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There are no words to describe how reading this made me feel, I can only imagine how much worse it feels for you who have had to live through this! One of my cats is purring on my lap and I hugged her…
(Desktop design) managing overall width vs images vs text container width — I am trying to figure out how to combine best practices for the following things and would love some advice on a few questions. This is for desktop devices. **What I am struggling with is:** * Ensur…
Lately, it seems like every new client I get is either a weed company or a yoga/spiritual guru. — I’ll trade you for a good old-fashioned plumber or landscaper—seriously, I’m offering a two-for-one deal. Also, a friendly reminder: a yoga mat does *not* make a good logo background. And no, “Namast…
Blog built with “Projects” in Divi instead of “Posts” – Will this hurt SEO? — Hi everyone, I’ launched mta website using WordPress + Divi (still in early stages), and my site developer set up the blog section using **“Projects”** instead of the standard **“Posts”**. Now I’m c…
How do I hire someone to work the SEO part of launching my site? — I'm a Realtor that knows enough PHP/Laravel/Wordpress to make a site. I know very, very little about SEO and most of what I've learned is simply thgrough Moz and that sort of thing. I really need to …
What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …
My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…
Using a MacBook — Hello everyone Just starting to build my storm but I am on a small Apple tablet it's older. I have an opportunity to get a good deal on a MacBook Air 13 in mthree chip. I'm just curious if anybody e…
Question on initial release of product/service (I will not promote) — I’ve been working on a web app for a while now as a solo developer, and I was wondering how any other founders here have gone about releasing their own apps for the first time. So far I’ve only shared…
How to remove Fraudulent Orders from Shop account? — So the question is as above. Back in March, I got fraudulently charged by a 'Elite Chimney LLC' for about $6100+. These were not placed by me or by any one I know, it just showed up one day. I manage…
New Monochrome Theme — Hey yall, I have been researching and trying out different themes to use since I have been on the free themes and I want to upgrade my shop to a paid template. There is a new theme called Monochrome t…
Microsoft's interpretation of Journey Map vs Storyboard — Hey all I'm doing some Microsoft UX certification coursework and am puzzled on something that they don't seem to be clarifying very well. I know large companies may define parts / components of user c…
Advice with how to deal with problem customer (aggressive) — I recently opened my local game store and the community has been great. The other day a customer came in and was rude and combative right out of the gate. I was polite back but that seemed to make no …
Afraid of the "how" — Hi to all. I have been studying the law and this sub since many years, then left, then (1-2 months ago) came back. I had my fair share of watching coaches, reading the content proposed here (and more)…
Help me understand-anxious now ex bf + part avoidant ex gf — My anxious ex and I met in ‘22. Online I was a full dismissive avoidant I began to work on myself in October’23. Since October ‘23,I have been a dismissive avoidant in recovery Recently,I have …
What would one call this attachment style? — I feel as tho I'm a pretty particular mix, cause I'm not exactly healthy, but the other labels don't exactly resonate either. I suppose it roots from two main things. One, I was bullied and ostracized…
Physical Reaction — I will try to keep the backstory short. I had not known anxious attachment was a thing or that one of my coworkers had become one of only a couple people I really felt a deep connection to, until a f…
how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times? — my partner is FA, I've known him for a long time. He has made a lot of effort and has changed for the better. He's the more secure one between the two of us honestly, and he's pretty good at fighting …
Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…
March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…
My mom called my son’s birthday party “f***ing embarrassing” because she cares more about what people think than celebrating him — **UPDATE:** Thank you to everyone who commented and shared advice. A lot of people suggested going no contact with my mom to protect myself and my son. I understand why people said that, but I want …
Funny Therapy Story — I recently started therapy and I think it’s been really good. I’m comfortable with my therapist and I genuinely feel like it is benefiting me. I am a very private person so I don’t have anyone in real…
THE PHOENIX LIGHTS 29th ANNIVERSARY This is what I saw that night March 13, 1997. It was a totally solid piece of machinery not just lights. I could see the bottom of the UFO clearly by two light sources illuminating the bottom of the craft as it flew over my head — I posted this also in UFO sub. March 13, 1997 I was working in East Mesa, Arizona in a 10 bed Hospice inpatient unit as the Charge RN. We worked 12 hour shifts getting off at 7:30 PM but that night t…
AP’s Ex-wife was told not to talk to me. — My original post is. [https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/s/b5fIkVp6Yr](https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/s/b5fIkVp6Yr) Something that has been on my mind after having a text conv…
Sexual Vampire — I have no idea where to turn- and I never thought I would posting something like this. But here we are. 5 weeks ago I met a man at a bar. He was a bit younger than me, the same age as my first love. …
has any1 tried Going Back In Time during LD? — I kinda wanna do it myself once i learn how to LD, im jst kinda concerned if theres any consequences. I feel like that’d fuck me up mentally a bit idk why
Focusing on a breath? — I'm a beginner in meditation. I'm not bothered by thoughts that pop into my head, and I can quickly notice them and return to "focusing on the breath." I'm just concerned that my focus on the breath i…
Spring Cleaning and Change — Currently, the biggest benefit for me since the new year has been discarding items. I've gotten into a bad habit of stockpiling possessions in one room and eventually thinking I would take action on t…
25f, going through divorce, concerned about future. Help me — Signed the divorce papers few days back. I'm bit tensed about process. Was divorce inevitable? And I'm also concerned about my future, career etc. Please tell about career from now on, health, fina…
How can I make the most of a 12th house–heavy Solar Return year? — My new solar return year has just begun, and I’m a bit concerned about the strong 12th house emphasis. In my natal chart I don’t have any planets in the 12th house, so this feels like unfamiliar terri…
Cure Avoidant Attachment by Watching TV — Can watching TV help treat a dismissing attachment pattern? In Dr. Dan Siegel’s book "Mindsight,” he presents a case study involving Stuart, a 92-year-old attorney with dismissing attachment. Stuart,…
Idk how to process this plz help — I’ve gone literally my whole life without having any family members pass away and all of a sudden in the last 4 months, half my family has either passed away or is on the verge of passing. My grandpa …
IF YOU ARE 30+ USING NC — If you’re 30+ using the “no contact” method as a means to “Get your ex back”, DON’T. This is long. I just met up with my ex for the first time in 3 months. I was nervous, worried & genuinely conce…
New to CE5s Should I be concerned? — Hi everyone. I’m new to the CE5 community, though I’ve seen orbs throughout my life. For years, I’ve followed Dr. Steven Greer’s work, believing that advanced intelligence must be peaceful or they wou…
I (36M) am in tears in my own home while my parents play with my daughter. — My wife has gone away for a conference today (for the first time since we had a kid). I am alone with my parents in my own home and feel so unsafe with them. At any time, I fear an attack will come my…
She cheated after 14 years — This is my first ever post on Reddit and it’s a long one so apologies in advance for any formatting errors. I have been with my fiancé for 14 years, we have been engaged for the last 4. Our relations…
Parents have no hobbies or interests — Ever since my siblings and I left for college, I’ve noticed my parents seem to be living a very monotonous, low-energy lifestyle. Whenever they’re not working, they spend almost all of their time just…
I Changed Myself and Got it All — Hello, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a very long time. Grab a snack and come along for the ride! **The Beginning: April - October 2022** I discovered Neville 4 years ago; after a year of …
What does Marcus Aurelius mean by “misfortune” and “good fortune” in Meditations 4.49? — I’m having trouble understanding what Marcus Aurelius means by “good fortune”/"good luck" and "bad luck"/“misfortune” in *Meditations* 4.49. From Robin Waterfield translation: >Be like a headland: th…
So I Live in a Sundown Town — We moved here to be close to family—none of them live in THIS town, and nobody warned us about the history. We moved from a diverse city and it breaks my heart; makes me concerned about my kids… But …
After 10 years of doing the most, I (30F) told my husband (34F) that we needed counseling or separation. Help me process? — I met my husband when I was a 20 year old college student and even though he is 4 years older than me, I became a pseudo-mother upon meeting him. For the last 10 years, I have been the sole breadwin…
Opinions on Davison Chart *reference place*? — Hi all, I'm just now stumbling upon the *Davison Relationship Chart, reference place*. According to Astro Dienst "The chart is calculated for a certain reference place (e.g. the common place of resi…
Seeking any advice to help me — (I’m from the UK) I’ve been struggling with my health anxiety really badly and it’s now got to the point where it’s effecting my work and social life, I have been in and out of my GP, and A and E and …
BF of 3.5 years broke it off. I'm so happy and free. — Sooo these last couple of days were a lot. I (29M) have been with my boyfriend (27M) for 3.5 years. If you asked me a week ago, I'd say our relationship had its ups and downs, but we were generally ha…
Sitting with emotions. — one of my biggest challenges in life has been sitting with uncomfortable feelings. I've done everything to avoid them pretty much all my life. I've looked for distractions in drugs, people, and work. …
My slut shaming parents — A few months ago my parents saw my hickeys. This led to an awful fight in my family because they couldn't handle the thought of their 19 year old daughter having sex with someone. Me being me, I stood…
I need people to let me know if I should seek professional help — Hi, for my own privacy let me tell you that I am not an adult but I am not a child either. I have a small fear that I might have a psychotic disorder or I might do something bad later in life. In shor…
How Neville Manifested His Marriage - Do Not Meddle In The Middle. — **For Those Who Need...** From Neville's Audio Lecture. The verbatim from Neville's Lecture (*Updated*) : *“When I decided to marry the lady who now bears my name I applied this principle. At the t…
Case 3: A shift in Perspective — **Background Info:** [Nature of Dreams & the abilities therein](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1s5zpt7/the_nature_of_dreams_the_abilities_therein/) **Case 3: A shift in Perspective*…
My full story 2 weeks since DDay 4 days NC — (Cheater fiancée 26f) (me 26m) (AP 46m) So it all started about 4 to 6 months ago I noticed that her drinking had become a concern she was showing up drunk after work very frequently and it was both…
Missteps over text — Hey everyone, I (43M) have been seeing this lovely lady (42F) for a little less than two months and we’ve been taking things quite slow and no pressure. We’ve seen each other on 4 dates, mainly drink…
Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using slee…
>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…
Haha what an honour to be compared to Uncle Iroh! 😆 yes I understand and I debated whether to put that in, however there are some people who get frustrated with their attempts and prayer can actually…
I've never attempted astral projection while awake, usually I do it by accident when I'm sleeping and I always run into these human -shaped white light creatures (I don't know how else to describe the…
Could be anyone! But nope nothing to be concerned about.
Came here to say this, it's not coming from a truly wanting to move on mindset, because you're still concerned the effect it has on them
AGREED!!!! Let’s stay in the grey and remember that we’re all just often doing our best and there are not usually “good” or “bad guys”, except where abuse or violence is concerned. Mostly, we’re figur…
Don’t be scared or put too much pressure on yourself . It’s a beautiful experience and a great way to face those fears you are concerned about. Don’t meet your demons with violence , you will find tha…
Following the instructions, I was able to AP, however when I looked at my sleeping body, I noticed that my body was just a dark black figure with no discerning features, just the outline of my sleepin…
Thanks for the reply and guidance, which is welcomed. Yes, I'm actively working on my anxious behaviours as I'm fairly self-regulating. I'm just concerned that my DA partner isn't even self-aware 🫣
No, my statement has nothing to do with validation. I find when someone says 'that's invalidating', they haven't sat down and thought about what they're saying. And why would I need to constantly vali…
I had something kinda similar happen recently, and I totally understand why you're hurt over it! I can't even imagine that situation, honestly. Mine was different (and still is) because we met online …
Most people would agree your accomplishment was well deserved. If I was a member of your team, I would be concerned with who was signing the check and not the amount I would receive. Who needed the …
Well, if you're into them, that's the first sign. It'll be tricky to differentiate between DA and secure for you because they'll both feel like they're moving at a reasonable pace at first, but a DA i…
I’m giving her the benefit of doubt because I’ve jump to conclusions in the past, and the guy was some socially awkward tech nerd. I was more concerned about her playing games than the possibility she…
I also have intense rage. My avoidant left me in my darkest hour and relapsed and went on vacation with ALL of our extended friend group and excluded me and told them all to lie about going with him. …
So relate to this. I can be perfectly fine until I have a crush or am in a relationship. Then my world starts getting consumed by them and I lose focus of myself and my wants. My advice would be to ma…
He was amazing, thoughtful, and genuine… until he vanished (I think?). Help me stay zen while I wait. --- So… I (35F) matched with this guy (43M) mid-July, and honestly, he’s been kind of wonderful.…
How long have you been married? If you know he can be relaxed or at ease and his resting face is serious looking (which I imagine is the case for most people), why do you need additional reassurance? …
Text of original post by u/upernikos: I will try to keep the backstory short. I had not known anxious attachment was a thing or that one of my coworkers had become one of only a couple people I reall…
Sorry this is long. I’m 27, I have only been on dates with like 10 guys in my life (I don’t understand why getting a date, let alone a relationship is so incredibly hard, but that’s a different topic)…
I wouldn’t send it. If you’re anything like me it will send you into an anxious shame spiral of overthinking, fretting, and self-doubt. If you’re in the midst of a breakup with some other avoidant the…
Also, my ex would do similar things like you described. If I voiced I was concerned I had BPD and shared “why,” he would be supportive in the moment but the second there was conflict he would weaponiz…
My (27F) bf (27M) broke up with me after 5 months tgt because I might have anxious attachment. How am I feeling: Feels like hell and torture. Shaking. Spiraling. No appetite/havent eaten for a coup…
Wanted to shape some of my thoughts for you and add to ThrowRA_patata3000. 🤞 It could be my two cents: but it might be that deep down, your feeling an intuition that’s trying to pull you out outward…
I am a secure leaning anxious. A girl I built an amazing bond with told me she caught feelings after a couple of really fun, emotionally intimate days. She genuinely enjoyed my company and confessed t…
Hypervigilance is very much associated with AA. I've being doing a lot of work on healing AA in the past 1.5 years and I couldn't believe how many characteristics and behaviours of mine are associated…
They either haven’t realised how different they look, or they think you’ll look past it because their personality and your connection is so great. It’s lying as far as I’m concerned and at least it …
I'm concerned dating is much higher stakes for you than it is for him... and probably the vast majority of people who have just started dating again.
Another option not mentioned is she could be a widow. If you are concerned, ask her about her jewelry next time you talk to her. How she talks about the ring (not only what she says but the manner i…
We've been on a couple of dates with this girl and there's a strong connection, both physical and intellectual. On a second date we went to her place and had some chat on a couch when I noticed she ha…
I feel the same way about the guy that I’ve been dating off and on for the last year. There’s a physical connection and we have similar interests. But he’s a bit overly emotional, and he calls himself…
I understand they might un match, but I guess I’m not super concerned with that…. But there could be a better way to introduce the boundaries
You're overthinking - you feel it when you feel it - the timeline doesn't really matter. Not saying ILY doesn't make you un-feel it, but you can still take things slow and be cautious. My bf and I fel…
It's not that there *isn't* talk about interdependence or co-regulation. I agree that more conversations about community and the importance of social bonds are taking place now. How we metabolize cult…
I called out an anxious attacher in another sub for their borderline stalker behavior and got banned. Everyone in that thread was more concerned with tone policing me and coddling the OP than recogniz…
It means you need to find people who are on the same wavelength. In my case, I can't stand small talk. I go to meetup events and force a grin through all of the silly little icebreaker questions. I w…
On moving in together while being Covid-cautious: **TL;DR:** I am high-risk and I mask up, partner generally does not. Thinking about the possibility of moving in together. He'd be someone least like…
Wow, this is well articulated. I've speculated for a while that the reported numbers of people in western societies with avoidant attachment aren't reflecting reality. There's this number bandied ab…
Late bloomer and even later diagnosis. But I’m making a lot of progress and I’m happy as things continue to improve. It gives me hope. Been about a week. I’ll see him in two days. Yeah, I realize he’s…
Thank you, this was helpful. I was concerned about her (and him) having too much access to my info just for safety sake. Giving HIS info as proof makes sense.
She's started turning up at social events I've been going to for years. And bringing new bf and being super handsy and whatnot with him. We also still have a legal entanglement she's refusing to …
Nope ✨️ Why are you concerned about being rude to someone who was rude to you? And who's reaching out for coffee or walk without acknowledging that they were rude to you or apologizing. If I were …
>Why are you concerned about being rude to someone who was rude to you? And who's reaching out for coffee or walk without acknowledging that they were rude to you or apologizing. You are so right the…
Maybe you just need more time to process? I’m also coming out of a very fresh break up and swiping is so hard. I feel like I’m not attached to anyone. I am upfront on my profile that I’m not looking f…
I don’t think you’re being sensitive, if I heard this from a friend I’d be concerned lol
Anyone have any tips for not being concerned that you are being ghosted almost everyday? Idk, this isn’t pattern of this person not replying back - the most was ever a day - but no matter what, once …
I don't wanna pry about what he did, but I'd be concerned about sexual incompatibility this early on Yeah ofc we do, a lot of situations warrant breaking up haha. I would be really uncomfortable and …
Ultimately, you will be ...an older man. So it sounds to me as though you are more or less guaranteed to be what she wants. I'm not exactly sure what you have to navigate here. Are you concerned that …
The idea that people have "types" that are static or in any way relevant to their current relationship based on a past relationship = retroactive jealousy Her exes have nothing to do with you, mean n…