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Avoidant advice needed. I '28f' am worried my partner '29f' is distancing away — To start, we have lived together for 5-6 years and I believe my partner has an avoidant attachment style whilst I am anxious, although I have learnt and am learning to regulate it. Currently my partn…
Why you should always schedule your job interviews in the early morning. — I got reminded today of a very important tip when you're setting up interviews. \>> Do not set up job interviews at the end of the work day. In short, there have been studies done on judges that sho…
How to get companies to even VIEW my portfolio. — I have 6 years experience as a UX/UI designer, 2 of those years were at an agency and the most recent 4 are at a pretty big company. I have recently been applying to jobs with my most recent work and …
Dreaming of Full Time Freelance Consulting in SaaS B2B (I will not promote) — Hi r/startups, I’m in the process of developing a consulting service designed specifically for startups, from Pre-Seed all the way to Series B. The idea is to offer a practical, hands-on partner for …
Thoughts on an image sharing tool with link permissions? (i will not promote) — **Looking for feedback: Tool for sharing images securely with permissioned domains (like DocSend, but mainly for images)** Hey r/startups, I’m working on validating an idea and would love your thoug…
using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…
How to approach colleagues ‘improving’ my copy with unedited Chat GPT? — Hi all, I’m a new and junior member of a very small team, we are overstretched and have far too much on the go at any given time, which inevitably leads to shortcuts being taken. I’m no stranger t…
Site Reliability Engineering Internship at S&P Global — Hey guys, I have an interview for Site Reliability Engineering internship at S&P Global. What should I expect? Has anyone ever interviewed for this role? Also what kind of Questions did you get? Again…
After raising for 7 startups, my pitch decks have fallen into three categories (I will not promote) — Over the years, I've raised funding for 7 startups. I've also raised for startup funds and stare at a hundred pitch decks a month. Based on the patterns, I've realized my pitch decks have fallen into …
Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over — Hi everyone, this is my first post here and I’m writing because I’ve exhausted every other option. And I am FUCKING DONE WITH IT. I hope some of you will see this and help me to hold that person accou…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
We Interviewed Our Friends Annika & Tristan, And They Gave A Great Oak Impression For His Gracious Welcome To The Experiencer Community! — **\[UPDATE: March 21\]** Thank you all for the support for Annika & Tristan in your responses! Several asked for more from them—**Part 2 is now live!**: [https://youtu.be/OMVygk\_FrtI](https://youtu…
Need help with purpose — Hello everyone, Right now I am in a mentally rough spot. The short story is that I didn’t get a job I had been working towards for the first couple years of my time at uni. I made it to the final rou…
Manifested a $32K scholarship with accidental SATS!!! — Hi all :) I have a pretty amazing success story that I’d love to share, and I hope it may motivate some of you in your manifestation journeys 😊 Basically, I accidentally manifested a $32,000 scholar…
My parents raised me to just serve people — I'm 22(F) and have moved away from my parents place but might have to go back because it has become too expensive to live alone and my parents bought a bigger house so it would all work out for me if …
I was the husband who didn't do enough. Sharing my perspective — It wasn’t a single explosion but a slow grind between two people who couldn’t agree on what a "good life" looked like. For a long time, I was admittedly the husband who didn’t pull his weight, a chara…
[Update] My (24F) Husband (23M) Faked Fainting After I Gave Birth — It’s been almost a year, so I thought I’d give an update in case anyone is wondering. First, I want to thank everyone who took the time to comment, message me, or simply read and reflect on the post.…
I was wrong (manifested money, skill, and tickets)💀 — This is so crazy. A while ago, I was asking for help here and expressing my frustration that nothing was working for a situation i wanted to change and i was not manifesting anything. I think the mods…
My little sister's best friend confessed to me — e\*\*TL;DR; : My little sister's best friend confessed to me and I don't want to hurt her feelings\*\*. I (21M) was visiting my parents when my sister and her best friend (18F) pulled me aside and po…
My boyfriend (M25) saw an old video of me(F24) and was disgusted. How can I get over this? — I never thought I’d be making an advice post on reddit, but everyone in my present life is super split on the issue and can’t really relate. I genuinely don’t know how to fix this. So my boyfriend (M…
The western treatment of Korea's feminism in hindsight. — A Korean feminist's post that I encountered on twitter made a good analogy. If a group labels itself a disability rights or working class organization, it doesn't tell you about their full political l…
How to stop thinking about my ex? — My ex and I broke up about 7 month ago. We were together for 4 years. I broke up with him and I stand by that decision/don’t want him back. We were very different. He was nice to me, but he was not a…
Let it go — It was the moment I surrendered the outcomes and realized surrendering control is an active task, is when the tide started turning. I noticed there was tension at my current work , for the last mont…
Why he manipulated me for a week and then dumped me? — He is the one that dumped me saying he cannot forgive me talking to my ex during the beginning of our relationship(that relationship was toxic and left me with a lot of trauma). He already knew about …
Why It's Critical You Work On Yourself - For Yourself - After a Breakup — Hey all. So - it happened. After eight months and seven of no contact, I ran into my ex in person. As a reminder, I ended things with my ex after a year and a half or so because we could not co-regu…
Why do things happen when you give up? — I've definitely manifested things in the past but I feel like things that I've really wanted take longer to happen. It took me a year to get my grad job and I was constantly telling myself it was goin…
It feels clear that everything I’ve worked toward and desire in life is unattainable — Background: 28M, orphan due to losing both my parents to Cancer in high school. I’ve been single since high school, and I’ve have had a decent bit of professional success. Since I was a kid only thi…
Re edit: what do I do how dumb am I — \*Original post taken down I think I was too detailed, I’m really sorry🤦🏽♂️\* 21M struggling after breakup with 21F (6-year on/off relationship) – feel like a lot happened but I still want her bac…
Manifesting an Apartment — Hi, hello! 💕 I’m usually not somebody who posts here but I need some advice on how to manifest and apartment. So basically, I’ve started actively scripting for an apartment that fits my budget in dec…
How do I better control my frustrated reactions? — Ask anyone who knows me and they'll tell you I'm a positive person. Cheerful, fun, love to laugh and empathetic. But my attitude has slowly shifted. A year ago I got laid off from a job I loved.. fo…
My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…
I successfully manifested my celebrity crush, but now something went wrong — Hey everyone 🥹 I already have experience with manifestation, and so far I’ve always gotten what I wanted. There’s this band I have loved all my life, and a few days ago I saw them live and actually…
How do I stop outsourcing my selfworth to strangers? I’m struggling with a validation addiction. — I’m a full time student with a very demanding schedule and I’m in a long distance relationship with my bf. Most of the time, I am disciplined and focused on my goals but I’ve realized I have a serious…
My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…
Trying to process the severity of my mothers actions — I’m 37 weeks pregnant and I genuinely think I’m done with my mother, and I should have been years ago. We haven’t spoken in months, basically since she left my apartment. Before that, she stayed with…
Husband (28M) wants to cut off lifelong friend (28m) after he made AI porn of me (28F) How do we move forward? — My husband has been best friends with this guy since childhood, they grew up down the street from each other. I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, and I’ve known this friend the entire time. A few …
Met this guy last weekend and he thinks I was being immature 23F 28M — So I met this guy last weekend he’s 28M and I’m 23F. I want to mention I did feel like he was a bit uncomfortable with the age gap but he still pursued. Fast forward to Tuesday night we were on FT. Wh…
I’m re-explaining my situation after everyone on this subreddit said I was the shittiest person alive — Hi everyone I know this is super long but please read all of it. So yesterday I posted this: “I need honest opinions because I’m really conflicted and don’t know if I crossed a line or if this break…
Ex burner account, how do you know it? — I’ve noticed my ig stories get viewed from a strange profile - no profile picture, no followers, no followed accounts. When I started to track back when did I notice this, I realized I’ve only seen i…
how come (certain) people react aggressively to suicide, and suicidal thoughts? — I started thinking about suicide when I was 12. I'm 21 now. One of the first things I heard was that I was being "selfish" and "stupid". My grandmother was dying back in 2016, her brother found out ab…
A Stanford professor published peer-reviewed research showing human intention can change the pH of water from 2000 miles away — In the late 1990s, William Tiller, a professor of materials science and engineering at Stanford University, designed an experiment that sounds like it belongs in science fiction. He had four experi…
Do you really go permanent no contact after a huge LTR? Is that really common? I’m struggling recently with it all… — I’m a 21yo dude, was with my ex (22f) for about 4.5 years on-off too for all of college. She was my first in literally everything. I worked really hard, got myself a great job after college, etc, larg…
Will my ex ever reach out? — Hello all!! My ex and I have been broken up for about a month now. When he ended things, he said it was all him and I deserved better. He blocked me on all my Instagram accounts,(I have 3. A public, …
I’m not sure if my friend is mad at me [24F] [25M] — I have this friend who I have feelings for and she knows I do. We’re pretty close but recently she asked me something that was kinda weird. She asked me about if she was dying and I had to choose her…
How to determine if your spouse is likely to be younger than you.(An important astrological analysis.) — In astrology the birth chart often highlights patterns that deviate from what is socially considered “normal.” For men marrying a younger spouse is quite common so the chart usually does not emphasize…
How to determine if your spouse is likely to be younger than you.(An important astrological analysis.) — In astrology the birth chart often highlights patterns that deviate from what is socially considered “normal.” For men marrying a younger spouse is quite common so the chart usually does not emphasize…
I'm in a love marriage and am facing a separation phase more than an year now. — I'll be honest, coming from an anonymous account feels much safer than being direct about it as I've seen people to just hunt for justifications which prove their side of the story even if it is an ut…
My (30M) girlfriend (29F) of 5 years confessed to a "minor drunken mistake" with a coworker. My brother just leaked her group chats, and the truth is making me sick. How do I move forward from this? — **Background:** My girlfriend "Amy" and I have been together for 5 years. Recently, I took a stressful promotion that requires long, unpredictable hours. I did this specifically to improve my financia…
[Discussion] 42 year old wife and mama. Looking for suggestions, encouragement, insight, resources, or for someone to just come kick me in the as* and tell me to stop feeling sorry for myself. Kidding, kind of... :) — As mentioned above, I am a 42 year old mama of two boys (12 and 13) and a wife of 17 years. I have always been a pretty self motivated, optimistic, positive person. Staying in shape, weight training a…
Ex Will Not Leave Me Alone & Is Messaging New Friends About Me 2 Years Later — **past context:** my online ex that i posted about previously posted about me in october accusing me of stalking him due to him seeing fake accounts view his story (i actually wasn't bc i was FINALLY …
Love these arguments. Point 1: There is a difference between hypnosis (true authentic feelings of experience of here and now of the desired outcome) and daydreaming. When you give your mind and your…
It helped me to cut out some toxic family members. One of the elements that fed my anxious attachment was that I had low self esteem. I worked really hard to build that up, but it was difficult to m…
Let’s not turn attachment theory which is scientific in nature into some zodiac nonsense. If the non traditional attachment styles you speck of aren’t backed by peer reviewed theories it’s nonsense. …
I interviewed a young guy with 10 years devops / 4 years Aws experience. He didn’t get a single question right My first question: what does AWS stand for? Unless you are talking to clueless people ju…
My 5cents, as a person that’s been interviewing candidates for several years (almost 10 at same company, seen it grow from 100 employees to 2k+, interviewed QAs, SETs, Devs, DevOps and SREs). I’m sor…
This is so true and I never viewed it that way! My ex showed contempt during moments when I pushed for inter-dependence, such as holding him accountable or asking for transparency. He later said to me…
i’m in the same boat right now. I dated a girl a girl for two years who dumped me and has never spoken to me again since that day. it has been about a year since our breakup, but I keep obsessing. m…
This is probably my own AP side coming through and influencing things, but, I'd always sort of viewed the avoidants desire for space in a similar way that Marxists percieve a proletarian false-conscio…
Thank you for pointing that out. Honestly I was starting to lose interest because of what I viewed to be a lack of effort, but I noticed how stressed out she was from work during the date. The gym rea…
Why would an avoidant push me away, but then orbit me for almost 2 years — even while committed to someone else? I feel ashamed for being stuck on this.. I (32F) had a short but intense connection wi…
Hi everyone, I’m 24F from Czechia and my boyfriend is 29M from Spain. I have an anxious attachment style and I’m aware of it. I’ve been working on it and I’ve improved significantly, but I know there’…
You might need a trauma informed therapist to really help you to get to the bottom of your self defense mechanism and see what can be done to unlearn some of that. Other than that, the biggest problem…
Hi! Sure, this is my own healing journey, nothing more, nothing less. Everything here comes from sources that I have listed, I relied on their status in the scientific community and didn't go as far a…
I’m 22 this month and had to breakup with the only person I’ve been in love with back in September. I originally ended the relationship due to too much toxicity and fighting, the usual bs At first I …
Thank you for responding to me. Making this post was incredibly embarrassing for me because this entire situation feels absurd and the fact that it’s making me spiral so much has been really confusing…
Well during my very first manifestation, it was before I found this sub or even knew about JM and his book POTSM. All I knew was Neville and LOA Porn “coaches”. The techniques I mainly did were Men…
To give you some proof that the law of belief (lob) is real, my very first manifestation which was a “hard” one was a SP. I viewed it as an experiment to see if this all was real. I also put pressure …
>To give you some proof that the law of belief (lob) is real, my very first manifestation which was a “hard” one was a SP. I viewed it as an experiment to see if this all was real. I also put pressure…
Since this book gets recommended a lot, even in this thread, I am also making my own comment. This is about *Atttached* by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. This goodreads review by a user named Melody d…
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In my experience people love to be interviewed about the things they're interested in 🤷♀️ I might not have input but I'm interested in their take on things. Really when it comes down to it I only ca…
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I’m in the same boat with an alimony hearing coming up (she was the breadwinner). It has been really hard to keep myself from sabotaging myself because of that impression of confidence dismissive avoi…
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Complicated rejection and experience. (sorry I don't have enough karma for a post yet ...) Just wanting to hear from different people their opinions, but also similar positive / negative stories! I \…
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I fumbled. I was Googling the guy I went on a date with on Friday. He mentioned a past relationship (with whom he still seems to own a business with) so naturally I got super curious. I couldn't fin…
> He screenshotted the alert from LinkedIn that I viewed his profile and sent it to me. God I hate this! Just do the other person a solid and pretend you didn't see it! This is like the human equival…
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So I thought I’d make a post here just for the heck of it. Curious what others have to say… I’ve been casually keeping in touch with someone for over 2 months now. There’s a reason why I say “keeping…
# I, 37F, am struggling with boundaries, jealousy, and my 48M partner’s friendship I’m wrestling with complicated feelings about a medicine retreat my partner of 6 months wants me to attend this summ…
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Can confirm. Outgoing in me is worn out. Stopped actively looking for friends and stick to the few I have. I do read what you said and think that maybe you might be missing the whole picture of why p…
Where are all woman my age (early-mid 30s) hanging around? Go outside they say and meet real people. I only seem to come across early 20 something students and 45+ people. Dating apps absolutely suck…
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Firstly, I appreciate the very well formatted post. So many instances felt like I was teleported back the past At various points in the relationship you've communicated your needs, triggers, boundari…
My partner put a card in my overnight bag saying that he appreciated me so much for helping him with many things during his work transition. I’m thinking of writing him a card, too, because I got a ca…
ENFP/Type 5/SA here. 45 years old with about 20-30 friends, most of them over 30 years. I wont speak for SA in general, I would just share my little world/POV. \--------- Extremely honest to the po…
Welp, there goes the relationship I was hoping for. I’d gotten mixed signals over the last 3 months, but he told me early on that he was a slow burn dater, so I thought things just needed to move at h…
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Maybe it's a goal you could set and work on when things like: transits of Jupiter to Natal Moon are happening, or when you have a Sagittarius Moon in your Solar Return chart? I will say, a lot of ou…