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Chest "phantom" hole — Hello everybody, Since childhood I've been experiencing a feeling of a hole in my chest. It's sometimes empty but also it feels like it holds my whole energy?? I also feel energy shifts here I've also…
How to be comfortable in new, developing relationships without devaluing them for not being as deep as a past relationship (phantom ex?) — After many months of thinking, I've come to the conclusion that one of the things that made my past relationship so special is the fact that it was the first time I had ever been in touch with someone…
How to get over irreversible, life altering mistakes? — Check out my previous post about not going to the prestigious engineering school I was accepted to in high school for details, but I am having so much trouble moving on. I need to accept my life is no…
Process - Month 2-3 Experiences — This will be shorter than the last one. You can read the last one but mine is relatively easy (no children) and we are on good terms with no financial ties. The legal process is going quite smoothly. …
Time is fake; there is nothing but you. — Shifting, dimensional jumping, Neville Goddard, law of assumption/attraction, magick, etc. all essentially talk about the same thing: Embody the person (or entity) you want to be. This post is a bit…
Connecting the dots in 2026: My "accidental" beginner experiences and the 3-year gap. — Hi everyone, I’m looking for some advice on re-attempting Astral Projection. I’m just now realizing how close I actually got to projecting a few years back. About 2 or 3 years ago, I was deep into att…
I've not heard of anything like that before! But if the pain is actually phantom than physical, then perhaps read this article: http://obeoutlook.blogspot.com/2017/10/the-guardian-on-threshold.html?m=…
When I did it my first time I just imagined a phantom version of myself sitting up and walking out of my body
I have experienced death before in dreams, many times, and in many different ways: drowning in icy cold mud, suffocating on rust, being electrocuted, having G-forces rip the vitals from my body, being…
I am in the same boat. Had my FA (maybe DA? I never knew about attachment theory until her. She was extremely committed and IN. LOVE. for 2 years and was much more anxious and attached. Then she was j…
These are all classic avoidant attachment distancing techniques. Your latest crush is a form of a phantom ex.
By ‘phantom ex,’ I mean that the most recent crush is serving as an idealized image of someone they can never have, which makes it easier to compare others to this unrealistic standard. It’s common in…
Haha...the only link I have sent him recently, for real, is a link to my Amazon wish list to get my apology gift. I've talked to him before about it and he's not willing to do the work or go to therap…
This could be off base but I kind of get the vibe that this is akin to the “phantom ex” FAs sometimes employ, except .. forward looking instead of back. I think you did well not giving the new girl y…
The fact that she brought it up so early, to me, is a green flag. Those who have been repeatedly hurt by FAs would say it’s a green flag in a sea of red, but IMO to be able to openly have discussions …
Thank you for your comments. Can I ask you: you say “she misses you even now…” as if she is still hung up on him? Is this a situation you’re in? Is this a common FA characteristic? I’ve heard of the…
Hm, not really no. An FA will be able to feel the wall that is up with a DA and a DA probably won't be able to feel the wall that is up for the FA. So, the FA won't be able to 'feel' any love from a D…
Hi everyone, I’m curious if anyone here with an anxious attachment style has experienced something often called a "phantom ex" (intrusive thoughts, emotional pull, or idealization of a past partner l…
Every person in a committed relationship settled for someone good enough. If you are thinking about something maybe being better around the corner, or a phantom ex, that's your avoidance.
You are definitely not too old to get dressed up and have fun! Please point out to him that costume parties and masquerade balls have always been a thing, even in high society, so nothing to be embarr…
This reminds me of phantomless mind celestials. Often behind the black hole. https://powerlisting.fandom.com/wiki/Fathomless_Mind
I am having the same exact problem. I have tried everything I can think, even before they had halted registrations. I don’t use a VPN, but it says I am so I am ineligible. I don’t mind creating an acc…
I am very attracted to my partner most days. I am fearful avoidant that has historically leaned more dismissive (although now more secure) and I am hyper sexual. Repulsion returns and I don’t feed int…
Thankfully I became aware if attachment theory after being discarded by an FA out of nowhere when things were going well and it led me to finally realise I was an FA also. I would start out AA and onc…
Because some avoidants they understand their issue and how they hurt other person and how much they miss this person but - they dont want to take accountability. Their biggest issue is not being avoi…
For me it was around nine months before I started to truly experience what I would describe as program-specific experiences. I don't think people realize that this is a VERY long path of skills to de…
Lets be honest, most people here aren't doing no contact to heal, they are doing it to get their exes back. I don't necessarily agree with the shame part, especially with avoidant attachment style exe…
I’ve been in therapy routinely since 1999. I was just diagnosed with CPTSD last April. So, I’m 59 facing the phantom life issue, the trauma response issue, and doing EMDR, realizing I’ve lost the majo…
What is phantom life? I searched but didn’t find anything.
she looked you right in the eye and said “I love you” with someone else’s essence on her breath. she wasn’t thinking of you when she thought she was in love with her boss. you knew when she would c…
I thought it was unique, despite many people saying it's trash. I've done up to 400mg. If you're determined, you should starter smaller, like 150mg, and see how you feel, first. Space the doses by a…
So true! My brother was hurt while working a side job on days off as a fire fighter, had a horrible accident and had to retire 15 years thsn normal from the fire dept. They already had 2 kids when th…
Taking her to the same ski resort shows they're basically trying to recreate the relationship they had with you, but with a new person. Classic avoidant behaviour. Good luck, you're on your way becomi…
What’s the “phantom ex”?
Really.... He was so cold when we split. I broke NC once reaching out but his response was so indifferent that I assumed he’d moved on completely. It’s not that I want to be a "phantom ex" but it just…
This exact thing happened to me about 4 1/2 weeks ago in a 2-year relationship. As a recipient of this, it does bring me some comfort that she still loved and cared about me. I do feel some resentment…
Fuck that. I double down on the sadness. • Bell With - Mirror Reaper • Bell Witch - Four Phantoms • Amarok - Resilience • Addaura - Burning for the Ancient • Exulansis - Sequestered Sympathy •…
I am not a DA, but an anxious attachment style. But I do know that often DAs will romanticize a past relationship, and compare all future relationships to it. It’s called the Phantom Ex phenomenon. …
The phantom ex amalgamation is such truth. You’ll even experience comparing the worst parts of a current relationship to all the worst parts of all previous relationships. Current insecurity reminds…
I remember when we were seeing each other, (after the first time we broke up) and his best friend told me that he didn’t understand why he did that considering he would speak about me all the time. Hi…
Definitely sounds like you are the Phantom Ex or perhaps the “one who got away” in the sense they will always idealize you and the meaning of your role in their life. I think they fixate and store eve…
I can't answer so much about running into an ex as that hasn't happened, but, >Do DAs tend to carry old relationships in more detail than they let on, even if they never reach back out? A great many…
Trust him this time. If it was about you, he’ll say so. Ignore the phantom comment for now. Reading into it will force you to overthink.
He is using her to keep emotional distance from you, She is phantom ex. He 100% had a relationship with her but she is not into him as he is into her and she uses him to keep emotional distance from h…
The father relates that they ask all the major LLM the same stuff which serves as a check against something like a phantom citation. You're right in that if they couldn't find a law firm to take on t…
Vibrations are the midpoint, not the destination. As soon as you feel them, let your breathing settle into a quiet nose inhale, slow mouth exhale and mentally label what is happening: “body asleep, mi…
Because PTSD is not revealed by blood tests, MDs have consistently treated my psychosomatic pain as phantom or fake pain. Psychosomatic pain = hypochondriac wasting MD's time I look forward to the da…