friend groups

Attachment in someone with no relationships? — Wondered this for a long time so it's oversharing hours tonight. I basically don't have relationships. I've overly attached with my mom, possibly even enmeshed, but that's it, and there's a lot of du…

The way trauma shapes your attachment system... — I'm FA and I was reminiscing on what my love life was like as a teenager and young adult. I remember the feeling I had when someone showed interest in me, it was very much of disgust and suspicion. …

Can aspects to houses that represent the external ever represent internal changes ONLY? — Can aspects (in transit or solar return, not natal) in houses that typically refer to actual physical things, people, etc., ever represent internal changes in the way someone relates to those things, …

Is it just me or am I just getting sick of how people on social media are so comfortable with being outright disrespectful and rude towards others. — I’ve been apart of many friend groups and communities and alot of the times when I tried to make friend’s with others or even just talk about things wether it’s depression,or philosophy,people just ge…

Bf doesn’t like that I go clubbing and left me. — I am 19F and my (now ex) boyfriend is 18F My bf recently broke up with me a few days ago because he doesn’t like that I go out to the club with my friends to dance. (There are other reasons but this …

Struggling to speak up in friend groups — Since my teens, I've been suffering from a major social/interaction problem. **I am almost unable to speak up in a group setting.** I'm referring to groups of 10-15 people or fewer, at a time, someth…

Curious about your experiences interacting with other Asian Americans — Happy Tuesday, hope everyone's having a good week so far. I'll preface by saying that I appreciate that this space exists, and I've found value in sanity checking some experiences with others (though…

My ex (30F) and I (30nb) broke up 6 months ago and I want to vent about it — After dating for almost 2 years and living together for 6 months my ex broke it off and I had to move out. I am a trans nonbinary person (AFAB) and the day we met my ex knew I would be pursuing gender…

I don’t know if I’ll ever get over my ex — I feel a little silly writing about this but I recently broke up with my long distance boyfriend. I broke up with him because at the time I thought it was the right thing to do. I was dealing with men…

How do I (21) navigate friend groups where your friends still hang with people who have disrespected you? — (We’re all the same age, 21) Long story short one of the girls from my high school friend group made a really sudden and unexpected racist “joke” towards me in front of everyone back in December. Ho…

Am I still AP or I actually earned my secure attachment? — Hi all! I’m trying to understand whether I’m actually growing toward a secure attachment, or if I’m still acting from anxious patterns in a more subtle way. A bit of background: I was in a toxic marr…

Why are People Hating on Asians Hanging Out with Other Asians — This is the most bizarre trend I’m seeing on TikTok, instagram, and Twitter. Essentially you have people (mostly other Asians) hating on Asians hanging out with each other Essentially they’re allegin…

I (28F) haattteee my finances (29M) friend — My fiance has this friend who he went to grade school with. It was a very small town so honestly not a lot of people to pick from. I think there were like 5 guys in his class and 7 or 8 girls? Anywa…

Anyone know of any psychedelic communities in the Bay Area? — I been exploring recently consciousness and my friend groups aren’t interested in this and was curious if anyone knows of any groups where I could connect with likeminded people in the Bay Area. I’m i…

Female relational aggression — Are there any of you raised by a narcissistic mother facing often bullying from other women? It had happened to me to many times to consider it a coincidence, both in friend groups or work environmen…

Ex doing so much better without me — This is going to be a mess of a post because I'm currently spiraling rn I've (20M) been spiraling ever since my relationship with her (20F) fell apart. It's been more than a month since we last talke…

NB19 feeling overwhelmed by partner M23s friend. m35. How do I set boundaries without damaging the relationship? — So I’m NB19 in a newer relationship (officially two months as of yesterday) with my partner M23 and I was pretty decently happy about it. We met online and I have known this guy for a few years, we go…

I'm(29-FtM) thinking about breaking up with my BF (31-M). How do I know thats the right choice? — TLDR: I (29-FtM) and my boyfriend (31-M) have been together for the past 10 years and shared our friend groups and families with eachother. After some tragedies in my life, I am considering a breakup …

How can I change for the better? — Warning: massive essay (life story) incoming. My profile should be open, so you could maybe browse what I’ve said earlier. They can be a little too much, and I can be judgmental sometimes. Some posts …

If he can’t even return a simple “hi”, there are other psychological issues going on there. That’s not all DA. I wish people would stop attributing extremely odd behaviors to DA 🫠 we are functional i…

Thank you for your advice. It’s confusing, I find friend groups to be overstimulating and disappointing, as I prefer more individual focus, but I’m learning that it might be too much for me. I’m start…

It's crazy to me people will treat you this way and not realize how objectifying it is. They don't care about the reasons you avoid, they just want you give them what they want. I feel similarly to y…

Everyone in the my core friend groups at church or from college is now either married with kids, DINKing or engaged. And the worst thing is that I am started to get encouragement rooted in concerns. T…

yeah i usually end up meeting and attaching myself to one of the friend groups

I got so much shit from somebody that I hanged around male friends. Boy did I feel frustrated with that friend when I found out that they hanged around male friend groups too. Great that you figured o…

I guess one thing I haven't mentioned is that he introduced me to different friend groups of his already, discussed plans to travel together in March and have tickets for a concert, because he expects…

There are only so many men who are outdoorsy and experienced, so I keep trying to make it work with any guy that seems mildly fit and open minded, but I keep getting frustrated. They suggest absurd, s…

The missing demographic thing is real and nobody talks about it. Women in their early-mid 30s who have their lives together are usually not hanging out in the same visible public spaces as college kid…

I (32F) tell my friends everything. Either it is a good story or I need advice, and frankly particuarly when stories are "bad" (men are rude, ghost me, etc), it is nice to have someone to lean on, it …

I have a 17yo. And the things we don’t teach our youngers is mind blowing. 1. Learn to digest emotions. Especially the ones that (in your mind) make you a not **nice person** or not a **cool girl…

I’m in my early 30s, single, no kids and pretty social. I typically do 2/3 social activities during the week - a board game night, a video game night, and open gyms or league games for one of my favor…

Since I'm somewhat-recently single again, I did a little weekend solo trip like I used to. These often worked great for meeting other travelers at guesthouse or hostels, but didn't run into anyone thi…

same here. i do have a lot of friends, so i try to combine friend groups or see them more by working out together or walking our dogs so i don’t feel like a shit friend

I don't give a shit about traditional adult life and I live in the city, so I have multiple friend groups and I see people every 2-3 days. Less so when I'm dating someone.

Capricorn in the 1st, 2nd, 6th, and especially 10th house would be more boss energy. Also, don’t forget, Capricorn is an earth sign, it has a demure, soft spoken side to it. It being ruled by Saturn, …

Where is everyone getting the energy to go on dates or participate in multiple social hobbies or friend groups in order to meet people? OLD feels like such a chore that never gets anywhere but it mig…

I'm on month 3, almost 4, I broke up with him because he said he wasn't sure about me after months, he couldn't promise me that he would at least try to work on the things that I found stressing, upse…

Yes, my ex dumped me back in 2022 after 6.5 years together. Got with another girlfriend less than 4 months later when I was still very much not moved on. I tried to move on but honestly it was very h…

I’ll give you a different perspective. Like you, I am also American born to Chinese immigrants. However, I am a 58 yo Gen Xer with kids 18 & 20. Growing up I was the only Asian in every class. Confor…

In one of my mostly EA friend groups, the guys had always dated AF or WF. When I brought a close friend of mine who is BF to hang out, almost every guy started trying to talk to her. She’s very attrac…

A lot of Asian guys have a screw you mentality, they don't care who gets hurt as long as they get paid. And then on top of that I suspect there's Asian men out there who were wronged by some other Asi…

> Stories like these are often praised and paraded around as representative of the average AsAm woman’s experiences. And unfortunately a lot of women on social media claim it represents them. But it d…

I've tried just jumping in to start telling the story alongside them until they get the hint that it is known! I'll even start saying it in as rapid a pace as I can muster. It's probably super passive…

Ha! It's not about being late or cancelling, it's about the reaction to it. Shit happens and if you can't handle it or be cool about it, then you're not for me. And I say this because I go out of my…

That is a very fair question. I suppose that I personally and the women I date are generally fairly consistent (we have professional jobs and people count on us), therefore we're not really talking ab…

Mixed gender friend groups exist.

Yeah, you’re welcome. In the past I tended to do that, almost force myself into other friend groups to move on. It does help but I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’m someone who feels the need …

Quadruple Virgo stellium in 11th plus MC? Counts as five imo. Means your friend groups and goals get that meticulous overhaul energy, rare setup for turning squads into well-oiled machines.

Maybe, meetup groups for likeminded interests. Also, meetup groups for people new to your area. These are people that likely don't already have established friend groups and are probably looking for e…

In practice, American-born Asians usually do 1 of 2 things: \- Have a predominantly American-born Asian friend group and stay in an Asian-American bubble. This is probably your typical guy on the sub…

And it would be irresponsible not to inform your friend groups she’s hosting various African STDs. She will seek comfort and you have an obligation.

Well said. I also get a lot more out my network of friends (dojo, men’s beer league hockey, range competitions and veteran groups) than I ever gotten from the dumpster fire (surrounded by a Californi…

My great grandma and grandma were 4’8” and 4’10”, I think. From poverty. My mom was 5’3”. I thought I would continue the trend, but apparently our genes are maxed out with me being 5’3”.  I’m usually…

Thank you for sharing this. It's quite rare to read genuinely insightful reports of peeking out there instead of the usual "love and light" BS. I've seen/sensed this fractal/recursive structure too (…

Same. In short with robotic affirmations i manifested an apartment in a good area, money, new friend groups after moving to a new city, better relationships with people overall, passing exams, slight …

Scorpio rising with Mars in Virgo 11th hits different your drive shines in friend groups and big-picture causes, but super precise and helpful about it. Like leading the squad with that analytical edg…

i feel like it needs a spark of something that keeps the relationship alive. i would say not to invite him to friend groups because if he doesn't enjoy it then problems are going to keep going. but if…

If I was allowed to spend say- a Friday evening out with friends, I had to stay inside the rest of the weekend. "Your dont need to see your friends *every single day*." I was forever on the outskirt…

You’re likely on the reserved side. Scorpio rising has a tendency to not “show all their cards” and you can kind of double up on that energy with your chart ruler in Virgo—you’re probably analytical, …

The truth is that Asian American culture and westernized Asian culture in general is pretty lame. Westernized Asians generally see themselves as superior to Asians from the motherland until the mother…

You need to remove your white knight armor and let a grown woman pursue the life she chose. She chose to enter her current situation and you have no say in her pursuing it. Follow your friend gr…

I haven't told anyone personally bc my ex-husband has a lot of charisma and influence with our social/friend groups. They wouldn't believe me if I told them, and some of them hated me from the start l…

I suffered very badly with very shitty role models for parents. Looking back, they didn't have extensive friend groups and I was instantly disliked at school, partly due to behaviour I picked up from …

I may also need some advice on this. All of the friend groups I have been with from the time I can remember to end of University are savages and roasting each other savagely with no limits was very no…

I feel this way everyday. I just want to be apart of something. I see pictures of friend groups on social media and they are all happy and best friends forever. Just once I would like to know how that…

Text of original post by u/BaseballObjective969: Hi all! I’m trying to understand whether I’m actually growing toward a secure attachment, or if I’m still acting from anxious patterns in a more subtle…

Well, it's over. I'm single again at 31. Today started out fine, turned absolutely horrible, and then got better once I accepted things for what they were, went to the forest to watch the clouds pass,…

As I'd say on your other post, YTA. It's a girls trip, you don't trust her. Best she broke it off because you clearly hold her past against her and judge her. You both aren't a good fit but be aware t…

Yes I have many similarities with you. I regret not going to Chinese school growing up. Most of my moms family was in the Philippines and I got to go every other year for a few weeks, otherwise I spen…