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8+ Months of LOB practice ( Update from my 1st post ) — Hi everyone, Some of you may remember me from my last post where I did an update of my situation at 4 months in, practicing LOB. After that post, I decided as was recommended to lower the progress g…

Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …

Bundle pricing and host suggestions — Sup y'all, I'll start by mentioning that I did read through the FAQs regarding pricing as a web developer. This post is regarding bundling and host selection. I recently worked with my brothe…

How are unemployed designers managing financially right now? — I was laid off two months ago and have been in the job search grind since - applying, interviewing, and trying to stay hopeful. But I’ve also been feeling pretty stressed and anxious, especially as ti…

Best SEO Slack groups for networking? — Hey everyone — I’m looking for an active SEO-focused Slack community. Not just for learning, but mainly to connect with others in the industry and hopefully find remote work opportunities.If you're pa…

Best SEO Slack groups for networking? — Hey everyone — I’m looking for an active SEO-focused Slack community. Not just for learning, but mainly to connect with others in the industry and hopefully find remote work opportunities If you're …

Interviewing for a UX job when you have a UX job is annoying — I know, I know. I should be grateful to have a job, I should be grateful to land interviews. But the amount they're asking is insane. I'm sorry, I cannot dedicate my time to a 50 sometimes 60 hours w…

Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…

Where to get started — Hello, I’m a long time admirer of this form. I’m a “junior devops engineer” in the financial field that was a previous mid-level, sulfur engineer, I’ve been doing so-called devops work for about a yea…

Anyone else rethinking bulk imports with these tariffs? — I’ve been importing apparel in bulk for a couple years now, but the new Trump tariffs have really forced me to rethink things. Between higher shipping costs and customs delays, the old model just isn’…

I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more? — **Hi everyone, I need some advice.** I’m currently a Junior UX Designer (30years old) in the UK at one of the top for new broadcasting companies such a Sky BBC ITV etc. **A bit about my background:*…

Best Practices for the List View — Hi all, While using Wordpress in the past few years, I've developed the habit of renaming my element bocks in the List View sidebar to make navigating the page easier for myself and hopefully others.…

i will not promote: help finding willing creators! — Hey guys, I just launched an app and am looking to try out influencer marketing to promote it (TikTok specifically). We have been reaching out to content creators with emails in their bio but response…

How to switch a domain and custom e-mail address purchased through Squarespace to Showit? — So I've had my website on Squarespace for 10+ years, but I finally completed the build of my whole new website on Showit (I'm a wedding photographer, for reference). I'm a little nervous to dig into t…

What should i do to earn 10k/month ? — I’m 20 yrs old and in college studying IT, but i’ve been so caught up in everybody my age earning 10k a month and kinda feeling left behind.. i currently run a pretty successful depop business but its…

The successful are not here — After years of watching YouTube videos about startup / founder stuff and reading blogs, Reddit, and the horrible place that is LinkedIn, I came to realize that 99.9% of advice (especially in the SaaS …

Combining MPA and SPA? — I'm creating an application for a construction company, enabling them to report about different sectors of the construction process (tender procedure, quality assurance, safety checklist, complexity,…

How to find willing creators?!? (TikTok) — Hey guys, I just launched an app and am looking to try out influencer marketing to promote it (TikTok specifically). We have been reaching out to content creators with emails in their bio but response…

How to find willing creators?!? — Hey guys, I just launched an app and am looking to try out influencer marketing to promote it (TikTok specifically). We have been reaching out to content creators with emails in their bio but response…

Any Luck with TikTok Influencer Marketing? And where do you find them? — Hey guys, I just launched an app and am looking to try out influencer marketing to promote it (TikTok specifically). We have been reaching out to content creators with emails in their bio but response…

My DA bf broke up with me Saturday morning. — We’ve been together three years, living together for two. He (38m) wouldn’t ever give me (43f) emotional depth or physical connection. (I had to *ask* for hugs. Anything more was off the table.) Pri…

Is this Deactivation? Seeking insights from FAs. Please help me understand this — We're together for 6 months, a lot of push/pull in the beginning, but by the 4th month everything was finally going fine between us. He even called me his girlfriend nd promised to heal and everything…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

so what is ”healthy”? — so i’ve read over the several attachment style subs and something interesting i’ve found is that on the anxious side people are talking about how the society is pushing us to be hyper-independent and …

I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!! — Sorry for the long text, I want to be thorough. So, I just ended my first ever relationship. I'm 20, I'm a lesbian from a conservative background and had a lot of internalized homophobia and religiou…

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

Avoidant wins! 🎉🎊 — Meant to put this in thr weekly vent but it's kind of late now. It's amazing what consistency of safety can do to your nervous system. So the main reason I have no real friends is because I fear the e…

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

Married 5 months after 10 years together (M32 / F29) — she started talking to another guy right after the wedding. We’re now on a 30-day separation and I don’t know what to do. — I’m looking for honest advice from people who have either been through something like this or have perspective I might not be seeing right now. My wife (F29) and I (M32) have been together for about …

Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…

How do you stop overthinking and care less about things that don’t matter? — Hello, How do you learn to give fewer fucks about things that shouldn’t matter? I used to think I was the kind of person who could brush things off pretty easily, but lately I’ve been overthinking a…

What are your social lives like? — Recently I saw a few comments here like “I have weekly activities scheduled every day of the week” and “this guy could only meet me one a month because of social obligations” and… I know I’m more of a…

Cheated on after 10.5 years together, divorced at 11 years together. — Hi Everyone, This is half venting and half hoping for advice or people to listen. I'm at a low point right now so I thought reaching out to a community might be beneficial as opposed to holding it…

I (21F) Am losing feelings for my (22M) boyfriend. Any advice? — Throwaway account. I (21F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for a little over two years. It's been good for the most part, and i can tell you that my boyfriend is one of the best people i kno…

Is meditation good for sharpening the mind — I'm not the best at articulating this stuff but I'll try my best, hopefully it's understandable. I have a problem where my mind is very chaotic, a lot of the stuff is happening at the same time in t…

I've been shown how our inner narrative creates and shapes our worlds — So I've been asking for more knowledge and guidance from my guides about how can i feel like myself again after period of suffering. (i was also asking my human guide-my therapist and got answers from…

THE PHOENIX LIGHTS 29th ANNIVERSARY This is what I saw that night March 13, 1997. It was a totally solid piece of machinery not just lights. I could see the bottom of the UFO clearly by two light sources illuminating the bottom of the craft as it flew over my head — I posted this also in UFO sub. March 13, 1997 I was working in East Mesa, Arizona in a 10 bed Hospice inpatient unit as the Charge RN. We worked 12 hour shifts getting off at 7:30 PM but that night t…

The #1 predictor of lucid dreams isn't any technique — I've been going through the studies on what predicts lucid dreaming and some of the numbers genuinely surprised me. But the gap between daily and weekly journaling isn't 2x or 3x - it's **14x**. …

Can a house drain your energy? — Hello! I’m not sure if I’m posting in the right subreddit but: We moved into our house about 3 years ago with the help of my MIL. Though we so gladly appreciate her help, we unfortunately didn’t get…

Is it actually possible to re-wire the brain and actually stop sexualising… everything? — I posted here a few times, I'm currently at 107 days of sobriety. I don't watch p0rn, don't masturbate, don't go cruising. The only times I've done something sexual were with my ex, as we are still cl…

The "Manosphere" — Last night my wife and I watched the new Netflix documentary on the Manosphere. It was entertaining and informative, but also quite sad. My first reaction, honestly, was that with the exception of th…

THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…

I have to leave tonight, I'm not safe. Am I missing anything? — I'm 19(f), living with my parents in Alabama. Shit hit the fan last night, and my parents had me locked in a room all night without any of my devices. They physically hurt me and yelled at me and…

Started family therapy with my parents... — My partner and I have a child together. My parents want to spend time with their grandchild, but I seem to regularly get in fights with my mom. She got angry with my partner for a comment he made, and…

Kurzgesagt on Stress and Mindfulness — The Kurzgesagt video I reference is called: "You're More Stressed Than Ever - Let's Change That" Despite this video being a few months old, I find it an absolutely wonderful overview of the stressors…

“EASIEST AP TECHNIQUE IN HISTORY!” (Update) — “History’s simplest projection technique” (Tweaked and updated for better results!)  I posted the 30 second head lift technique a few months back and I wanted to update it hopefully to add to y…

How to stop the myths. (Please read) — Abstract- Sorry for the long post, but I hope you read it all! This post is to explain how these myths are spread and how to stop the spread. Dream myths have been known to stop people from lucid dre…

New BTS Album Out! Are we gonna see a kpop summer? — [https://www.reddit.com/r/bangtan/comments/1ryjlo6/bts\_arirang\_song\_information\_streaming/](https://www.reddit.com/r/bangtan/comments/1ryjlo6/bts_arirang_song_information_streaming/) New album dr…

Processing my NDE and the paranormal experiences that followed — I can’t sleep and i’m feeling the need to document a sequence of experiences I had from February 2019 through 2020 that forever changed my life. I’ll try my best to keep each section somewhat brief, b…

Does anyone secretly hope for the “we reconnect years later” ending with an ex? — I know the common advice after a breakup is to move on and focus on yourself. But part of my brain still holds onto this weird thought that maybe years from now two people could reconnect in a totall…

It took me 2 days of thinking on this post to finally internally understand The Law of Belief vs acting as if. A person can get caught up in trying to take surface actions of acting as if, but still u…

Great Info, thank you! Only been able to get to the vibration stage so far, which wakes me up. Hopefully by following the information here I can get past that

Thanks Gene. Not been able to get back to the vibrations for a week now but hopefully get there again soon and get passed it.

Yes!! it took me 8 months to completely cut the cord with all the BS after we broke up because he wanted to linger on but he was moving on with other girls while he had me like stupid hanging on. And …

I love my ex but we were so toxic together and our breakup did wonders in showing me how horrible our relationship was and just how much work I have to do on myself. My hope is maybe… in the future we…

Happened to me yesterday that’s why I’m here . First it felt like my feet were levitating off the bed a bit then 20 seconds or so later it felt like I was being pulled quickly off the bed . Didn’t fe…

I cried reading several times reading thru this. This sub is so important. Hopefully it can have a large international impact.

Much better at dealing with my emotions. I think of her every hour and it's been 11 months. My birthday was 2 days back and she didn't wish me. Sucks how easily replaceable/forgettable iam ,did I not…

Hi! So one thing I can tell you from lots of therapy and recently spending time around her is I realized I had been only remembering her good qualities and putting her on a pedestal in my mind. When w…

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

Interesting, hopefully this will help this be a more optimistic sub

Thank you for your comment! I wouldn't have this accomplishment without my therapist. I came here because I got really scared and felt urgent with another rush of feelings. Just talked to my therapist…

It's a little bit soon to jump to concluding that she's lost interest. People do have (hopefully whole, fulfilling) lives separate of us, and just because we don't hear from them for a day (especially…

I've been experiencing something similar, broke up in December. In my mind, it's almost as if the person I knew and loved severed (like from the show Severance) themselves and returned from a trip as …

To me, you sound self-aware enough to understand that your fears override your emotions. What an amazing position to be in. Does it make it easier? Probably not. But self awareness and accountability…

Thanks for the encouragement, and yes, I know it’s not a one-size-fits-all solution. I have scheduled an appointment with a therapist and am trying to be mindful of any potential toxicity in my own be…

Still new but posting this comment both to help you and hopefully get feedback from the mods that I’m understanding things properly. You are not trying to trick yourself in the 3D. Your only job is …

I had something kinda similar happen recently, and I totally understand why you're hurt over it! I can't even imagine that situation, honestly. Mine was different (and still is) because we met online …

We run OSS LGTM. Ingest 25TB of logs per day, 30 million in memory series. Took us a while to dial it in, but it works. We have one guy managing it, but will hopefully have another at some point.

Usually when I feel like this I go outside and use my hands to manipulate the real world. As for your issues with alienation, sure you are building an operating a rube Goldberg machine to run an app…

I was diagnosed three years ago with ADHD. My wife, who is a psychotherapist, speculated for a long time and then gave me an assessment, which was then confirmed with a psychiatrist. But I've been run…

I've been in these scenarios a good few times in a good few ways. And I have some hostile opinions on it as well as some good ones. So scenarios. Indian CTO or VP is hired, and almost immediately, …

Anyone saying it's fine to book the meeting is sabotaging you. Even the most secure manager is going to be crestfallen not understanding why this is happening. But by simply telling them in advance …

Yes! Hopefully it will take me less and less in the future :)

Honestly, yours is the best comment here. Online pop psychology has REALLY distorted what secure attachment is. To some, it’s some sort of stoic perfection where your actions must always match their i…

This is incredibly sweet, Im wishing the best for both of you :) What comments are missing is that love and safety is often the best medicine, for everyone. Im not a DA (avoidant leaning FA) but I sta…

What bothers me the most is how OP's relationship progress is being dismissed. It doesn't seem to be enough that they reached a functional state and OP is happy at the moment, getting his needs met. …

I’m in the same boat as you. Also an FA, mostly secure but get sucked into anxious attachment with someone who is very avoidant. I’ve also said goodbye to some avoidant friends! I’ve done alot of hea…

Potentially? Hopefully therapy can help him figure that out.

My ex showed up as secure and available. He did all the right things up until literally hours before the abrupt ending. Then he unleashed the barrage of issues and fault finding on me. I was completel…

By not chasing and instead matching their pace. Absolutely reply when they text you, and match the energy if you can. Ideally you’d want to be perceived as safe, so when they text you should be detach…

I consent posted multiple times before seeing this! Hopefully it’ll go through soon! Thanks!

i’m in the same boat right now. I dated a girl a girl for two years who dumped me and has never spoken to me again since that day. it has been about a year since our breakup, but I keep obsessing. m…

Just wanted to check up on you. Hopefully life's been treating you well

ooof didn't see this before i attempted to post 😭 hopefully it isn't lost completely

Thank you, and I'm truly sorry to hear you had to experience this. It's unfair... but these are the cards we've been dealt, I guess. I remember thinking, "I'm so lucky, I wish everyone could experienc…

Of wanting to be in a relationship, if he was ready for fully committing, and he was EXTRA scared of hurting me. He knew he liked me but being in a relationship felt stressful. And I was able to stay …

Are they familiar with attachment theory? I think that I would gently suggest that they look into it, and let them know that they should do some work on themselves. That you know they care and that …

Ok, it’s weird to me that you view relationships through the lens of a TV show? That’s not what real relationships look like, hopefully you know that already

Some of the OP's old posts have either been deleted by mods or by himself. OP has often shown bitterness and attacked avoidants in the past and that's the context the person you're talking to is refer…

I guess when I say “positive” I actually mean “hopeful”!!!

You never took a long break from each other so ofc it was the same cycles. Also it takes years to work on attachment issues. They don't just change in a few months time. In regards to relationsh…

That is true, thank you. I think I did need to learn a lesson. I know if I was truly secure, I would have walked away within the first few months after the deactivating and devaluing but I just couldn…

The avoidant(not sure which type of avoidant) I was dating of 3 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago through text. We had our flaws of course and there were times where she felt unwanted or unseen (I ta…

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Hey OP I remember your previous posts. I'm sorry you're going through this. Expecting warmth from someone who's gone cold is a punishment in itself, so stop punishing yourself and stop waiting for som…

I'm a female DA with a male AP. I have never loved anyone before so I don't want to mess this one up (again lol), and I've been working on my style for 5 years now. I was truly a hopeless case before…

This is an interesting question, and if I understood you correctly you are asking if my subconcious belief/faith has risen? Well I have to preface this reply with one nuance. I discovered manifestin…

Thanks for sharing your story. That’s a lot of work you’ve put in, I hope it starts to be fruitful for you in relationships. It sounds like it already is with the most important people - your kids. …

Hi everyone, I’m in my early 20s, and recently I went through my longest relationship so far — almost 2 years — with someone who is also my age, and has BPD. I have AuDHD on top of everything. Our rel…