the happiness trap

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

This was a very volatile week for me, with several important new insights. Context: I'm DA (40M), on a healing journey for 4.5 months now, my aim is to reconnect with my wife (41F) who is FA, togethe…

I didn't do any therapy, but I discussed my situation a lot on Reddit and answered many questions about my experience as a DA, which helped me a great deal in terms of understanding myself. My discuss…

It's great you have self-awareness, that's a big step! In FAs, deactivation can come from both abandonment and engulfment triggers. It may be good to think about what goes through your mind before you…

This is very familiar to me,even though I don't do formal therapy. I also notice the feeling of connection/rupture now and the associated mood swings, even though my mood was perfectly stable before m…

„The Happiness Trap“ and „Self Compassion - the antidote to shame“