saves time. It's als…
Awww, you will be too busy to miss him! Hopefully you still get some outdoors time
I was seeing someone for a month and got 100% ghosted right before Valentine’s Day. 5th ghost in 18 months. Like, I text them, and they just don’t respond. It really hurts to be treated like trash. W…
I get really anxious when I'm dating someone. Fear of abandonment, hypervigilance, the works. It got to the point where I was exhausted by my own spiral loop — overanalyzing everything, reading into e…
Not sure if this is the *best* advice but if it were me, I'd search for clarity without being too intense. So I'd give her a little longer, then pop back in with a pretty explicit ask to see each othe…
Things peaked the last weekend of January. Several days after that, there was a very noticeable shift in engagement. Same thing happened back in November. This time she stayed very responsive to texts…
I have been in a very similar situation. On and off for years since 2019, whenever I was single. Turns out she spent most of her 20s cheating on her highschool sweetheart boyfriend. She started therap…
This is a huge post, and there is a way “to speak of the victory”. To get there. I’ll break it down in detail. It’s very, very important to go forward into the direction of hope and strength. That ca…
Yes. I was working 100+ hrs a week, lots of travel as a Dr, and he was a great dad and husband until I became very ill from Covid and then he changed. He became hateful, withdrawn, verbally abusive to…
I only give people 1 date a week for the first month; I’m too busy to be fitting in strangers in my life so this guy is already moving too fast for me. 😆 I wouldn’t be offended that he rescheduled. …
For that you should find your purpose something that consumes your mind completely, mediation will not help you, if you are a man you should do your best to make something out of it, build something t…
I usually find if someone is too busy to make time at some point in a month period, they just aren’t interested. I give people the benefit of the doubt if they are busy for a week or two and need to s…
I have my own standards. I communicate clearly, ask questions. I'm polite and respectful. I communicate my intentions clearly and if I like the convo I ask people on a date (why waste time, isn't that…
This is always the thing that amazes me. I have to just conclude that people are so wrapped up in themselves nowadays that they don't really listen to people. In my head I get a picture of someone sit…
I haven't seen anyone else mention this, but the time you spend with your date isn't constant. If you're actually looking for a LTR, you should on average be spending more time with the person the lon…
As someone who struggles with over monitoring myself to the point of not connecting with people because I’m judging what I just said, analysing their reaction, planning my next response and controllin…
Reminds me of someone I dated 2 years ago. Super talented doctor too so it was just incongruous in my mind who she was outside of our relationship. I tried to be understanding and wondered if it was …
I think that having the drive for growth and evolution is a very healthy one! I also think that sometimes with the mental landscape we have as people with complex trauma, it can cross over into unheal…
Thanks for your perspective! I'm just unsure whether I can allow myself to be comfortable in the silence until my trip, or if I need to actively "keep the connection alive" without seeming clingy…
I was in a super similar situation. My boyfriend wanted kids, but wanted a puppy first. We got a puppy. Except, *I* got a puppy because my bf lost his job (quit) a week before we picked up the puppy …
Dated on and all off last year with mutual expectations matching (relationship, marriage). I say on and off because it was tumultuous, said he was too busy to see me, bailed on plans sometimes without…
Is the EMI Loan in her name? I too come from an immigrant family, the great things about my family is that they will catch me, and have caught me, even when I became a crappy human during my teenage y…
He wouldn’t …. He’s too busy telling his new gf that while he’s inside of her 🙁
Oh, son. I am so sorry. When my son was doing much needed time on a mental hospital there was a boy there who was simply there b cause his parents were like yours, and he was gay. I thought then the…
Original copy of post by u/Thick-Screen-7228: I'm going to preface this that I am well aware we're all busy. We have jobs, might have kids, have other commitments, I get it. I fully understand that. …
Imo there are a lot of guys out there that are immature jerks. Some of them like to brag and exaggerate about their past and they can say the most hurtful things to the beautiful women that married th…
Hi OP. Similar history as your's. Except the affair was exposed our 7th year of marriage. At that time spouse said biggest regret was losing a great friendship. 🙄 no better way then to twist the kni…
This was a great read thank you. And I agree with you completely especially about the YouTube grifters like I remember listening to Nevilles lectures on YouTube a long time ago when law of assumption …
The responses to your prompts tell me absolutely nothing about you except the fact that I may not enjoy talking to you very much since you’re too busy listening to the voices in your head. Don’t ove…
I (43F) have been married to my avoidant husband (44M) for 14 years, and we have been best friends since we were 13. We share three biological children, and he has four other kids from his first marri…