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So what do I do about this date...? — Scheduled for 9:00 pm EST tonight, so this is a real-time survey! M/54. Finalized details for the date yesterday via the app. Later that evening, I jumped on the app to send a follow-up message with …
Matching drop shadows across CSS, Android, iOS, Figma, and Sketch — I’ve known for ages that shadows didn’t match, so I decided to do lots of research and find out how to get them to match. I wrote the article. Feel free to AMA. :D
Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches — I've never been in a relationship but I've been working on myself a lot and trying to put myself out there to find love. And I've just noticed a pattern of mine. But I just keep losing interest or ge…
Is there a better way to create posts that actually match your brand? — As a solo builder, I’ve been working on a small idea I think might be useful — especially for startups and B2B teams trying to stay consistent with branded content on instagram. The problem: Creatin…
How to handle versioning in Figma? — I joined a project where the figma doesn’t match what is in the field for a mobile application. The project wants to re-baseline the app to what is in the field and keep up to date in the future. F…
What to Say When You’re Not the Cheapest Option (And Someone Pushes Back on Price) — I will not promote. This is a best practice I've found in my own works.So, you’re having a great conversation with a potential client and then you get hit with that line: “I know someone who can do it…
Research -- What makes you hire a copywriter? — Hey everyone, I'm doing some market research and would really appreciate any input you have. Also, this isn't a promo post or anything of the sort, just me diving into the market. First off, a bit ab…
I designed an AI-powered path planner, but users lean toward heavy learning goals — need help rethinking the UX direction — Hi UXer! I’m a solo founder & designer, currently building a lightweight learning platform that uses AI to generate custom learning paths and micro flashcards. I designed it to support curious, self-…
Google Search Console issue — I’m seeing thousands of 404s, soft 404s, and 'Crawled - currently not indexed' pages in GSC. These URLs don’t exist on our site anymore — they’re from a previous owner and don’t even match our niche o…
Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …
Client has disappeared from map pack for target keyword ("More Results" button missing, only top 3 displayed) — ISSUE: I have a high profile client, with a competitive brand, authoritative website & highly optimized GBP, of which they have dozens of real locations, including this one. I have been working with t…
Duplicate Websites: One Ranks, One Tanks — I own two small‑town dental practices and spun up two nearly identical websites for them. Same structure, images, and copy, just different color schemes and logos. The site for Practice A ranks nicely…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…
Shopify staff: Please let me handle shipping by item instead of weight. I shouldn’t need an app for that… — Just let me do it like every other service on earth… it’s so simple on google merchant center etc. Doing something simple like offering free shipping for 2 or more items is such an exercise in frustr…
How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search — **What It Does** This is an internal tool I’ve been building to help with UK property prospecting, market research, and deal due diligence. If you've ever tried to buy or invest in property in the U…
Need Help Integrating Custom OpenAI Assistant in WordPress Chatbot — Hello, Reddit! I’m working on integrating a custom-built OpenAI assistant into a WordPress site and could really use some help. The chatbot is supposed to interact with users, respond to questions, a…
Upload 1000 images with excel the same title at once in a single post. — I’m building a website where I’ll be uploading 1,000 named images. I want to automate the process of creating posts such that: • The post title matches the image name • The featured image is automat…
Can I legally register a P2P fund-matching app (not handling money)?( I will not Promote). — Hey founders, I’m working on a startup that helps users abroad (e.g., Nepali students in the US, UK, etc.) connect with others who want to exchange funds in opposite directions locally. The app doesn…
Getting SaaS app rolling — Hey guys, So after about 1 yrs and a 1/2 I am finished building my first SaaS and a high level MVP done. Also my first round funding is secured. Now to be clear, I have done marketing, gathering pro…
I'm building a Figma UI Kit generator that match your brand — I'm building a tool that will generate a custom UI kit for Figma file (along a couple of components to start), which will allow you to build apps that don't look like the other apps Thoughts?
ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…
SaaS Site with 11k Visits – Meta Audience Still “Below 1,000” — **Hey everyone!** I'm struggling to understand why my website remarketing audience on Meta Ads isn't populating correctly, and I'd love your input. **Context:** I manage paid media for a SaaS clie…
"Mastering Content Creation with Real-Time Optimization, Competitor Analysis, and Smart Editing Tools" — Content is still king—but not just any content. Today, high-ranking content is the result of a strategic balance between creativity and data-driven precision. To climb the search engine results pages …
I have become obsessed with finding someone. — After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 months, I have become obsessed with finding …
For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? — For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? I began therapy 4 months into our situationship because of how strong he came on,…
APs what would you want to hear in response if someone doesn’t feel the same as you? — So I’ve been noticing the way a few friends reach out, feels mismatched with how I’m feeling. Usually this is my more anxiously attached friends/most unhealed ones. Often it will be something sugary…
For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…
contemplating root of avoidance — I have been considering why some of my relationships work while others make me disconnect. I think the root is a desire to feel deeply understood and seen. I recently had a connection with someone I…
Curious about “episodic engagement” — anyone relate? — Hi everyone, I recently learned about this idea called “Episodic Engagement” in avoidant attachment, and it blew my mind. I discovered this after running some thoughts by ChatGPT, and this is the gis…
I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …
Help me understand what happened here after around 2 months of dating and talking with someone I knew from 7 years ago — Hey all, I need some perspective on this to help me process. I'm 33M. I met this girl (30F) about 7 years ago when we were both working at a bar. We always got on really well and hooked up one ni…
Do zodiac compatibility charts actually work in real relationships? — I have been curious about zodiac compatibility charts and how muchthey matterin real relationships. Many astrology sites talk about certain signs being perfect matches while othersare challenging. Fo…
Dating as someone between cultures — Hi, just a thought I had with regards to non locals living in a different country: what has been your experience trying to date someone local? I personally have found it incredibly difficult as some…
Talking on the apps, nothing bad happens but you're no longer interested. What do you do? — Let's say you're chatting, and something they say indicates that they aren't what youre looking for. Let's say it's a minor issue, like music tastes or not reading... something that's not worth blocki…
Is matchmaking before marriage really important? — So my boyfriend and i decided to improve our relationship status aka get married. But our matchmaking point is only 13. Is it really important? Or i am just overthinking? Is there anyone who got marr…
Female banter — noticing a double standard trend. I match. bumble so woman reaches out first. “how is your day going” or “hi.” what I’m noticing is that if I match their vanilla, they go dark pretty quick. if I …
Growing my inner child feels like murdering my soul — So now my relationships,my desires in life,wants ,needs basically evolve around the little guy in me.And if I were to give up on them and tell him that its not a dream or a game anymore,we are adult n…
Are these early signs of narcissism? — So I met this guy on Hinge a couple of weeks ago. We do know some random people in common. Here are the signs that I find strange: \- He’s absolutely grandiose - have a ton of projects, ideas, storie…
You can reality shift just by washing your hands — Hey everyone, I’ve been obsessed with this idea lately and I can’t stop thinking about it: what if the simple act of washing your hands, when you actually slow down and get fully present with it, bec…
A Different Way to Look at Manifestation — Something I realized about manifestation that nobody really explains for a long time I thought manifestation was basically about “asking the universe” for things. You visualize, you affirm, you try t…
Keeping the conversation afloat — The most difficult part I've found in OLD as a recently divorced, early 40s male is that many of the women I meet are terrible conversationalists. The most engaging and exciting exchanges have a rhyth…
What are the most infuriating sentences your ex has said to you during or after the breakup? — For me it would be : "I have no hatred or resentment, and I don’t regret the year we spent together." Cool. I’m glad it was such a pleasant memory for you. Personally I was still trying to process ho…
You've Tried Manifesting Them Back Multiple Times - Here's Why It's Not Working — **"I've manifested my SP back multiple times but it never works. Now it just feels draining."** **You're not failing at manifestation.** **You're failing at creating coherent field states.** And th…
Why do I not resonate at all with my ascendant sign? — Hi! I’m a Scorpio rising and tbh I don’t think I have ever once come off as a Scorpio in my life regarding the whole “dark and mysterious” vibe I’ve always heard when talking about Scorpio risings. I …
Update to my previous post. Tis not a good one. — [https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before\_i\_43m\_delete\_her\_44f\_number\_and\_move/](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before_i_43m_delete_her_44f_n…
Differentiating deactivation vs genuine incompatibility — I (30F) have been dating my current partner (28M) for nine months. We spent a lot of the relationship long distance (everything except the first month) and my partner is now moving to the state I live…
Men having rigid body type preferences — I'm (45f) 5'8", thin. Not underweight, but a thin person with largish tatas of Scandinavian descent. I matched with a man on an app and went on a date, where he told me that his ideal type is a pet…
Why do people not read dating profiles? — Just as the title suggests. If you are on an online dating site it seems obvious that reading profiles would be a big part of it? But apparently lots of people...don't do that? But why? It just seems …
I’m proud of you! You deserve so much better and much more than he could ever give you. The more time you would’ve wasted on him, the less time you’d have with a person who you’re better matched with …
That sounds like an etheric projection into the etheric plane if you had walked outside of the house you would have been on the astral plane a lot confuse etheric projection for a false awakening beca…
I would say about 8 months. I don't have a definite answer I was ghosted so had to figure it myself. However we matched in January/February 2019. Met in March of that year and saw him last in Septembe…
Let me tell you about the first experience I had with the LOB. Back then I only knew about Neville and read a few lectures here and there. In my 2nd year of University, in one of my exams, I did not …
That was an instant example I was giving as of today. Well, on bigger stuff: getting into Harvard with shit gmat scores on a full ride scholarship (miraculously some rich dude donated to the school, a…
1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…
It’s about specifics. It has to match. Intentional manifesting.
For me a big part *is* (cause I’m still working on it)… not fearing losing myself in an attachment. Being able to establish clear boundaries early on, and keep to them even if I lose the other person…
I almost commented on this earlier in the week because I was dating someone who made me feel the same way but I’ve since ended things and I’m pretty sure what you’re feeling is a sign of incompatibili…
Just read the replies and imo there's nothing wrong with asking. It's great that you did. My opinion is that if I'd only had one date with somebody and they text me saying "good morning handsome" I'd…
Ah sorry to hear that bud but glad you got clarity. I've had a few situationships like that and there's not one part of me that thinks it's best to do anything but get the heck out of dodge when someb…
only after the breakup did i realise what was going on in my DA exes head when he started crashing out, and this matches him so well wow i imagine this is how he thought of our relationship
By ‘phantom ex,’ I mean that the most recent crush is serving as an idealized image of someone they can never have, which makes it easier to compare others to this unrealistic standard. It’s common in…
God, I relate to this SO much. Meeting people in person leads to me idealizing that person but anytime I match with someone online, I get the ick and ghost (not proud of it but that's the truth). Do …
This is the poor man’s version. For deploys, trigger your GH Action pipeline on what ever event that matches your branching or tagging strategy. That action would build/push a docker image or build an…
My 5cents, as a person that’s been interviewing candidates for several years (almost 10 at same company, seen it grow from 100 employees to 2k+, interviewed QAs, SETs, Devs, DevOps and SREs). I’m sor…
Hey, [OpsLevel](https://www.opslevel.com) CTO here. We have a ton of respect for what the Backstage community has accomplished. It's impressive how they've expanded the IDP space and created a vibra…
Well to be fair, even tech-savvy adults get tripped up by email. That’s why the whole idea is to skip the complexity. Just open the app, swipe through clear photos with short descriptions, and if ther…
If you still can, DON'T use branch per environment approach. Instead allow devs to merge feature branches at their convenience to main branch, then build properly versioned artifacts. And then trigg…
Matchmaking platforms are tough early on since they rely so much on user activity. One thing that helps is starting with a small niche where you can really deliver value. Also AI can make the platform…
This is a great question and I could totally dive into this. But I was just thinking, I host a podcast about attachment styles and if you want to really dive into this with an attachment focused coach…
I would put money on him being a FA because a DA wouldn’t be so emotionally vulnerable and forthright by expressing his feelings upfront without any prompting in a new relationship. A DA is not in tou…
Agreed, a therapist is incredibly helpful. Appreciate your reply. I’ll check out those resources. Thank you. Hope you find your forever match soon!
I actually understand this OP. For me it's to do with them being so so wild. Like no context. I just want to meet people as if time and space put us together. We liked the same bar. Whatever. I don't …
Honestly, yours is the best comment here. Online pop psychology has REALLY distorted what secure attachment is. To some, it’s some sort of stoic perfection where your actions must always match their i…
Wow, I was today days old when I discovered I'm a DA, lol. I did some reading on this and I can't believe how close this matches my life. 🤯.
Some of these comments are saying silly (and heteronormative) things like "weird around children" or "checks out other women when they think you're not looking". Obvious reminder that being uncomforta…
According to my group counseling geared mainly towards avoidant attachment styles I fall into more anxious as a FA. But it's a FA that falls more avoidant that my anxious side is triggered. I was rela…
By not chasing and instead matching their pace. Absolutely reply when they text you, and match the energy if you can. Ideally you’d want to be perceived as safe, so when they text you should be detach…
I think such feelings are residue of attachment behavior mismatching + bad luck
> Better yet, many are up front and say they don’t want anything serious/don’t want a relationship. This isn't even an AT comment specifically, but imo ignoring people when they say this is just a re…
>pursuing people who have communicated they're not offering what you're after is a great way to not get what you're after. >I spoke to an AP woman about this on a thread elsewhere and she said that i…
Respectful of social boundaries doesn’t automatically mean fake. I used to “overshare” very early on in relationships as a way to create intimacy way too early (as a fearful avoidant). It sounds like…
Anxious and avoidant can be a really beautiful match if BOTH people are willing to work on being more secure together. If she knows about AT, she may know she’s avoidant and want to work on it.
I bring this stuff up of because I don't want to waste my time or someone elses. If our goals don't match I'm gonna move on
I'm not gonna lie its a massive red flag that I wasn't able to secure a date with her until I was fully ready to walk away. I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt because she is stressed over work. I…
From my perspective she wasn't matching my energy and entertaining the efforts of another guy while I was close by despite us being In dating zone, so I think with the information I had made actions a…
I honestly thought the same thing, but on our date, our goals seemed to match up. When she relaxed she told me about her struggles at work were so bad she's been thinking about switching careers. For …
This is your second tell that she is not secure and swing avoidant. Secured people have self-regulation techniques, are attuned to their bodies, and have habits for off-time to be with people or to c…
Ghosting is one of the most mind-fucking and cruel things you could do to someone. If the apology isn't matching the crime, don't bother. And his tone is giving "sorry i burnt down ur house hehe" like…
So the FA I dated for over 3 years sent me an almost identical message like clockwork everytime he would discard me(usually took 1-2 months after no contact) I didn’t know what attachment styles were,…
Im sort of thinking of sending a similar message to someone. How to make this more concrete without sounding desperate or clingy? We stopped talking several months ago, he ignored my casual massage fe…
Yeah, I think this is definitely one of the challenges of healing. The vast majority of people are simply not that self aware about this sort of thing because these psychological concepts aren't that…
That’s not what I’m saying at all since I don’t think there is a thing such as “fully healed”. Neither my bf or I would consider ourselves healed but I would say “unless they’re aiming to give you th…
Yeah i think her nervous system needs to calm down for now and reset. I think she will run faster too. If that gives you a peace of mind then do it, but definitely don’t do it if you just want to get …
I’m just lost at what to do because she hasn’t really said anything and her actions and words don’t match. She said she wanted to talk as well but that doesn’t seem to be the case anymore. So at bes…
People who are securely attached are often more than their attachment style because their behavior isn’t constantly filtered through anxiety or emotional defense mechanisms. They’re not performing saf…
Well first, I made a point to say words vs actions is nuanced but that this situation didn't seem like one where you needed to try to figure anything out because the words and actions matched, when yo…
Your post is a month old with 251~ comments. my reply is probably going to go into the wind. I'm gay so I can't really comment on dating women but I also feel avoidants is super common in the dating p…
Do you recommend any insightful books or workbooks with exercises to start for CPTSD while I find a good therapist match?