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40, divorced 3 years, but feel like I'll never find a partner again. What would you do if you were me?

40, divorced 3 years, but feel like I'll never find a partner again. What would you do if you were me? — Location: Hong Kong Age: 40 Status: divorced 3 years, no kids Money: net worth \~US$6M (no debt), few furniture stores and a rental property. High income but stress level is insane. I could retire…

r/datingoverfortypost4/7/2026
I think my friendship with my best friend might be ending after her wedding and I don’t know how to handle it

I think my friendship with my best friend might be ending after her wedding and I don’t know how to handle it — I (29F) recently attended my best friend’s (29F) 10-day wedding, and what should’ve been a happy time has turned into something really confusing and honestly hurtful. We’ve been close for years (aro…

r/relationshipspost3/23/2026
Why don’t i want to improve myself

Why don’t i want to improve myself — A late night thought ik. But i realised I never had a specific goal in life. I was mentally bullied by my one of my seniors during high school but i continued putting up with her because i had “nowher…

r/selfhelppost3/29/2026
New relationship- cant tell if bf has different communication style or if its something else.

New relationship- cant tell if bf has different communication style or if its something else. — Hi y’all, I really need some outside insight. I’ve had a crush on this guy for a while. We went to school together for about 3 months, and after I graduated I moved to Arizona while he’s still in sch…

r/relationshipspost4/5/2026
Currently spiralling

Currently spiralling — Is this reason enough to leave my husband? I have been thinking about this since summer, this conversation has come up 3 times and he is in agreement so I’m pretty sure I am making the right choice …

r/Divorcepost4/6/2026
Trouble with AP/OBE, need insight

Trouble with AP/OBE, need insight — This may be a longer post so bare with me. <3 I have had a really hard time astral projecting / having an OBE. I thought it would come easily for me because i have always been “aware” or more in tune…

r/AstralProjectionpost4/6/2026
40, single, and have never been married. I feel like I'll never find a partner again. What would you do if you were me?

40, single, and have never been married. I feel like I'll never find a partner again. What would you do if you were me? — I’m 40, female, live in San Jose, CA. Never been married, no kids. Net worth around $5M. I own my own business, have a house I live in, a couple rental properties, and drive a Mercedes E300 nothing to…

r/relationshipspost4/7/2026
R ketamine or S Ketamine for CPTSD

R ketamine or S Ketamine for CPTSD — i can access both R and S ketamine and need to choose the right one for my therapeutic sessions. i live in a country where K is being studied but not yet provided by doctors outside of clinical studi…

r/Psychonautpost4/8/2026
What are most men like when they are upset? I (42F) am considering leaving my husband (46M) over how he acts when upset.

What are most men like when they are upset? I (42F) am considering leaving my husband (46M) over how he acts when upset. — TL;DR: how do upset/angry men really talk to their wives ‘behind closed doors’ and how often are they upset at their wives? Hi all, I’m in a very unhappy marriage. I (42F) my spouse (46M). Married 12…

r/relationship_advicepost4/9/2026
I think I experienced my end state in a dream

I think I experienced my end state in a dream — I had a dream about a week ago that I still can’t shake and it genuinely felt like I experienced the end state of my manifestation. For context I have been manifesting my SP for a few months and afte…

r/Manifestationpost4/12/2026
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

I'm also a recovering FA and I recently realized a few REALLY important things that are actually really simple. Figure out your boundaries and enforce them from a calm place. Our anxiety builds in our…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/24/2025
Haha being an FA is fucking weird

Pretty sure I was an FA (schizophrenic dad, sadistic mom who wanted to abort me—I took care of the family’s emotional needs, disregarded my own). I was still confused/hurting 2+ years post no contact…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/23/2025
Haha being an FA is fucking weird

I feel like this might be a bad advice for someone leaning more avoidant than you because simply other person being secure does not work in vast majority of cases. It’s not that FA’s partner making th…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/7/2025
I despise myself for having avoidant tendencies.

Making a longer comment to OP in your reply because I want to dive deeper into this: >Not being into someone =/= avoidance. Youre correct in this, however avoidance does make it harder to judge if y…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/30/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

I'm feeling some shame for staying in an on again off again situationship for a year (me AA, him FA). I've worked a lot on myself during this time, understanding how I was showing up in the relations…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/6/2025
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Hitting 4 months with my boyfriend on Saturday. Big deal for him since he hasn't had a relationship over 3 months previously. Things are going really well. I was struggling a little at first with th…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/5/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Are you me lol? I kept experiencing option 2 the past 5 years, and it got really annoying, so I started having conversations earlier on about what they were looking for. I did it one last time in 2024…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/9/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

M34. 2 months ago I met someone and we had one of those fiery, natural connections. One of those effortless, natural connections where two folks just look like they belong to there. He talked so much …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/15/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Jeeez yeah the moment I was talking about it was pure foot in mouth/oversharing/over explaining and for a moment she was staring at me like 😐 and I had to stop myself. Biggest face palm moment and…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/17/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 23, 2026

Ufff so depressing. I’ve set my age limit to 12 years older than me in the hopes an older guy might be more serious. Instead I’m just getting these old men trying to convince me to be fwb…. At least t…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/24/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 02, 2026

This is something that can vary a lot depending on the people and circumstances. I've always let men pay for dates and anything out and about, but once things start progressing with someone I like spe…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/2/2026
The Shift at Age 30: Did you feel a stronger connection to your Ascendant or your Sun sign as you got older?

just finished my Saturn return in Pisces (Pisces rising, moon and Saturn in 1st house). Since I have 1st house Pisces, I for sure can tell I felt more like a Virgo( serious, perfectionist, overthin…

r/astrologycomment3/4/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 06, 2026

This is really exciting. If you’re comfortable with it, I’d just go with the flow and see where the evening takes you! I hope you have a ton of fun if you go!

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/7/2026
Female banter

It work well I believe. It gives us two different directions to talk, and it starts us off with at least 1 common thing to talk about. As for the last half, it may be redundant but i think it show…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/7/2026
Are Asian men at a disadvantage in dating in the US?

Big lesson I can say is to also read the room and go with the flow of that. Looks do play a part, but definitely the more subtle cues will do a LOT. Things like how you're dressed does definitely pl…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/9/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 11, 2026

I've met someone and I found him really interesting. I think he just wants to hook up. I would be fine with that, but I actually found him really really interesting to talk to. He is younger and gorge…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/11/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 11, 2026

It sounds like you're open to both real and casual, and in that case just go with the flow! Bring it up when you feel comfortable and remind yourself you were okay with either direction, but it sound…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/11/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 11, 2026

A lot of it's coming from me honestly. She's always been a low level texter, even as friends, but now the stakes (in my head) have been raised, I'm looking to find negatives. Just need to go with the …

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/12/2026
I’m so frustrated!!!!

I will never get the "looking for something serious" attitude. It's like ruling out a lot of possibilities, putting the cart in front of the horses, avoiding to live the moment, putting pressure on t…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
Is suffering required to create the reality we desire?

Don't try so hard. Put that good energy into it, but if you keep insisting on what the outcome should be, you'll always encounter friction. Focus on abundance, but not necessarily what form of abundan…

r/experiencerscomment3/13/2026
I NEED to shift

The Tarot reading is reflecting your fears. Face those fears, feel them, accept they are so, and let them go. Real here is whatever reality you are in. When you shift, you choose what is real there. …

r/realityshiftingcomment3/14/2026
Started gateway this week. I’m confused

Don't have any goals, other than to do the tapes and just see what happens. Your remembered experiences will be what your greater self deems beneficial. Just go with the flow. Reading books by Rober…

r/gatewaytapescomment3/14/2026
"No one is coming to save you" Yeah, I know, because I saved myself.

This is so amazing to hear! I'm glad I was able to help. That rest was much deserved, I can tell.  I know what you mean. Sometimes it feels like the world stops when you do, but it keeps turning. It…

r/CPTSDcomment3/15/2026
Which hairstyle and haircut would you recommend ?

Contrary to the other comment I would advise keeping it medium or more with maybe a trendier longer style as longer and/or curlier hair goes better with softer features, which is what you have. Short…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/15/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 16, 2026

How do you "go with the flow" if your boundaries and needs are ignored? Just leave?

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/17/2026
r/datingoverthirtycomment3/17/2026
I was the husband who didn't do enough. Sharing my perspective

Holy fuck. I’m a SAHM/housewife so I typically take care of literally everything and he goes to work. We both like yard work (like being outside) so we fight over who “gets” to do it lol but if he f…

r/Divorcecomment3/18/2026
THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think)

Sooo for me typically when we "focus on a dr" most think we mean the reality itself, like the environment, where we get up, etc. If you have a clear version of what you want, strong confidence, and fe…

r/realityshiftingcomment3/18/2026
Dating in your 40s changed what I look for - and not in the way I expected

It's completely true, the things i thought at first are irrelevant to me right now. I guess we just have to try harder and go with the flow i guess, But i do believe that a good partner is always out …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/18/2026
Does the intellectual chemistry ever get better?

Yes to judgmental and sulky too. It seems like they’re good at hiding it behind “calm and go with the flow” but it turns out to be avoidant, judgmental, and only about convenience. Only willing to par…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/18/2026
Does the intellectual chemistry ever get better?

He is definitely calm and go with the flow, but I wouldn’t call him judgmental or sulky. He is very good at contributing to the partnership in every other way. He’d actually be very easy to cohabitate…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/18/2026
Trying not to get too ahead of myself with new partner

Fuck yeah! Enjoy the shit out of that! Go with the flow. Keep your eyes open, but let yourself be free!

r/datingoverfortycomment3/19/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 21, 2026

I just had the worst date of my life. It was an hour out of town but I figured why not. The whole night she was argumentative for no reason. An example would be: Her: "The sky is blue" Me: "Yea t…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/22/2026
Does anyone secretly hope for the “we reconnect years later” ending with an ex?

Yes, it’s been half a year and I still imagine a future where we finally work it out again. I won’t wait for them, and I know they probably won’t wait for me either. It’s best to just go with the flow…

r/BreakUpscomment3/24/2026
Do you set "intentions"?

I'm the same. Go with the flow of it. When I first started using dmt I was really struggling mentally so a few times I set an intention or asked a question beforehand but also remained open to whateve…

r/Psychonautcomment3/24/2026
Thinking More and More About Just *How* Boring They Were

>because I guess it's a grass is always greener type thing, Feel that. In the end, both parent-types are still grown from the same ground. As in. "Boring" people come from a "go with the flow" backgr…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/24/2026
advice on how to be more playful while chatting on the apps?

One thing that’s good about Bumble is that you can do voice and video calls through that app. For other apps, I’d just go with the flow of the conversation but honestly some guys (like me) appreciate …

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/26/2026
First time on LSD with husband

Usually its best not to plan anything and just go with the flow, make sure you got things nearby like comfy blankets and water, maybe some pads to draw on or something. One of things acid does is make…

r/Psychonautcomment3/27/2026
Dating a young woman with an auto-immune disease

Regardless, it's still her best life. Diabetes is autoimmune, PCOS is autoimmune, my mom had lupus (like Selena Gomez) and RA... a lot of people have ai diseases it's not his to prejudge, just go wi…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/30/2026
Can you go back to a relationship after they cheated?

Here’s my story as someone who took back a cheater: Taking him back was not an easy decision, and there were a lot of ultimatums in place before I would even consider taking him back. I set expectatio…

r/BreakUpscomment3/30/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 29, 2026

Thanks for reposting. I think once. I've had a few relationships. Definitely have felt infatuation with some of them. Or wanted to be in love, but he kept doing things that made me feel like I wasn't…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/30/2026
I (m31) had my first real argument with my husband (m32) about children over the weekend and I dont know where it leaves us?

I think he truly believes that with his own kids he'll step up to it. We will have to go through a lot of steps to adopt and I'm not sure if I go with the flow and allow the professionals to point ou…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Do men think nipple piercings are trashy? I’m 31 W he is he’s 36 M.

Oh boy. Based upon my life experience, your nipple piercings probably just saved you a whole lot of headaches. Find someone who has the same values and preferences as you, or who can at least go wit…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Update: my husband (33M) wants me (33F) to dress more revealing

You went out of your way to make his desires unreasonable. He's unhappy but you seem content with the way things are, maybe you're hoping he'll just shut up and go with the flow. A relationship is giv…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Do I need a social life/ anchor prior to starting the tapes so I’m grounded?

Introvert here🙋‍♂️ My experience, YMMV, but I have found that my social anxiety started to dial down after…two months maybe? Not gone but enough difference that while I still may have some anxiety at…

r/gatewaytapescomment3/31/2026
First first date in 28 years...

I would say, initial introduction depends on the other person, prio-communication, and your comfort level. I’ve had first dates where we hugged instantly (more initial attraction from my side), other …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/31/2026
music and shifting

I'm super happy for you!!! Did you use a specific method, or did you just go with the flow?

r/realityshiftingcomment3/31/2026
Do you end or cancel dates early?

For me, the main time investment is the chatting, coordination, getting ready and driving/parking time, which is all a sunk cost at that point. So no, I don’t worry about spending 45 minutes talking t…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/31/2026
Is this claim about psychedelics and psychosis accurate? (From How to Change Your Mind)

It is a cya, gotta put it in there, sort of thing. Does it happen? Yes. Does almost everyone have someones in their family with mental illness? I mean, it sure seems that way sometimes. Do you tr…

r/Psychonautcomment3/31/2026
I 32M got asked out by 21F

Why embarrass her with no. Just go with the flow and let life take hold. Sorry not sorry, but your 30 something is really more like teenage idiot something.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/31/2026