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Why are East Asian men in US/Western media so often portrayed in such a narrow way?

I also feel like media representation is skewed towards "mainstream" media, like famous tv shows and hollywood movies. As a person who do not give af about the so called mainstream media and who loves…

r/AsianAmericancomment4/4/2026
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2

How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …

r/DevOpspost6/30/2023
Victim Blaming will not be tolerated

Victim Blaming will not be tolerated — Hey all, Codependency can lead to a ton of behaviors and relationship styles that are less than healthy, but as we all strive to better ourselves and shed these old habits that no longer serve us, it…

r/Codependencypost8/29/2023
Posting anonymously is now possible!

Posting anonymously is now possible! — Considering the topic of this subreddit, we acknowledge that in some cases users may feel posting through their own accounts may be possibly problematic and obstructs safety to an extent. For those wh…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost11/28/2023
Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading

Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…

r/JosephMurphypost12/31/2024
Welcome to r/ecommerce! Please Read Before Posting

Welcome to r/ecommerce! Please Read Before Posting — **Table of Contents:** I. Account Requirements II. Content Rules III. Linking Policies IV. Dropshipping Guidelines V. Reporting Violations VI. Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) VII. Encouraged C…

r/ecommercepost3/4/2025
Sick of Spam? Use the Report Button!

Sick of Spam? Use the Report Button! — Annoyed by AI-written posts full of stealth promotion? We are, too. Whenever you see it, hit that report button! The majority of spam that makes it through our ever-evolving filters is never reported …

r/Entrepreneurpost4/18/2025
Am I crazy? Growing from a single freelancer to an agency with a team

Am I crazy? Growing from a single freelancer to an agency with a team — Hi everyone - quick background: I'm a freelance web designer/developer who's been doing this thing now for almost 15 years. I've done it under a studio name, but it's always just been me, with some oc…

r/web_designpost4/23/2025
Why you should always schedule your job interviews in the early morning.

Why you should always schedule your job interviews in the early morning. — I got reminded today of a very important tip when you're setting up interviews. \>> Do not set up job interviews at the end of the work day. In short, there have been studies done on judges that sho…

r/UXDesignpost4/30/2025
Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker

Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker — I started job-hunting in April. After two weeks of sending applications and receiving zero feedback (only ghosting), I scheduled a few calls with my mentor. Based in Eastern Europe and looking for a f…

r/UXDesignpost4/30/2025
Best SEO Practices for writing blogs

Best SEO Practices for writing blogs — Hello, I'm a copywriter, and I want to share some "best SEO practices to keep in mind when writing blogs" with the younger copywriters. Some I'm thinking about are: * Using the keyword in the header…

r/SEOpost4/30/2025
Google not indexing images from my site? Images don't show up in search results?

Google not indexing images from my site? Images don't show up in search results? — I submitted my website to Google months ago and they've successfully crawled it many times. For some reason it doesn't seem they are indexing any of the images on the site. My website is image heavy a…

r/SEOpost5/1/2025
Interviewing for a UX job when you have a UX job is annoying

Interviewing for a UX job when you have a UX job is annoying — I know, I know. I should be grateful to have a job, I should be grateful to land interviews. But the amount they're asking is insane. I'm sorry, I cannot dedicate my time to a 50 sometimes 60 hours w…

r/UXDesignpost5/1/2025
Can you successfully use AI humanizers to improve SEO

Can you successfully use AI humanizers to improve SEO — When working with AI-generated content for SEO, it’s always a balancing act. On one hand, I want the content to be optimized with keywords and structure, but on the other, I don’t want it to come over…

r/digital_marketingpost5/1/2025
Should I try to learn SEO or just hire someone?

Should I try to learn SEO or just hire someone? — My family just opened a small pet supplies business. I used to be into web design and tech stuff years ago so I was able to throw together a simple website. The thing is, I have no clue about SEO. I …

r/SEOpost5/2/2025
What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond

What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …

r/digital_marketingpost5/2/2025
Minimal or No Design Emails Will Almost Always Outperform Designed Emails

Minimal or No Design Emails Will Almost Always Outperform Designed Emails — For most ecom owners, either spending the time yourself or paying a professional to intricately design each of your emails has to be one of the worst ROI decisions possible. I'm not exactly sure wher…

r/ecommercepost5/2/2025
Research -- What makes you hire a copywriter?

Research -- What makes you hire a copywriter? — Hey everyone, I'm doing some market research and would really appreciate any input you have. Also, this isn't a promo post or anything of the sort, just me diving into the market. First off, a bit ab…

r/ecommercepost5/2/2025
Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit)

Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…

r/web_designpost5/2/2025
How important are figma plugins?

How important are figma plugins? — Just out of curiosity how important are figma plugins to designers and alike?

r/UXDesignpost5/3/2025
E-commerce shop for honesty/honor farm shop/stand

E-commerce shop for honesty/honor farm shop/stand — Hello everyone. I run a small farm shop selling out vegetables and beef. It's based on an honesty system with customers writing purchases in a notebook book then paying in by cash or by typing their…

r/ecommercepost5/3/2025
As a DevOps Engineer, do I need to know databases?

As a DevOps Engineer, do I need to know databases? — The question pretty much. How important is it to know dbs to be a better DevOps Engineer? Mind you, I'm already a DevOps Engineer but there's barely anything I'm touching db related, or even networkin…

r/DevOpspost5/3/2025
How do you deal with the spam?

How do you deal with the spam? — I recently (4 weeks ago) started a shopify store in a niche market with my handmade products. Doing organic advertisement with product videos on tiktok, facebook, instagram and youtube. Generally spea…

r/Shopifypost5/3/2025
New to SEO and Trying to save my local business

New to SEO and Trying to save my local business — Hi Everyone! I run a local companion care service for seniors and I’m staring down what feels like an impossible mountain with SEO. I’ve watched countless YouTube tutorials, learned a bit about on-si…

r/SEOpost5/3/2025
To blog or not to blog

To blog or not to blog — That is the question. I own a service based business and have been changing up my website a bit and this question comes to mind, should I blog or not? Should it be a few blogs here and there or does…

r/SEOpost5/3/2025
Restricted access for employees (I will not promote)

Restricted access for employees (I will not promote) — What tools are you using for managing time-based temporary permissions, such as AWS/GCP accounts, database, SSH access, etc. ? Looking for a solution for managing permissions for people accessing res…

r/startupspost5/3/2025
Ranking with podcasts and YouTube embed?

Ranking with podcasts and YouTube embed? — I recently heard that although backlinks are important to rank your webpages on Google but you can escalate this process by embedding content assets to your webpage like a relevant YouTube video, or a…

r/SEOpost5/4/2025
JSON-LD by llana Davis

JSON-LD by llana Davis — I am newer to SEO and stumbled across this app via ChatGBT. My 7-day trial ends in the next two days and then we’ll be charged the $400 annual charge. Before we commit though, has anyone (or does an…

r/SEOpost5/4/2025
How to decide what to priorotize when you have limited time?

How to decide what to priorotize when you have limited time? — There are so many levers you can pull to improve a website's SEO performance. How do you actually decide which are more vs less important tasks to do, when you can only do some because of limited hour…

r/SEOpost5/4/2025
Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups (I will not promote)

Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups (I will not promote) — **Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups** These are a few things I have come to learn while doing "startups," maybe it will help some entrepreneurs in their startup travels.…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
I got my first devops position

I got my first devops position — I'm really happy about this but I don't have a lot of experience. I'm Actually straight out of college. I studied what kubernetes and docker was and even went to linenode to create a kubernetes cluste…

r/DevOpspost5/5/2025
Marketing for startups (I will not promote)

Marketing for startups (I will not promote) — (I will not promote) Proven strategies to take a startup from zero to scale ($10M+ ARR). As a 3X startup CMO, I have experienced tremendous success and a ton of failure.  I have been involved in th…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
Founders, Seriously, Please Don't Quit your Day Job (I will not promote)

Founders, Seriously, Please Don't Quit your Day Job (I will not promote) — I say this as a lifelong Founder who spends all his time trying to make other people lifelong Founders - **"Please don't quit day job" ... at least not yet.** Seriously, hold on to that steady incom…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time?

I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …

r/Entrepreneurpost5/5/2025
Is this normal? CSS

Is this normal? CSS — I was taught there are three main styling approaches: CSS Modules, CSS-in-JS, and utility frameworks like Tailwind. I also learned that it's important to write clean, organized styles with good class …

r/webdevpost5/6/2025
Starting a powdered supplement product - what is important? what is not?

Starting a powdered supplement product - what is important? what is not? — I have a clear market position and application I see working. I will probably be investing 20k to start this. I know the ROI isnt there on paid ads so i’m going for organic + affiliates. If you’ve g…

r/ecommercepost5/6/2025
What is the biggest problem your startup is solving, where are you located, are you a solo founder and what is your biggest challenge these days? I will not promote.

What is the biggest problem your startup is solving, where are you located, are you a solo founder and what is your biggest challenge these days? I will not promote. — Please don't promote your startup, just share your main focus, from where you operate even its a global product, if you are the only founder and most importantly what is the biggest challenge you are …

r/startupspost5/6/2025
What really makes an Internal Developer Platform succeed?

What really makes an Internal Developer Platform succeed? — Hey, I work at Pulumi as a community engineer and as we are doubling down on [IDP features](https://www.reddit.com/r/pulumi/comments/1kg3o0l/introducing_pulumi_idp/) I’ve been looking around at variou…

r/DevOpspost5/6/2025
MySQL Database Quota Reached - Clean database

MySQL Database Quota Reached - Clean database — Hey everyone, I’m currently hosting several websites on SiteGround’s GoGeek plan which comes with 40 GB of web space. Most of my websites use between 1–3 GB, with one around 5.3 GB. However, one of m…

r/Wordpresspost5/6/2025
I'm lucky enough to have turned my podcast into a full time job - here's what I wish I had known

I'm lucky enough to have turned my podcast into a full time job - here's what I wish I had known — Hey all! Love this community. I'm really blessed to have turned my podcast into a full time job, getting over 200k downloads across 15 episodes upon launch. I'm working on more seasons, but I have had…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/6/2025
How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote)

How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…

r/startupspost5/6/2025
Rate my pagespeed results

Rate my pagespeed results — I think pagespeed is more important than page design for seo score. In these days, almost every website is like a power point slide and their pagespeed result are between 30 and 60. As a wordpress sit…

r/Wordpresspost5/6/2025
Am I overreacting?

Am I overreacting? — My husband and I own a small business that is doing pretty well. It is very 50/50 and we are equally as important in this business. He constantly refers to things as “my employees “ or “my drivers,” o…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
To-do lists in text form don’t fit our way of thinking, they are slow and unproductive. To-Do Models is the way to go.

To-do lists in text form don’t fit our way of thinking, they are slow and unproductive. To-Do Models is the way to go. — I’ve found Projects modeled visually instead of written in flat lists to be wayy more productive and successful. Traditional to-do lists are linear—one-dimensional. You follow a fixed path: top to bot…

r/UXDesignpost5/7/2025
How can wireframes help streamline my website redesign?

How can wireframes help streamline my website redesign? — I run a small online boutique that sells handmade home decor, and I’m in the middle of redesigning my website. I want to make sure the user experience is smooth and that the structure supports an easy…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
Some guidance would be appreciated. Should I focus on a Linux certification first like RHCSA/LFCS first or the Kubernetes CKA. More details below.

Some guidance would be appreciated. Should I focus on a Linux certification first like RHCSA/LFCS first or the Kubernetes CKA. More details below. — Hi everyone. So recently i finished my a devops certification from a bootcamp and have since been spending time working on my own portfolio project. my project consists of: \- a frontend and backend…

r/DevOpspost5/7/2025
What's your marketing strategy?

What's your marketing strategy? — If you want to supercharge your sales, you need a robust sales funnel to convert prospects into buyers. And this includes creating killer content which will help move your prospect down the funnel. …

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
I DID IT! Put in my notice today, focusing on my agency full time.

I DID IT! Put in my notice today, focusing on my agency full time. — I've been working 70+ hour weeks for the last 16 months, working a full-time job as VP of Marketing for a Fortune 500 company while also getting my side hustle marketing agency off the ground. My agen…

r/Entrepreneurpost5/7/2025
Seeking honest feedback on an early mockup for a sustainable toothbrush brand

Seeking honest feedback on an early mockup for a sustainable toothbrush brand — Hey everyone! I’m working on creating a sustainable toothbrush brand and I’m still in the early stages. The name, logo, and product design aren’t final yet. Before I move forward, I’d love to hear yo…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
I need a simple easy tip to fix a JavaScript error on my Wordpress blog

I need a simple easy tip to fix a JavaScript error on my Wordpress blog — I added a page to my Wordpress blog and it was fine and today a command popped up stating that it’s the wrong json response error and I looked it up in the search engine and a few of the steps that we…

r/Wordpresspost5/8/2025
Am I Overthinking the Name?

Am I Overthinking the Name? — I’m in the planning phase of starting a fashion accessories brand, mainly leather goods to begin with. I’m definitely a chronic overthinker, but I can’t seem to come up with a name that feels right. A…

r/smallbusinesspost5/8/2025
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Did this a bit back in high school a few years ago, but just sort of fell out of it. This popped up on my front page and I'm gonna give it another try. I just hope lucid dreaming doesn't affect sleep …

r/LucidDreamingcomment10/1/2017
If you are new here..

Just do one. The most important.

r/JosephMurphycomment5/2/2020
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

Early brain development is such an important topic. I'll be sure to look through more of your post history especially because it's an area I haven't delved into very much. What would you want someone …

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment6/25/2020
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

Knowing that there's a physical reason for the confusion and lack of awareness makes it easier to accept. One feels like an outsider; the people around you seem to know how to be with each other. An…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment6/26/2020
If you are new here..

You completely missed the point. You don’t need all the woo to get money, which is important in this world. Get your money first. Then once you have more than enough to last you a life time, you c…

r/JosephMurphycomment7/2/2020
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Yep! Practice makes perfect. Deep relaxation is important. You have to relax and go to sleep, consciously. It's generally recommended to do it during a WBTB phase. That is, attempt it after 4-6 hours …

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/6/2021
If you are new here..

a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…

r/JosephMurphycomment2/18/2022
If you are new here..

Thank you lol, those who don't want to focus on the Bible aspect don't have to. Just use it practically, that's it. But the Bible knowledge he spread is extremely important and freeing for those who b…

r/JosephMurphycomment2/18/2022
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Well, I somehow find it unreal to believe that no one talked about coffee, which has a very potent effect on the very important thing to do this AP and LD, sleep.

r/AstralProjectioncomment3/11/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

You are right. Saying they left because of our flaws isn’t completely right, they left too because of their flaws. The most important thing is to recognize our own flaws for the purpose of self-accept…

r/ExNoContactcomment5/25/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

I can't make calls some asshole namely my pos thief and his sticky finger bitch. I'm sick of getting blamed for doing the right thing here. Rick Jeff , and the rest of those guys are pimping young g…

r/ExNoContactcomment6/3/2022
If you are new here..

I’ve read few posts that are as “loser”-ish as this one. I’ve yet to study either in depth, but for anyone to not only BELIEVE that they are better than a very large group of people (all of whom are v…

r/JosephMurphycomment10/12/2022
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

I think a better phrasing would be assigning responsibility, not blame. Our parents neglected their responsibilities to us when they neglected us. It's less about pointing a finger at a person and mor…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment11/27/2022
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

I cried reading several times reading thru this. This sub is so important. Hopefully it can have a large international impact.

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment2/13/2023
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2

Long term actions are important when you're doing something in protest. I really like the idea of once a week closures, which for Reddit means a permanent loss of revenue until they satisfy concerns.

r/DevOpscomment6/30/2023
Victim Blaming will not be tolerated

I have not been public-facing but generally when people come to me with issues I take care of them. This was due to complaints about a certain comment that made people feel unsafe. It's important a co…

r/Codependencycomment9/3/2023
REMINDER: be kind to yourself. This is hard, and you’re handling it with grace and strength.

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

r/Divorcecomment9/28/2023
REMINDER: be kind to yourself. This is hard, and you’re handling it with grace and strength.

Getting your medicine right will make a big change. It didn’t cure my sadness and grief and fear and all the things that came with my new circumstances but when I finally got on the right dose of the …

r/Divorcecomment10/17/2023
Question about POSM

I would imagine so, but it’s not about doing it throughout the day but rather doing it when you wake up and before sleep, maybe occasionally during the day if you need to get yourself in the right hea…

r/JosephMurphycomment10/21/2024
Question about Negative Statements "don't, not etc" and mild contradictions in POSM

From my experience the way he described it was the confusing part, especially considering the dozen translations there are of this book. Personally I think that a few things he is not right about w…

r/JosephMurphycomment10/31/2024
Question about Negative Statements "don't, not etc" and mild contradictions in POSM

It's because it's not about those details but about immersion into the scenario. Someone can have a mental argument in there without seeing other people. They followed the argument because of the imme…

r/JosephMurphycomment11/11/2024
Manifestation coaches have not refuted any anti-loa arguments

Everyone, respond to this thread here. It is an important one and will test your fundamental understanding and practice of the LOB - which is something you need to do from time to time to avoid believ…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/21/2025
Manifestation coaches have not refuted any anti-loa arguments

Yes, and that was clearly one of the most important aspects of your original post. Everyone who replied in the other comments ignored this, which is incredibly ridiculous. All members, respond to…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/22/2025
My arguments against manifestation

No 4 is so important! This is why I tell everyone to just learn and DO IT! Because when you see it happen again and again and again when it "shouldn't" you get mindblown and no other proof needed.

r/JosephMurphycomment1/23/2025
My arguments against manifestation

Don’t agree. There’s a difference between mental dieting and not living in a constant state of lack. This is why MB recommends going NC during SP missions. This person barebones was trying for three y…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/24/2025
My arguments against manifestation

Exactly, that’s what I always say to those who keep bitching it doesn’t work. It’s very important to Change YOU for gods sake, otherwise good luck with your mental screens. Even look at religions, the…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/24/2025
My arguments against manifestation

Okay logic and science- so your RAS reticular activating system is basically the minds way of filtering and processing the insurmountable data that it takes in from the environment 24/7 as well as pro…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/27/2025
My arguments against manifestation

>It’s very important to Change YOU for gods sake, otherwise good luck with your mental screens. This is loaporn.

r/JosephMurphycomment1/30/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

I'm FA and I identify with this. I value my alone time, and generally speaking, consider myself an introvert. A recharge period is definitely necessary, not just after a social interaction but at the …

r/attachment_theorycomment3/18/2025
How to heal avoidant attachment?

Omg twins. Hi! Yeah I hadn’t been in a romantic relationship at all for six years before I finally tried with this FA guy. In my last real relationship I was targeted by a psychopath and it fucked me …

r/attachment_theorycomment3/21/2025
How to heal avoidant attachment?

Therapist will navigate with you your core wounds which will help you to identify your fears and patterns, learn healthy boundaries, learn about attachment in deeper and learn more about yourself, wor…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/22/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

Sounds pretty avoidant. That sucks - I’m sorry. Does she actually understand how important this is to you? If so, I might try having the conversation one more time, being clear that it’s a dealbreaker…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/22/2025
How to heal avoidant attachment?

First regulate your nervous system, and find a nice relaxing moment- this will help you. Don’t dump the trauma on him, find some key things you are struggling with. Persist if you start getting disreg…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/22/2025
How to heal avoidant attachment?

If you want to talk, I invite DMs but I'm only here sporadically. I'm a healed avoidant. I say that, but it's not black and white. I measure now for mostly secure. I still experience the initial resp…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/23/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

sure but at what point is repeated “venting” just victimizing yourself/validation seeking? if you really do the work, you wanna live your life and invest your time in things that are interesting or …

r/attachment_theorycomment3/23/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

Yes I agree it’s an important topic. My issue with how you’re addressing it is that you’re creating some sort of behavior hierarchy that simply doesn’t exist. I’m not AP, for the record. I am in the…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/23/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

I'm also a recovering FA and I recently realized a few REALLY important things that are actually really simple. Figure out your boundaries and enforce them from a calm place. Our anxiety builds in our…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/24/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

Google and watch YouTube videos about this. It's a deeper understanding and probably important you fully understand. Life changing is what it is!

r/attachment_theorycomment3/26/2025
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

I respect how politely you've addressed this. But please see the other perspective too: 1. Most people are told by their avoidantly attached partner that they're clingy when they're just trying to n…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/30/2025
How do I know if I simply don’t like someone enough to be with them or if I’m simply running away from what is safe?

I listened to “attached” on audio book, it was great. What really helped was learning what “activating” and “deactivating” strategies were. I often used a lot of activating strategies, so now that I’m…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/31/2025
Reading interest in text

My best friend used to say he "couldn't imagine" not texting someone back quickly. Then, *in his own words,* he ""got a life"" and understood that, **yes,** people really can and do get that busy and …

r/attachment_theorycomment4/3/2025
The "and" theory...

THIS IS SO IMPORTANT. Nuanced, critical, free thinking. Microlabelling and micromanaging to me are always signs of absence of precisely this skill. They are tools of oppression of inner conflict, wh…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/4/2025
The "and" theory...

Hahaha, I love it. I would say it's more acknowledging that you can feel 2 emotions at once. On different ends if the spectrum. I hate you AND I miss you. You disgust me AND you made me feel someth…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/4/2025
The "and" theory...

Sure! Some happen in conversation Let's take the example of a simple question to which you can answer with a yes or a no Example 1: Question : - " Do you want to go to the movies tonight? " ( You…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/4/2025
Does attachment style start to shift after cutting out toxic family members?

Attachment styles are not the sole factors for attraction we create. But cutting off people we have known for a long time - especially family members, to which we are bound to biologically - is a sig…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/9/2025
Has anyone else gone from being dismissive avoidant to anxious preoccupied towards their therapist?

This is interesting.  I think maybe for a DA who is doing the work to change and heal, you finally open up and once you are open you have a lot to unpack.  My guess is that you've repressed a lot of e…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/16/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

Your post leaves out the important little phrase "feels like", first of all. Secondly... I was left in the dark many times, in veryyy hurtful and disappointing ways. Not once have I felt or had a tho…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/18/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

I totally relate to the awful feelings of seeing an avoidant ex move on super quickly while you are still reeling from the triggering and retraumatization of that relationship. Going through it right …

r/attachment_theorycomment4/18/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

I don't think it's hate, it's just a 'ok that's done now' door close moved on. Heidi Priebe on YT (video: avoidant blindspot) talks about the idea in her videos about avoidant behavior of having the …

r/attachment_theorycomment4/18/2025
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

no, just tell someone they were important to you, maybe say you wish it didn’t end poorly

r/attachment_theorycomment4/18/2025