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I need to know if he was abusive so that I can be sure this is the right decision — Hi everyone - I'd appreciate anyone who reads the entire thing before commenting. My (24F) boyfriend (24M) just ended things with me after one of our many fights. We've been together for 3 years. We …
REMINDER: be kind to yourself. This is hard, and you’re handling it with grace and strength. — I know of what I speak. I held so much guilt, sadness, anger, and regret for so long. I hated myself for failing to make my marriage work. That mindset was getting me nowhere good. Do the little thing…
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means) — I last posted a variation of this a little over 5 years ago. We're a little overdue for a repost. --- You know how every Uber rating is right on the verge of 5 stars unless something's particularly …
To the former LOAPorn folks here — Hi everyone! It's been about 3 months since me and my SP have been NC. It's quite a long story to retell it there, but we two got really close, and we were very happy with each other. However, due to…
Someone elaborate on this please — Hello I have been reading and watching lots of Neville videos and what I concluded is that circumstances come from our inner state and that they don't matter anyway because we can always adopt a new s…
Can Manifestation Really Help You Get Full Marks in an Exam If You Only Wrote Part of the Answer? — Hey everyone, I have a question that might sound a bit out there, but I’m curious to hear if anyone has had a similar experience. I recently took an exam where I only managed to write answers for ab…
Quran and LOB — Hello I am a Muslim and I know there’s a lot of references from the Bible. Are there any from the Quran that anyone can guide me. Also how can one create feelings when going through a heavy emotion…
Too Long on First Mission And Moving On — Hello Everyone I know I'll probably be banned for this so let me explain my story. I have been on my first mission for the last 8 months using the index training guide fully and it has been a massive …
How to heal avoidant attachment? — Uhhhh hey gang. Formerly severe fearful avoidant here. The attachment quizzes put everyone somewhere on a quadrant, with the bottom being high avoidance and the right high anxiety. So I was farrrr in …
How do I know if I simply don’t like someone enough to be with them or if I’m simply running away from what is safe? — I am dating someone for a week and I feel like I don’t like them enough and I would like something more exciting. They also feel like coming in too hard with double and triple texting. I know howeve…
The song “I love you, I’m sorry” by Gracie Abrams makes me think of the POV of a DA — I'm DA, and I just listened to this song. It feels like a DA talking about how they sabotaged a good relationship, and they regret it. This line particularly hits: "I like to slam doors closed, trust…
How Can I Manifest Someone I Don’t Even Know? — Hey everyone, I need some advice. I recently saw a really handsome guy at my university fest, but he was an outsider. We didn’t talk, didn’t exchange contacts, and I have no idea where he came from o…
I just proved that a crappy industry is literally pissing away money — I constantly preach about template fraud and those "pretty but useless" websites that don't deliver actual business results. This week, I decided to prove my point. I spotted a security product in th…
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago. — I was reflecting and journaling on my past relationships, and taking full responsibility for past mistakes. I'm an FA so there were times when I thought I needed external validation to feel whole, and…
Backend skills for a hobbyist? — Hi, I'm wondering if y'all have recommendations for backend skills that a lone hobbyist should learn? Right now I don't know everything I want to do with web design, but I know I'd like to create art…
Web developer here, what should i learn besides UI/UX to create my own layouts for my websites? — Being more of a back-end focused developer, i struggle to create layouts of my own. Now, i know how CSS works, if you give me a layout to implement i can most likely do that, given the right amount o…
Am I crazy? Growing from a single freelancer to an agency with a team — Hi everyone - quick background: I'm a freelance web designer/developer who's been doing this thing now for almost 15 years. I've done it under a studio name, but it's always just been me, with some oc…
Other attachment styles — I know the normal 4: Secure, Anxious/preoccupied fearful avoidant, dismissive avoidant, plus disorganized, which is just sort of an "all of the above" In doing parts work, I've been trying to figure…
What's the best free alternative to Dreamweaver for making a personal website? — I know the easiest route is to just use Wordpress, but I don't want a Wordpress blog again right now. Dreamweaver makes sense to me. I need to see the code view or what I'm looking at makes less sense…
How is the job market right now for jobs in web/product design, ui ux, front end development, etc? — Hi all, I work in digital marketing, but am getting burnt out and am trying to learn web design and build a portfolio. Long story short, what I enjoy most about my current job in digital marketing has…
SEO Results in 2-3 Months — I run a small business and am looking for someone to help transform my website through SEO, which up until now has had very little traffic. In the past I have mostly relied on word of mouth and target…
Google not indexing images from my site? Images don't show up in search results? — I submitted my website to Google months ago and they've successfully crawled it many times. For some reason it doesn't seem they are indexing any of the images on the site. My website is image heavy a…
Is Getting Ripped Apart Normal in Product Design? — I’m new to product design, and at this startup, I wear both the product designer and product manager hats. I meet regularly with the CEO (my boss), and during our sessions, we review the website and r…
How do I hire someone to work the SEO part of launching my site? — I'm a Realtor that knows enough PHP/Laravel/Wordpress to make a site. I know very, very little about SEO and most of what I've learned is simply thgrough Moz and that sort of thing. I really need to …
Interviewing for a UX job when you have a UX job is annoying — I know, I know. I should be grateful to have a job, I should be grateful to land interviews. But the amount they're asking is insane. I'm sorry, I cannot dedicate my time to a 50 sometimes 60 hours w…
Feeling stuck between a promo and burnout - advice? — I'm approaching 5 years at my current company (2 years as junior, 3 as mid-level) and am submitting a promotion case for Senior. I won't hear back for a couple months - my director feels optimistic, b…
Should I try to learn SEO or just hire someone? — My family just opened a small pet supplies business. I used to be into web design and tech stuff years ago so I was able to throw together a simple website. The thing is, I have no clue about SEO. I …
Is there FLOSS no-code software to build a static website with modern animation like Framer? — Hi, here's a little bit of context: I know nothing about coding, but apparently we can host a static website for free on github, so I searched some ways to build a website in no-code for free. I'v…
What to Say When You’re Not the Cheapest Option (And Someone Pushes Back on Price) — I will not promote. This is a best practice I've found in my own works.So, you’re having a great conversation with a potential client and then you get hit with that line: “I know someone who can do it…
Would you buy a sub $500 eye tracking glasses on par with leading research-grade glasses? — I’ve been doing research into eye tracking for UX research the past couple months and something that continues to boggle my mind is the price for a lot of eye tracking glasses. Most of them are $3000 …
What will it take? — Seriously… What does it take to land a UX role these days? My wife is graduating with her masters in UX from a good program but it seems that the industry is evolving and everyone is making it seem …
Are UX Engineer jobs unpopular? — I work as a Sr. UX Engineer at a global company, we are creating an internal Design System UI library. I work with code (React and SCSS) but also as a UX UI Designer on other projects in other teams. …
Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …
Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…
Is there a UX role in existence that doesn't involve so much documentation? — So I come from a background in design. I was a bit of a generalist before—branding, logos, layouts, art direction—and while that was fun, it started to feel fragile. Like I was always one trend away f…
Interview for associate devops role, not sure how it went, need opinions — I had a technical discussion with with a smaller company(around 100-200 employees) and they are filling out a new devops team. I have 7 YOE at large tech companies as a software engineer, but my dutie…
Is it ok to use my main keyword in every headline of a blog post? — I know there is such a thing as keyword stuffing that can affect your SEO ranking, but why haven't I heard any accusatory harangue on every headline of a blog post as bad SEO practice? Does it make o…
We open-sourced internet’s largest incident response glossary with over 500+ terms — We just published a public glossary with **500+ terms** related to incident response, on-call, alerting, SLOs, postmortems, and more. I think this is perhaps the internet's largest glossary for incide…
MacOs HomeBrew and Open Source tooling — Hey guys! Quick question for ya, I've been at a job for awhile now but we just got transitioned over to macOS. We were on windows machines before. Software was always distributed through self service…
AWS network automation — I find myself in a funny position to redo part of the network in AWS. We have two parts: one is newer and uses transit gateways that are centralized in a single account, the other is older and vpc pee…
I just started posting on TikTok this week (Real estate reels). First reel got 0 views. 2nd got about 100. 3rd posted yesterday already has over 4,500 views. Another posted today has over 2800 views already after a few hours. — I know 4500+ views is nothing crazy. It's a lot of people with short attention spans just scrolling and I'm not making any real estate sales from a video with 4500 views. That being said, I'm wonde…
As a DevOps Engineer, do I need to know databases? — The question pretty much. How important is it to know dbs to be a better DevOps Engineer? Mind you, I'm already a DevOps Engineer but there's barely anything I'm touching db related, or even networkin…
Am I the only one that dislikes Wireframe CC? — I'm new to web design, so take this with a grain of salt. I've been browsing around for good, easy wireframe websites so I can finally stop using PowerPoint to do them. I tried the 7 day free trial fo…
How much do I charge? — I’ll start by saying I’m freshly out of college (I took marketing). I know basic Seo and don’t mind learning as I go as this will be my first big project. I have an opportunity to work with a local …
I created a free WhatsApp chat for your site — After about a year, I finished my first service which I decided to make free. It's a chat widget — https://supportiko.com — that you can install on your website in 5 minutes using copy-paste. Visitors…
Canary like deployments for Custom Resources? — Why is there no Canary-like deployment orchestrator for Custom Resources with quality gateway analysis? AFAIK, Flagger, Keptn ( have some maintenance problems ), Argo Rollouts, these are tightly boun…
To all the scrum masters/PMs: Would you use an AI that joins meetings, takes notes, and assigns tasks to the right teammate automatically? I will not promote — Hi! I’ve been thinking about a recurring pain I see in most teams — meetings generate lots of discussion and action items, but someone still has to take notes, track tasks, and figure out who shoul…
Plan to build the healthiest farm-to-table meal delivery service. Seeking advice. I will not promote. — I WILL NOT PROMOTE. Plan on building what I believe can be the cleanest and most transparent farm-to-table meal delivery service brand, and I’d love feedback from anyone who’s worked in DTC, food or j…
Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …
What else do I need before I apply? — I've been a systems admin for over a decade. The last two years I've been doing gitops with ansible and terraform, and also managing some kubernetes clusters on-prem. I know enough Azure to get around…
Failing to Find Google Maps Scraper (that does everything) — I've built a directory listing website and I'm using WP All Import plugin to pull in data from a spreadsheet (which consists of scraped business info from their Google Maps / GBP listings). Being tha…
Okay, thanks. About all I know in regards to this it's that I'm a Leo. Lol the post that you shared this link to I had asked my mom what time I was born and she told me 10:58 p.m.. I just looked at m…
So my husband turned me on to the idea that my weird dreams are something called lucid dreaming and showed me this sub. Pumped to be here! So periodically I will experience DILD and take control of …
Thanks for clarifying now I know why I and many others went wrong
Everyone coming here from the other subs is blessed to have finally sought a break from the emotional self-harm that seems to be at the core of the methodology in these other groups... which I took pa…
I'll take a deeper look into revision as that could be more effective for what I'm trying to accomplish (physical healing). I definitely get what you mean about the subconscious belief over conscious …
Love the list of basic needs in the first question. I’ve never seen it put like that before, and have always questioned myself. Now I know for sure. This is great. Thank you.
Just found this sub, I know I'm a little late commenting. One thing that I think can be added in relation to how emotional neglect can cause PTSD: People think of PTSD as something that is a threat …
I’ve read all Nevilles books several times over, but I’ll check out the lecture you’re referring to. About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought…
>About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought I’d always be broke. I even had to take a screenshot of my bank balance to remind myself of that amaz…
I know you’re supposed to see flashes of colours and things when it starts happening but it just feels like eyeball strain to me and kind of hurts my head.
Haha what an honour to be compared to Uncle Iroh! 😆 yes I understand and I debated whether to put that in, however there are some people who get frustrated with their attempts and prayer can actually…
Hi! So I’m pretty new to this sub and currently trying to read up and decide what I think about AP. For a long time, I’ve believed that reality is a construct in the mind, or just a result of what our…
So.. id classify myself as a relatively spiritual person.. over the last few months ive tried meditating 5 or so times.. ive had sleep paralysis about 5 times as well in my life.. more so in the last …
Thank you so much for explaining! One more thing if you don't mind, what's the best method to leave the physical body? I tried the rope technique yesterday, it didn't work but I know I need to practic…
If I Lucid Dream will time fly by slower and will I know how time I have left without dreaming?
I attribute my LD to the episode ‘What was in Blue’s Dream’ from Blue’s Clues. Home sick one day from school, watched this episode, dreamed that episode that night then not only did I know I was dream…
Hi! Just saw this post (I know late to the game) I felt a pulling almost like a dragging thru a tunnel back to my body. Is that what you experienced? This happened 2x in one night for the first time i…
I sometimes question though: was it good that we would have stayed with them forever? If they were that disinterested? Wouldn’t it be a bad choice on our part to stay with them? I know what you…
I’m definitely trying moving on. He didn’t want me so fuck that! I know I’m a great person who deserves more!
"Your silence will eat them up." I hope that's true. I know her crazy family talked her into leaving. She came over, we went to dinner, said she wanted to break up. Go to my place and hook up twice …
Every night lately it’s been the same . I project where I met him. And cry because I know he isn’t there anymore .
sharing recent experience and soliciting feedback from the experienced people here... I live in Phoenix, AZ but have close friends in Richmond, VA. On this particular journey, I had a vivid experien…
Yeah I know right. Two months this end- who am I kidding though?
Apologies, I know this is an old post but I just read it for the first time today and felt the need to reply. Yes, what you're saying is absolutely true. However, at least for me, this is the motiva…
Quick qustion last night i was kinda in the weird state of hallucnation not sleep parlyisis but after that i somwhat woke and i thing it was sleep parlyisis but then i heard somthing say you were alwa…
This is exactly what I’m feeling now. 🥺 I want to stay and help him but I know I’ll lose myself too. If I try, he will take me back just to be abused.
Oof … I needed to read this today… I am struggling to let go even when I know they really aren’t good for me even if It feels like they are. Thanks for the call out.
Don’t Try focusing on controlling too much immediately or getting Carried away trying to do influence it strongly at first . Try just remaining calm by focusing on your environment and exploring as yo…
Another update: My ex did want me back, but I rejected it since I know she doesn't want to work yet on her issues, which meant that we're only going to go back to the same situation as we were before.…
Hey, I am an overconfident twat that lacks any real creativity. I tend to just jump in on anything to feel included . Sometimes it's confusing cause I don't even understand what I'm trying to shit on.…
Hi. My mother and father to a lesser degree were emotionally neglectful. It is a miracle that I’m still here and have been able to do all that I’ve done. But I’ve done a lot of work and healing and I’…
Sometimes i have this strange profound feeling that i am dreaming. How do i know that i am in fact, not dreaming right now?
I contacted mine with a text and she didn’t respond back, it’s been 21 days. I know she probably saw it and I want anyone who reads this…DON’T! Because it’s been about 3 years about 2 with no contact …
Anyone still posting on here? I drove my ex away with my insecure attachment style, looking back he kept putting in little effort and I felt as though I was trying very hard to change. I’m sure he wa…
Any video or audio resources I could look in to? I know nothing about energy work.
I know this post is 6 months old, but I still want to say this. I truly feel that Robert Bruce's book, called "Energy Work", (funny how the title is the name of this sub?) should be required reading f…
I'm so sorry. I'm in the same situation but with genders reversed. I understand how small and inadequate it makes you feel. Rationally I know this shouldn't make you or me feel that way. But it does.…
She probably can’t I know my spouse can buy way more than me and yea it’s hurtful at times but one thing for sure is….i couldn’t buy the Peace of mind body and spirit that my divorce purchased. ✌🏾✌�…
Oof. I feel that... I think what's worse is I know I *could* have, and it would have helped save my marriage. But to do it now, without the support of the one person I thought I could rely on to help…
One other pet peeve of mine is people who argue in the comment threads but don't try to give the OP any advice of their own. Like you have told me before you think what I said is stupid.....but you a…
So you're saying you're the authority of what's okay and what's not here? This doesn't sound like the CoDA I know.
So I want to post in this sub as an adult child of divorce, but I know some of my takes will probably come across as personal to the parents here going through divorce and so I don’t know how to post …
I know this comment is nearly 6 months old, but I just wanted to say THANK YOU so much for posting this, I feel like I’ve just found a master key to a huge door I’ve been trying to unlock for a while …
Your original post and all the replies and updates really do help me feel less alone, so thanks! I'm 2.5 months since she moved out, and I'm basically at where you were in your previous post. Which st…
None of it *should* stop you from moving forward and healing, but for some people it still nevertheless does. I'm sorry, I know you said this more than half a year ago but I'm going through my situati…
I realized after I read my initial response how much I repeated myself. Sigh, this shit is hard. Brain not firing on all pistons. The reason I asked for compassion is because he is acting like it’s a …
I was literally just thinking the same thing, and wondering what I have been doing in respect to emotionally neglecting my daughter. And my answer is probably, and I'm fucked up too. I try my best, bu…
Quite common not being able to control it, when having no experience. I know it's related to keeping up with expectations to how things work, as in real life. I know it's possible to summon a dream gu…
PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…
Ive had female friends who can dettach and drop a guy as easy as theyre changing clothes and would always tell me to be like them so I dont get hurt, but the thing is I would rather be hurt than hurt …