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How to disconnect from sensory distractions, transforming external noise as preparation for AP — I want to share a perspective on sound and "noise" that might fundamentally shift how you approach the vibratory stage and the meditative stillness required for projection. Often, we view external sou…
Victim Blaming will not be tolerated — Hey all, Codependency can lead to a ton of behaviors and relationship styles that are less than healthy, but as we all strive to better ourselves and shed these old habits that no longer serve us, it…
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
Multiple dreams/goal at the time — Hi everyone, im new here. I work the book Psycho-cybernetics for almost 2 years and last week i bought POSM and i LOVE it, i almost finished it and will start re-reading it. My question is, since i h…
How do I know if I simply don’t like someone enough to be with them or if I’m simply running away from what is safe? — I am dating someone for a week and I feel like I don’t like them enough and I would like something more exciting. They also feel like coming in too hard with double and triple texting. I know howeve…
Sidebar Navigation On Landing Pages... Good UX? — I was browsing around ThemeForest the other day, looking for some layout and design inspiration, and I found something I can't say I've seen before. It’s a landing page with a sticky sidebar nav that …
Webflow or Framer? — Which one do you personally prefer? And which one objectively has more potential in the long run/in which one can you do more than in the other right now? And how much steeper is the learning curve fo…
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…
What's the best free alternative to Dreamweaver for making a personal website? — I know the easiest route is to just use Wordpress, but I don't want a Wordpress blog again right now. Dreamweaver makes sense to me. I need to see the code view or what I'm looking at makes less sense…
Getting rejected every time during the portfolio presentation stage — Hello everyone, I seem to be unable to pass the portfolio presentation phase and now is the fourth time this has happened — Many of these companies are fintech which I have a background in but recentl…
How do I put together a multi-product design system as a sole designer? — Hi all, my UX design journey has been chaotic but I suspect that’s normal. I was in visual/web design for about 8 years then 2 years ago I got my first UX role (after trying to pursue and study UX f…
Can you successfully use AI humanizers to improve SEO — When working with AI-generated content for SEO, it’s always a balancing act. On one hand, I want the content to be optimized with keywords and structure, but on the other, I don’t want it to come over…
Changing or staying? Product Designer — Hello. I’ve barely been a junior product designer for a year before I was laid off and threatened by AI. Same telltale as everyone in design/IT industries. I’ve been unemployed for 2 months now, and …
AWS network automation — I find myself in a funny position to redo part of the network in AWS. We have two parts: one is newer and uses transit gateways that are centralized in a single account, the other is older and vpc pee…
I have failed. More than once. (i will not promote) — Been 10 years since I started my professional journey. I have failed. More than once. I have also succeeded and still doubted myself through it. I have risked time, energy, money, relationships. S…
Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …
Low-risk, High-reward, and Easy-to-start Business... an A-Z overview of the Rental Management business I run (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I'm a real estate & software developer, AirBnB Host of \~20 units personally, and I help run a management company with \~200 client homes. So I've been through the ringer in every which …
Failing to Find Google Maps Scraper (that does everything) — I've built a directory listing website and I'm using WP All Import plugin to pull in data from a spreadsheet (which consists of scraped business info from their Google Maps / GBP listings). Being tha…
Things to do with my non technical cofounder "i will not promote" — Hi all i will not promote So i have a startup / side business im working on, I bought a friend in as a cofounder as he's generally useful in going out making connections, someone to help with site …
Question about 404's — Explain to me like im 5: I just do not understand why google shows me 404s when the URLs listed in GSC as 404s were never posted anywhere. I accidentally created a duplicate URL once, which then mad…
[Hiring/Seeking/Offering] Jobs / Co-Founders Weekly Thread — # [Hiring/Seeking/Offering] Jobs / Co-Founders Weekly Thread This is an experiment. We see there is a demand from the community to: * Find Co-Founders * Hiring / Seeking Jobs * Offering Your Skillse…
Why do most tech billionaires avoid flashy lifestyles—are there any who embrace extravagance? I will not promote — I’ve always noticed the contrast between how different the tech entrepreneurs are compared to the others who are in finance, fashion, entertainment, or property. It is almost the expectation in the ot…
indexing problem — For some reason a website that Im indexing for a client, only indexed 4 pages out of many, all of these pages have content, they are "discovered to index" and they aren't indexed. ([picture for refere…
Description liquid block not working — Im trying to fix this error where the shopify API doesnt seem to work when I add a description liquid block. All the other block seem to have proper code and work perfectly fine. Please dm me out of t…
Do I upgrade WP or PHP first? — Hello, I’m helping someone who has an out of date site: Wordpress 5.3.18 PHP: 7.2 It’s using a very simple theme (also outdated and no longer supported.) The site owner has full access to their host…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
Common sense from an actual founder [fully boostrap 10M$ company] about startup studios' playbooks [i will not promote] — I don't post on reddit but I've recently seen an increased influx of post or people talking about X or Y playbook about how you should startup. i will not promote Let me get this straight, I won't cr…
How can I view all network requests in Chrome when doing a search? — Hi. I'm using Maricopa County's GIS to view property information. https://experience.arcgis.com/experience/bd50c51b89054238bfadf69e91b421c9 Their site allows only one parcel number per query. When …
Is AI Applicable Everywhere? — Currently working in the tech space for the mining industry. Core product I work on focuses on workflows and tasks for ground and office staff to complete. Such as verifying CAD drawing, sign offs and…
Developer completely changed my design — I worked so hard on it and the other developer practically said my work was ugly and hers was better. He was like "Are we going to use her work because it's better... I mean different?" He said "Maybe…
Duolingo leader throws shade at r/UXDesign — You all might remember this thread a few months ago, [debating Duolingo renaming UX to “Product Experience.”](https://www.reddit.com/r/UXDesign/comments/1j3hvkw/duolingo_renames_ux/) The VP Mig announ…
Just got my actual tariff bill (USA) — Feels like the other shoe has dropped. I just got my tariff bill back from my shipping company. My effective tariff load for my April 2025 shipment is 176.5%. For comparison, when my order was deliver…
Microsoft's interpretation of Journey Map vs Storyboard — Hey all I'm doing some Microsoft UX certification coursework and am puzzled on something that they don't seem to be clarifying very well. I know large companies may define parts / components of user c…
Your tools and tips for better team alignement? (I will not promote) — Hi, Was reflecting of what worked and what did not in my previous ventures and I think team alignement was a major issue...no suprises here, to me it's normal as it's known to difficult but we alway…
Your tools and tips for better team alignement? — Hi, Was reflecting of what worked and what did not in my previous ventures and I think team alignement was a major issue...no suprises here, too me it's normal as it's difficult but we always struggl…
Combining MPA and SPA? — I'm creating an application for a construction company, enabling them to report about different sectors of the construction process (tender procedure, quality assurance, safety checklist, complexity,…
Upload 1000 images with excel the same title at once in a single post. — I’m building a website where I’ll be uploading 1,000 named images. I want to automate the process of creating posts such that: • The post title matches the image name • The featured image is automat…
I'm building a Figma UI Kit generator that match your brand — I'm building a tool that will generate a custom UI kit for Figma file (along a couple of components to start), which will allow you to build apps that don't look like the other apps Thoughts?
Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them? — I (F, 32, originally AP, now definitely more secure) have just gone through a very confusing dating experience. 3 months ago I started seeing this man (34 met on Hinge). He started off very interested…
Shopify mysterious request — Hello, some people emailed me trying to promote that they can market my store page and products to get more traction and can drive possible sales. Can I trust them? They're asking for my collaborator …
Strange Issue with WPBakery Page Builder in Editor — 3 Admins on same WP Site (site is up to date). Editing or Creating new Page -> 1 Admin sees WPBakery Page Builder Header etc. - the others don't. In Browser Dev Console nothing to see. Tried it via …
How do startups choose between Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, and Clerk for auth & DB? What are your must-haves? (I will not promote) — I'm doing some research into how early-stage startups choose backend platforms, particularly when it comes to **authentication and databases**. I’ve seen a lot of teams go with **Supabase**, others sw…
Advice with how to deal with problem customer (aggressive) — I recently opened my local game store and the community has been great. The other day a customer came in and was rude and combative right out of the gate. I was polite back but that seemed to make no …
How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…
It’s frustrating how often I run into women with Avoidant tendencies. — I’m at a point where I just end things early if I see too many Avoidant tendencies early, but it seems like women with Avoidant tendencies are drown to me more often than secure or anxious which I’d r…
When I want to deactivate I swing too far to the other side to preemptively "sooth" my partner, just in case. — (I'm Fearful Avoidant btw) Does this make sense? Anybody else do this? Like, because I'm so aware of when I want to shutdown/avoid/or am feeling a huge ick, I overcompensate by reaching out more and …
Anyone Else Feel Relationships just Aren't for them? — Hello all, I'm basically pretty severely A.P. , & so far I've been unable to get close to anyone (romantically) in my life without just exploding with terror that I'll be abandoned (or feeling a stro…
A little positive reflection for anyone feeling they’re in the trenches right now. — I only learnt what attachment theory was during a breakup with my most recent ex 2 years ago. When he dumped me seemingly out of the blue because ‘I deserved better’, ‘he needed to be alone.’ Etc etc …
Why hold out hope for other people to meet my needs when it feels more productive and ultimately better to want nothing from other people? — I try my best to be the most attentive friend I can be no matter my internal state. I don't mind doing this for the people I value, and it makes me feel better to be helpful to other people, although …
DAE feel like they want to be in a relationship but don’t really know how to? Intimacy problems? — I mean in terms of intimacy. When I think about being in a relationship, the concept of having someone in my corner that I can cuddle with, do things with, nurture and support and generally love—that …
Everyone coming here from the other subs is blessed to have finally sought a break from the emotional self-harm that seems to be at the core of the methodology in these other groups... which I took pa…
> Everyone coming here from the other subs is blessed to have finally sought a break from the emotional self-harm that seems to be at the core of the methodology in these other groups... which I took …
>Hi everyone, > >I am new here.. i got the link of this group through the NG sub.. i am glad i found it.. i have been reading the posts and the content in the index.. i have started reading the P…
>Lizard brain. Don't get me wrong, on one hand I do appreciate you doing what you do, but on the other you are just another spawn of devil, promoting life as if it isn't self balancing, as if you ain'…
We actually do live in a magnetic universe. But you can believe whatever you want, because we also live in a free will universe. And Humans will take any opportunity to draw lines of division between …
Nobody here disparages Neville (except where he deserves it - he is good speaker but a poor teacher) and pits one against the other. And Nevilles works are cited here eve in the index and sidebar. …
Ok- I dunno how to approach this. My parents did *not* talk about feelings. Still don't-- small town German-Irish silence. I never once witnessed conflict resolution-- just behind the back bottling an…
thank you, very interesting insight, i guess is still down to our concious self to still understand whats what and whos who on the other side as well. Sometimes i do wonder, if on a higher dimension …
No, it is not. People talk a lot of nonsense. The only demons people get possessed by are by their own egotistical psychology or some other fantasy 👍 I'll also paste an answer I gave to someone a whi…
Thank you all. I am new here and hope to learn as much as i can Edit: I’d like to add how i ended up here. Just the other day i was in a state a where i nearly achieved what i believe could of been m…
a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…
I had a really concerning dream just now and fear of my boyfriend didn't wake me up something bad was going to happen to me.. It started off in a house I've never seen before the kitchen was upstairs…
TIL both my parents harmed me, and they were divorced and separated. They both blame the other or me. Lovely. They’re dead to me, lost causes.
Me and my ex was together 2 years, really amazing time but she changed My ex left me for someone else and moved 3000 miles to be with him. She said to her friends she’s so lonely because he’s at work…
2 weeks ago I was taking valerian root capsules choline and a B vitamin combination powder. When i was asleep i could change things in my mind while I was dreaming ,I flew and I forgot what the other …
I agree. And a perspective from someone who’s sort of finally on the other side of heartbreak recently - it might not. I have no evidence that my ex even misses me. We just don’t talk anymore. Hones…
Yes!!!! Once in one night, I kept getting pulled between here and “the other place”. I’ve been calling it that, assuming it’s another dimension or parallel universe. It was somewhere familiar but unkn…
Relationships are 'us', not 'me'. Relationships which have 'me' first, don't last. Why do we get into relationships? Probably because we 'love' each other? And wouldn't like them to see them happy wit…
You are farther along in your divorce process than I am! I’m still in the ‘I’ve been invited to stay in our house, but sleep in the other bedroom’ phase. I haven’t seen an attorney yet. Have you gotte…
Fortunately I've taken my separation (and inevitable divorce) as an opportunity to quit drinking and make healthy lifestyle choices. I've been working really hard to practice mindfulness and radical …
Something my therapist said to me yesterday: closure in these situations has to come from within you, since the other person has opted to disconnect. I chose to write a letter to my STBX before our …
I hear you buddy. I loved my ex so much, and still love her, even though I could never take her back. But what really hurts is as you described - she blind-sided me and could not care less. I, on the …
Hello, I'm Kale, and Im 34. I was just married 3 months ago after being in a loving 8+ year relationship with the kindest person I've ever met. Three days ago she told me she had developed a relation…
This is a neat way to look at it! And yeah, for cases that are more nuanced, when I give advice on here, I make it a point to try and see what might be going on from the other side, then suggest cours…
You need to be specific to what you want we all want lots of money but nobody knows how much ‘lots’ is, write it down what type of car you want what color, leather interior or cloth? What make and mod…
Sad but true, i always like to play the safe route and ask probing questions to make the other person think about the scenario first then draw a conclusion after gathering more moral based information…
From my experience the way he described it was the confusing part, especially considering the dozen translations there are of this book. Personally I think that a few things he is not right about w…
In my opinion focusing on two goals at once before you have a lot of success is just your unbelief talking. You don't believe you'll heal your issues through manifestation (at least for a while) so yo…
Yes, and that was clearly one of the most important aspects of your original post. Everyone who replied in the other comments ignored this, which is incredibly ridiculous. All members, respond to…
You obviously didn't understand my comments. I didn't say I am building up, I never said 10 years and I didn't mention all the other shit I got for myself. If you want to live like you do and not have…
There's alot of hate on people saying "it works for me, try it" but that's because most of us have tried and failed too (bc we did it wrong for ex) before just like the majority in the other sub, and …
The point I am trying to make is that you cannot do 15 minutes of SATS a day and live in a state of lack for the other 23 hours and 45 minutes. SATS/SH is a technique, but it has no power unless you a…
No, mental thoughts do not become physical reality. That would be a world of chaos. *Repetitive* mental thoughts become beliefs, and beliefs do. And this can be layered. You can wake up and have a t…
Daydreams and dreams serve a similar function. Neither involve looping a specific scene. Both involve a sort of mind wandering. Except one you are unconscious and the other you are awake. So I disagre…
\>Daydreams and dreams serve a similar function. Neither involve looping a specific scene. Both involve a sort of mind wandering. Except one you are unconscious and the other you are awake. So I disag…
Thank you. I will ask the op to insert these links into her other post. They are a good addenda and are a beneficial part of the record. We may make her post a part of our index as well. It is a very…
>The point I am trying to make is that you cannot do 15 minutes of SATS a day and live in a state of lack for the other 23 hours and 45 minutes. SATS/SH is a technique, but it has no power unless you …
>She’s the one that started it. What are you, 2 years old ? You don't put forth circular arguments in proper debates about anything, ever. That is corrupt and basically lazy. > >As of 2025, there …
Work - it was my first mission. Daily routine as in the index, in three months I missed maybe 3-4 days due to travel. The result - work in a profession for which I had no qualifications. On the oth…
I am saying crushes, when the other person is not also choosing you, are unhealthy and to please stop that behavior.
Omg twins. Hi! Yeah I hadn’t been in a romantic relationship at all for six years before I finally tried with this FA guy. In my last real relationship I was targeted by a psychopath and it fucked me …
I feel you. I’ll give you my experience as a FA then suggestions. - I also transitioned from anxious to avoidant our the years. I was never full on AA but more anxious leaning FA as a child. Now I l…
For me a big part *is* (cause I’m still working on it)… not fearing losing myself in an attachment. Being able to establish clear boundaries early on, and keep to them even if I lose the other person…
It is extremely difficult to *start* the healing process while in a relationship as you would be required to balance other factors (is the other party willing to work too? What is their level of healt…
It’s kind of saddening/comical to see how majority of these posts go “my partner / ex is avoidant. They are the best thing since sliced bread and I’ve already read 102839172 books on their attachment …
The problem with DA people in the end of a relationship is that they cause the other persons wounds to be activated. The feelings of not good enough kick in and people are desperate to find a reason t…
It’s been a year (yesterday) since my ex cruelly and coldly discarded me by text (after 18 months of dating… and lots of life experiences).. “I can’t see you anymore, I wish you well”.. It was massive…
This is not a competition who is far less irritating or who is more evil than the other. Its about both parties should be taking accountability. I am more than agree with you that AP’s biggest challen…
Irritating the ones you love, polysecure (because it deals with a lot of attachment education), women who love too much, polyvagal theory and exercises, legit anything to do with different therapies— …
But why is it then relevant for non anxious folks to tell anxious folks stuff? That happens here all the time. I mean genuinely it’s really fascinating to see the dynamics of these types play out in…