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again your "references" refer to books which aren't backed by rigorous scientific and anthropologic data and have been criticized. the Wiki article can be easily modified, but the general consensu…

Quran and LOB — Hello I am a Muslim and I know there’s a lot of references from the Bible. Are there any from the Quran that anyone can guide me. Also how can one create feelings when going through a heavy emotion…

Can we talk about how bad the current Shopify Admin UI is? — How has this continued to be a thing, and how did this get approved internally? The Shopify Admin UI is a complete mess. It's genuinely hard to believe this shipped — and worse, that it's still the c…

Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…

I’m still a magnet to guys who need help. (I stopped rescuing). — I used to be more anxious-ambivalent/codependent and enmeshed from family + an ex-friend. I’ve learned in CBT to separate someone else’s problems/emotions and my own to not become codependent again. (…

I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

Update: How can I(20F) tell my boyfriend (20M) about my sexual preferences when he has already expressed disgust over it? — Alright, so even though no one asked for it I’m back with an update. First of all, thank you to everyone that commented, I swear on everything that I read each and every single comment. Thank you for…

Men having rigid body type preferences — I'm (45f) 5'8", thin. Not underweight, but a thin person with largish tatas of Scandinavian descent. I matched with a man on an app and went on a date, where he told me that his ideal type is a pet…

Ladies: What makes you swipe RIGHT? (inspired by today's recent post) — What are some things in men's profiles that make you swipe **RIGHT**? I'm looking for positivity here. The stuff that makes you say "ooh," not the stuff that made you say "eww." We hear about dealbre…

“Asian Men Only Like White Women” Is So Baffling to Me — Preface: This post is about *women's perception* that "Asian men only like White women," not about who you should be in a relationship with . Of course, we shouldn't stop/discourage/vilify AMWF relati…

TikTok Video Calls Racial Dating Preferences Racist, Draws X Backlash — Link: https://x.com/i/status/2035395580797534514 The backlash may be aimed at South Asian men right now, but let’s be real—this is how a lot of people see Asian men in general. A video posted on Tik…

Hacking the parasympathetic nervous system for AP with neural entrainment — In our journey to understand the mechanics of out of body experiences, we often focus on the metaphysical. However, I’ve been reflecting on a profound question: *What if ancient yogis were describing …

An Experiential Argument for Non-Local Consciousness and how this is connected to OBEs — This morning I woke up from two hours of dreamless sleep and a thought hit me that I haven't been able to shake since. It started simple, when you wake up from deep sleep, you had zero dreams, zero re…

I think I just “received” something about Chris Bledsoe’s prediction, but I don’t have enough knowledge to better develop my reasoning about what I received. Is there any astrologer, chemist and alchemist here in this group? The question is something about regulus, halogen, tennessine and antimony. — This also seems to have to do with Archangel Michael. If you are a astrologer, chemist and alchemist, could you please tell us if you can visualize any possible physics or metaphysics connection betw…

Welcome! Read Me First. — # Welcome to r/Stoicism. This community exists for serious discussion of Stoic philosophy. It is not a forum for general self-help, motivation, validation, or professional therapy. It is also not a p…

April 03, 2026 - Weekly FAQ and Beginner Q&A Thread | If you are new to Neville, please post your questions here! How do I manifest X? What does Y mean? — Feel free to ask any type of question on this thread. More importantly, feel free to answer questions that have been asked! Additionally, please refrain from posting multiple questions in the subredd…

Dream of ceramic/clay worm/tentacle. Please help, thank you. — Hi, I have lately been involved in reading a lot about out of body experiences, monroe institute, gateway tapes, astral realms, occultism, alien abductions, etc. I have never previously in my life tr…

Please help me understand if that was a dream, and who/what did I meet? Was it malevolent? — Hi, I have been rational, sceptical person most of my life. After trump's remarks about UFO, I fell into and extreme rabbit hole. I am a psychologist by degree. For the last month I have lately been …

AI is your friend. — I am an expat in a foreign land, and fell in love with a delightful woman here. The first month was glorious and beautiful, but soon after she began exhibiting many of these traits (before I even knew…

The Scientific Dispute Over Near-Death Experiences - Part 2: The Temporal Lobe and Out-of-Body Experiences — A few months ago, scientists from Liegè University published a neuroscientific model of near-death experience. Their brain-based explanation were highly controversial and immediately contested by othe…

i realized i've been saying "i'm fine" so much that i actually convinced myself — i've always been the "chill" friend. the one who's like yeah i'm good with whatever, i don't care where we eat, no it's fine you pick, i'm easy. and for a long time i thought that was a good thing?? l…

POC solidarity as an Asian — Firstly I would not like for this post to derail into other non-Asian POC hate, and I know this is not ALL non-Asian POCs being this way. I know this bc my own non-Asian POC (Black, Indigenous Blak, P…

How do I convince my parents to knock and enter, or let me lock the door? — I am 18F, Indian, living with my parents and younger sis. In our house, there are only 2 bedrooms which are shared between all 4 us, so no one has their own room. My parents have always been adamant o…

Online dating experience in Quebec/Montreal — I’ve been experimenting with Hinge (including Hinge X) and noticed a pretty consistent pattern that I can’t fully explain. In Montreal/Quebec, I match very consistently with women who are exactly my …

I’m trying to move on from a breakup, but I’m really struggling with how unfair everything feels. — I met this guy and at first I thought we really had a connection. He basically mirrored my preferences and agreed with everything I said, even when I asked him to just be himself, so I thought he was …

Is there a safe, low-key way to tap into sexual energy using meditation? — This is a sincere question, and feel free to keep it high level. I don't care about the specifics of your sexual preferences, your gender, etc. - I'm just honestly curious. I've had this experience b…

How to move on when it feels unfair? — I met this guy and at first I thought we really had a connection. He basically mirrored my preferences and agreed with everything I said, even when I asked him to just be himself, so I thought he was …

How to move on without closure? — I met this guy and at first I thought we really had a connection. He basically mirrored my preferences and agreed with everything I said, even when I asked him to just be himself, so I thought he was …

Started Tapes 3 weeks ago for fun and… — Hey all — new here. I’ve always been a pretty superstitious person. I come from a Hindu background from my parents, but I’m more agnostic now (in my opinion, religion is just man made labels and a tru…

Is it worth it/valid to end a 7 month long relationship due to long distance? (19F) (19M) TLDR at bottom of post! — i feel like this goes a lot deeper than the title, but seeking advice. my bf and i met last semester when starting college. it seemed like a picture perfect relationship: spent tons of time together,…

This is why narcissists love to end long term relationships by ghosting and NEVER accept any responsibility for their actions — In a narcissist's mind, everything is about maintaining their sense of control over others. For them, nothing else is important. In their warped minds, ending a relationship with a sudden, unexpected …

How do you feel about being matched to a therapist through an algorithm on a platform? — Hi! I’m a student working on a research project about how people experience being matched with a therapist through an algorithm on platforms (like Talkspace, BetterHelp, Online-Therapy.com). If you’re…

I know what to do, I’m just sad — My girlfriend (24F) broke up with me (27M) about 2 weeks ago. We had only been dating for 5 months, but we were serious. Spent many many days at her parents’ place (she lives at home), they loved me, …

Am I wrong to feel offended? — During my time as a student in the US every now and then when I'm at a social gathering, we might be talking about dating and I come across a white or black dude that would express their preference fo…

I (23M) was left by my girlfriend (26F) after she found out a lewd porn on my Reddit account — I don't know if this topic is even appropriate for this subreddit, as I'm no longer in a relationship with my partner. However, I wanted to vent here, and maybe someone here can help me, as this situa…

Can my fiance be a grandiose/covert narc? Is this behaviour normal? I need your opinions idk what to do anymore — Hi, me(25F) and my fiance (27m) of 4 years have been living together since December. He works in the sea industry and I am an accountant for a big firm. This is a long one . Thanks for the read and fo…

Wish me luck!!!! — Hey all, uh, short time listener, first-time caller 😉 44m here divorced after almost 20 years. We have kids with 50/50 custody. It was an amicable divorce, and we have a good co-parenting relations…

Help - Waking up in my WR but can't stay awake long enough and end up waking up back here again — So as the title states, for the past 2 days I've been waking up briefly in my WR then falling back asleep and ending up here again. The first time it happened I didn't see my surroundings properly bec…

Am i wrong or is my mom? — I’m going to attach the argument i had with my mom today. (Link at the bottom because i can’t attach photos) I really want honest opinions. Please criticize me if i need it, i feel like i need an unbi…

My minds made, again — I have been married for 7 years and it has always been toxic and abusive. We had a child young (18) and I married her for what I wanted ti be the right reason. Right after our child I joined the milit…

Feeling Conflicted, Need Advice — I broke up with my bf of 4 years. To keep it short while still giving context, we had been having a mismatch in sex drives and physical touch. This wasn't an issue in the first 2 years, but then he st…

April 10, 2026 - Weekly FAQ and Beginner Q&A Thread | If you are new to Neville, please post your questions here! How do I manifest X? What does Y mean? — Feel free to ask any type of question on this thread. More importantly, feel free to answer questions that have been asked! Additionally, please refrain from posting multiple questions in the subredd…

Mixed Feelings — I’m trying to make sense of a relationship dynamic (and research has consistently came up with covert narc tendencies in her) and would really value outside perspective. I’ve been with my partner for …

No memory of being validated — I tried to think of childhood memories of being validated by parents, but couldn't. I only have memories of either receiving zero attention or negative attention. As for feelings, I feel very blank re…

Trust your gut, even when your mind is unsure — Not exactly infidelity, but the same effect, I think. This is a bit long, apologies up front. I and my gf (both well past our 30s) started dating three years ago. We both had been married previousl…

Is my guilt actually more harmful than my shame?? — Added NSFW just in case, also touches on abuse related to religion and references SI Hi all, and apologies in advance if this gets lengthy. I am struggling to organize my thoughts and have been going…

Question for the ladies on FB dating — I’ve been trying out Facebook dating for about a month and I’ve noticed something on there that I find peculiar. A majority of who I match with have both something casual and long-term relationship …

Has anyone read Grow Rich With The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind? Murphy references the founder of WhatsApp in chapter nine, yet he died in 1981… can anyone explain this? There are a few things in t…

Salam, I am a Muslim too. Here are the references: *“Allah does not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.” (Quran 13:11) ☪️* *“Allah would never change a blessin…

This is a very foolish comment.  Any retard knows that many people at times lack faith. Faith is essential for manifesting your desires. Where there's no faith, there's no effect. That's the point to…

“Would you be ok if we slow our cadence down a bit? I like to have some time between our dates and texting interactions, so I can settle into my feelings and intentions.” Or something like that… If t…

I think your question is valid. You showed vulnerability by posting it here. I’m sorry so many adults in this sub choose to use their inside voice when responding. I think it would be different if we …

Hey. These titles are often interchangeable but can mean different things for different organisations, depending on their role responsibility expectations, product/services. As such I wouldn't focus…

Hey. Interesting write up, it has some good references and shows some good understanding on modern software security. Though there are some parts I would critique for feedback: >Another layer that …

I see what you mean there but tbh your examples are actually stuff that everyone should know to not do lol they are universal unless someone doesnt know about basic decency. The things I was talking…

I'm definitely not a philosopher by any means, but here are my thoughts. The article references previous research by Monroe & Malle (2009), where it's said that people's concept of free will consists …

Seems like a person who got spooked and having escaped unscathed has calmed down, reflected, and realized that perhaps their anxiety was irrational. And that is a good indicator that when times get to…

No. No. No. It's not about you being "worthy enough." It's about people's preferences, their own emotional issues that makes them choose someone, and a host of other reasons. I learned through my Avoi…

I'm not a texter, and I keep my phone on silent if I'm not expecting a call or in the middle of a text conversation. I reply to messages when I see them, it might be within minutes or a few hours if I…

Text of original post by u/VisibleAnteater1359: I used to be more anxious-ambivalent/codependent and enmeshed from family + an ex-friend. I’ve learned in CBT to separate someone else’s problems/emotio…

Okay I don't know if this is going to be controversial or something but here are my two cents: * *Yes*, building secure attachment means - allowing yourself to have preferences, and not engaging in r…

Its an important story that one. Though I will say my own references to us growing out of childhood involve way less of a catastrophic forced disclosure than what happens in that story. It involved gr…

I realised that this happened because I didn’t write about any preferences (giving everyone a chance instead of filtering out) nor did I set boundaries. I notice now that I start to attract people who…

“Normal” is a frame of mind. I know many long term happily cohabitating couples who sleep in separate rooms. It also can become more of a thing once people have babies and get older, have health issue…

I’m glad you feel that my comment helped you, and I’m glad you’ve communicated these feelings! I assumed you had, but us avoidants aren’t really known for our vulnerability lol.  Man, I’ve definitely…

I think it's going to be really hard to say this *for sure* because how quickly or slowly a couple moves forward can vary wildly depending on individual preferences, circumstances, culture, etc. In th…

Feel free to join this > https://www.skool.com/the-secure-path-2984/about?ref=5c22469325c344bdb31fd20096ffb766 I will be running a European time zone meeting. Happy to get a few people in there, just …

Good to hear that poly seems to have given you a good support system! Honestly, I don't argue that you should drop poly if you feel like it's good for you, however I would argue that a lot of the lon…

Very happy to share :) A few years ago I worked with a life coach to work on self-esteem and managing/setting boundaries. I still touch base with her when I need 1:1 support. After the avoidant discar…

I think it would probably be overkill to mention it right away, especially in a friendship or coworker relationship. If you've been really close friends with someone for a long time, like at least 6-1…

There is no direct correlation between low cognitive empathy and anxious attachment. I could not find a study that explicitly drew that conclusion. Studies do report that securely attached people show…

The reason you don’t have a romantic relationship is because you won’t get out of your own way. You are stuck in what you want and what you like and how you feel. All very self-absorbed. A woman …

I started a little experiment a few months back, just on Hinge (I’m also on Bumble). I used to say “I get no likes,” but I’m a data/evidence person… and also have the memory of a goldfish 😅 So I star…

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Yeah I could see that but I don’t think it’s really true. I went on a date with a chemist once and he wanted to talk about topics related to that and I wanted to talk about the energies in the univer…

Very welcome. The last little quip of my comment was said to me about 4 years ago and I held on to that idea for dear life. Mostly because I'm roughly the same age as you and dating intentionally, but…

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So I read the article, and it's pretty interesting. I'm definitely in the freeze+fawn group. Freeze from childhood emotional neglect, and fawn from my narcissistic, volatile, and controlling father. I…

I met a guy 2.5 weeks ago and we've been going on dates and talking all day everyday since. He had no red flags, tons in common, no serious differences in preferences or opinions, we vibed amazingly. …

Yeah, we like dancing, going out to eat, taking walks, can do other things together. It does tend to be us doing our own thing on the couch in the evenings, though. I think I just wish I could have mo…

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We can go days/weeks/months without contact in my relationships, depending on the dynamic and people's communication preferences - I prefer deep in-person connection to superficial digital check-ins, …

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Be excellent to one another (i.e. Don't be a jerk to people)! This is a place for all races, genders, sexual orientations, non-exploitive sexual preferences and humanity in general. Gendered/sexualize…

Be excellent to one another (i.e. Don't be a jerk to people)! This is a place for all races, genders, sexual orientations, non-exploitive sexual preferences and humanity in general. Gendered/sexualize…

The apps seem to have completely died now. I'm lucky to get one match a month. Often the match I get is someone I'm not attracted to and have no memory of liking.  I noticed they started to get wors…

My partner and I do not cohabitate and don't plan to. The closest I think we would get is sharing a duplex. We love each other very much and love spending time together, but we both very much value ou…

About a year ago, I got out of a 3 year, on again-off again relationship. When we were in our on phases, we literally spent every waking moment together. Even bathroom time, if we weren't showering to…

Logistics-wise, it’s mostly local matches to your proximity, but you can ask to broaden your distance to how far you’re willing to travel. There’s a brief phone call interview to make sure you’re a go…

There's being turned off by innocuous preferences and being turned off because you're being disrespected. This sounds like it's the latter.

Hey everyone, I (31m) am living in a small Austrian town of about 25k. I have a stable, well-paying job I don’t want to leave, but I’m very lonely and struggling to meet someone. My attraction is stro…

Thanks for the reply. Drew is fun and I think willing to compromise with me (as I am with his needs and preferences as well). But sitting on the couch and realizing you havent been able to say anythin…

Hey everyone, I (31m) am living in a small Austrian town of about 25k. I have a stable, well-paying job I don’t want to leave, but I’m very lonely and struggling to meet someone. My attraction is stro…

He's very likely busy with the bachelor party, being present and staying off of his phone. Which is a good thing. Not a big fan of him not replying to your text although at least he reacted. My boyfri…

Be excellent to one another (i.e. Don't be a jerk to people)! This is a place for all races, genders, sexual orientations, non-exploitive sexual preferences and humanity in general. Gendered/sexualize…

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